Stop Chasing Unavailable Guys

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Welcome to the Stop Chasing Unavailable Guys podcast. This is the show for single women over 40 who are done wasting time on emotionally unavailable guys and ready for real, healthy love. I’m Truly Eleanor, an intuitive dating coach with over 17 years of experience, and I help women stop chasing, stop doubting, and start choosing relationships that actually feel good. If you’ve ever thought: “Why do I keep attracting the same kind of guy?” “Why does healthy love feel unfamiliar?” “Why does dating feel harder the moment I start to care?” You’re in the right place. This podcast is where emotional healing meets real-world dating, so you can finally trust yourself, spot red flags early, and move toward love that’s calm, mutual, and deeply connected. And to get started, download my free guide The Top 5 Dating Apps for Women Over 40 (+ How to Spot Unavailable Guys Fast) at https://trulyeleanor.com/datingapps Love is closer than you think. Let’s get started.

  1. 27 APR

    Ep #60 The Identity Shift That Changes Everything About How You Date

    You've been doing the work. The journaling, the reflecting, the quiet moments where something clicked that you can't quite explain yet. This episode is your chance to feel how far you've actually come. In Episode 60 of the Stop Chasing Unavailable Guys Podcast, we're closing out Season Five with a full-circle look at the identity shift that's been building all season. The shift from the woman who chased emotionally unavailable men and questioned her worth, to the woman who trusts herself, chooses wisely, and lets love meet her there. This is the episode that brings it all together. What's Inside This Episode: The quiet but profound thing that happens on a date when you've genuinely changedWhy dating can finally start to feel intentional, peaceful, and even funWhat it really means to trust yourself in real time, not just in theoryThe identity that makes emotional availability your new standardHow to carry everything you've learned into your daily life going forward 🎧 Listen now and give yourself credit for the woman you're becoming. And grab the free guide The Top 5 Dating Apps for Women Over 40 + How to Spot Unavailable Guys Fast here: https://learn.trulyeleanor.com/datingapps And if you want support embodying that woman even more deeply, my Magnetic Love Bundle includes guided meditations to help you release fear, reset your energy, and stay open and grounded while attracting emotionally available partners. Click here to find out more 👉 [Magnetic Love Bundle] You can't make Mr. Unavailable love you, but you can choose someone who does. Love is closer than you think.

    18 min

  2. 20 APR

    Ep #59 Ready for Love After 40? Or Just Waiting to Feel Ready?

    You're not hiding behind healing anymore. You're not stuck in the waiting room. You're actually at the door. And somehow... you're still not walking through it. Here's a clue that something has quietly shifted. The guys who once had you glued to your phone, analysing every text, every pause, every "seen at 9pm but no reply until Tuesday"  they're starting to feel exhausting. And the calm, consistent guy who actually shows up? He's starting to feel kind of amazing. That's not a coincidence. That's readiness. And this episode is going to help you recognise it. What's Inside This Episode: ✨ The surprising way all that healing work trips you up on dates ✨ The subtle sign that you're already more ready for healthy love than you've been telling yourself ✨ What changes when you stop waiting to feel perfect and make this one quiet decision instead ✨ The shift that moves you from exhausted longing into something that finally feels calm and possible ✨ What it feels like to be on a date when you're actually ready to receive love If you're ready to trust your intuition and date with clarity and confidence, the Intuitive Path to Love Course is linked below. And grab the free guide The Top 5 Dating Apps for Women Over 40 + How to Spot Unavailable Guys Fast here: https://learn.trulyeleanor.com/datingapps Intuitive Path To Love Course: https://learn.trulyeleanor.com/IPTL You can't make Mr. Unavailable love you, but you can choose someone who does. Love is closer than you think.

    13 min

  3. 13 APR

    Ep #58 Dating After 40: The Subtle Mistake That Keeps Love at a Distance

    If you’re dating after 40 and you’ve done the healing work, raised your standards, and promised yourself “never again” but now find yourself feeling guarded, cautious, and a little closed off,  this episode is for you. In Episode 58 of the Stop Chasing Unavailable Guys Podcast, we’re talking about the subtle shift from having standards to building emotional walls that quietly block the connection you want. Because at some point, protecting your heart can start to feel like the safest option. A very understandable, self-protective, quietly limiting way of dating. And it makes sense. You’ve been hurt. You’ve learned the lessons. You’re paying attention now. But what if that protection is also keeping love at a distance? This episode will show you how to hold your standards with calm confidence while staying open enough to actually experience connection. What’s Inside This Episode: ✨ The surprising way “being careful” on dates can instantly shut down connection ✨ The subtle dating habit that feels smart and self-protective, but keeps you stuck ✨ What changes when you stop trying to read him and start tuning into yourself ✨ The shift that makes you feel open, grounded, and in control at the same time ✨ Why the men you actually want feel drawn to you when this clicks 🎧 Listen now and step into dating with an open heart, clear standards, and the kind of grounded confidence that lets love in. Click for dating resources: https://trulyeleanor.com

    18 min

  4. 30 MAR

    Ep #57 Dating After 40: The Hidden Reason You Never Feel Ready for Love

    If you’re dating after 40 and you’ve done all the things: therapy, journaling, inner child work, energy clearing, and you still feel like, “I’m just not quite ready yet”… this episode is for you. In Episode 57 of the Stop Chasing Unavailable Guys Podcast, we’re talking about a pattern that looks like growth, but feels like you’re stuck in a waiting room with no one calling your name. Because at some point, “I just need to heal a bit more” turns into a lifestyle. A very noble, self-aware, deeply exhausted lifestyle. And it makes sense. You want to get it right. You don’t want to repeat the past. But what if all that healing has quietly become a way of keeping yourself out of the game? This episode will show you how to move from endless self-improvement into actual lived confidence where you date, choose, and experience love as you are now. What’s Inside This Episode: ✨ Why you still feel “not ready” for love (even after doing all the work) ✨ The sneaky way healing keeps you stuck instead of moving you forward ✨ The shift that gets you out of “almost ready” and into actually dating again ✨ How to start experiencing real connection now, not someday when you’re “fully healed” ✨ Want support with this? If your brain is tired of looping and you’re ready to actually move what you’re feeling, the Heart Reset Journal gives you a simple, guided way to release it and come back to yourself without overthinking it. 👉Click here to grab your journal  Link to blog post I talked about: https://trulyeleanor.com/twinflame 🎧 Listen now and step into love without waiting to become a different version of you.

    17 min

  5. 23 MAR

    Ep #56 Dating After 40: How to Stay Open and Still Protect Your Heart

    If you’re dating after 40 and you’ve built a strong, independent life… but still find yourself attracting emotionally unavailable men or feeling completely drained by dating, this episode is for you. In Episode 56 of the Stop Chasing Unavailable Guys Podcast, we’re talking about a shift that sounds simple, but can feel wildly uncomfortable in real life: how to stay open to love without abandoning yourself. Because let’s be honest… At some point, independence stopped feeling empowering and started feeling like, “Cool, I guess I’ll just carry all the groceries and my emotional needs alone forever.” After years of disappointment, it makes sense to stay guarded. To rely on yourself. To keep your heart just slightly under lock and key. But what if that protection… is also what’s keeping love out? This episode will show you how to move from hyper-independence into openness, so connection can feel safe, mutual, and actually supportive (yes, that exists). What’s Inside This Episode: What hyper-independence really looks like (it’s sneakier than you think)How staying guarded quietly blocks the connection you wantHow to stay open without losing your standards or boundariesThe shift that allows love in without losing yourself ✨ Want support with this? If you’re tired of overthinking and second-guessing yourself in dating, this is exactly the work we do inside Intuitive Path to Love. Learn to trust yourself in real time and feel calm, confident, and secure choosing the right man. 👉 https://trulyeleanor.com/IPTL 👉Download my free dating guide: The Top 5 Dating Apps for Women Over 40 + How to Spot Mr. Unavailable Fast https://trulyeleanor.com/datingapps 🎧 Listen now and start experiencing love without losing yourself.

    19 min

  6. 16 MAR

    Ep #55 Emotional Safety Is the New Chemistry in Dating After 40

    If you’re dating after 40 and the only connections that feel exciting are the ones that leave you anxious, overthinking everything, and wondering where you stand, this episode will change the way you understand attraction. In Episode 55 of the Stop Chasing Unavailable Guys Podcast, we’re redefining chemistry and exploring why the “spark” you’ve been chasing might actually be your nervous system reacting to emotional unpredictability. For many women, attraction has been conditioned through intensity: the adrenaline rush, mixed signals, and emotional highs and lows that feel exciting in the moment, but somehow keep leading you straight back to Mr. Emotionally Unavailable. But healthy love doesn’t feel chaotic. It feels calm, grounded, and emotionally safe. And if that feeling has ever made you think, “Hmm… maybe I’m just not attracted to him?” don’t worry you’re not the only one whose nervous system learned that love was supposed to feel like a rollercoaster at a questionable amusement park. In this episode, we explore the identity shift from chasing anxiety-based chemistry to recognizing emotional safety as true attraction. When your body chooses steadiness instead of emotional rollercoasters, dating starts to feel clearer, calmer and more aligned. In this episode you’ll learn: How emotional chaos gets mistaken for chemistryWhat emotionally safe attraction actually feels likeWhy calm connection can feel unfamiliar at firstThe identity shift that helps you choose healthier love Because the kind of attraction that leads to lasting love rarely feels like fireworks. It feels like coming home. If you’re ready to stop chasing sparks and start embodying the calm magnetism that attracts real love, the Magnetic Love Meditation Bundle is the perfect next step. Click here to start: https://trulyeleanor.com/magneticlove

    20 min

  7. 9 MAR

    Ep #54 Why You Pull Away From Good Guys (Dating After 40 Pattern Explained)

    Have you ever gone on a date with a genuinely good guy… and then felt a sudden urge to pull away?Not because he did anything weird or said something offensive.Just a strong internal reaction that says: Nope. If you’re dating after 40 and trying to stop attracting emotionally unavailable men, this moment can be incredibly confusing.Because now you’re wondering:Is this my intuition warning me? Or is my nervous system panicking because this guy might actually be emotionally available?And this shows up a lot for smart, self-aware women who have spent years dealing with hot-and-cold men.In this episode:✨ Why the urge to pull away shows up in healthy dating ✨ The difference between intuition and emotional self-protection ✨ How vulnerability can feel like danger ✨ How to stay open without abandoning yourselfBecause you can’t make Mr. Unavailable love you.But you can choose someone who does. And love is closer than you think. Questions This Episode AnswersWhy do I pull away when I start to like someone?Is it intuition or fear when something feels “off” in dating?Why do emotionally available men sometimes make me uncomfortable?How do I stay open in dating without getting hurt again?If you’ve ever felt that sudden urge to withdraw when a connection starts getting real, this episode will help you understand what’s actually happening and how to stay grounded while choosing the kind of love you truly want.Links from episode: https://stopchasingunavailableguys.com

    19 min

  8. 2 MAR

    Ep#53 Dating After 40: How to Tell the Difference Between Intuition + Fear

    Last week we talked about anxiety when you like him. This week, we go deeper. Because once you understand your nervous system… the real question becomes: Can you tell the difference between fear and intuition while you’re sitting across from your date? Not later. Not after a three-hour debrief with your friends. In real time. In this episode, we move from managing fear that tries to take over to recognizing what’s actually true for you on dates. What’s Inside The Episode:  How intuition actually communicates (it’s quieter than you think) Why strong feelings don’t automatically mean “red flag” The subtle body cues that signal truth versus protection How to stop outsourcing your decisions to overthinking What it feels like to know when something is right and when it isn’t This is the shift from second-guessing yourself… to knowing what’s real. From spiralling… to deciding calmly. Because calm confidence is understanding what you’re feeling and choosing from clarity instead of fear. 🎧 Listen now to strengthen your discernment and date with steadiness instead of doubt. Link mentioned in the episode: https://stopchasingunavailableguys.com

    19 min
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Welcome to the Stop Chasing Unavailable Guys podcast. This is the show for single women over 40 who are done wasting time on emotionally unavailable guys and ready for real, healthy love. I’m Truly Eleanor, an intuitive dating coach with over 17 years of experience, and I help women stop chasing, stop doubting, and start choosing relationships that actually feel good. If you’ve ever thought: “Why do I keep attracting the same kind of guy?” “Why does healthy love feel unfamiliar?” “Why does dating feel harder the moment I start to care?” You’re in the right place. This podcast is where emotional healing meets real-world dating, so you can finally trust yourself, spot red flags early, and move toward love that’s calm, mutual, and deeply connected. And to get started, download my free guide The Top 5 Dating Apps for Women Over 40 (+ How to Spot Unavailable Guys Fast) at https://trulyeleanor.com/datingapps Love is closer than you think. Let’s get started.

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  • Creator
    Truly Eleanor Intuitive Dating Coach
  • Years Active
    2024 - 2026
  • Episodes
    61
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    Clean
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    © 2025 Truly Eleanor Intuitive Dating Coach
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    Stop Chasing Unavailable Guys

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