HERself

Abby and Amy
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As women and mothers of young children, it can be easy to compare ourselves to others. But your life isn't supposed to look like hers! Being your best self means standing firm in your decisions and always being willing to grow with a purpose. Are you wanting more ease in your marriage? Or more enjoyment as a parent? Are you looking for a strategy to the health challenges you have been facing recently? Do you feel like you have been staring at a stranger in the mirror since becoming a mother?  Abby and Amy get vulnerable with topics around partnership, motherhood, health, and self improvement by interviewing authors, therapists, experts and everyday mothers. Our conversations will meet you with solutions and solidarity as you find a life path that feels aligned for you. If this sounds like you, hit play on your favorite episode title and make sure you're following the HERself podcast.

  1. 4 hr ago

    343: How To Deal With Your Sh#* So Your Kids Don't Have To with Eli Harwood

    Growing up as millennials, we were often told not to be too loud, not to ask for help, and to push our feelings down. Attachment therapist and author Eli Harwood joins us to unpack how our upbringings shaped us and how we can break generational cycles as parents. Eli opens with a powerful reframe: our parents truly did the best they could with what they knew. From there, we dive deep into what childhood trauma actually looks like (and why so many of us don't recognize it as trauma), how to build resilience in our kids, and why the way we parent almost always traces back to how we were parented. Whether you struggle with patience, saying no, or knowing when to discipline versus when to have a conversation, Eli offers practical, connection-focused tools to help us show up differently for our kids. Key Topics Covered: What secure attachment looks like and why Eli centers her work on connection and relationship rather than control and behavior.How to identify the childhood experiences you may be carrying into adulthood without realizing they are traumas.Finding the middle ground between raising independent kids and raising kids who feel safe asking for help.The number one predictor of long-term resilience in children and how to actively foster it.Why millennial parents may struggle with patience, and why the birthing parent often has less of it than their non-birthing partner.Punishment versus conversation: how to rethink your approach when your child does something wrong.Why saying no feels so hard for millennial parents and what to do if you want to change that pattern. CONNECT WITH ELI: Instagram & Threads (@attachmentnerd): https://www.instagram.com/attachmentnerd/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/attachmentnerd TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@attachmentnerd Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/@attachmentnerd Get Your Copy of Eli’s Book: https://amzlink.to/az09tHmrRU6NT  LINKS AND RESOURCES:   BETTERHELP: 10% off first month at: http://betterhelp.com/herself LMNT: Free Sample Pack with purchase:  drinkLMNT.com/HERSELF  Let’s connect! HERSELF INSTAGRAM: http://instagram.com/herselfpodcast MEET AMY: http://instagram.com/ameskiefer MEET ABBY: http://instagram.com/abbyrosegreen This episode was brought to you by the Pivot Ball Change Network.

    50 min

  2. 15 Jun

    342: Our Unfiltered Thoughts About Turning 40

    Abby's 40th birthday served as the perfect launching pad for an honest conversation about aging and all the feelings that come with it. With most of our 30s spent raising kids, we are stepping into this new decade with a fresh perspective, and we're keeping it real about the insecurities, the mindset shifts, and the things we actively do to feel and look our best. We also explore the power of having older women in our lives as role models, share a meaningful mantra from Abby's grandma, and wrap up with a reminder that making peace with aging is so much easier when you're surrounded by people who own it unapologetically. Key Topics Covered: Finding your personal balance between embracing aging and doing the things that make you feel confident and youthful.How dressing for your changing body can support a more positive relationship with it.The reality of working out as you get older, including injuries and setbacks, and knowing you're not alone in facing them.Why surrounding yourself with people who are unapologetic about their age can shift your entire outlook. LINKS AND RESOURCES: LMNT: Free Sample Pack with purchase:  drinkLMNT.com/HERSELF  BETTERHELP: 10% off first month at: http://betterhelp.com/herself Patreon Book Club: https://www.patreon.com/herselfpodcast Hair Supplement: https://amzlink.to/az0kELnE6fNiV Let’s connect! HERSELF INSTAGRAM: http://instagram.com/herselfpodcast MEET AMY: http://instagram.com/ameskiefer MEET ABBY: http://instagram.com/abbyrosegreen This episode was brought to you by the Pivot Ball Change Network.

    34 min

  3. 8 Jun

    341: Helping Your Kids Navigate Friendships with Dr. Willough Jenkins

    As parents, control feels like protection. It feels like we can prevent our kids' mistakes, soften their pain, and steer them away from decisions that might hurt them. But here's the truth: control protects us, not the relationship. In this episode, we sit down with board-certified child psychiatrist Dr. Willough Jenkins to talk about one of the trickiest parts of parenting: helping our kids navigate friendships.  In this episode: Is it developmentally normal when kids suddenly want to drop a friend?How to support a child with an anxious attachment style when friendship gets hard.When (and whether) to get the other kid's parents involved.What to do when your child is hanging out with kids who don't bring out their best and being honest that our kids aren't always angels either.How to handle mean girl dynamics if you have a daughter going through it.Signs that your child may genuinely struggle with making friends, and what you can actually do about it.Tactics for staying a safe, trusted place your kids will actually come to when friendship gets tough. LINKS AND RESOURCES: Follow Dr. Willough on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/drwilloughjenkins/ Dr. Willough’s Website: https://www.willoughjenkins.com/ LMNT: Free Sample Pack with purchase:  drinkLMNT.com/HERSELF  HERSELF PATREON: https://www.patreon.com/herselfpodcast Let’s connect! HERSELF INSTAGRAM: http://instagram.com/herselfpodcast MEET AMY: http://instagram.com/ameskiefer MEET ABBY: http://instagram.com/abbyrosegreen This episode was brought to you by the Pivot Ball Change Network.

    37 min

  4. 1 Jun

    340: The Summer Kick-off Episode

    Summer is coming, and this episode is your permission slip to get intentional about it. We're sharing hard-won lessons about summer parenting, starting with the power of identifying your stressors and expectations early so everyone in your household can thrive. From navigating screen time without the extremes, to hiring a summer nanny with clear goals, to making sure whoever is caring for your kids understands your priorities around food and nutrition, we cover the practical stuff. Amy gets personal about a scary moment with her youngest last summer that became a powerful reminder of why simple safety measures matter so much. The heart of this conversation is one big, clarifying question: what does a successful summer actually look like for your family? Key Topics Covered: Abby's reminder to leave room for spontaneous fun and why those unplanned moments often become your kids' favorite summer memoriesHow to set your nanny up for success by communicating your goals and food standards from the startA reframe on screen time as a helpful tool rather than something to fear or eliminateAmy's personal story about her son's accident and the simple safety precautions that made all the differenceHow to define your top summer priorities, because not everything can be treated as equally important LINKS AND RESOURCES: BETTERHELP: 10% off first month at: http://betterhelp.com/herself Let’s connect! HERSELF INSTAGRAM: http://instagram.com/herselfpodcast MEET AMY: http://instagram.com/ameskiefer MEET ABBY: http://instagram.com/abbyrosegreen This episode was brought to you by the Pivot Ball Change Network.

    27 min

  5. 25 May

    339: Greatest Hits: What to Do When the Script Doesn't Work with Claire Lerner

    In this "Greatest Hits" episode we revisit one of our most impactful conversations with child development expert Claire Lerner. As parents who have personally navigated the challenges of raising children who don't respond to traditional gentle parenting approaches, we share how isolating and exhausting that experience can be and how Claire's expertise changed everything. Claire breaks down why some kids are simply wired differently, explains that challenging behaviors aren't manipulation but rather a need for boundaries and support, and offers practical strategies for helping children self-regulate. From rethinking timeouts to surviving big family gatherings, this episode is a must-listen for parents of strong-willed or highly reactive kids. Key Topics Covered Why some children are "wired differently" and don't respond to gentle parenting.Understanding child behavior — why kids act out and what they actually need.Claire's concept of the "safe space break" as a modern alternative to timeouts.How to help children self-regulate during moments of aggression toward others.Managing big family gatherings and holiday triggers for highly reactive kids.How to talk to family members and teachers about your child's unique needs.The importance of community and reducing parental isolation and burnout. LINKS AND RESOURCES: Meet Claire. Visit Claire's website.  LMNT: Free Sample Pack with purchase:  drinkLMNT.com/HERSELF  HERSELF AMAZON STOREFRONT: https://amzlink.to/az0BrkLl5pX9u  Let’s connect! HERSELF INSTAGRAM: http://instagram.com/herselfpodcast MEET AMY: http://instagram.com/ameskiefer MEET ABBY: http://instagram.com/abbyrosegreen This episode was brought to you by the Pivot Ball Change Network.

    57 min

  6. 18 May

    338: How We Navigate Situational Anxiety

    Life in your 40s can hit hard, and if you're feeling the weight of it all right now, you are not alone. In this episode, Abby gets real and personal about a difficult situation she's been navigating with one of her kids, and how the stress of it has started to feel like so much more than just "situational anxiety." Between caring for our families, keeping up with the house, showing up at work, and being everyone else's emotional rock, it can feel impossible to also take care of ourselves. But here's the thing: it IS possible, and it looks different for everyone. Key Topics Covered: What situational anxiety actually is and how it can slowly start to feel all-encompassing.Why our 40s often bring a wave of hard life events, for us and the people we love most.Amy's observation about why Abby handles stress better than almost anyone she knows.The difference between situations we can't avoid and ones where we actually do have a choice.Practical things we do to take care of ourselves when life feels overwhelming.Why our brains crave predictability and what to do when life refuses to give us that. LINKS AND RESOURCES: BETTERHELP: 10% off first month at: http://betterhelp.com/herself HERSELF PATREON: https://www.patreon.com/herselfpodcast INFRARED SAUNA: https://amzlink.to/az05Rg8T8ZNO5  Let’s connect! HERSELF INSTAGRAM: http://instagram.com/herselfpodcast MEET AMY: http://instagram.com/ameskiefer MEET ABBY: http://instagram.com/abbyrosegreen This episode was brought to you by the Pivot Ball Change Network.

    36 min

  7. 11 May

    337: Do You Actually Want to Change? Listen to This With Karin Nordin

    What does it really take to create lasting behavior change, especially in the middle of busy motherhood? In this conversation, our friend and behavior change expert Karin Nordin shares a refreshing, research-backed approach rooted in compassion rather than discipline. Drawing from her background in health communication and her own personal struggles, Karin breaks down why traditional advice around habits often falls short and what to focus on instead. This episode offers a practical and realistic framework for moms who want to follow through on their goals without burnout, all while embracing a more flexible and sustainable way to create change. Key Topics Covered: The trampoline metaphor and how it helps reframe all-or-nothing thinking.Why the word “habit” may be overemphasized and commonly misunderstood.The difference between discipline and conscientiousness and why it matters.Real-life examples of what qualifies as a habit and what does not.Coaching strategies for implementing a consistent morning workout routine.How to approach changes in eating patterns without relying on restrictions.What a ritual check-in is and how to use it effectively.Why routines should stay under 30 minutes.The shift from focusing on consistency to prioritizing frequency. Get your free Procrastination resource here: https://bodybrainalliance.com/herself Follow Karin on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/karinnordinphd/ Karin’s Website: https://bodybrainalliance.com/ For more information on Karin's programs: bodybrainalliance.com/change-academy LINKS AND RESOURCES: LMNT: Free Sample Pack with purchase:  drinkLMNT.com/HERSELF  BETTERHELP: 10% off first month at: http://betterhelp.com/herself Let’s connect! HERSELF INSTAGRAM: http://instagram.com/herselfpodcast MEET AMY: http://instagram.com/ameskiefer MEET ABBY: http://instagram.com/abbyrosegreen This episode was brought to you by the Pivot Ball Change Network.

    40 min

  8. 4 May

    336: Honesty is the Best Policy

    What actually creates deep, meaningful friendships? In this episode, we explore the idea of radical honesty and why it might be the missing piece in your closest relationships. Inspired by a therapist’s take and rooted in Amy’s long-held belief, we unpack what it really means to show up truthfully with the people in your inner circle.  Key Topics Covered: • Why radical honesty is essential for deeper friendships. • The impact of people pleasing on adult relationships. • Navigating anxious attachment and overthinking. • Recognizing and breaking co-dependent patterns. • The role of tone and delivery in honest conversations. • Simple, practical one-liners to start being more honest today. LINKS AND RESOURCES: BETTERHELP: 10% off first month at: http://betterhelp.com/herself LMNT: Free Sample Pack with purchase:  drinkLMNT.com/HERSELF FORAGE KITCHEN: Check out your nearest location Let’s connect! HERSELF INSTAGRAM: http://instagram.com/herselfpodcast MEET AMY: http://instagram.com/ameskiefer MEET ABBY: http://instagram.com/abbyrosegreen This episode was brought to you by the Pivot Ball Change Network.

    40 min
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As women and mothers of young children, it can be easy to compare ourselves to others. But your life isn't supposed to look like hers! Being your best self means standing firm in your decisions and always being willing to grow with a purpose. Are you wanting more ease in your marriage? Or more enjoyment as a parent? Are you looking for a strategy to the health challenges you have been facing recently? Do you feel like you have been staring at a stranger in the mirror since becoming a mother?  Abby and Amy get vulnerable with topics around partnership, motherhood, health, and self improvement by interviewing authors, therapists, experts and everyday mothers. Our conversations will meet you with solutions and solidarity as you find a life path that feels aligned for you. If this sounds like you, hit play on your favorite episode title and make sure you're following the HERself podcast.

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  • Creator
    Abby and Amy
  • Years Active
    2019 - 2026
  • Episodes
    343
  • Rating
    Clean
  • Copyright
    © 2026 HERself
  • Show Website
    HERself

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