A cozy, slightly feral mailbag: we start with real talk on phone addiction (what a “brick” does and why eating alone without your phone can feel transcendent), then hit listener questions on bestie droughts, mismatched marriage timelines, “he barely texts—does he like me?”, MIL wars, PTA traps, HOA Stepford vibes, jealousy that sneaks in via Instagram, whether to have a fourth baby at 38, drinking norms, and how to handle a mean sister-in-law. Plus: Chandler’s revised skincare take (CE Ferulic > Jan Marini C), tret ramp-up, Lauren’s YSL jacket saga, cosmetic procedure politics with your spouse, and a tiny boob win at 160 ccs. It’s warm, blunt, and useful. 00:00 — Cold open: “Advice episode” energy + confidence at 19 vs now 😅 01:40 — Phone-scroll addiction: what a “brick” is, grayscale, delete apps, solo meal epiphany 🍔📵 07:45 — Small talk → listener mailbag kickoff 📬 09:00 — $1K crossbody recs: beyond the usual suspects; Dragon Diffusion shoutout + chic under-the-radar brands 👜 10:30 — Skincare plot twist: Jan Marini critiques; keep it simple—glycolic, CE Ferulic, tret, sunscreen ✨ 13:00 — Cool-girl brand list lives on Reddit (NYC BWT) 🧵 13:40 — “I don’t have a bestie” → seasons of friendship + pick up the phone ☎️ 15:50 — Different marriage timelines: deadlines, reasons, and the “compression of time creates value” line 💍 ⏳ 18:25 — Does low texting = low interest? Context, patterns, and sussing it out 📱💬 19:50 — MIL vs Mom warfare: each partner manages their own parent; boundaries ≠ your burden 🧱 21:45 — Pregnant + boundary-breaking MIL: timing is yours; partner delivers the message 🤰 24:00 — Jealousy management: mute, reframe, comment with kindness, and build “psychic peace” 💚 31:00 — People-pleasing/PTA: “no” is a full sentence; protect your peace 🫶 33:30 — Heavy: supporting a friend after a child’s death—keep the memory alive, show up long-term 🕊️ 37:40 — Chin/neck strap, mouth-breathing & Amazon curiosities 😮💨 38:30 — HOA Stepford vibes: disappoint them freely 🚪😌 39:55 — Fourth baby at 38? Capacity for chaos, spacing realities, help math 👶👶👶👶 41:00 — Mean sister-in-law: kindness → boundaries → ice-queen protocol 🧊 👑 42:30 — “What’s a normal amount to drink?” Light drinking ranges, martinis vs bubbles 🍸🥂 45:40 — Surrogacy Q: Chandler’s plan; Lauren’s take 👶 💬 46:00 — Cosmetic procedures when spouse objects: your body, good providers, confidence dividend ✂️💫 48:30 — YSL jacket saga: VAT win, styling angst 🧥 50:30 — Life advice: do the thing; “remember when you wanted what you have” 🧠✨ 53:10 — How to pick “the one”: peace > nervous system alarms ❤️🩹 54:15 — Implants: 160 ccs & surgeon mention (Upper East Side) 📝 55:00 — Sign-off to the Elites 💌
