The Ins and Outs with Ruby and Megan

Dear Media | MAGS

What do you get when you bring a curious sex expert together with the nicest woman on OnlyFans? A show that really goes there. Each week, Ruby Rare and Megan Barton-Hanson welcome listeners to an unfiltered, playful and inclusive space to talk about sex in all its glory. They unpick all the big questions like: “How can we talk about kinks and fantasies?”, “Does stress kill the vibe?”, “What place does humour have in the bedroom?”, “How can we banish shame around sexual desires?”, and “Does wearing socks actually lead to a better orgasm?!”. Along the way, they share their own unforgettable stories of sex and dating, and hear from you lovely lot about your sex questions and tried-and-tested sex tips.      A Mags Creative and Dear Media production.

  1. 13 FEB

    Happy Galentine’s Day!

    Galentine’s is a day to celebrate platonic relationships (yay!) and on this podcast we get a front row seat to Meg and Ruby’s gorgeous friendship.  These are some nourishing moments from previous episodes where Ruby and Meg share dating app advice, give sex playlist tips, and get vulnerable about singleness and weird crushes.    What are the most important relationships in your life? Get in touch and tell us! Also hot Valentine’s plans for tomorrow? Let us know!!!  We are taking a little break now - see you soon! Email the podcast: hello@insandoutspod.com Follow Ruby on socials: @rubyrare  Follow Megan on socials @meganbartonhanson_ Links and resources: Ruby’s steamy sex playlist - https://open.spotify.com/playlist/3v2QpYyO0tSz2I5nsbKt6R Ruby’s tender sex playlist - https://open.spotify.com/playlist/1UhYyzNIbc22sBQA76NHdR Mozart’s “Leck mich im Arsch” - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=C78HBp-Youk  Ruby and Meg’s recommendations: Ruby’s new book - The Non-Monogamy Playbook: https://lnk.to/thenonmonogamyplaybook Ethical porn: Erika Lust, Lustery, Cheex Clips taken from the following episodes: Being single: love or loathe?Grindr for girls?Porn: Sexy or unrealistic? Opening up your relationship?  The Ins and Outs with Ruby and Megan is a Mags Creative and Dear Media production   Producer and Content Editor for Mags Creative: Christy Callaway-Gale Editor and Engineer: Beautiful Strangers, Podcast House Executive Producers for Mags Creative: Faith Russell and Kit Milsom This podcast contains adult themes that are not suitable for children. Listener caution is advised. If you’ve been affected by anything raised in this episode and want extra support, we encourage you to reach out to your general practitioner or an accredited professional. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

    27 min
  2. 30 JAN

    When you bump into a relative at a sex party…

    Wondering if a sex party is for you? Ruby and Meg chat to Logan Star who has been in the sex party and play party space for eight years. Logan created the organisation Little Black Book, which used to run sex parties and now supports people who want to set up their own play parties. Ruby, Meg and Logan get to the bottom of the difference between a sex party, a play party and a fetish party. They talk about what happens at these parties and how consent and aftercare works. They also speak about how to find parties like these, in the first place! As well as sharing some stories of their own… Email the podcast: hello@insandoutspod.com Follow Ruby on socials: @rubyrare  Follow Megan on socials @meganbartonhanson_ Follow Logan on socials @iamloganstar Follow Little Black Book on socials @littleblackbookparty Logan’s recommendations: Ethically Non Monogamous Fam London: @enmfamlondon ENM Fam calendar: https://teamup.com/ks2ujdfgkxiyjmkhf1Logan recommendations of sex parties: 1. Quench  https://www.quenchlondon.co.uk/  https://www.instagram.com/quench_london?igsh=MXNnaDFubnMxNXE3Nw==  2. Riot Party https://riotparty.co.uk/  https://www.instagram.com/riotpartyuk?igsh=d2pqNnp3M3hxbHZo  3. Dominium Vita https://dominiumvita.com/  https://www.instagram.com/dominiumvitaevents?igsh=MXhzb3h6bXVjZHd3NQ==  4. One Night Parties https://www.onenightparties.com/  https://www.instagram.com/onenightparties?igsh=MTN5c2NmejhvNTdvdg==  5. Scene https://www.sceneldn.uk/ https://www.instagram.com/sceneldn?igsh=eWYzczMwaXR6MHc5  6. Pinky Promise https://www.pinkypromiseland.co.uk/  https://www.instagram.com/pinkypromise.world?igsh=eTFhdjZ5c3Rxejly  7. Lucid https://www.instagram.com/lucid_sober_events?igsh=MTJkYTI1ejRoMzNnYQ==  The Ins and Outs with Ruby and Megan is a Mags Creative and Dear Media production   Producer and Content Editor for Mags Creative: Christy Callaway-Gale Editor and Engineer: Beautiful Strangers, Podcast House Executive Producers for Mags Creative: Faith Russell and Kit Milsom This podcast contains adult themes that are not suitable for children. Listener caution is advised. If you’ve been affected by anything raised in this episode and want extra support, we encourage you to reach out to your general practitioner or an accredited professional.  See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

    39 min
  3. 16 JAN

    Being cheated on and the green-eyed monster, jealousy

    Why do we shy away from messy emotions? Meg and Ruby get into the nitty gritty of jealousy - an emotion that’s often labelled as “ugly” or “shameful”.   Meg and Ruby talk about their experiences of being cheated on and how that can impact feeling jealous in relationships. “Mystic Meg” even had a dream about being cheated on which turned out to be true! Ruby opens up about jealousy in non-monogamous relationships and together they chat about ways of communicating jealousy to other people in a constructive way. Healthy stuff!   Do you experience jealousy in relationships? Have you found a good way of communicating how you’re feeling? Get in touch and let us know!  Email the podcast: hello@insandoutspod.com Follow Ruby on socials: @rubyrare  Follow Megan on socials @meganbartonhanson_ Ruby and Meg’s recommendations: Ruby’s new book - The Non-Monogamy Playbook, which has chapters on jealousy and constructive conversation: https://lnk.to/thenonmonogamyplaybook The Jealousy Workbook by Kathy Labriola The Ins and Outs with Ruby and Megan is a Mags Creative and Dear Media production   Producer and Content Editor for Mags Creative: Christy Callaway-Gale Editor and Engineer: Beautiful Strangers, Podcast House Executive Producers for Mags Creative: Faith Russell and Kit Milsom This podcast contains adult themes that are not suitable for children. Listener caution is advised. If you’ve been affected by anything raised in this episode and want extra support, we encourage you to reach out to your general practitioner or an accredited professional.  See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

    34 min
  4. 9 JAN

    "Is my big sexual fantasy normal?" Your sex questions and stories!

    We have been gagging for an episode full of your sex questions and stories and finally here it is! Ruby and Meg de-stigmatise a listener’s kink - wanting to watch his partner have sex with someone else - and discuss the “cuck” chair in hotel rooms. (You’ll never be able to see a hotel room in the same way again). Ruby and Meg get deep talking through a listener question about whether BDSM should be on the sex ed curriculum. And we settle in for story time as a listener message transports us back to a noughties hip hop night where a bandana-fuelled hook up ended in bloody bed sheets. It’s a wild ride. You’re welcome!    Email the podcast: hello@insandoutspod.com Follow Ruby on socials: @rubyrare  Follow Megan on socials @meganbartonhanson_ The Ins and Outs with Ruby and Megan is a Mags Creative and Dear Media production   Producer and Content Editor for Mags Creative: Christy Callaway-Gale Editor and Engineer: Beautiful Strangers, Podcast House Executive Producers for Mags Creative: Faith Russell and Kit Milsom This podcast contains adult themes that are not suitable for children. Listener caution is advised. If you’ve been affected by anything raised in this episode and want extra support, we encourage you to reach out to your general practitioner or an accredited professional.  See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

    30 min
  5. 2 JAN

    Opening up your relationship?

    Wondering if you should open up your relationship or try out polyamory? You’re not alone! More and more people seem to be having this conversation.  Ruby and Meg get into what it truly means to be non-monogamous. Ruby shares what her life looks like as a solo polyamorous babe and Meg contemplates whether non-monogamy could ever be for her. They chat about what it means to build relationships outside of the “norm” and why we’re taught to believe that love can run out. A hot Countdown collab is floated with (non-monogamous?) Carol Vorderman. Plus plot twist - Meg wonders whether she could date Ruby’s dad… Email the podcast: hello@insandoutspod.com Follow Ruby on socials: @rubyrare  Follow Megan on socials @meganbartonhanson_ Resources: Non-monogamy quiz from: https://www.askdiem.com/post/the-beginner-s-guide-to-opening-up-your-relationship-part-1   Ruby and Meg’s recommendations: Ruby’s new book! The Non-Monogamy Playbook https://lnk.to/thenonmonogamyplaybook The Anxious Person’s Guide to Non-Monogamy by Lola Phoenix  Love's Not Color Blind: Race and Representation in Polyamorous and Other Alternative Communities by Kevin A. PattersonHow to understand your relationship by Meg-John Barker and Alex Iantaffi (Pub. 2025)    The Ins and Outs with Ruby and Megan is a Mags Creative and Dear Media production   Producer and Content Editor for Mags Creative: Christy Callaway-Gale Editor and Engineer: Beautiful Strangers, Podcast House Executive Producers for Mags Creative: Faith Russell and Kit Milsom This podcast contains adult themes that are not suitable for children. Listener caution is advised. If you’ve been affected by anything raised in this episode and want extra support, we encourage you to reach out to your general practitioner or an accredited professional.  See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

    38 min

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What do you get when you bring a curious sex expert together with the nicest woman on OnlyFans? A show that really goes there. Each week, Ruby Rare and Megan Barton-Hanson welcome listeners to an unfiltered, playful and inclusive space to talk about sex in all its glory. They unpick all the big questions like: “How can we talk about kinks and fantasies?”, “Does stress kill the vibe?”, “What place does humour have in the bedroom?”, “How can we banish shame around sexual desires?”, and “Does wearing socks actually lead to a better orgasm?!”. Along the way, they share their own unforgettable stories of sex and dating, and hear from you lovely lot about your sex questions and tried-and-tested sex tips.      A Mags Creative and Dear Media production.

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