Stop Chasing Unavailable Guys

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Welcome to the Stop Chasing Unavailable Guys podcast. This is the show for single women over 40 who are done wasting time on emotionally unavailable guys and ready for real, healthy love. I’m Truly Eleanor, an intuitive dating coach with over 17 years of experience, and I help women stop chasing, stop doubting, and start choosing relationships that actually feel good. If you’ve ever thought:“Why do I keep attracting the same kind of guy?”“Why does healthy love feel unfamiliar?”“Why does dating feel harder the moment I start to care?” You’re in the right place. This podcast is where emotional healing meets real-world dating, so you can finally trust yourself, spot red flags early, and move toward love that’s calm, mutual, and deeply connected. And to get started, download my free guide The Top 5 Dating Apps for Women Over 40 (+ How to Spot Unavailable Guys Fast) at https://trulyeleanor.com/datingapps Love is closer than you think. Let’s get started.

  1. 2 DAYS AGO

    Episode #50 Stop Overgiving in Dating: How to Finally Receive Love After 40

    If you’re dating after 40 and keep finding yourself in the role of emotional caretaker, always understanding, always giving the benefit of the doubt, always staying longer than feels good, this episode is for you. In Episode 50 of the Stop Chasing Unavailable Guys Podcast, we’re talking about one of the biggest hidden blocks to healthy love: the emotional caretaker identity. This is the pattern where love gets confused with effort…where overgiving feels like chemistry…and where emotionally unavailable men keep showing up because you’ve been trained to manage, fix, and emotionally hold everyone but yourself. What’s Inside This Episode: The real reason overgiving feels so automatic (and why it has nothing to do with being “needy”)What quietly happens to attraction when you become the emotional manager in datingThe surprising truth about why calm, available men can trigger disinterest at firstThe identity shift that changes everything—from trying to make it work to simply choosingWhat “receiving love” actually looks and feels like when you’ve spent a lifetime earning it This episode is part of Season 5: Embodiment, Identity & Lasting Love, where we stop trying to date differently and start being someone who dates differently. ✨ Integration prompt from the episode: “Am I relating to him… or managing him?” 🎧 Listen now and begin releasing the belief that love requires effort, fixing, or emotional labour.Magnetic Love Bundle: https://learn.trulyeleanor.com/magneticlove Remember:You can’t make Mr. Unavailable love you, but you can choose someone who does. And love is closer than you think.

    18 min

  2. 2 FEB

    EP #49 Why Healthy Love Feels Unfamiliar: And Why That’s Not a Red Flag

    If you’re dating after 40 and keep feeling drawn to emotionally unavailable guys even though what you want is calm, secure love, this episode will help you understand why. In the first episode of Season 5, we’re talking about something many women experience but rarely question: why healthy love can feel flat or even uncomfortable when your nervous system has been shaped by intensity, uncertainty, or chasing. For a lot of women, what’s been labeled “chemistry” is actually adrenaline. And when connection feels calm, steady, or emotionally safe, it can be dismissed too quickly as boredom or a lack of attraction. In this episode, I break down how those patterns form, why they repeat, and what begins to shift when you stop chasing love and start choosing it. We also explore the quieter identity shift that happens when you stop dating from hope, fear, or longing and begin trusting yourself. This isn’t about forcing yourself to like someone you don’t like. It’s about understanding why your body responds the way it does, and how that response can change over time. What’s Inside the EpisodeWhy that intense pull toward someone can feel so convincing and what it’s actually signalingWhat’s really happening when calm connection feels unfamiliarThe subtle difference between chasing someone and choosing a relationshipHow adrenaline gets mistaken for chemistryThe identity shift that quietly changes who you’re drawn toIf your heart knows what it wants but your body hasn’t caught up yet, the Magnetic Love Bundle can help bridge that gap. Grab it here: https://learn.trulyeleanor.com/magneticlove 🎧 Listen to the full episode of Stop Chasing Unavailable Guys and begin the shift from chasing to choosing. Remember love is closer than you think.

    17 min

  3. 01/12/2025

    Episode #48 Dating After 40? 3 Steps To Break Old Patterns And Attract Healthy Love

    If you’re a single woman over 40 who’s tired of choosing emotionally unavailable guys, doubting yourself, or wondering why dating feels so exhausting, this episode gives you the roadmap you’ve been missing. In this season finale, you’ll learn the 3-step method designed to help you emotionally reset, trust yourself again, and finally attract the kind of healthy, deeply connected love you’ve been longing for. Season 4 has been all about emotional healing, because healing is what creates clarity, confidence, and the ability to choose men who can actually show up for you. In today’s wrap-up, you’ll see how each part of this season fits together and how these pieces form a proven dating method that helps women over 40 break old patterns and step into the love they truly deserve. Whether you're feeling stuck, burnt out, or secretly afraid it might be “too late,” this episode shows you why it isn’t and gives you the steps to move forward with intention, self-trust, and hope. What’s Inside This EpisodeThe #1 reason emotional healing is non-negotiable for finding real love after 40The 3-step Method that helps you stop choosing unavailable guysWhy “perfect on paper” relationships fall apart and how to avoid repeating that patternThe mindset shift that instantly saves you time, energy, and heartbreak in dating after 40If you’re ready to understand why your dating patterns have repeated and how to finally break free, this finale episode will give you clarity, direction, and hope. 👉 Click now and listen to the Season 4 finale your path to lasting love begins right here.

    16 min

  4. 24/11/2025

    Episode #47 Dating Over 40? Here’s How to Silence the Self-Doubt

    If you’re dating after 40 and you feel like you are the thing getting in your own way, this episode is going to help you finally move forward. Today we’re unpacking the one pattern that kept me single for years and delayed meeting my husband until I was 44: self-doubt. In this episode, I’ll walk you through: Why self-doubt is not a personality flaw, it’s a learned patternThe surprising connection between childhood conditioning and dating chaosThe exact framework I used to break freeA simple daily heart-expansion exercise that melts self-doubt and builds confidenceThe moment I finally stopped believing I was broken—and how everything changedIf you’ve ever gone back and forth on a decision… argued with yourself before a date… doubted every intuitive nudge… or felt like it’s too hard to start trusting yourself, this episode gives you a grounded path out of the mental maze. You’ll learn how to reconnect with the most powerful guidance system you have: your heart + intuition. 👉 Click play now to learn how to silence self-doubt and step into confident, intuitive dating after 40. Don't forget to grab my free dating guide here: https://trulyeleanor.com/datingapps

    18 min
  5. Episode #46 Finding Love After 40: What to Do When You Feel Hopeless and Stuck

    17/11/2025

    Episode #46 Finding Love After 40: What to Do When You Feel Hopeless and Stuck

    If you’ve been dating after 40 and you’re starting to lose hope, this episode will feel like a deep exhale. Today, I’m pulling back the curtain and sharing the truth: feeling stuck isn’t a sign that love is passing you by, it’s actually the doorway to reconnecting to yourself, rebuilding confidence, and finding the kind of healthy love you truly want. I’m sharing a personal story from one of the lowest points in my own dating journey when I was living on my mom’s couch, going through perimenopause, heartbroken, anxious, and convinced I had run out of time. That moment became the turning point that changed everything. And it can change everything for you, too. Inside this episode, you’ll learn what to do when you're spiraling into doubt, how to reconnect with your heart instead of your fear, and how to shift from feeling hopeless to grounded, intuitive, and ready for the healthy love you’re meant for. These are the exact steps I used to rebuild my confidence and meet my husband in my 40s and they’re the same steps I now teach women all over the world. What’s Inside This Episode:  The surprising reason losing hope can be a powerful turning point.The story of my rock-bottom moment and how it became the catalyst for love.How to reconnect to your intuition when your brain won’t stop spinning worst-case scenarios.The morning heart-expansion practice that instantly shifts your energy (and makes you more magnetic). I hope you enjoyed the show! Please hit subscribe and leave a review and if you’re ready to take the fastest path to Mr. Right, be sure to download my free dating guide at https://trulyeleanor.com/datingapps

    16 min
  6. Episode #45 How to Stop Believing It’s Too Late for Love: A Guide for Women Over 40

    10/11/2025

    Episode #45 How to Stop Believing It’s Too Late for Love: A Guide for Women Over 40

    How to Stop Believing It’s Too Late for Love: A Guide for Women Over 40 If you’ve ever had that sinking fear that love has passed you by… you’re not alone. Dating after 40 can feel like a dizzying merri-go-round, with no way to jump off! One minute you’re hopeful, and the next you’re convincing yourself you should just buy the tiny house, adopt five cats, and call it a day. But here’s the real truth: it is not too late for you. And believing that it is? That’s the biggest lie single women over 40 are told. In this episode, I’m breaking down where that fear really comes from and how it secretly shapes your dating choices (even when you think you’re still “open” to love). You’ll learn how to recognize subtle self-sabotage, rewire those hidden beliefs, and get back into the kind of aligned action that leads to the healthy, devoted relationship you actually want. Because love doesn’t expire… especially when you’re finally ready for the right guy. If you’re craving hope, clarity, and a path forward that feels empowering instead of exhausting, this is your episode.  What’s Inside This Episode:• The sneaky ways fear shapes who you date • The surprising secondary fear hiding under the surface of “what if it never happens?” • Why feeling fear doesn’t mean you’re blocked and the mantra that moves you forward • A reframe that instantly gives your confidence a power-up • The moment I realized I was dating like love was already over and how everything changed • The 3-part awareness framework that keeps you connected to real possibilities If you’re tired of letting fear decide who you swipe on, who you chase, and what you believe is possible… hit play now. This episode will help you take the next step toward the love story you still get to have.

    20 min
  7. Episode #44 Dating in Your 40s: How to Survive the Emotional Rollercoaster

    03/11/2025

    Episode #44 Dating in Your 40s: How to Survive the Emotional Rollercoaster

    Dating in your 40s can feel like a cosmic rollercoaster. One minute you’re certain today’s the day you meet Mr. Right. The next, you’re on the couch, wine in hand, convinced love ghosted you for good.  In this episode, we’re talking about: 💔 The “I’m so close!” optimism high followed by the crash into hopelessness 🛟 How to emotionally support yourself while dating 🌊 The “cosmic surfboard” strategy for riding the waves 💌 10 ways to stay open to love even when it feels hard Because when you’re dating after 40, the stakes feel higher, but the love you’re calling in is so worth it. And yes… it is closer than you think. 🔑 Key Takeaways • You don’t have to “stay positive” You just need to stay authentic • Your emotions aren’t a problem, repressing them is • Your journey is preparing you for the love you asked for • You can have bad days and still be moving closer to love • Every action counts even couch-days with your cat 🐈‍⬛ 🧰 Tools Mentioned ✔ 10 powerful strategies to manage emotional ups + downs ✔ Tapping through fear with the “Then What?” exercise ✔ Heart-connection practices ✔ Emotional support + expansion rituals ✔ The top resource to use when you feel discouraged 🔥 Don’t Miss This Part The one belief to delete immediately if you want to find real love after 40. “I have to be positive or I’ll never meet someone.” Authenticity is more magnetic than perfection ever will be. Ready for love to feel exciting again, not exhausting? Hit play now to learn how to ride the emotional waves of dating in your 40s (without spiraling every time someone ghosts). 🎧👇 I hope you enjoyed the show! Please hit subscribe and leave a review and if you’re ready to take the fastest path to Mr. Right, be sure to download my free dating guide at https://trulyeleanor.com/datingapps

    18 min
  8. Episode #43 Is Love Still Possible After 40? The Truth No One Tells You

    27/10/2025

    Episode #43 Is Love Still Possible After 40? The Truth No One Tells You

    If you’ve ever looked at your dating life and wondered, “Is it even possible for me to find real love at my age?,” this episode will remind you that it absolutely is. In this heartfelt conversation, Truly Eleanor, Intuitive Dating Coach, opens up about the moment she turned 40 and thought her chance at love was over. She shares how deep-rooted beliefs around age, worthiness, and scarcity nearly convinced her to settle and how confronting those fears became the turning point that led her to meet her husband in her 40s. You’ll learn how to recognize and release the subtle doubts that keep you stuck, reframe limiting stories about age and dating, and start believing that love isn’t behind you, it’s ahead of you. Love after 40 isn’t just possible; it’s easier than you think when you lead with self-trust, awareness, and connection. 💫 What’s Inside This EpisodeThe hidden fears that quietly convince you love has passed you byHow Truly Eleanor rewired her mindset at 40 and found her husband soon afterThe truth about why dating actually gets easier as you get olderSimple reframes to dissolve doubt and spark renewed hope in loveWhy your self-acceptance is the secret ingredient to finding Mr. RightReady to flip the script on doubt and rediscover what’s truly possible in love after 40? 🎧 Tune in now to hear Truly Eleanor’s personal story of transformation  and find out why your best love story might still be ahead of you. Click to listen! I hope you enjoyed the show! Please hit subscribe and leave a review and if you’re ready to take the fastest path to Mr. Right, be sure to download my free dating guide at https://trulyeleanor.com/datingapps

    15 min
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Welcome to the Stop Chasing Unavailable Guys podcast. This is the show for single women over 40 who are done wasting time on emotionally unavailable guys and ready for real, healthy love. I’m Truly Eleanor, an intuitive dating coach with over 17 years of experience, and I help women stop chasing, stop doubting, and start choosing relationships that actually feel good. If you’ve ever thought:“Why do I keep attracting the same kind of guy?”“Why does healthy love feel unfamiliar?”“Why does dating feel harder the moment I start to care?” You’re in the right place. This podcast is where emotional healing meets real-world dating, so you can finally trust yourself, spot red flags early, and move toward love that’s calm, mutual, and deeply connected. And to get started, download my free guide The Top 5 Dating Apps for Women Over 40 (+ How to Spot Unavailable Guys Fast) at https://trulyeleanor.com/datingapps Love is closer than you think. Let’s get started.

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  • Creator
    Truly Eleanor Intuitive Dating Coach
  • Years Active
    2024 - 2026
  • Episodes
    51
  • Rating
    Clean
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    © 2025 Truly Eleanor Intuitive Dating Coach
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    Stop Chasing Unavailable Guys