Understanding Emotions Sankalp Garud
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How do we become more emotionally intelligent? How do we set boundaries? Join me in this podcast as we explore every corner of our minds. Our mission? To live the most healthy and happy life possible.
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How to Not Nice - Full Guide
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Ever feel like you're always putting others first, even if it means neglecting yourself? This episode dives deep into the surprising downsides of being "too nice." I explains how people-pleasing tendencies can lead to burnout , stifle your voice , and even damage your relationships.
If we haven't met 👋, my name is Sankalp, I am a PhD student in psychology at the University of Oxford.
We'll explore the root causes of this behavior (often linked to childhood experiences!), and learn powerful strategies to overcome it. I will show you how to set healthy boundaries, manage that pesky guilt monster, and finally develop the assertiveness you deserve .
This episode is your chance to understand why you might be "too nice," and take control of your happiness! Join me and let's build a more balanced and fulfilling life together! #selfcare #boundaries #assertiveness #personalgrowth #psychology
00:00 Introduction
03:16 Niceness is not the same as goodness
08:01 The selfishness spectrum
12:15 Resentment
13:03 Over-responsibility
13:46 Solution to niceness
14:42 Guilt
20:08 Covert contracts
21:50 Role of childhood
24:33 Exercise: find your rules
27:13 How to not blame others
28:41 Passive aggressiveness
31:48 Silent Treatment
32:37 Exercise: bill of rights
34:53 What are rights
36:30 Most social rules are malleable
37:28 Communication hacks
39:08 Putting it all into practice
39:55 Mindfulness meditation
42:11 Mind body pain
44:46 The cost of niceness -
The Neuroscience of Friendships: Why We Connect & How to Do it Better
Free guide on emotional intelligence: https://newsletter.sankalpgarud.org/52waysguide
In this video, I talk about loneliness, social connection, friendship and the likes. I explore both the science and the practice of making friends.
Who am I?
If we haven't met before, I am Sankalp, a PhD student in Experimental Psychology at the University of Oxford. My aim is to significantly increase happiness and well-being in this world. On this channel I talk about all things psychology, both from the inside (think emotions) and from the outside (think brain).
00:00 Trailer
02:35 Podcast begins
04:59 Exploring the Grant Study: The Importance of Social Bonds
08:39 Loneliness vs. Social Network Sizes: A Deep Dive into Studies
13:14 The Neuroscience of Social Connection: Brain Mechanisms and Hormones
15:48 How many friends can I have at once
20:09 Impact of decreasing family sizes on lonelinesss
22:17 Role of endorphins
27:37 Meditation and default mode network
30:33 Empathy and mirror neurons
34:46 Social context and social mistakes
36:32 Social connection as a fundamental human need
40:14 Gut health and social anxiety
43:03 Social Status and Its Impact: Understanding Our Social Hierarchy
45:20 Fear of rejection
46:50 Overcoming Fear and Rejection in Social Interactions
49:35 Tip: Talk to strangers
52:14 Do Looks Matter?
53:39 Key Factors in Forming Friendships: Similarity, Proximity, and Familiarity
56:40 How many hours to go from friend to stranger?
58:05 Tip: Acceptance
58:57 Tip: Choosing right environments, cities, and venues
01:00:46 Tip: Optimising nutrition
01:01:30 Tip: How to overcome fear of rejection
01:06:08 Tip Embracing Vulnerability and Authenticity for Deeper Connections
01:07:32 Tip: Friendly greetings
01:08:37 Building self-esteem
01:10:49 The halo effect
01:12:20 Internal Family Systems Model
01:16:11 Conversation skills
01:23:26 My personal experience eliminating social anxiety -
Columbia Professor: Leadership, Emotional Intelligence, Stoicism, Escaping Death | Chuck Garcia
Chuck Garcia is the founder of Climb Leadership International and coaches executives worldwide on public speaking, emotional intelligence, and executive presence. His clients include many of the world’s best and biggest companies. He is a motivational speaker, Amazon bestselling author of A Climb to the Top, and teaches at Columbia University. Chuck is also a passionate and accomplished mountaineer who has scaled peaks all over the world. He formerly spent twenty-five years in leadership positions at Bloomberg, BlackRock, and Citadel Investment Management. His new book, The Moment That Defines Your Life was released on February 6th and distributed by Simon & Schuster.
00:00 Trailer
00:51 Introduction
02:17 Conversation starts
02:41 Chuck's Life-Changing Experience on 9/11
07:51 From Wall Street to Mountaineering: A Career Transformation
09:02 Family Perspectives and Emotional Aftermath
11:29 Embracing a New Career Path: The Journey of Teaching and Coaching
14:34 The Power of Mentorship and Learning from the Mountains
19:14 Does academia fail to create inspiration?
23:54 Stoicism Meets Emotional Intelligence
33:28 Navigating People Pleasing and Niceness
34:55 The Pitfalls of Trying Too Hard
35:52 Eulogy Virtues vs Resume Virtues
37:47 The Power of Genuine Connections
39:26 Cultural Differences in Communication and Assertiveness
40:46 Embracing Nonconformity: Lessons from Churchill and Gandhi
49:16 Emotional security vs courage
50:42 Building Credibility, Trust, and Respect in Your Career
54:15 Public Speaking and Communication
59:59 Final Thoughts: Changing Yourself to Change the World
01:02:55 Wrapping up -
Bryan Johnson: "Nothing matters in life without mental health" "Make health your #1 priority"
In this episode, I talk to Bryan Johnson about mental health, social connection, and more.
Free guide on emotional intelligence: https://newsletter.sankalpgarud.org/52waysguide
Bryan Johnson is the world's most measured human. Johnson sold his company, Braintree Venmo, to PayPal for $800m in 2013. Through his Project Blueprint, Johnson has achieved metabolic health equal to the top 1.5% of 18 year olds, inflammation 66% lower than the average 10 year old, and reduced his speed of aging by the equivalent of 31 years.
Johnson freely shares his protocols and data publicly for everyone to use. Project Blueprint, is an endeavor to achieve humanity and earth scale cooperation starting within Self.
0:00 Trailer
00:40 Bryan's Introduction
02:57 Does mental health matter to Bryan?
03:59 Relationship between mental health and physical health
05:10 Bryan's relationship with death
06:45 Maintaining gratitude for life in the absence of death
09:12 Lessons from religious upbringing
10:18 Bryan's take on relationships
11:50 Making health a priority -
Psychology vs Politics Expert | Happiness, Morality, and Big Political Ideas That Shaped The World
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In this podcast, I talk to Sanat Sogani on the intersection between psychology and politics. We discuss a range of issues from the history of political theory to morality and Buddhism. I hope you find this discussion engaging.
Sanat Sogani is a PhD student in Political Theory at the Central European University in Vienna.
(00:00) Introduction
(02:24) Psychology and Politics discussion begins
(05:35) What is politics
(11:36) Key Ideas of Politics
12:36 Plato and Socrates
13:24 Aristotle
14:28 Hobbes
15:55 Rousseau
17:33 Hobbes vs Rousseau
18:23 Kant
19:36 Marx
20:31 Rawls
21:41 Feminism
22:15 Nancy Fraser & Elizabeth Anderson
24:00 Confucius and Eastern Thinkers
26:52 Which thinker influenced Sanat the most?
27:57 Is Rishi Sunak Kantian?
29:46 Buddhism, Religion and Atheism
34:51 Where does religion go wrong?
35:38 Deontology vs utilitarianism
38:51 The trolley problem
41:18 Trolley problem in the pandemic
42:04 Buddhist philosophy
43:47 Is growth limited to a few?
45:47 The problem of psychopathy and bad actors
46:23 Problems inherent in Buddhsim and any belief system
48:39 Liberalism
50:16 Is political theory useful in day to day life?
54:32 Arriving at political conclusions through psychological premises
55:02 Agency and mental health
57:49 Intersection of psychology and politics
01:00:27 Status and social hierarchies
01:04:50 Morality
01:09:43 Sankalp's views on where morality comes from
01:11:02 Jonathan Haidt's Moral Foundation Theory
01:14:20 Marriage
01:19:25 Conform or Rebel: How to Decide?
01:22:18 Protests
01:24:05 Books & resources to learn political theory
01:25:25 Left - right spectrum
01:28:06 Wrapping up -
UE #61: The risks and dangers of meditation
In this episode, we talk about the risks of meditation practice.
52 ways to be more emotionally intelligent (free guidebook): https://newsletter.sankalpgarud.org/52waysguide
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00:00 Introduction
03:06 Announcement
04:00 Motivation (Untold: The Retreat Podcast)
06:16 What are meditation retreats
08:23 Categories of meditation related problems
11:34 Psychological problems stemming from physical problems
11:59 Sleep related disturbances
15:39 Nutrition related problems
19:37 Socio-psychological Problems
23:00 Cultlike elements in meditation
28:09 Critical Thinking
29:04 Political Polarisation
29:57 Mental Health Problems
30:10 Psychotic episodes
31:31 The purpose of meditation
36:12 Perfectionism
37:33 Insights
40:52 Reaching out for help and potential pitfalls
42:36 Aftershow
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