The Matrescence Project

The Matrescence Project

The Matrescence Project is a podcast exploring the transformation women experience as they become mothers. Through honest conversations, lived experiences, and expert insights, this project sheds light on the neurological, psychological, and social changes that we experience in the season of becoming a mother - matrescence - including those huge identity shifts that we can all relate to.  Whether you’re navigating trying to conceive, pregnancy, early motherhood, balancing career and family, a new stay at home lifestyle, or simply trying to make sense of who you are becoming, this podcast offers a space to feel seen, supported, and understood—reminding you that you’re not alone in the journey. Through these conversations we hope to normalise the experience of "becoming", while disrupting the current "bouncing back" culture. 

Episodes

  1. 31 Aug

    011: When Work Doesn't Fit Anymore: How Motherhood Changes Your Identity, Career, and Values.

    Have you been planning your return to work after motherhood, but now feel a little lost about how to actually make it happen? Perhaps you had the itch to return to work, only to discover that when you did, something didn't quite fit anymore. Or maybe you're still itching to return to your career, but aren't sure what that should look like now that you're a mother. Whatever your relationship with work, career and motherhood, today's conversation with India Sutherland from India Sutherland Coaching is likely to speak to you. India experienced first-hand how matrescence can shift our identity, and how those changes can have profound implications for our careers, ambitions and the way we want to work. Like many mothers, she eventually left the corporate world and built a coaching business that allows her to work in a way that is much more aligned with her values, her family and the life she wants to create. In this conversation, India shares practical advice for mothers returning to work or navigating work after having children, including how to approach conversations with your employer, ask for the flexibility you need, and navigate the realities of sick children, school and daycare commitments, pickups and the many unexpected demands of family life. But we also go deeper. Because sometimes a difficult daycare or school drop-off—when your little person is clinging to your leg and begging you not to leave—can leave you wondering: Is this really what I want to be doing? How can I make this work better? What do I actually value? And perhaps most importantly: What do my family and I actually need from the way we structure our lives? Because our values aren't simply a buzzword. As we move through matrescence and motherhood, our values can become clearer, shift or feel increasingly difficult to ignore. And when the way we're living and working feels out of alignment with those values, we can feel the consequences. This is a conversation about motherhood and identity, returning to work, career change after having children, workplace flexibility, family needs and finding a way of working that feels more congruent with the woman you've become. If you'd like to hear more from India or learn more about her coaching and how she supports mothers, you can find her through her website, Instagram and Substack below: https://indiasutherland.com https://www.instagram.com/indiasutherland.coaching?utm_source=ig_web_button_share_sheet&igsi=ZDNlZDc0MzIxNw== https://substack.com/@indiasutherlandcoaching Topics discussed: matrescence, motherhood identity, returning to work after motherhood, career after motherhood, working mothers, career change, workplace flexibility, values, motherhood and career, Australian mothers, flexible work.

  2. 15 Aug

    010: Returning to Work After Maternity Leave, the Skills You Gain in Matrescence & Research Findings that Can Shape Workplace and Systemic Change

    Are you on maternity leave or planning your return to work transition? Have you recently returned but feel different, changed, or like you are not performing in the same way?  According to Mothered Magazine’s editor-in-chief, TEDx speaker, author and award-winning workplace culture innovator, Alexa Starks, mums often do feel a difference in their performance - but for the better. If you need the evidence to help you understand the change or perhaps the language to explain it to others then this conversation is for you.  Alexa also discusses what workplaces can do from a systemic perspective to better support mothers returning to work after maternity leave, and how this is in fact in their best interests as well as yours.  We also discuss the long-overdue and much-needed change in the narrative of mothers, motherhood, and how awesome this real-life experience actually is for our leadership skills.  If you want to access the full report (and perhaps show it to your boss?) visit: https://www.motheredmagazine.com You can also check out Alexa Starks on Substack or Instagram.   In future, if you want the opportunity to send in your questions to the incredibly knowledgeable women who will be sharing their insight and expertise on this podcast in future episodes, be sure to follow along on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/matrescence_project/ or on The Matrescence Project's Facebook Page where I share the details before the interviews.  This is a podcast for all of us, so I want you to have the opportunity to have your questions answered!

  3. 1 Aug

    009: Becoming a Mother in Canada, Unexpected Pregnancy, Postnatal Depression, and Transitioning into a More Authentic Version of Yourself in Matrescence

    Emily joins me from Canada to share her deeply honest journey through an unexpected path into motherhood. Together, we explore matrescence through multiple lenses—from the cultural and societal expectations placed on mothers to the deeply personal pressure so many women carry to become the elusive "good mother." With remarkable vulnerability, Emily reflects on how motherhood challenged the identity she had carefully presented to the world, and how the transition through matrescence ultimately led her to discover a version of herself that felt genuinely authentic for the first time. Our conversation also turns to the future. Emily shares the changes she hopes to see in the way society prepares, supports, and validates new parents, believing that a better understanding of matrescence has the power to transform the experience of motherhood for future generations. Although we discuss differences between pregnancy and postpartum care in Canada and Australia, one truth remains universal: no matter where a woman lives, becoming a mother is a profound psychological, emotional, and social transition. Matrescence knows no borders, yet too often women are expected to navigate this transformation without the understanding, language, or support they deserve. This conversation is a powerful reminder that while every mother's story is unique, the experience of becoming a mother is something that connects women across the world.

  4. 3 Jul

    006: How to Prepare for Motherhood & Creating a Positive Postpartum Experience: Rhi's Story

    Can you prepare for motherhood—and could preparing for matrescence change your postpartum experience? In this raw and honest episode of The Matrescence Project, Rhi shares her experience of an unplanned pregnancy, the decision to continue with her pregnancy, and the research and preparation she undertook before becoming a mother. Rather than sugarcoating the transition into motherhood, Rhi explained how she approached it with curiosity. She immersed herself in research, learned about matrescence and deliberately prepared herself for the changes that motherhood could bring - while she was pregnant. She shares how understanding the transition into motherhood before her baby was born helped her approach postpartum with greater awareness and acceptance—and why she believes knowledge can be such a powerful tool for new mothers. Rhi also reflects on the importance of embracing the changes that matrescence brings, trusting your partner, communicating openly and allowing your relationship to evolve alongside becoming parents. Her story raises an important question: What if we prepared women for becoming mothers with the same care and attention we give them for pregnancy and birth Rhi's experience offers a different perspective on postpartum wellbeing: rather than waiting until motherhood feels difficult to seek information and support, what might happen if we began preparing women for the transition before their babies arrived? Because preparing for motherhood isn't only about preparing for birth. Actually - it isn't about preparing for birth at all. Just like planning a wedding won't prepare you for the marriage itself, planning for the birth won't prepare you for the transition you will go through into motherhood and the profound implications of matrescence.  Being prepared for motherhood is also about preparing for becoming. For up to date information on future episodes, be part of the conversation and the opportunity to have experts answer your questions around matrescence and your becoming into motherhood, be sure to follow The Matrescence Project on Facebook and Instagram. https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61575355774112 https://www.instagram.com/matrescence_project/

  5. 20 Jun

    005: Why Motherhood Changes Who You Are: The Science Behind Matrescence and the Identity Shift with Dr. Renee White

    What if the changes you're experiencing in motherhood aren't a sign that you're "losing yourself"—but evidence that your brain is adapting to one of life's biggest transitions? In this jam-packed conversation, I'm joined by Dr. Renee White—doula, biochemist, founder of I Fill Your Cup, and host of The Science of Motherhood Podcast—to unpack the fascinating science behind matrescence. Together, we explore: Why becoming a mother can trigger such a profound identity shift What happens in the brain from conception and throughout early motherhood How and why these changes show up in everyday life Why the experience can feel different with subsequent pregnancies The impact of anxiety, trauma, and pre-existing mental health challenges during the transition to motherhood Grieving your former self while embracing who you're becoming Self-care, career changes, role transitions, and finding your footing in this new season of life Most importantly, we discuss what mothers, families, communities, and healthcare providers can do to better support women through matrescence—so they can navigate this transition with greater understanding, confidence, and compassion. Experts and Resources mentioned in this conversation: - Dr. Greer Kirshenbaum (Neuroscience PhD, Doula and Mother) The Nurture Revolution - Dr. Marian Piper (Artist, Writer and Researcher who turns pain into purpose) Mums Matter Psychology offer Perinatal Mental Health Support for pregnancy and beyond, with bulk billing options https://www.mumsmatterpsychology.com  Now that we have empowered ourselves with the scientific knowledge thanks to Dr. White's help, we discuss what we need to do to help support mothers so they experience this transition with less confusion and more calm and confidence.

  6. 7 Jun

    004: Traumatic Birth, NICU and Motherhood Without a Village: Cassandra's Story of Healing

    What happens when your introduction to motherhood is nothing like you imagined? In this episode of The Matrescence Project, Cassandra shares her deeply personal story of becoming a mother after a traumatic and emotionally difficult start to motherhood—including fear during pregnancy, premature birth, six weeks in NICU and the experience of navigating motherhood without the support of a village around her. Before motherhood, Cass describes herself as fiercely independent. She loved travelling, thrived in the corporate world and was driven by career ambition. Meeting her husband began to soften her perspective on life and eventually changed how she imagined her future—including the possibility of becoming a mother. But Cass's transition into motherhood was not straightforward. During pregnancy, fear of loss made it difficult for her to allow herself to fully connect with her baby. When her daughter arrived early and spent the first six weeks of her life in NICU, that fear did not simply disappear. Cass shares the emotional impact of a traumatic beginning to motherhood, the struggles and experiences that shaped her early years as a mother, and how the absence of practical and emotional support affected her transition. For years, Cass felt she hadn't fully "bloomed into motherhood." Her story is an important reminder that becoming a mother does not always happen in a single moment. Indeed, becoming takes time. Through persistence, courage and determination, Cass gradually found her own way into motherhood—often in unexpected places and through experiences she never imagined would shape her Cassandra's story reminds us that there is no single way to become a mother. For some women, motherhood feels immediate. For others, it unfolds slowly—through fear, grief, healing, growth and time. And perhaps one of the most important questions we can ask is not: "Why didn't motherhood come naturally to me?" But: "What happened to me while I was trying to become?" Follow The Matrescence Project for conversations exploring matrescence, motherhood, maternal identity, postpartum support, the village and the many different ways women experience becoming a mother. And to stay up to date on what is happening with the project, as well as opportunities to send in your questions for experts, follow The Matrescence Project on Facebook and Instagram: https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61575355774112 https://www.instagram.com/matrescence_project/

  7. 23 May

    003: Losing Yourself in Motherhood and Finding Who You're Becoming - Zana's Matrescence Journey

    Episode 3: My Matrescence Story - Zana's Personal Journey In this deeply personal episode, host Zana sets aside the research and theory to share her own lived experience of matrescence — the profound transformation a woman undergoes when she becomes a mother. Zana paints a vivid picture of who she was before children: a psychology graduate raised to value independence and career ambition, living a city life with her husband — traveling, spending freely, and loving every bit of it. Then, almost overnight, everything changed. She opens up about the shock of early motherhood — the anxiety that "absolutely exploded," the fear of being alone with her newborn, the guilt of wanting to return to work while simultaneously dreading daycare drop-offs. Through her first matrescence season, she discovered that knowledge and education were her lifeline back to confidence. But the path to her second child was far from straightforward. Zana shares the heartbreak of three consecutive miscarriages — the grief, the shame, and the quiet courage it took to keep showing up for the son she already had. When her rainbow baby arrived, her second matrescence season unfolded very differently: with more clarity, less anxiety, and a growing willingness to let her old values go. By her third season, the transformation was complete.  This episode is a beautiful reminder of why matrescence matters: when we understand that the shifts we feel to our core are normal, necessary, and worth embracing, we stop fearing them — and start becoming the mothers we want to be. Listen to Zana's journey to find out just how much her life, her values and her mothering shifted when she finally embraced matrescence.  Follow The Matrescence Project on Facebook and Instagram to be up to date with upcoming interviews, and for the opportunity to send in your questions to professionals and get the information you would like about the season of becoming a mother. https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61575355774112  https://www.instagram.com/matrescence_project/

About

The Matrescence Project is a podcast exploring the transformation women experience as they become mothers. Through honest conversations, lived experiences, and expert insights, this project sheds light on the neurological, psychological, and social changes that we experience in the season of becoming a mother - matrescence - including those huge identity shifts that we can all relate to.  Whether you’re navigating trying to conceive, pregnancy, early motherhood, balancing career and family, a new stay at home lifestyle, or simply trying to make sense of who you are becoming, this podcast offers a space to feel seen, supported, and understood—reminding you that you’re not alone in the journey. Through these conversations we hope to normalise the experience of "becoming", while disrupting the current "bouncing back" culture. 

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