Dating Intelligence the Podcast

Christopher Louis/ Natalie Stavola

Most relationship podcasts tell you what you want to hear. This one tells you what you need to know. International dating coach Christopher Louis and co-host Natalie Stavola — actress, producer, and international transformation coach — bring unmatched chemistry and zero tolerance for surface-level answers to the conversations that actually shape your love life. From first dates to long-term commitment, from self-sabotage to real transformation, Dating Intelligence covers every stage of the journey with expert guests, raw honesty, and the kind of insight that makes you rethink everything. Unfiltered. Unapologetic. Nothing is off limits.

  1. hace 2 días

    "The Rock Bottom Rebuild: How Men Learn to Trust Again" feat. Jordan Candlish

    Most men think trust is something you either have or don't. Jordan Candlish disagrees — and he'd know. After a heartbreak that put him flat on the floor, Jordan rebuilt himself from the inside out and became one of the leading voices helping men become the kind of partner people can actually rely on. In this episode, Jordan, Christopher and Natalie break down what emotional safety actually looks like in practice — not the Instagram-therapy version, the real one. They cover why internal stability matters more than any grand romantic gesture, how to catch yourself mid-pattern before an old wound runs the show, and why most men are more comfortable being physically intimate than emotionally honest — and what that costs them long-term. You'll also hear Jordan's take on why every man needs a tribe of other men who'll actually hold him accountable, practical tools for expressing what you're feeling without turning it into a fight, and how surrender — not control — is often the fastest path to peace in a relationship. If you've ever wondered why some men seem to lead effortlessly in their relationships while others keep hitting the same wall, this conversation is the blueprint. Key Topics Jordan Candless' journey from heartbreak to becoming a leading relationship coach The importance of internal stability for trustworthy and reliable men Recognizing the "rock bottom" moments that trigger profound transformation How men can become aware of old emotional reactions and interrupt unhealthy patterns The role of emotional connection over physical intimacy in long-term relationships Tips for guys to share vulnerabilities safely and build trust with their partners Strategies to find and develop a tribe of supportive men for emotional accountability The significance of surrendering to a higher power or God for peace and guidance Practical tools like journaling and nonviolent communication to express emotions effectively How to communicate your growth and intentions to your partner over time Timestamps 00:00 - Introduction: Why men need trust and emotional safety in relationships 00:32 - Jordan Candless' background and the mission behind his work 01:23 - Personal story of heartbreak and the awakening moment 02:13 - The significance of internal stability and emotional grounding 03:30 - Common "rock bottom" moments that prompt men to seek change 04:59 - Recognizing old emotional reactions and interrupting patterns 06:20 - The power of awareness and curiosity in emotional regulation 07:45 - How vulnerability and deep self-work transform relationships 08:33 - The importance of sustained effort and showing consistent growth 09:54 - How to find trustworthy men for emotional support and accountability 11:21 - The role of emotional work in healing childhood wounds and traumas 12:47 - Jordan's own transformation through heartbreak and spiritual awakening 13:44 - The deepening of maturity and leadership in relationships over time 15:01 - Navigating avoidance, ego, and emotional expression in men 16:28 - Practical tools: journaling, reading from prepared notes, and honest communication 17:48 - Managing triggers and reactions during conflict 19:14 - The link between emotional health and physical well-being 20:10 - Leading with confidence and boundaries in partnerships 21:40 - Embracing vulnerability as a strength for both men and women 23:02 - The societal disconnect from men's emotional expression and healing 24:36 - The importance of community and brotherhood for emotional resilience 25:52 - Balancing feminine and masculine energies in relationships 27:22 - How to lean into your power while respecting your partner's independence 28:44 - The significance of clarity, purpose, and self-leadership 30:01 - Reassurance, consistency, and honest dialogue to build long-term trust 31:21 - Practical steps for integrating emotional awareness into daily life 32:53 - The power of connecting with a higher power or divine guidance 34:10 - Letting go of control and embracing surrender for peace and growth 36:00 - Tools like prayer, meditation, and gratitude to stay grounded 37:08 - The importance of honesty and prepared communication in conflicts 38:07 - Building emotional intelligence as a foundation for trust 39:24 - Jordan's closing message: the importance of community, purpose, and continuous growth 40:50 - How to connect with Jordan Candless and upcoming retreats 41:32 - Final encouragement for men to step into their power and emotional truth Sponsor link: Vinted: https://www.vinted.com Guest links: Jordan Candlish Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/jordancandlish01?igsh=NTc4MTIwNjQ2YQ== TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@jordancandlish01?_r=1&_t=ZP-98ajD9k1XCw YouTube: https://youtube.com/@jordancandlish?si=U4bQLIiKqfEQGez- Host links  Christopher Louis:  Instagram:  https://www.instagram.com/christopherlouisdate?igsh=NTc4MTIwNjQ2YQ%3D%3D&utm_source=qr Web: https://dating-intelligence.com/ Men.tality: https://www.datingmentality.com/ Natalie Stavola:  Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/nataliestavola?igsh=NTc4MTIwNjQ2YQ%3D%3D Web: https://www.nataliestavolacoach.com/

  2. 28 jul

    "Celebrating 150 Episodes Deep: The Inner Work Behind Better Relationships"

    Celebration as Christopher and Natalie hit a milestone most podcasts never reach: episode 150. In this unscripted, no-notes conversation, they pull back the curtain on what it's actually taken to keep Dating Intelligence going — the burnout, the format pivots, the moments they almost quit — and why the real work was never about dating advice, it was about doing the inner work themselves first. They talk candidly about authenticity versus performance, building community that actually sticks, and how personal transformation shows up in everything from relationships to money to how you show up on camera. Then they shift gears entirely: road trip stories, DJ Nani makes an appearance, and a reminder that even people who talk about relationships for a living are still figuring it out in real time.  Key  topics Milestone celebration and behind-the-scenes stories The importance of authenticity and inner work in personal growth Strategies for building community and meaningful connections Insights on podcasting evolution and content format changes The role of humor, energy, and authenticity in hosting and relationships Celebration of 150 episodes Personal growth and transformation Road trip stories and snacks Music and self-expression Vulnerability and evolution in life and podcasting Chapters: 00:00 Introduction and Milestone Celebration 00:30 Host Appreciation and Show Evolution 01:49 Overcoming Burnout and Staying Motivated 02:47 The Power of Authenticity and Charisma 04:00 How Social Media Sparks Led to Collaboration 07:55 Podcast Format Changes and Video Integration 08:50 The Importance of Perspective in Relationships 12:01 Handling Toxic Environments and Energy Management 15:02 Personal Stories of Overcoming Challenges 19:54 Event Highlights and Community Building 24:00 The Intersection of Romance and Finance 26:59 Unblocking Mindsets for Better Opportunities 30:01 Road Trip Adventures and Personal Growth 31:06 Closing Remarks and Future Plans 32:29 Wedding in Utah and Celebrating Love 34:15 Yin and Yang in Relationships 36:03 Road Trip Snacks and Music Rituals 48:01 Memorable Road Trip Moments 54:38 Favorite Music and Playlist Tips 01:00:33 Reflections on Growth and Future Goals Links: Alyssa Jenkins - Genesis Wealth Partners - https://www.linkedin.com/in/alyssajenkins Natalie Stavola - Coach and Podcast Host - https://www.linkedin.com/in/nataliestavola Christopher Louis - Podcast Host - https://www.instagram.com/christopherlouisdate Natalie Stavola Coaching - https://nataliestavolacoach.com DatingMentality.com - https://datingmentality.com LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/in/natalie-stavola Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/nataliestavola Dating Intelligence - https://www.dating-intelligence.com

  3. 14 jul

    Confidence Is Your Best Profile: Dating, Energy & Authenticity

    Natalie Stavola and Christopher Louis dive into what really creates attraction in today's digital world—and it's not the perfect photo or carefully curated profile. From dating app pictures and social media filters to confidence, presence, and self-worth, they explore how authenticity becomes your greatest advantage. They share personal stories, practical strategies, and mindset shifts for building genuine confidence, overcoming self-doubt, handling rejection with resilience, and showing up as your most authentic self. You'll also learn why your energy matters, how presence changes the way others experience you, and simple techniques to instantly access greater confidence in everyday life. Whether you're navigating dating apps, building stronger relationships, or working on personal growth, this conversation offers actionable insights to help you stop performing and start attracting from a place of authenticity.  Keywords: dating profiles, authenticity, self-confidence, social media, photos, self-image, dating apps, inner work, self-love, digital dating confidence, energy, presence, self-worth, relationships, personal growth, mindset, authenticity, rejection, success Key Topics The importance of authentic photos on dating apps How social media influences self-perception The role of inner confidence in dating success Tips for taking genuine and flattering photos The impact of editing and filters on self-image The role of self-confidence in social interactions How energy and mindset influence attraction Techniques to switch on confidence instantly Handling rejection without losing self-worth The importance of presence and authenticity in success Takeaways Confidence is a skill that fluctuates and can be learned.  Energy and mindset directly impact how others perceive us. Practicing presence helps in reducing anxiety and increasing authenticity. Reframing rejection as a growth opportunity boosts resilience. Being true to your emotions accelerates personal and relational growth. Sound Bites "You look how you look like who you look like." "iPhones distort your face." "Confidence is a skill set." Chapters 00:00 – Introduction and Personal Stories 01:55 – The Reality of Bathroom Selfies and Profile Photos 04:01 – The Evolution of Self-Perception and Photos 06:02 – The Skill of Taking Good Photos and Posing 09:01 – Authenticity vs. Filters and FaceTune 12:03 – The Impact of Social Media and Editing Apps 15:06 – Inner Confidence and Self-Love in Dating 17:54 – The Future of Video Profiles and Authenticity  21:07 – Rejection, Self-Worth, and Inner Work 24:01 – The Power of Self-Perception and Belief Systems 28:02 – The Fluctuation of Confidence and How to Manage It 30:08 – Techniques to Instantly Switch on Confidence 35:12 – Handling Rejection and Maintaining Self-Worth 40:42 – The Power of Presence and Authenticity 44:59 – Using Energy to Attract Success and Love 50:35 – Overcoming Childhood Programming and Limiting Beliefs 55:01 – Practical Tips for Staying Present in Daily Life 1:00:00 – The Role of Inner Work in Personal Transformation 1:05:02 – Celebrating Small Wins and Building Confidence 1:10:02 – The Importance of Self-Compassion and Forgiveness Sponsor: If you're struggling with OCD or unrelenting intrusive thoughts, NOCD can help. Book a free 15 minute call to get started: https://learn.nocd.com/dating Hosts info: Natalie Stavola - Instagram Natalie Stavola Coaching - https://natalie-stavola-coach.com Christopher Louis - Instagram Dating Intelligence - https://dating-intelligence.com/

  4. 30 jun

    The Truth About Marriage: Why We Choose the Wrong Partners! feat. Jamie Lynn

    In this episode of Dating Intelligence, hosts Christopher and Natalie explore the complex landscape of love, marriage, and self-discovery. Featuring therapist Jamie Lynn, they delve into societal pressures, the evolving mindset around marriage, and how personal growth influences relationship choices. Whether you're contemplating marriage or navigating love at any age, this conversation offers clarity and fresh perspectives. Main Topics Explored: Societal expectations and the role of marriage as a status symbol The differences in mindset about marriage for younger vs. older adults The impact of childhood conditioning and trauma on relationship choices How love differs from attachment and trauma bonds Practical advice on having honest conversations about marriage expectations The influence of cultural standards on women's perceptions of worth Navigating pressure from family and society to marry The significance of self-love and authenticity in partnership Benefits and challenges of marrying young vs. later in life Timestamps: 00:00 - Introduction and banter between hosts 01:13 - Guest introduction and conversation about her background 02:42 - Perspective on marriage and societal conditioning 04:21 - The influence of childhood and societal programming 06:05 - The importance of authentic connection over societal approval 09:10 - Why many women marry for status, not love 11:52 - Differences in marriage mindset across life stages 14:21 - Risks and benefits of marrying young vs. later in life 16:36 - Love versus attachment—key distinctions 18:08 - Traditional roles in marriage and personal preferences 21:01 - The impact of trauma bonds and soul connection 23:32 - Gender differences in marriage pressure 27:14 - How to approach relationship conversations early 30:20 - The importance of alignment and shared values 33:23 - Feeding into societal narratives and real self-awareness 36:52 - Women's wiring for companionship and relationship fulfillment 38:45 - Self-love as a foundation for healthy partnerships 41:16 - Pros and cons of getting married young 45:17 - The significance of family lineage and cultural expectations 46:21 - Jamie Lynn's experience with Australian family 48:01 - Connecting with the guests and closing remarks Guest links:  Jamie Lynn- Instagram Pinkpill Therapy Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/pinkpilltherapy Hosts info:  Natalie Stavola - Instagram Natalie Stavola Coaching - https://natalie-stavola-coach.com   Christopher Louis - Instagram  Dating Intelligence - https://dating-intelligence.com/   Whether you're single, dating, or considering marriage, this episode encourages you to reflect on your worth, values, and the true indicators of a fulfilling relationship.

  5. 16 jun

    "Loving Out Loud: Inside The Poly Couple's Comedy, Chaos, and Real Talk on Non-Monogamy"

    Dana and Daniel built a viral comedy series out of their real polyamorous relationship — and the result is funnier, messier, and more honest than most people expect. On this episode, Natalie and Christopher sit down with the duo behind The Poly Couple to talk about what actually happens when you turn your love life into content: the boundaries that hold it together, the jealousy that has to be worked through (not avoided), and the friendship that makes the whole thing possible. This isn't a polyamory 101 lecture. It's a real conversation about communication under pressure, what ethical non-monogamy looks like day-to-day, and why authenticity — on camera and off — is the only thing that actually works. In this episode: The evolution of their web series inspired by true events and their journey into filmmaking What polyamory truly means: loving more than one person in diverse ways The importance of communication, trust, and boundaries in ethical non-monogamy How to introduce poly concepts to a partner and navigate difficult conversations The role of jealousy: a natural indicator of care and trust issues Personal boundaries, including scheduling and respectful communication The humorous side of poly life: clips from their series and real-life anecdotes The ongoing challenges and lessons learned in maintaining multiple relationships How their long-term friendship and collaboration strengthen their relationship storytelling The significance of authenticity and emotional truth in their content creation Timestamps:  00:00 - Welcome and episode overview: Exploring humor and honesty in polyamory 00:21 - Introducing Dana and Daniel, creators of a viral poly series 03:42 - What is polyamory? Definitions and misconceptions 05:15 - How they discovered polyamory and its inspiration from historical tour stories 07:24 - The realities and challenges of opening up a relationship 08:49 - The importance of trust and communication in navigating poly environments 11:17 - Differentiating between genuine polyamory and misused labels 13:08 - The cathartic process of writing and filming personal stories 15:40 - The emotionalDepth of the series and learning from mistakes 17:31 - Handling jealousy and red flags in relationships 20:24 - Managing insecurities and trust issues with partners 23:52 - Setting boundaries: transparency and respecting each other's space 28:22 - How they organize their busy schedules and maintain trust 31:31 - Life filming the series: balancing creativity with daily life 33:36 - How long they've been friends and collaborators 34:41 - Resources and social platforms where you can follow Dana, Daniel, and the  Series Resources & Links: Sponsors:  J4L  Web link: - https://trk.pdt.im/uK4nXo  J4L festival link: https://j4l.com/dating-festival Twitter: https://x.com/ComJ4love  YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCFig402uwrJuhz-Ub25I60g/videos  Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/j4l_com_/    Poly Couple Info:  [Dana and the Wolf - YouTube](https://youtube.com/channel/ DanaandtheWolf) Connect with Dana and Daniel: @danaandthewolf  (I THINK ALL OF THEIR HANDLES ARE DANA AND THE WOLF        ELECTRICNOW - TT - @electricnow / INSTA - @electricnowtv / TWITTER - @electricnowtv        ELECTRIC ENTERTAINMENT TT - @electricentertainment / INSTA - @electricentertainmentofficial  / TWITTER - @electricEnt1       DEAN DEVLIN - TT - @DDEVLINJR / INSTA - @officialdeandevlin/ TWITTER - @dean_devlin Air Date: The episode drops June 16th at 4am PST  Follow their series for more real, raw, and hilarious insights into polyamory Christopher Louis:  Instagram:  https://www.instagram.com/christopherlouisdate?igsh=NTc4MTIwNjQ2YQ%3D%3D&utm_source=qr Web: https://dating-intelligence.com/ Men.tality: https://www.datingmentality.com/   Natalie Stavola:  Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/nataliestavola?igsh=NTc4MTIwNjQ2YQ%3D%3D Web: https://www.nataliestavolacoach.com/  Special thanks to the hosts and their engaging questions. Stay connected, stay truthful, and keep exploring the complexities of modern love.

  6. 3 jun

    The Invisible Reason You Keep Attracting the Wrong Person! feat. Stefanie Truino

    You've done the therapy. You've read the books. You've done the work — or at least you think you have. So why does the same relationship keep showing up with a different face?  In this episode, Christopher and co-host Natalie Stavola sit down with energy healer Stefanie Truino to explore what traditional self-help can't reach: the energetic and subconscious layers driving your love life from underneath. They break down how emotional blockages get lodged in the body, why cord attachments to past partners keep you energetically tethered long after the relationship ends, and how tools like Reiki, astrology, and the Akashic Records can reveal the patterns you've been too close to see. This isn't woo. This is the part of the work most people skip — and why they stay stuck. Chapters 00:00 Introduction and Current Events 02:59 Exploring Dating Dynamics and New Partnerships 05:52 Introducing Energy Healing and Its Impact 08:53 Understanding Emotional Blockages in Relationships 11:59 Skepticism and the Healing Process 14:58 Reprogramming Thought Forms for Better Relationships 18:45 Exploring Inner Child Healing 21:31 The Role of Intuition in Healing 24:18 Energy Cleansing Techniques 25:32 Understanding Cords of Attachment 30:08 Navigating Energy Drain in Social Situations 33:49 The Dynamics of Social Interactions 34:45 Astrology and Personal Validation 36:50 The Influence of Astrology on Life Decisions 39:05 Understanding Personal Patterns Through Astrology 41:01 Exploring the Akashic Records 43:22 Starting Your Healing Journey Sponsors: J4L Web link: - https://trk.pdt.im/click?pid=239&offer_id=15&sub1=June2 J4L festival link: https://j4l.com/dating-festival Twitter: https://x.com/ComJ4love  YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCFig402uwrJuhz-Ub25I60g/videos Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/j4l_com_/ Christopher Louis: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/christopherlouisdate?igsh=NTc4MTIwNjQ2YQ%3D%3D&utm_source=qr Web: https://dating-intelligence.com/ Men.tality: https://www.datingmentality.com/ Natalie Stavola: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/nataliestavola?igsh=NTc4MTIwNjQ2YQ%3D%3D Web: https://www.nataliestavolacoach.com/

  7. 20 may

    "Boundaries, Blind Spots & Better Love"

    Modern dating has a noise problem — reality TV selling fairy tales, apps reducing attraction to a swipe, and social media quietly eroding how we see ourselves and what we expect from love. In this episode, Christopher Louis and Natalie Stavola cut through all of it. They get into why most people enter relationships still carrying the wreckage of the last one, how blurry boundaries masquerade as flexibility until everything falls apart, and what emotional intelligence actually looks like in real-time — not in theory. They also break down what shows like Love Is Blind and Age of Attraction get right, get wrong, and what they unintentionally reveal about how desperate most people are for genuine connection. If you've been wondering why the same patterns keep showing up with different people, this episode is the answer you didn't know you were looking for. Key Topics The importance of boundaries in relationships Healing from past relationships and self-growth Strategies for effective communication and vulnerability The importance of patience and self-awareness in relationships Insights into popular dating shows like Love is Blind and Age of Attraction The impact of social media and media on self-esteem and dating The role of emotional intelligence and authenticity in love Strategies for personal growth and healthy relationships Chapters 00:00 Introduction to Dating Intelligence 02:55 Exploring Intentional Dating and Matchmaking 05:34 Navigating Relationship Dynamics 12:55 Conscious Uncoupling and Healing 18:28 Balancing Relationships and Personal Growth 20:53 Harnessing Anger for Growth 23:05 The Dynamics of Relationship Conflicts 25:46 Understanding Boundaries in Relationships 27:07 The Importance of Communication and Journaling 29:00 Navigating New Partnerships 32:15 The Journey of Self-Discovery and Patience 36:03 Reality TV and Relationship Dynamics 42:08 Insecurity and Gaslighting in Relationships 44:01 Dating Shows: Love is Blind vs. Age of Attraction 44:49 Navigating Breakups and Dating as a Coach 46:36 The Dynamics of Age in Dating 48:55 The Importance of Depth in Relationships 52:14 Healing and Growth in Modern Relationships 54:43 Feminism and Chivalry in Dating 58:56 The Rat Race of Toxic Relationships Sponsors:  Web link: https://trk.pdt.im/uK4nXo J4L festival link: https://j4l.com/dating-festival Twitter: https://x.com/ComJ4love  YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCFig402uwrJuhz-Ub25I60g/videos  Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/j4l_com_/  Christopher Louis:  Instagram:  https://www.instagram.com/christopherlouisdate?igsh=NTc4MTIwNjQ2YQ%3D%3D&utm_source=qr Web: https://dating-intelligence.com/ Men.tality:  https://www.datingmentality.com/ Natalie Stavola:  Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/nataliestavola?igsh=NTc4MTIwNjQ2YQ%3D%3D Web: https://www.nataliestavolacoach.com/

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Most relationship podcasts tell you what you want to hear. This one tells you what you need to know. International dating coach Christopher Louis and co-host Natalie Stavola — actress, producer, and international transformation coach — bring unmatched chemistry and zero tolerance for surface-level answers to the conversations that actually shape your love life. From first dates to long-term commitment, from self-sabotage to real transformation, Dating Intelligence covers every stage of the journey with expert guests, raw honesty, and the kind of insight that makes you rethink everything. Unfiltered. Unapologetic. Nothing is off limits.