In this episode, discover the ONE thing that successful dads protect at all costs—and it’s not money or business growth. Phil dives deep into the silent killers of fatherhood and success, like decision fatigue, emotional detachment, and energy depletion, and explains why energy management is more critical than time management. Learn how to stop giving your family the "leftover" version of yourself, become a high-performance dad, and create a legacy of love and connection. Welcome to The Phil Bohol Show, hosted by USMC veteran, mindset coach, sales expert, self-made entrepreneur, husband, and father, Phil Bohol. On this podcast, we don't just offer strategies — we offer a war cry, a call to arms, a challenge to rise, to break free from the shackles of mediocrity. You’ll learn the raw truth on how to break your limitations, scale your business to 7-figures, and level up every area of your life. Together, we won't just face challenges. We will crush them. Relentlessly. (00:00) The Cost of Chasing Success (01:06) The Importance of Presence (05:02) Energy Management Over Time Management (08:29) The Silent Killer: Emotional Detachment (15:37) Morning Routines for Optimal Energy (17:27) Protecting Your Family and Yourself (21:03) Conclusion and Call to Action Follow Phil Bohol’s Socials: LinkedIn | Instagram | Facebook | YouTube | Twitter | TikTok Want more? Join my email list: https://philbohol.com/subscribe [00:00:00] I lost my daughter's entire first year chasing money, trying to build business. But what I actually sacrifice is worth 100x more, infinitely more. And after coaching men from all over the world, all over the country, different business owners, from different industries, different sized families, I discovered something… That you'll never be able to get back no matter how much [00:00:30] money you make a lot of men chase money business growth. But at the end of that if you lose it if you lose the real things that are important in this life. No amount of that money that you made the success that you got will ever be able to help you buy that back. So in this video, I'm going to show you what successful dads do and what they protect at all costs. Because I want you to always remember at the end of the day, it doesn't matter how much money you make, it [00:01:00] doesn't matter how big of a business you build, if you lose what's really important in this life. So let's start off with, um, presence, being truly present here in the moment, and presents, gifts, that you give to your family, gifts that you give to your kids. Now, the biggest thing is, you know, men like to think that, if I give you this one piece of attention, I had a long work day. I've been hustling my ass off. I've been building this [00:01:30] business, getting that money, whatever the case might be for the family. If I give you an ounce of patience, that's a present. That's a gift to you from me. You're lucky that I'm giving you a gift. That's how most men think. What you have to learn how to do is learn how to manage emotions from a level where what happens in your day to day work environment, you don't bring that to the household. You don't bring that to the home. By doing [00:02:00] that, you can separate business and your personal life, which is what's important. You have to know when to leave shit at the door. When you do that, and you're able to do that, you're able to be present. So when I talk about presence, being here in the moment, being present for your family, that's what I mean. It's not a gift, it's a state of being. When you have presence for your family, when you have presence with your children and your marriage, you have a more meaningful life. [00:02:30] And that's what makes all the hustle and all the grind worth it. So stop looking at the time, the patience, the attention you give right there in that one moment that you have as a gift, as a present to the people that you love most. Because what it's gonna do, it's gonna create some sort of like resentment, right? Some type of negative animosity feeling. Because you think your time is so valuable and that [00:03:00] you have to give like this short version of yourself, the business owner, CEO, entrepreneurial version of yourself to your kids when they're just asking you to play. They're just asking you to eat with them, sit at the table with them. Your wife's just asking for some time, not talking about business, not talking about nothing related to that, but to be with her husband. Stop looking at that little amount of time, that one minute, two minute, five minutes. Cause you might think it's a lot of time, but it's just moments. Stop looking at that. Like you're giving them a [00:03:30] present or a gift just because for that moment you were truly there. So how do we do this though? How do we ensure that you can live a life of presence being a state of being? Um, a lot of people think that they, they don't have enough time, right? We all have the same 24 hours in day. Um, What you do. In those times in that 24 hours is what means the most, right? So [00:04:00] yeah, you can have time management. Abso-fucking-lutely everybody needs to learn how to manage their time so they can maximize on 24 hours because just cause you think you're hustling for 10, 14 hours in your business doesn't mean it's productive time. That doesn't mean they're, they're income producing activities. A lot of the time that's you doing me like miniature tasks that aren't going to create more money for the business, or you're distracting yourself with all of this busy work and you're not actually driving the business forward. And so you got to ask yourself, “Well, if that's [00:04:30] happening, if I am not being able to be focused for that 10 14 hours I say I'm hustling, what's causing me to do that? What most men don't realize is they have an energy problem. They try to stretch themselves thin because the world says, well if you work 10 14 hours then you can wear this badge of honor that you're a hustler. But people that do big business and make a lot of money, it's not about the amount of hours that you [00:05:00] work, it's about what's put into those hours. But. In order to manage what's put into those hours, what you need instead of time management is called energy management. Think about it like this, if you had 60 minutes, and you were depleted, you had nothing left in the tank, you're eating like shit, you're not working out, you don't feel connected to your family, everything is basically falling apart. How lethal do you think you're going to be in that hour, that 60 minutes? [00:05:30] Probably not that lethal. Now, when you think about super energized, you feel the love from your children. You feel the love from your spouse, your wife. You feel connected to God. You meditate. You spend time with self. You're fully, fully energized. What do you think you can do in that 60 minutes? That same hour that may be the version of you that's got nothing left in the tank. What do you think the performance difference is going to be? Very different. You're going to, [00:06:00] you're probably going to break records in that one hour high energy versus doing nothing meaningful in that one hour, no energy. So now you think about one, two, three, four, five hours of work in that same space, you're going to get a lot of stuff done once you do four, five hours with nothing in the tank, you're not really getting anything done, but it's going to feel like you're putting a lot of time towards the business. And energetically, what that's going to do is it's going to drain you because now you feel drained in your business, and when you [00:06:30] try to go home, you've got nothing to really give to the kids or to your wife, because you're energetically completely drained, and because you're energetically completely drained, emotionally, you've got nothing to give anybody. And your wife and your kids, they're going to want from you. They're going to want emotions from you. They're going to want connection. But if you have no energy to emotionally connect because you don't have the bandwidth, what happens? Well, your daughter, your son asks if you can play. [00:07:00] And you get short with them, you get pissed off, you get angry, you snap at them. Because you have no energy to emotionally respond properly to them. You see what I'm saying? When your wife, uh, tells you to take out the trash to do the dishes, you pop off on her? Why? Because, energetically, you got nothing left. Energetically, it's going to feel like somebody's trying to take something more from you that you already don't have. And so emotionally, you're going to put a guard up and now again, you're going to project that onto your wife. And that's [00:07:30] what caused risks in people's marriage. And what happens is for a lot of business owners, you don't see that as a lot of entrepreneurs, you don't see that you're doing that, but that's what's happening. So being able to not just manage time, which again is very important. You have to be productive with your time. Absolutely. But in order to be productive with your time, you have to learn how to manage your energy. Cause if I got an hour and you got an hour, I guarantee you I'm not performing somebody in that hour because I keep my state good. I keep my energy good. [00:08:00] And when you guys do that, what it allows you to do again, it allows you to, in business, know how many hours are the most optimal hours you should be hustling, because I can guarantee you in 10 or 14 hours, unless you're doing a push, you're not really being that productive in 10 or 14 hours of hustle. A couple hours, three to five hours of hyper productivity will probably move the needle more than a whole week of 10 or 14 hour days basically
