Growing Pains

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Growing Pains is a podcast from HoneyKids Asia for the conversations parents want to have after the kids go to bed. In each episode, we speak to experts, parents, and people with lived experience about the realities of raising kids today — from relationships, identity, mental health and screen time to school pressure, family dynamics, and everything in between. These are honest, thoughtful conversations that say the things many parents are thinking, but rarely say out loud. No judgement, no perfect parenting, just real stories, practical insights, and a reminder that none of us are figuring it out alone.

  1. 14 hr ago

    Why Parents Need To Heal Their Inner Child — with Crystal Lim-Lange

    Something Crystal Lim-Lange said about why Singaporeans don't speak up went viral, then landed her a cover story in The Straits Times. It touched a nerve because it wasn't really about confidence. It was about what happens to people who take a risk in a room where risk isn't safe. She says the same idea shows up at home, in a much smaller room, every time a child throws a tantrum and a parent loses it right back. Crystal has trained over 100,000 professionals, but the work she talks about most now isn't the kind you can put on a resume. Before any of that, she was a student who got caught stealing food at a recruitment event, and the recruiter who caught her offered her a job on the spot. That accident of a start led to a decade in investment banking, then to a vineyard in rural Australia rebuilding a marriage and a sense of self, then to heading a multimillion dollar initiative at NUS. In this episode, she gets into what actually happens in the moment a child triggers a parent, and why so much of parenting comes down to a version of ourselves we never fully dealt with. Click play. About the Crystal Lim-Lange Crystal Lim-Lange is a bestselling author, LinkedIn Top Voice, and former head of NUS's Centre for Future-Ready Graduates, where she led a multimillion dollar initiative training thousands of students for the future of work. A former investment banker turned personal growth facilitator, she now runs two companies with her husband Greg, delivering leadership and communication training to organisations including Pfizer, Airbus, and LVMH. Guest links: Instagram: @crystallimlangeLinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/crystal-lim-langeYouTube: @comfortandgrowthWebsite: https://www.crystallimlange.com IN THIS EPISODE:00:00 | The Conflict Blueprints We Hand Down 00:40 | Welcome to Growing Pains with Crystal Lim-Lange 02:31 | How a Stolen Sausage Roll Launched a Career 07:47 | The Betrayal That Shattered "Having It All" 09:37 | Why a Picture-Perfect Farm Life Felt Empty 12:53 | The Pitch That Transformed University Education 19:42 | The Real Reason You Won't Speak Up at Work 22:36 | The Lonely Reality of Growing Up Gifted 27:34 | Decoding Society's Unspoken Rules 29:01 | Why New Skills Can't Fix Core Wounds 31:57 | The Ghost Kid: Parenting Your Inner Child 35:22 | The 4 Ways We Inherit Family Trauma 38:39 | 7 Years of Therapy in 7 Days 43:12 | The Ultimate Antidote to Paranoid Parenting 44:36 | Takeaways: Stop Rushing the Journey What You'll Take Away Why something Crystal said about Singaporeans staying silent went viral, and ended up in The Straits TimesWhat's really happening in the split second your own kid triggers youThe "little ghost kid" theory Crystal uses to explain why some parenting moments feel so much bigger than they shouldThe four categories of reasons anyone stops speaking up, and which one is hardest to fixThe recruitment-event scam that accidentally launched a career in finance, while she was still a studentWhy a vineyard in rural Australia taught her more about community than a decade in banking didWhy healing your own patterns might matter more for your kids than anything you actively teach them Connect with Growing Pains Growing Pains is HoneyKids Asia's podcast for the conversations you want to have after the kids go to bed. YouTube: @growingpains.honeykids Instagram: @honeykidsasia Website: honeykidsasia.com Hit subscribe so you don't miss an episode. If this one resonated, share it with a parent who needs it. Growing Pains is produced in partnership with Poddster, Singapore's podcast studio

    Why Parents Need To Heal Their Inner Child — with Crystal Lim-Lange

  2. 31 Aug

    Why Stay-At-Home Motherhood Can Destroy Your Identity

    Faz Gaffa says something most parenting platforms will not: it is okay to sit in a car park and scream before you walk back inside. She is the editor of Honey Kids Asia, a journalist known for opinions that make people uncomfortable, and a mother who has been rewriting what she owes everyone else since her father's cancer diagnosis gave her 89 days to say goodbye. In this conversation, Faz and Stephanie go somewhere most interviews will not: the phone call that changed everything, the diagnosis nobody prepares you for, and the year she does not talk about publicly. They get into why an entire generation looks fine and feels empty, the parenting rule Faz will not bend on no matter how much her son begs, and the question she asks herself every time someone praises her for handling it all. There is also a confession about anger neither of them expected to share on camera, and a line about discipline that will change how you think about the next time your child gets in trouble. This one gets raw and spicy. Click play. IN THIS EPISODE: 00:00 | Cold Open: Real Conversations for Real Parents 00:38 | Meet Faz Gaffa: Ditching Beige Parenting Advice 01:54 | Beyond the Job Title: Redefining Personal Identity 04:24 | Postpartum Grief: Navigating 89 Days of Heartbreak 09:34 | Sandwich Generation: Surviving the Caregiver Guilt Trap 11:28 | Millennial Identity Crisis: Unpacking the Single-Path Fallacy 16:55 | High-Functioning Depression: Recognizing the Burnout Discipline 21:03 | Spicy Take: Why Moms Should Always Work 26:27 | Silent Struggle: Unpacking Postpartum Rage and Self-Erasure 29:56 | Tech Boundaries: Unsupervised Screen Time Is Neglect 39:39 | Future-Proofing Kids: Building Taste and Soft Skills 42:29 | Rethinking Discipline: Why Humiliation and Pain Fail 49:24 | Finding Hope: Breaking Cycles of Generational Trauma 50:44 | Stephanie’s Top Three Episode Takeaways About Faz GaffaFaz Gaffa is the editor of Honey Kids Asia, a journalist and brand strategist. She built her career on saying what feels real over what feels safe, and now works as a brand storyteller and community builder, with a focus on diversity, inclusion, and raising race-conscious children. Connect with Faz: Website: fazabdulgaffa.comEmail: email.faz@gmail.comLinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/fazgaffaInstagram: @fazgaffaFacebook: facebook.com/fazabdgaffa What You'll Take AwayThe rule Faz says she will never break, no matter how much her son pushes for more screen timeWhat happened in the 89 days between her father's diagnosis and his deathThe Instagram message Faz keeps getting for talking too honestly about how she is doingWhy she wrote that mothers should never leave the workforce, and the backlash that followedThe postpartum condition neither Faz nor Stephanie had ever heard of before it happened to themWhat her son said to a boy holding a stick, and what happened nextThe one sentence her mother said about discipline that sent Faz into a rage Connect with Growing PainsGrowing Pains is HoneyKids Asia's podcast for the conversations you want to have after the kids go to bed. YouTube: @growingpains.honeykids Instagram: @honeykidsasia Website: honeykidsasia.com Hit subscribe so you don't miss an episode. If this one resonated, share it with a parent who needs it. Growing Pains is produced in partnership with Poddster, Singapore's podcast studio.

    Why Stay-At-Home Motherhood Can Destroy Your Identity

  3. 25 Aug

    Fame, Motherhood, Body Image & The Impossible Standards Women Face

    She was topping charts across three countries before she could vote. Then the industry that made her famous told her to shrink, and she nearly disappeared trying to do it. Ming Bridges gained forty kilos, lost herself for five years, and reached a point where she didn't want to be here anymore. What turned it around took her by surprise, and it happened faster than she ever expected. Now she's a mother of two under two, running three businesses, and living with an ADHD diagnosis that came decades later than it should have. She talks about the moment a viral video turned her body into public property, the pregnancy sickness so bad it launched a business, and the parenting mantra she's trying to live by before her daughters are old enough to repeat her mistakes. This is a conversation about fame, food, motherhood, and what it actually takes to come back from rock bottom. Click play. IN THIS EPISODE: 00:00 | The Impossible Standard: Why Are Women Never Enough? 00:35 | Welcome to Growing Pains with Ming Bridges 01:52 | "You Need to Lose Weight": The Dark Side of Teen Stardom 04:34 | 40 Kilos Later: Getting Kicked Out of the Industry 06:58 | 5 Years of Struggling vs. 2 Weeks of Healing 10:51 | Generational Trauma & The Danger of "Good Intentions" 13:40 | Why "You Look Pretty" is the Wrong Compliment for Our Daughters 17:03 | Launching a Business Out of Pure Pregnancy Rage 24:31 | "I Just Rotate What I'm Failing At": The Reality of Two Under Two 27:55 | Missing Brain Tabs: Navigating Motherhood with Adult ADHD 31:10 | The Viral Swimsuit Video & Dismantling the Toxic Male Gaze 37:29 | Quick-Fire: The Single Mantra to Cure Mom Guilt 42:52 | Episode Takeaways: Stop Glorifying the Rush About Ming BridgesMing Bridges is a two-time TEDx speaker and body positivity advocate who first became known as a teenage pop star, topping charts in Singapore, Taiwan, and Malaysia and winning Teenage magazine's Teenage Icon at 13. The pressures of the entertainment industry led to a severe eating disorder, one she has spoken openly about rebuilding her life from. She is now the founder of three businesses: sustainable fashion rental platform Rentadella, footwear line Bridge and Bella, and clean hydration brand Formi Wellness, which she launched during her second pregnancy. Connect with Ming: Tedx talk: Fat, Hungry and Desperate TEDx Talk YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC_Xjm3CW-axf4CBAqmJmYRQ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mingbridges/?hl=en Find out more about her businesses: Formi: https://itsformi.com/ Rentadella: https://www.instagram.com/rentadella/?hl=en Bridge and Bella: https://www.bridgeandbella.com/ What You'll Take AwayHow a modeling agency's four words at 18 sent her into a five year spiralThe moment a viral video turned her body into a headline she never asked forWhy she says her ADHD didn't fully show up until she became a motherWhat made her launch a supplement brand while too sick to leave her bedThe question she asks first when her daughter says she hates how she looksWhy recovery took her five years too long, and what changed in two weeksThe mantra she repeats every day that reframes everything going wrong in her life Connect with Growing PainsGrowing Pains is HoneyKids Asia's podcast for the conversations you want to have after the kids go to bed. YouTube: @growingpains.honeykids Instagram: @honeykidsasia Website: honeykidsasia.com Hit subscribe so you don't miss an episode. If this one resonated, share it with a parent who needs it. Growing Pains is produced in partnership with Poddster, Singapore's podcast studio.

    Fame, Motherhood, Body Image & The Impossible Standards Women Face

  4. 17 Aug

    How to Become a Mother Without Losing Yourself

    She had four children, two marriages, and once lived in the same building as her ex-husband while married to her current one. Christine Amour-Levar built a life most people would call impossible: mother of four, social entrepreneur, climate investor, and leader of thirty all-female expeditions to some of the most extreme places on earth. But ask her which comes first, being a woman or being a mother, and her answer might surprise you. This week, Christine sits down with Steph to talk about the guilt she carried when she chose ambition over staying home, the sea turtle story she used to help her children understand divorce, and the annual ritual she has kept for twenty five years that keeps her whole life on track. She also opens up about a decision so unconventional that even her own mother struggled to understand it. What happens when you refuse to choose between the woman you are and the mother you became? And what does it actually cost to have it all? Hit play. IN THIS EPISODE: 00:00 | Why Motherhood Shouldn’t Erase Who You Are 00:31 | Meet Christine Amour-Levar: Mother, Investor and Explorer 02:44 | From Nike Executive to a Life of Purpose and Impact 05:26 | “I’m a Woman First”: Redefining Motherhood and Identity 08:33 | The Mum Guilt Behind a Successful Career 15:20 | How to Divorce Without Breaking the Family 22:44 | Why Self-Love Is the Key to Letting Go of Guilt 27:17 | You Can Have It All — Just Not All at Once 31:28 | Inside Christine’s 180-Page Life-Planning System 36:58 | How to Build a Career Around Everything You Love 41:45 | What Extreme Expeditions Teach You About Leadership 44:10 | Why Your Children Shouldn’t Always Come First 47:40 | The Three Biggest Lessons on Motherhood and Identity About the Christine Amour-Levar Christine Amour-Levar is a French-Swiss-Filipina social entrepreneur, climate investor, and bestselling author who has led thirty all-female expeditions to places like Antarctica, the Arctic, and the Danakil Depression, raising over $3 million for women and climate causes. She co-founded Her Planet Earth and Investors for Climate, is Founder of Women Beyond Limits, and is a mother of four. Connect with Christine: https://www.christineamourlevar.com/ https://www.linkedin.com/in/christineamourlevar/ https://www.instagram.com/christineamourlevar/ What You'll Take Away Why Christine calls herself "a woman first, and a mother second"The sea turtle story she used to explain divorce to a four and six year oldWhat happened when she and her ex-husband lived in the same building, married to other peopleThe annual ritual she's kept for 25 years, and why it runs 180 pagesWhy she thinks "always put your child first" is bad parenting adviceWhat went wrong during a 50 degree desert expeditionThe one thing she says is the true opposite of love (it isn't hate) Connect with Growing PainsGrowing Pains is HoneyKids Asia's podcast for the conversations you want to have after the kids go to bed. YouTube: @growingpains.honeykids Instagram: @honeykidsasia Website: honeykidsasia.com Hit subscribe so you don't miss an episode. If this one resonated, share it with a parent who needs it. Growing Pains is produced in partnership with Poddster, Singapore's podcast studio. #GrowingPains #HoneyKidsAsia #ChristineAmourLevar #WorkingMothers #MumGuilt #WomenFirst #CoParenting #WomenInLeadership #PortfolioCareer #FemaleEntrepreneur #ConsciousParenting #WomenBeyondLimits #Podster

    How to Become a Mother Without Losing Yourself

  5. 10 Aug

    Is Motherhood Quietly Erasing the Real You?

    She built one of Singapore's most awarded agencies. She dressed the biggest names in fashion. She raised two boys. And somewhere in the middle of all of it, she stopped recognising the person in the mirror. Tjin Lee, founder of Mercury and co-founder of Crib Society talks about what actually happens when motherhood and career quietly swallow your sense of self, and what it takes to hold on to it. This is not a story about burnout. It is about the slower, sneakier thing that happens when you spend two decades being everything to everyone else. There is a label she says every working mother should stop using on herself. There is a red dress that changed the way an entire industry saw her. There is a caterpillar story she tells her sons that has nothing to do with insects and everything to do with why she refuses to make their lives easier. If you have ever felt like you disappeared somewhere inside your own life, this conversation is for you. Hit play. IN THIS EPISODE: 00:00 | Losing Yourself to Motherhood 00:38 | Welcome to Growing Pains with Tjin Lee 01:56 | The Unexpected Journey to Motherhood at 40 03:57 | Facing the "Auntie" in the Mirror 06:37 | Why 50 is the Adolescence of Old Age 12:19 | Don't Let "Mom" Override Your Identity 15:23 | Why "Mompreneur" is a Label That Keeps Women Small 23:42 | Coloring Books to Minecraft: The Screen Time Dilemma 28:13 | Shielding Sons From the Toxic Manosphere 30:12 | The Red Dress Moment: Stepping Out of the Shadows 35:51 | Earning Your Battle Armor & Dropping the People Pleaser 41:07 | Stop Taking It Personally: Lessons for the Next Gen 43:00 | The Heartbreak of "Soulmate Parenting" 46:35 | Quick-Fire: Refusing the Tiger Mom Trap 52:24 | Episode Takeaways About Tjin Lee Tjin Lee is the founder of Mercury, a Singapore marketing agency she built over 23 years and sold at 49, working with brands including Burberry, Gucci and Cartier along the way. She also launched the Audi Fashion Festival, chaired Singapore Fashion Week, and co-founded Crib Society to support women entrepreneurs. She has over 120,000 followers on Instagram, where she is known for being outspoken about motherhood, identity and midlife reinvention. Connect with Tjin Lee: Instagram: @Tjinlee Linkedin: Tjin Lee Find out more about Crib Society What You'll Take AwayThe moment she stopped recognising herself, and what she did about itWhy she says the word "mompreneur" quietly shrinks the woman using itThe caterpillar story she tells her sons, and why she won't rescue them from the struggleWhat it actually took to separate "who I am" from "who my kids need me to be"The red dress story behind why she stopped hiding backstage at her own eventsWhy she thinks women are taught to be uncomfortable with being seenWhat she wishes she had understood about herself twenty years earlier Connect with Growing PainsGrowing Pains is HoneyKids Asia's podcast for the conversations you want to have after the kids go to bed. YouTube: @growingpains.honeykids Instagram: @honeykidsasia Website: honeykidsasia.com Hit subscribe so you don't miss an episode. If this one resonated, share it with a parent who needs it. Growing Pains is produced in partnership with Poddster, Singapore's podcast studio. #TjinLee #GrowingPains #HoneyKidsAsia #MotherhoodJourney #WomenInBusiness #ImposterSyndrome #SingaporeEntrepreneurs #MomGuilt #SelfLoveJourney #ModernParenting #EmpoweredWomen #ThrivingInYour50s

    Is Motherhood Quietly Erasing the Real You?

  6. 3 Aug

    Can Women Really Have It All? We’re Asking the Wrong Question

    Sharon Wong walked away from a high-flying corporate career with zero retail experience and built one of Asia's leading mother and baby brands across four countries. Twenty-eight years, one pandemic after another, and an expansion into China that started with doors slamming in her face. She calls it insanity. She might be right. Now, at 60, she's not slowing down. She's scaling faster than ever, and she's rewriting what everyone assumes about age, ambition and rest. In this episode, Sharon talks with Stephanie about the real cost of chasing having it all, the mindset shift that let her treat every crisis as just another season, and the parenting philosophy that shaped three kids who still call her their best friend. There's a secret recipe behind her success, a rapid fire round that gets brutally honest about the worst parenting advice she's ever received, and one theory about luck that has nothing to do with money. Can women really have it all? Or are we asking the wrong question? Sharon has an answer. You might not expect it. Click play. What You'll Take Away Why the founder of one of Asia's biggest baby brands says she's never actually been stressedThe real formula behind her success, and why one letter in it changed completelyWhat it took to get a single Chinese mall to finally say yes after every other door slammed shutThe parenting rule she and her husband set before they even had kidsWhy she thinks "having it all" is the wrong question entirelyThe rapid fire answer that flips conventional parenting advice on its headWhat her ten year old son did with his Christmas presents that turned into a decade-long family tradition IN THIS EPISODE: 00:00 | Can Women Really Have It All? 01:05 | Welcome to Growing Pains 01:22 | Meet Sharon Wong: Building Motherswork From a Personal Mission 02:20 | Why Every Entrepreneurial “Down” Is Really Change 06:55 | Entering China With Courage, Naivety and No Funding 09:07 | How to Keep Moving When Life Feels Overwhelming 15:08 | Raising Children With Kindness, Courage and Clear Values 19:29 | Sharon’s Formula for Success: Passion, Product, People and Luck 27:03 | Stop Asking Whether Women Can Have It All 32:48 | Why Sharon Believes in Seasons, Not Mum Guilt 36:23 | Scaling at 60: Reinventing Yourself at Any Age 41:30 | Writing Whoa, Mom and Choosing Vulnerability 44:00 | The Giving Tree: Teaching Children to Lead With Kindness 48:00 | Legacy, Motherhood and the Advice Sharon Lives By 50:00 | Stephanie’s Top Three Episode Takeaways About the Guest Sharon Wong is the Founder and CEO of Motherswork, one of Asia's leading premium mother, baby and kids' retail brands, with stores across Singapore, China, Vietnam and Thailand. She left a career as a Regional Tax and Treasury Director to build the company from scratch with zero retail experience, and 28 years later her team calls her "the CEO who bakes." She's the author of Wo(Mum): Living My Life as a Warrior, Woman and Mum, Chairwoman of MITAS (Maternal and Infant Trade Association of Singapore), and a mother of three. Connect with Sharon and Motherswork: https://www.motherswork.com/ https://www.linkedin.com/in/sharon-wong-motherswork/ https://www.instagram.com/motherswork/ Connect with Growing Pains Growing Pains is HoneyKids Asia's podcast for the conversations you want to have after the kids go to bed. YouTube: @growingpains.honeykids Instagram: honeykidsasia Website: https://honeykidsasia.com/ Hit subscribe so you don't miss an episode. If this one hits home, send it to a parent who needs it. Growing Pains is produced in partnership with Poddster, Singapore's podcast studio. #GrowingPains #HoneyKidsAsia #SharonWong #Motherswork #WomenInBusiness #WorkingMothers #MumGuilt #FemaleEntrepreneur #MotherhoodAndCareer #ScalingAt60 #Parenting #Entrepreneurship #Podster

    Can Women Really Have It All? We’re Asking the Wrong Question

  7. 27 Jul

    How to Raise Indistractable Kids

    Your brain takes in 11 million bits of information every second. You consciously process about 50. The rest gets filled in by beliefs, and those same beliefs, the ones you don't even know you have, are quietly shaping your children right now. Nir Eyal is a former Stanford lecturer, New York Times bestselling author of Hooked and Indistractable, and the kind of person who will tell you that your to-do list is making you worse at life. His latest book, Beyond Belief, started with a simple question: why do people not do the things they know they should? The answer had nothing to do with willpower, screens, or discipline. It had to do with the invisible stories we carry about ourselves, and pass on. This one will make you think differently about your own brain. Press play. IN THIS EPISODE: 00:00 | The Limiting Beliefs Quietly Running Our Lives 00:54 | Why Our Beliefs Shape How We Parent 02:30 | How Emotional Eating Shaped Nir’s Life 03:47 | Why Distraction Starts Inside Your Head 09:44 | The Hidden Problem With To-Do Lists 09:52 | How Time Boxing Rebuilds Focus and Control 15:13 | Turning Your Values Into Protected Time 18:40 | Why Knowing Better Does Not Create Change 22:59 | When Beliefs Start Feeling Like Facts 26:11 | A Four-Step Method to Change Limiting Beliefs 33:30 | Pain Is Inevitable, Suffering Is Added 37:10 | How to Raise Self-Regulating, Resilient Kids 42:41 | When Manifestation Helps — and When It Backfires 48:35 | How Labels Quietly Become Personal Limitations 54:54 | The Best and Worst Parenting Advice About Nir Nir Eyal is a globally recognised authority on behaviour change and human potential. A former lecturer at Stanford's Graduate School of Business, he's the New York Times bestselling author of three books that between them have sold over one million copies in more than 30 languages. Beyond Belief: geni.us/beyondbeliefIndistractable: geni.us/IndistractableHooked: geni.us/hookedFree belief change guide: nirandfar.com/beyond-belief-live30-Day Belief Transformation Journal: nirandfar.com/beyond-beliefWebsite: nirandfar.comInstagram: @nireyalLinkedIn: Nir Eyal What You'll Take AwayWhy your to-do list is secretly working against youFour questions that can dissolve a belief you've held for years (Nir uses his mum as the test case)Why "I am" are the most dangerous words in EnglishThe labels you put on your kids become the ceilings they live underWhat the science actually says about manifestationHow to raise “indistractable” kids (it has nothing to do with screen time limits) Connect with Nir: https://www.nirandfar.com/ https://www.linkedin.com/in/nireyal/ https://www.instagram.com/nireyal Connect with Growing PainsGrowing Pains is HoneyKids Asia's podcast for the conversations you want to have after the kids go to bed. YouTube: @growingpains.honeykidsInstagram: @honeykidsasiaWebsite: honeykidsasia.com Hit subscribe so you don't miss an episode. If this one hits home, send it to a parent who needs it. Growing Pains is produced in partnership with Poddster, Singapore's podcast studio. #GrowingPains #HoneyKidsAsia #MillennialParenting #SandwichGeneration #MaternalMentalHealth #DigitalParenting #IdentityCrisis #HighFunctioningDepression #Podster

    How to Raise Indistractable Kids

  8. 20 Jul

    The Love Patterns Your Kids Are Copying From You (Whether You Know It or Not)

    Every self-help book tells you to love yourself first before you can be loved by anyone else. Yana Fry, founder of the Academy of Love, says that advice is a trap, and she has watched it keep high-achieving women stuck in the same loop for years. Her own work traces back to a single moment at age 8: her parents' divorce, a dog-eared relationship book, and a promise she made herself in a notebook. In this episode, she unpacks the archetype framework built from that promise, nine patterns that explain why some of us repeat the same relationship over and over, and why kids pick up on all of it long before they have the words for it. Yana gets unusually honest too: a panic attack in the middle of the Namibian desert that decided something for her before she'd consciously decided it herself, a confession about what her own date nights actually look like lately, and a story from her late 20s she doesn't tell often, the moment she says was quietly driving everything before she understood why. Your kids are watching how you love. This episode is about what they're actually learning. What You'll Take AwayWhy "love yourself first" might be the worst advice a high achiever can followWhat decided itself in her body during a panic attack in the middle of the desert, before her mind caught upWhat her own date nights actually look like these days, and why she's not hiding itThe moment in her late 20s she rarely talks about, and the wound it revealedThe nine patterns that explain why you keep ending up in the same relationship, romantic or otherwiseWhat her toddler is already absorbing about love, without a single word being saidThe one thing she hopes her daughter never has to unlearn About Yana FryYana Fry is an internationally recognized speaker, transformational coach, and founder of the Academy of Love. She built a nine-archetype framework for identifying love patterns after her own upheaval: a marriage at 22, a cancer diagnosis three months later, a divorce, and a full rebuild of her life from there. She now lives in Singapore, is 17 years into an intercultural marriage, and works primarily with high-achieving women untangling how they love, parent, and lead. Find out which love pattern your kids are learning from you. Sign up for Yana's masterclass here. Chapters00:00 — Meet Yana Fry 01:15 — How her definition of love has shifted over the years 04:55 — Healing old patterns, choosing motherhood 12:40 — Parenting without projection 22:00 — Why self-love is hard for high-achieving women 24:35 — The nine love archetypes 27:20 — Building self-care and connection into real life 38:15 — Teaching the next generation what healthy love looks like 48:40 — Quick-fire advice 51:55 — Host takeaways Connect with Growing PainsGrowing Pains is HoneyKids Asia's podcast for the conversations you want to have after the kids go to bed. YouTube: @growingpains.honeykids Instagram: @honeykidsasia Website: honeykidsasia.com Hit subscribe so you don't miss an episode. If this one resonated, share it with a parent who needs it. Growing Pains is produced in partnership with Poddster, Singapore's podcast studio. #YanaFry #GrowingPains #HoneyKidsAsia #ConsciousLove #SelfLove #LoveArchetypes #ParentingAndLove #HighAchievingWomen #RelationshipAdvice #FatherWound #AcademyOfLove #ConsciousParenting #SingaporeMoms #PersonalDevelopment #HealthyRelationships

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Growing Pains is a podcast from HoneyKids Asia for the conversations parents want to have after the kids go to bed. In each episode, we speak to experts, parents, and people with lived experience about the realities of raising kids today — from relationships, identity, mental health and screen time to school pressure, family dynamics, and everything in between. These are honest, thoughtful conversations that say the things many parents are thinking, but rarely say out loud. No judgement, no perfect parenting, just real stories, practical insights, and a reminder that none of us are figuring it out alone.

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  • Creator
    HoneyKids Asia
  • Years Active
    2023 - 2026
  • Episodes
    73
  • Rating
    Explicit
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    © 2025 HoneyKids Asia
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    Growing Pains