The Reading Room by 8Notes

Adrian Melrose
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A podcast about the books that change how we think about being human. Adrian Melrose takes one book per series and works through it properly, including what actually happens when you try to live by it.

Episodes

  1. 6h ago

    Ep2: The Word as Weapon or Wand

    Would you speak to the people you love the way you speak to yourself? I ask that question in coaching and it stops almost everyone. The answer is almost always no. We give the people we love patience and context and the benefit of the doubt, then we turn on ourselves with a voice we would never let anyone use on a friend. That is what the First Agreement is really about. When I first read Be impeccable with your word I thought Ruiz was talking about honesty. He is talking about something much bigger. In this episode Why your word is the most powerful tool you own, and why most of us point it inward.Every belief you hold was planted by a word. A parent, a teacher, a throwaway comment that landed at the wrong moment.Gossip as emotional poison, including the version we run silently about ourselves.Clarity is kindness. Being impeccable is not about being nice, it is about saying the true thing cleanly.What changes in a relationship when one person stops using language as a weapon.One thing to try this week Write down the exact sentence your inner critic uses most. The actual words. Then read it out loud as if you were saying it to someone you love. Notice what happens in your body. Links Read the full essay: The Word as Weapon or Wand on SubstackFree two-page cheat sheet for this episode: fouragreements.8notes.co.ukOn Instagram, comment or DM the word WORD and the cheat sheet comes straight to you.Episode 01, The Dream We Didn't Choose, is the foundation for this one. Worth starting there if you haven't.Join the 8Notes waiting list: waitlist.8notes.co.ukThe book The Four Agreements: A Practical Guide to Personal Freedom by don Miguel Ruiz (Amber-Allen, 1997). Everything here is my reading of it. Go and get the book. The 8Notes Reading Room is a podcast about the books that change how we think about being human. Written and hosted by Adrian Melrose. More at 8notes.co.uk.

    Ep2: The Word as Weapon or Wand

  2. 6h ago

    Ep1: The Dream we didn't choose.

    Most of what you believe about yourself, you never agreed to. It was handed to you before you could argue back, and you have been running it ever since. This is Episode 01 of a six-part series on don Miguel Ruiz's The Four Agreements, the book I have gifted more than any other. Before we get to the agreements themselves, we have to look at what they are correcting. Ruiz calls it the Dream of the Planet. I call it the software you didn't write. In this episode What Ruiz means by domestication, and why the reward and punishment system you grew up inside is still running now.The Book of Law: the rulebook you inherited about what is acceptable, what is shameful, and who you are allowed to be.The Judge and the Victim, and why they work as a pair. One hands down the verdict, the other serves the sentence.Why noticing the dream is the whole first move. You cannot renegotiate an agreement you don't know you made.What this looks like in coaching rooms with men who have never once questioned the rules they are living by.One thing to try this week Catch one rule you are obeying without ever having chosen it. Don't fix it. Don't argue with it. Just write it down and put a question mark after it. Links Read the full essay: The Dream We Didn't Choose on SubstackFree two-page cheat sheet for this episode: fouragreements.8notes.co.ukOn Instagram, comment or DM the word DREAM and the cheat sheet comes straight to you.Join the 8Notes waiting list: waitlist.8notes.co.ukThe book The Four Agreements: A Practical Guide to Personal Freedom by don Miguel Ruiz (Amber-Allen, 1997). Everything here is my reading of it. Go and get the book. The 8Notes Reading Room is a podcast about the books that change how we think about being human. Written and hosted by Adrian Melrose. More at 8notes.co.uk.

    Ep1: The Dream we didn't choose.
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A podcast about the books that change how we think about being human. Adrian Melrose takes one book per series and works through it properly, including what actually happens when you try to live by it.

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  • Creator
    Adrian Melrose
  • Years Active
    2026
  • Episodes
    2
  • Rating
    Clean
  • Copyright
    © Plain Talk Matters Ltd
  • Show Website
    The Reading Room by 8Notes