Girls Gone Deep Elle and Vee

In this episode, Elle and Vee chat with Sarah Eve about sensation play, including everything from the tools to use, to what questions to ask before a session, to safety considerations (especially when using electroplay), and so much more.

Sarah Eve is an educator and facilitated a mini workshop on sensation play at Daytime Playtime: a Sober Play Party, which Vee recapped in Episode 063.

What is sensation play? How can we stimulate different senses to heighten a sexual experience? It’s not just touch - how to play with scent, sight, taste, and smell, too. (6:58)


What’s in your bag of tools for sensation play? (12:58)


Things to consider: intensity, pressure, speed, direction and location. (18:10)


Setting and negotiating the scene to deliver a great experience: the right questions to ask before engaging in a sensory play scene. (20:50)


TENS unit play and electro play - what to ask beforehand, insertables, using condoms and safety.  (23:47)


What can you do when you don’t have tools at your disposal? Using your mouth: breath, spit, temperature, teeth. (30:17)


Thoughts on numbing or intensifying creams? (39:00)


How long is a good amount of time for a sensation play session? (44:09)


Pain play and floggers. (47:52)


What does sensation play do for couples? De-centering penetrative sex. (49:40)
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In this episode, Vee chats with two couples at Hedonism Swing Breakers about their tools and takeaways for making a vacation at an all-inclusive lifestyle resort a success.  Superslut and The Turk chat about how therapy helped set them up for success, while Josie and Evan share how Evan cutting out alcohol changed their relationship for the better. Additionally, they cover: What are some communication techniques to mitigate the effects of the free-flowing alcohol? Why keep doing it if it's so much work? ...And what are some hot experiences they've had along the way?

First Hedo experience: a big challenge. Going through a polyamorous breakup. (3:55)

Tools from both solo and couples therapy. People pleasing. No "taking one for the team".  (8:42) 

Safety Tool: No record-counting. Setting desires not goals. (12:30)

Safety Tool: Move at the pace of the slowest person. Playing separately vs. playing together. (15:34)

Safety Tool: limiting alcohol consumption to help manage emotions. (17:51)

Safety Tool: Only argue for two minutes. Keep the mindset that you're a team. (19:01)
Spicy story: being a couple's first ENM experience. Enthusiastic consent. (20:01)

Spicy Story: Superslut's first double penetration (DP). (21:31)
Stag and Vixen: what is it? Why a woman might not enjoy watching her partner with someone else. Finding your dynamic through trial and error. Why Hedonism is not the ideal place to figure out what works for you. (22:50)

Drinking and the lifestyle: how drinking affects your ability to respect boundaries and agreements. Getting sober to save your relationship. How stopping drinking can enrich your experience with your partner. Getting used to being at an all-inclusive resort without alcohol. Discovering we are braver than we thought. What do you do with your hands? (28:29)
Why swing? Dressing sexy for your partner. Vaginal hook harnesses. (35:49)

Why be in the open lifestyle? Sense of community. "Hedo people are the best people." Icebreakers. (38:13)

Major takeaway: don’t have a checklist. Release expectations. There’s always next time. (41:01)

Squirting and exhibitionism. (43:20)






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In today’s episode, Elle and Vee bring back two male guest for a GUYS GONE DEEP edition to play WHOREible Life the game.


First up, Zachary Zane @zacharyzane_ :
from Episode 057: Bisexuality with Boyslut Author Zachary Zane: Shameless Sexuality, The Importance of Visibility, and Living Your Best Slutty Life!


Then, The Builder:
from  Episode 012: Guys Gone Deep: The Builder and M on Double Penetration, Short Men, and Friendships in the Lifestyle and mentioned in multiple other episodes! 


Fucking yourself in the ass as a way to warm yourself up and clean yourself out before a play night. (3:20)


Squirt juice facials with a side of hot sweaty squirty sex.  (9:24)


Spitting on your partner and into their mouth. (16:01)


For men, the balance of being forward yet also needing to read the room correctly. (19:45)


Enthusiastic consent in straight play spaces versus opt-out consent in gay spaces. (22:42)


Prostate play and how to have a prostate orgasm. (25:10)


Leaking prostate juices and toys for prostate play: nJoy and anal hook discussed. (29:14) 


Airtight: the benefits of each position. (38:26)


"Running a train". (44:19)
 
Experiences meeting people on ENM or swinger apps. (50:15)


Working through catfishing and making real connections on dating apps. (54:48) 


Where do you meet dates, and what do you do dates with a unicorn or another couple? (59:59)


Full head mask during sex and latex fetish experience. (1:03:03)
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In this episode, Elle and Vee chat before and after Vee goes to Hedonism Swing Breakers: an under-45 swinger event at Hedonism II in Negril, Jamaica.  It's a weeklong takeover of the resort, full of nudity, orgies, theme parties and debauchery! 

Vee articulates her intentions, and later they recap the week and their experiences of it - both there and from afar - and what their takeaways were!

This conversation includes:

Lingerie vs rave costumes at lifestyle theme parties. PLUS packing tips! (:45)

Setting Sexual intentions: butt stuff, Nuru, daytime orgies! (14:13)

HSB 2024 recap. (20:40)

Sexual intentions fulfilled? Additional intentions during the week. (21:59)

Day orgies recap aka DORGIES! Dorgy 1: Nuru and DP (double penetration). (23:00)

Dorgy 2: Nuru and getting out of your head to squirt. (28:00)

Slut Scouts: what it is, how to play, badges. (30:33)

“Gardening” Badge: using gardening tools as sex toys because Elle is a freak ;) (33:01)

Water Sports Badge: golden showers. (34:11)

“Spelunking” aka “Caving” Badge: pussy spreading with speculums (medical play). (36:38)

“Global Action” Badge: Eiffel Tower sex position, impact play spanking session, and shibari harness sex. Vee has an aha moment and becomes the initiator! (38:38)

Making a girl squirt, strapping girl on girl with strap ons. (44:13)

Major Takeaway: balancing friends and sex at HSB; Vee’s demisexuality confirmed! Building on relationships to have better sex. (48:32)

Pro Tips for Hedo! Learn from the girls’ experience. (51:14)

balancing friends satellite friends and new people. (57:12)

Dealing with fomo: just like Burning Man, wherever you are is where you’re supposed to be. (59:35)

For more on Hedonism including FAQs and tips and tricks, check out:

014: HSB: Being Naked in Public, Prioritizing Your Partner, and Orgy Highlights

015: Going Deep with Julia Lange: the Woman Behind Hedonism Swing Breakers


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In this week's episode, Elle and Vee chat about all things SNCTM, the private members club that the girls have always wanted a peek inside.  They cover the club, but also go super deep with their guest on the deeper meaning behind impact play, his love and adoration of his burlesque champion wife, and their artistic partnership.

Daniel D’Ottavio: his role in SNCTM, and his origin story with his wife, Lou Lou D’vil, the creative director or SNCTM. (1:03)


Monogamy and SNCTM: The choice to stay monogamous while working for a sex club, what your first sex club experience feels like, and learning about the consent culture. (5:27)


Erotic storytelling: How telling stories through erotic arts lead Daniel and his wife to SNCTM, and how her creative direction helped create a femme-empowered, luscious environment. (9:41)


What to expect at a SNCTM party: ambiance, service, clientele, privacy (including masks and NDA’s). (13:54)


Accountability and communication: How have these experiences affected Daniel’s personal growth, and his relationship growth? (18:15)


Types of performances at SNCTM: aerial, kink, and theatrical erotic artistry. (20:52)


Kink workshops: Discovering kink and impact play, and evolving into an educator. (23:05)


Catharsis and therapeutic benefits of impact play: The deeper meaning behind kinks and fetishes. (25:01)


The importance of having spaces to explore sex, kink, fetish and fantasy. (31:36)


How has SNCTM evolved since ownership changed in 2019? Consent rules, NDA’s, masks, one-strike policy, single women. (33:30)


SNCTM: fever dreams and sexual fantasies, and the emphasis on having a female-empowered environment. (42:21)


Nuggets from being part of the lifestyle community. (45:30)


Websites:
SNCTM

Cocoon


Instagram: 
@dottavio77 
@snctmsociety
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Horny for Knowledge: Daytime Playtime Sober Play Party with Mini Workshops. (00:54)


What is a daytime sober play party like? Analyzing the space and vibe: lighting, highlighting hit me up, attire, number of people. (4:54)


What sobriety brings to a sex party. (7:21)


Lola Jean: Spicing up the typical consent speech, including an interactive exercise. (9:31)


Making eye contact at a sex party: it;s not necesssarily an invitation! (11:02) 


Embodiment, setting intentions, and setting boundaries workshop: giving permission to others with your actions, and how to have initial conversations with new people about boundaries and STI status. (13:47)


Sarah Eve: sensation (sensory) play workshop, including tools, blindfolds, temperature play, breath and intensity. (20:28)


Does kink always have to be sexual? (26:22)


Penis sounding: Vee performs her first urethral sound! What is it, how do you do it, and what does it feel like? (33:10)


All the dirty details: Sensation play on the hitachi wand chair, blocking out voyeurs to get out of your head to orgasm. (44:15)


Cumming on top vs cumming on bottom. (49:54)


Sex club etiquette: is it ok to cum on chests at a public play party? (53:39)


Sex and technology: Apple vision pro’s capabilities for personal porn, and its limitations. (57:52)
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