The Forties Formula

Amanda Lim & Jasmin Dhillon
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Welcome to The Forties Formula — an award-winning podcast named Best Health & Wellness Podcast in Asia 2025, and proudly featured by CNA as one of Singapore’s best podcasts for women. We blend science, soul, and a little bit of sass to help you thrive in your forties and beyond. Meet your hosts: Jasmin Dhillon — health strategist at Eat with Jasmin, mum of three boys, and forever curious about what it really takes to feel good in this season of life.Amanda Lim — metabolic health coach, director at LIFT Clinic, and mom to three littles, here to help you ditch the fluff and get real about kicking a*s in your forties.Free Resource for Women in Their 40s Download our free Forties Formula E-book — your guide to feeling clearer, stronger, and more energised in midlife.

  1. We Need To Talk About Our Girls | The Forties Formula

    15 HR AGO

    We Need To Talk About Our Girls | The Forties Formula

    There’s a moment, as a mother, when you look at your daughter and realise something is changing. She’s quieter. More emotional. More critical of herself. And you’re left wondering… is this normal, or is something deeper going on? In this episode, we sit down with psychologist Dr. Emma Waddington and physician Dr. Gina Hel to unpack what’s really happening beneath the surface for girls today. From earlier puberty and hormonal shifts to the impact of social media, friendships, and identity, this is a conversation every parent needs to hear. Because the reality is, girls aren’t just growing up differently… they’re growing up under more pressure than ever before. And if you’re a woman in your 40s, you might recognise something else too… parts of your own story reflected back at you. We cover: The subtle signs your daughter may be struggling Why puberty is starting earlier How hormones affect mood, sleep and behaviour The impact of social media on self-worth Why friendships matter more than you realise The truth about body image in young girls How to build connection before adolescence hits What helps girls feel confident and supported If you’re raising a daughter or trying to understand the pressures girls face today, this episode will shift how you see it all. 🤝 SPONSOR Thank you to our sponsor Love, Indus Enjoy 21% off with code TFF 👉 https://www.loveindus.com 🔗 RESOURCES & LINKS Osler Health → https://www.osler-health.com Us Therapy → https://www.ustherapy.sg Untangled by Lisa Damour → https://amzn.to/4cWz8vc Run Like A Girl (Always) → https://youtu.be/qtDMyGjYlMg ⏱️ CHAPTERS 00:00 Intro 02:00 Signs your daughter may be struggling 05:00 Puberty and hormones 07:30 Emotional shift in adolescence 10:00 Brain development and social connection 11:00 Social media and self-esteem 14:00 Friendship dynamics 16:00 Loneliness and online connection 19:30 Body image and early pressure 21:00 Parenting influence and identity 27:00 Teaching girls to speak up 34:00 Body image in sport 39:30 Self-worth and achievement 41:00 The pressure to be everything 45:00 Parenting teens vs coaching

    50 min
  2. I Built My Life on Fear. Now I’m Questioning Everything | The Forties Formula in Focus

    3 DAYS AGO ·  BONUS

    I Built My Life on Fear. Now I’m Questioning Everything | The Forties Formula in Focus

    What happens when you realise the life you built wasn’t fully yours? In this Forties Formula in Focus clip, Uma Thana Balasingham shares the moment everything cracked — and what it really means to start again. In this Forties Formula in Focus episode, we revisit a powerful conversation with Uma Thana Balasingham on what she calls a “career quake.” From building a high-performing career in tech to walking away from a marriage rooted in fear, Uma opens up about the quiet realisations that many women experience but rarely say out loud. This isn’t about starting over for the sake of it. It’s about questioning the decisions you once made, understanding where they came from, and giving yourself the space to choose differently. We talk about identity, grief, expectations, and the uncomfortable but necessary process of meeting yourself again. The idea of “career quakes” and what they really feel likeMaking life decisions from fear vs alignmentThe identity shift when you step away from career or relationshipWhy grief is part of growthLearning to sit still instead of constantly doingKey Takeaways You can love your life and still feel something is missingNot every decision you made was fully yours — and that’s okayGrowth often starts with discomfortYou don’t need to rush the rebuildMeeting yourself is part of the process⏱ Chapters 00:00 Questioning everything 01:10 Marriage, fear, and honest reflection 03:00 Following narratives that weren’t yours 05:10 What is a “career quake”? 07:30 Grief, identity, and starting again 🔗 Links & Resources 🎙 Listen / Watch The Forties Formula YouTube: https://youtube.com/@thefortiesformulaWebsite: https://www.thefortiesformula.comAll platforms: https://bio.site/thefortiesformulapodcast☕ Support the show Buy Me a Coffee: https://buymeacoffee.com/thefortiesformulaUma Thana Balasingham LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/umathana/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/uma__raw/👩🏽‍💻 Follow Us Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thefortiesformulaLinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/company/thefortiesformula

    12 min
  3. This is Why High Achieving Women Feel One Step Away From Collapse | The Forties Formula

    22 APR

    This is Why High Achieving Women Feel One Step Away From Collapse | The Forties Formula

    This episode dives into the hidden emotional cost of being a high-functioning woman in your 40s. From conditional self-worth to the pressure of always “holding it all together,” we unpack why so many women feel exhausted, disconnected, and stuck despite external success. You’ll explore how societal conditioning, caregiving roles, and achievement-driven identity create burnout and why the goalposts keep moving. Most importantly, this conversation opens the door to rebuilding a sense of safety, self-acceptance, and connection with yourself. If you’ve ever felt like you’re performing your life instead of living it, this episode will hit home. KEY TAKEAWAYS: • Burnout in women is often rooted in conditional self-worth, not just workload • High achievement can become a way to seek emotional safety • Sociocultural expectations shape women into caregivers at the cost of self • Constantly “holding it together” leads to deep internal disconnection Rebuilding self-acceptance is key to breaking the burnout cycle The Forties Formula Podcast https://www.thefortiesformula.com Connect with us: https://www.instagram.com/thefortiesformula https://www.instagram.com/ranidhaschainey/ women burnout, burnout in 40s, high functioning anxiety, midlife women health, emotional exhaustion women, self worth women, perimenopause mindset, women 40s burnout, identity crisis midlife, caregiving stress women, high achiever burnout

    38 min
  4. Empathy - The Skill You're Missing For True Connection | Mimi Nicklin | The Forties Formula in Focus

    19 APR ·  BONUS

    Empathy - The Skill You're Missing For True Connection | Mimi Nicklin | The Forties Formula in Focus

    If you’ve ever felt lonely despite having a full life, a career, a family, and people around you… this conversation will land. In this Forties Formula in Focus clip, we revisit one of the most powerful moments from our full episode with Mimi Nicklin, where we explore why so many women in their 40s feel disconnected — and why it’s not your fault. We talk about: Why loneliness isn’t about being alone The hidden cost of success without connection Why “soft skills” like empathy are actually essential for survival How modern life is quietly pulling us further apart And what it really takes to feel connected again This is one of those conversations that makes you pause and think… “oh, that makes sense.” 🎧 Watch the full episode here: https://youtu.be/xDuBymzL-I8?si=AhxgubSjMWQ1upEB ⏱️ TIMESTAMPS 00:00 – Why connection feels harder than ever 01:10 – “Please stop calling these soft skills” 02:30 – Why loneliness is hard to admit 04:00 – You can be surrounded but still feel alone 05:20 – The CEO story: success without connection 07:10 – Why connection is actually about survival 08:30 – Living longer through connection 09:45 – What empathy really means (and why it matters) 🔑 KEYWORDS women in their 40s midlife loneliness feeling disconnected emotional health women connection and wellbeing empathy and relationships midlife mental health high achieving women burnout social connection health why do I feel lonely communication interpersonal skills self improvement life lessons longevity 🏷️ TAGS #fortiesformula #womenshealth #midlifewomen #emotionalwellbeing #loneliness #selfgrowth #mentalhealth #workingmums #highachievers #connection

    12 min
  5. Your Body Isn't Wrong, Fashion Is!

    15 APR

    Your Body Isn't Wrong, Fashion Is!

    Reclaiming Body Confidence in Midlife with Amanda & Jasmin Why do so many women in their 40s feel like their body has suddenly become a problem? In this episode, Amanda and Jasmin unpack how diet culture, societal pressure, and years of conditioning shape the way we see ourselves — especially as our bodies change. From the emotional attachment to old clothes to the reality of navigating a different body, this conversation goes deeper than weight. This is about identity, confidence, and learning how to feel like yourself again. In this episode: Why body image struggles often intensify in your 40sThe lasting impact of 80s and 90s diet cultureThe truth behind “nothing tastes as good as skinny feels”Why clothes — not your body — might be the real issueHow to find styles that actually work for your current bodyNavigating comments, microaggressions, and social pressureWhat body positivity gets wrong — and what matters moreHow to rebuild confidence without chasing your old bodyTimestamps: 00:00 – Why body image feels harder in your 40s 03:39 – The “skinny feels” belief unpacked 07:18 – Body changes and clothing struggles 09:04 – Shopping trauma and fit frustration 12:19 – The emotional attachment to old clothes 14:41 – Handling comments about your body 16:06 – Body positivity vs reality 18:44 – Redefining strength and confidence 21:56 – Fashion industry challenges 29:47 – Meeting women where they are 33:01 – Finding what actually works for you 40:12 – Confidence beyond appearance 46:01 – Strength, identity, and midlife 50:31 – Final reflections Resources & Links: Beauty Sick by Renee Engeln https://www.amazon.com/Beauty-Sick-Cultural-Obsession-Hurting/dp/006246978X Supporting Eve Lingerie https://www.supportingeve.com The Forties Formula Podcast https://www.thefortiesformula.com Connect with us: Instagram https://www.instagram.com/thefortiesformula YouTube https://www.youtube.com/@thefortiesformula

    52 min
  6. They Said I Needed A Hysterectomy But Then Something Miraculous Happened | The Forties Formula In Focus

    13 APR ·  BONUS

    They Said I Needed A Hysterectomy But Then Something Miraculous Happened | The Forties Formula In Focus

    What if your body already knows how to heal — it just needs someone to help it remember? In this clip from The Forties Formula in Focus, Jasmin Dhillon and Amanda Lim sit down with two certified BodyTalk practitioners based in Singapore: Rieke Hartwell and Sufen Paphassarang. Together, they explore how BodyTalk — a holistic healing modality that addresses the whole person rather than isolated symptoms — has helped women reverse autoimmune conditions, recover from chronic pain, and navigate perimenopause without drugs. Rieke shares her extraordinary personal story of healing a 7cm ovarian abscess without needing surgery her doctors insisted she needed. Sufen — an Advanced BodyTalk Practitioner and instructor — breaks down the science and philosophy behind the approach, from "structured intuition" to the body's innate healing intelligence. If you've ever felt dismissed by conventional medicine or wondered if there's another way, this conversation is for you. Chapters: 0:00 "God, you look like death" 0:45 10 months of chronic pelvic pain — no diagnosis 1:30 Sufen's first session: "massive infection in your right ovary" 2:45 Surgery reveals a 7cm abscess — organ removal scheduled 4:00 "He is not removing any of your organs" 5:10 The scan that shocked her gynecologist 6:15 Why the body stops healing — stress, trauma & the sinkhole 7:20 The body is designed to heal. Here's what gets in the way. 📲 Connect With Our Guests Rieke Hartwell — BodyTalk Practitioner, Singapore: @rieke.bodytalk.sg Sufen Paphassarang — Advanced BodyTalk Practitioner & Instructor, The BodyTalk Centre Singapore: @sufen_bodytalk 📲 Connect With Your Hosts Jasmin Dhillon: @eat.with.jasmin Amanda Lim: @coachamandalim

    8 min
  7. Insomnia After 40: The Drug-Free Fix That Works Better Than Pills

    8 APR

    Insomnia After 40: The Drug-Free Fix That Works Better Than Pills

    Struggling with poor sleep, night wakings, or feeling exhausted no matter how long you stay in bed? Wondering why sleep gets harder in your 40s, even when you’re doing everything “right”? In this episode, we sit down with sleep expert and CBT-I researcher Dr. Susan McCurry to unpack why sleep often worsens for women in midlife and what healthy sleep actually looks like. From hormonal shifts during perimenopause to stress, lifestyle habits, and environmental disruptions, we break down the real reasons your sleep feels off and why most advice doesn’t work long-term. We also dive deep into chronic insomnia, what it really means, why it persists, and how to treat it effectively without relying on quick fixes. Dr. McCurry explains why Cognitive Behavioural Therapy for Insomnia (CBT-I) is considered the gold standard by major sleep organizations, and how simple, structured changes can rebuild your sleep from the ground up. If you’re tired of being tired, this conversation will help you understand what’s happening, and what actually works. This podcast is for women in their 40s (and late 30s to 50s) who are navigating perimenopause, stubborn belly fat, energy crashes, and confusing health advice. Women who want science-backed, unfiltered conversations instead of quick fixes. Hosted by Integrated Health Strategist Jasmin Dhillon and Metabolic Health Coach Amanda Lim, we help you understand what’s changing and what you can actually do about it. 🔔 Subscribe for more unfiltered conversations on health, wellness, and thriving in your 40s: https://www.youtube.com/@thefortiesformula?sub_confirmation=1 What You’ll Learn in This Episode -Why sleep often worsens during midlife and perimenopause -How hormones, ageing, and vasomotor symptoms impact sleep -The role of stress, screens, kids, pets, partners, caffeine, and alcohol -What defines chronic insomnia (and when to take it seriously) -Why sleep trackers can sometimes make sleep anxiety worse -The truth about melatonin, midnight snacking, and alcohol for sleep -What CBT-I is and why it’s the first-line treatment for insomnia -Practical tools: stimulus control, consistent wake time, limiting time in bed -Why reducing “time in bed” can actually improve sleep quality -Insights from the MsFLASH trial on sleep improvement in midlife women 📱 CONNECT WITH US Follow us for more real conversations: • Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thefortiesformula • Instagram Jasmin: https://www.instagram.com/eat.with.jasmin • Instagram Amanda: https://www.instagram.com/coachamandalim • Michelle: https://www.instagram.com/chillbossmom 🎧 LISTEN / FOLLOW Search: The Forties Formula wherever you get your podcasts.

    53 min
  8. The 5 Key Skin Changes That Happen in Your 40s and What You Can Do About It | The Forties Formula In Focus

    5 APR ·  BONUS

    The 5 Key Skin Changes That Happen in Your 40s and What You Can Do About It | The Forties Formula In Focus

    In this clip from The Forties Formula Podcast, Hosts Jasmin Dhillon and Amanda Lim sit down with @DrLowChaiLing to explore the common skin changes women experience in their 40s, noting a shift from oily to combination skin as cell turnover slows. We discuss essential skincare tips to maintain glowing skin and address concerns for women over 40. Learn how to adapt your skin care routine for healthy, anti aging results. key topics - Skin changes in women in their 40s - Effective skincare ingredients and routines - Myths and facts about anti-aging treatments Chapters 00:00 Cleansing and Exfoliation Essentials 00:42 Hormonal Breakouts and Skin Health 03:30 Hot or Hype: Trending Skin Treatments 06:29 Aging Gracefully vs. Giving Up 09:42 Nutrition's Role in Skin Health skincare, 40s skin changes, anti-aging, hormonal breakouts, skincare tips, red light therapy, Botox, collagen, aging gracefully

    11 min
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Welcome to The Forties Formula — an award-winning podcast named Best Health & Wellness Podcast in Asia 2025, and proudly featured by CNA as one of Singapore’s best podcasts for women. We blend science, soul, and a little bit of sass to help you thrive in your forties and beyond. Meet your hosts: Jasmin Dhillon — health strategist at Eat with Jasmin, mum of three boys, and forever curious about what it really takes to feel good in this season of life.Amanda Lim — metabolic health coach, director at LIFT Clinic, and mom to three littles, here to help you ditch the fluff and get real about kicking a*s in your forties.Free Resource for Women in Their 40s Download our free Forties Formula E-book — your guide to feeling clearer, stronger, and more energised in midlife.

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  • Creator
    Amanda Lim & Jasmin Dhillon
  • Years Active
    2024 - 2026
  • Episodes
    117
  • Rating
    Explicit
  • Copyright
    © Amanda Lim & Jasmin Dhillon 2024
  • Show Website
    The Forties Formula

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