
Uninvited Guests - How to Discipline Your Child Effectively, Part 1
Discipline. It’s only one word, but it conjures up a multitude of thoughts or memories. In this message, Chip encourages us that done properly, discipline can actually build a strong, positive bond between you and your kids.
Case Study #1 – Reuben Hill (Minnesota Report)
- Summary: The balanced authoritative parent, who gives high support (love) and high control (discipline), typically produces children with high self-esteem, good coping skills, and a positive relationship with parents.
 
Case Study #2 – Hebrews 12 - Christians A.D. 66-70
- Summary: Discipline is teaching obedience to God and His Word through consistentconsequences (actions) and clear instructions (words) in an atmosphere of love.
 
Five characteristics of discipline:
- The necessity of discipline = To deter DESTRUCTION. -Heb. 12:4
 - The means of discipline = The ACTIONS and WORDS. -Heb. 12:5
 - The motive in discipline = To express LOVE. -Heb. 12:6-9
 - The goal of discipline = To teach OBEDIENCE or SUBMISSION. -Heb. 12:9
 - The result of discipline = Short term PAIN and long term GAIN. -Heb. 12:10,11
 
Two key biblical concepts
1) Actions: Consistent consequences
Seven steps to discipline:
- Clear WARNING.
 - Establish responsibility.
 - Avoid EMBARASSMENT.
 - Communicate grief.
 - Flick the WRIST.
 - Sincere repentance.
 - Unconditional LOVE.
 
2) Words: Clear instructions
Four ways to use words to bring about correction:
- Say “no” FIRMLY.
 - CLEAR WARNING of consequences.
 - Use CONTRACTS.
 - Use CONSEQUENCES
 
Broadcast Resource
- Download Free MP3
 - Message Notes
 
Additional Resource Mentions
- Marriage Truth Cards Offer
 - "Uninvited Guests" Resources
 
Connect
- 888-333-6003
 - Website
 - Chip Ingram App
 
Partner With Us
- Donate Online
 - 888-333-6003
 
Information
- Show
 - FrequencyUpdated daily
 - Published28 October 2025 at 06:05 UTC
 - Length32 min
 - RatingClean