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► Hi, my name is Robert! For a long time, I wondered why relationships felt so much harder for me than for others. Over the past years, I had the privilege of spending thousands of dollars and countless hours working with four different therapists, exploring what actually creates emotional safety ► Disclaimer: None of the contents are therapeutic or medical recommendations. The contents are not to be understood as therapeutic-medical instructions. I am not a health professional. My content is based on research & my personal experiences working with various therapists as a client for 3 years.

  1. -4 h

    How a Secure Person Responds To Breadcrumbing (From a Recovered Avoidant)

    ► Build secure relationships, without losing yourself: https://understandable.net  (ad) Welcome to today's episode! In this one I share how a secure person responds to breadcrumbing. ► Links and Resources: Avoidant Breadcrumbing Video: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=JVoakqE9UXg&pp=0gcJCUwLAYcqIYzv ► Subscribe On Your Favorite Platform! YouTube: ⁠https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCGiJdF0yeTyRJanW_uSICDw?sub_confirmation=1⁠ Spotify: ⁠https://open.spotify.com/show/2gaheQLxBwByM9txVzlpI6 Apple Podcasts: ⁠https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/understandable/id1399616905 Amazon Music: ⁠https://music.amazon.de/podcasts/ee3580cb-61c5-4aa1-9ad4-1204014078e7/understandable⁠ ► Episode Timestamps: 00:00 Introduction 02:24 What is Breadcrumbing? 05:58 The Psychology of Breadcrumbing 07:45 Insecure vs. Secure Responses to Breadcrumbing 14:21 Story: When I Was Chasing Crumbs 25:20 Why We Can't Stop Chasing Crumbs 30:56 How to Stop Chasing Breadcrumbs ► Reach Out To Me :) E-Mail: info@understandable.net ► Hi, my name is Robert! I make videos about how to build stable, secure relationships without losing yourself or waiting forever for the “perfect” partner. :) ► Disclaimer: None of the contents are therapeutic or medical recommendations. The contents are not to be understood as therapeutic-medical instructions and are neither intended as professional health advice nor as education. I am not a health professional myself. My content is based on research and my personal experiences working with various therapists as a client for three years.

    36 min

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    Avoidant Breadcrumbing: Ex-Avoidant Explains What It Really Means

    ► Build stable, secure relationships without the push and pull: https://understandable.net (ad) Welcome to today's episode! Today I share with you what avoidant breadcrumbing really means and why avoidants practice it. ► Links and Resources: Avoidant vs Narcissist Video: https://youtu.be/uADzIhUsuKc ► Subscribe On Your Favorite Platform! YouTube: ⁠https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCGiJdF0yeTyRJanW_uSICDw?sub_confirmation=1⁠ Spotify: ⁠https://open.spotify.com/show/2gaheQLxBwByM9txVzlpI6 Apple Podcasts: ⁠https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/understandable/id1399616905 Amazon Music: ⁠https://music.amazon.de/podcasts/ee3580cb-61c5-4aa1-9ad4-1204014078e7/understandable⁠ ► Episode Timestamps: 00:00 Understanding Avoidant Breadcrumbing 01:33 Identifying Breadcrumbing Patterns 05:38 The Avoidant Psyche (Filling the Void) 08:43 The Need for Validation 14:11 3 Types of Breadcrumbs 19:40 3 Breadcrumbing Tests 26:00 Solutions for Breadcrumbing ► Reach Out To Me :) E-Mail: info@understandable.net ► Hi, my name is Robert! I make videos about how to build stable, secure relationships without losing yourself or waiting forever for the “perfect” partner. :) ► Disclaimer: None of the contents are therapeutic or medical recommendations. The contents are not to be understood as therapeutic-medical instructions and are neither intended as professional health advice nor as education. I am not a health professional myself. My content is based on research and my personal experiences working with various therapists as a client for three years.

    31 min

  3. -5 j

    Healed Avoidant Explains What Makes Avoidants Always Come Back

    ► Build stable, secure relationships without the push and pull: https://understandable.net (ad) Welcome to today's episode! Today I share with you the three different reasons of what makes avoidants always return after a breakup, rejection or no contact phase. ► Links and Resources: Limerence vs Love Video: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=mmNjDwdPwOA&t=2s ► Subscribe On Your Favorite Platform! YouTube: ⁠https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCGiJdF0yeTyRJanW_uSICDw?sub_confirmation=1⁠ Spotify: ⁠https://open.spotify.com/show/2gaheQLxBwByM9txVzlpI6 Apple Podcasts: ⁠https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/understandable/id1399616905 Amazon Music: ⁠https://music.amazon.de/podcasts/ee3580cb-61c5-4aa1-9ad4-1204014078e7/understandable⁠ ► Episode Timestamps: 00:00 Why Avoidants Return 01:35 Three Types of Avoidants 04:02 Group 1: Unaware Avoidants 11:14 Group 2: Immature Avoidants 16:08 Group 3: Loving Avoidants 20:19 Hope for a Relationship 22:30 Healing and Moving Forward ► Reach Out To Me :) E-Mail: info@understandable.net ► Hi, my name is Robert! I make videos about how to build stable, secure relationships without losing yourself or waiting forever for the “perfect” partner. :) ► Disclaimer: None of the contents are therapeutic or medical recommendations. The contents are not to be understood as therapeutic-medical instructions and are neither intended as professional health advice nor as education. I am not a health professional myself. My content is based on research and my personal experiences working with various therapists as a client for three years.

    24 min

  4. 26 juin

    Healed Avoidant Reveals When an Avoidant Regrets Losing You (Actual Timeline)

    ► Build stable, secure relationships without the push and pull: https://understandable.net (ad) Welcome to today's episode! Here's the avoidant regret timeline. The actual one! ► Subscribe On Your Favorite Platform! YouTube: ⁠https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCGiJdF0yeTyRJanW_uSICDw?sub_confirmation=1⁠ Spotify: ⁠https://open.spotify.com/show/2gaheQLxBwByM9txVzlpI6 Apple Podcasts: ⁠https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/understandable/id1399616905 Amazon Music: ⁠https://music.amazon.de/podcasts/ee3580cb-61c5-4aa1-9ad4-1204014078e7/understandable⁠ ► Episode Timestamps: 00:00 Introduction 02:22 Before the Breakup 07:40 Stage One: Relief 13:32 Stage Two: Realization 17:17 Stage Three: New Normal 18:15 Stage Four: Idealizing 21:21 Stage Five: Actual Regret 23:43 What Regret Means 26:35 Your Healing Timeline ► Reach Out To Me :) E-Mail: info@understandable.net ► Hi, my name is Robert! I make videos about how to build stable, secure relationships without losing yourself or waiting forever for the “perfect” partner. :) ► Disclaimer: None of the contents are therapeutic or medical recommendations. The contents are not to be understood as therapeutic-medical instructions and are neither intended as professional health advice nor as education. I am not a health professional myself. My content is based on research and my personal experiences working with various therapists as a client for three years.

    30 min

  5. 24 juin

    Actual Avoidant: The Psychology of an Avoidant Man During No Contact

    ► Build stable, secure relationships without the push and pull: https://understandable.net (ad) Welcome to today's episode! Today I share the psychology of an avoidant man during the no contact phase with you. ► Links and Resources: Limerence Episode: https://youtu.be/gDz8U2zaF0A?si=yYn1F-uIbJS0mIWt ► Subscribe On Your Favorite Platform! YouTube: ⁠https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCGiJdF0yeTyRJanW_uSICDw?sub_confirmation=1⁠ Spotify: ⁠https://open.spotify.com/show/2gaheQLxBwByM9txVzlpI6 Apple Podcasts: ⁠https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/understandable/id1399616905 Amazon Music: ⁠https://music.amazon.de/podcasts/ee3580cb-61c5-4aa1-9ad4-1204014078e7/understandable⁠ ► Episode Timestamps: 00:00 Introduction 01:37 Two Types of Avoidants 02:45 The Self-Unaware Man 06:51 Self-Unaware No Contact Timeline 15:00 The Self-Aware Man 16:51 Self-Aware No Contact Timeline 22:33 Evaluating Your Relationship ► Reach Out To Me :) E-Mail: info@understandable.net ► Hi, my name is Robert! I make videos about how to build stable, secure relationships without losing yourself or waiting forever for the “perfect” partner. :) ► Disclaimer: None of the contents are therapeutic or medical recommendations. The contents are not to be understood as therapeutic-medical instructions and are neither intended as professional health advice nor as education. I am not a health professional myself. My content is based on research and my personal experiences working with various therapists as a client for three years.

    25 min

  6. 21 juin

    Avoidant or Narcissist? Healed Avoidant Explains How To Tell

    ► Build stable, secure relationships without the push and pull: https://understandable.net (ad) Welcome to today's episode! In this video I explain how to tell if someone has narcissim or an avoidant attachment style. ► Links and Resources: Can Patients With Narcissistic Personality Disorder Change? Paper: https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/38949659/ Narcissistic Personality Disorder: Progress in Understanding and Treatment: https://psychiatryonline.org/doi/full/10.1176/appi.focus.20220052 Earned Secure Attachment Paper: https://journals.sagepub.com/doi/abs/10.1177/00332941241277495 Prevalence of Narcissism Paper: https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/20579503/ The first 10,000 Adult Attachment Interviews Paper: https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/19455453/ Deactivation Video: https://youtu.be/fi-wUf36e9k?si=MsjjB-DCVic0sUPY 8 Phases How I Healed Avoidant Attachment Patterns Video: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4SrSolyrSCQ ► Subscribe On Your Favorite Platform! YouTube: ⁠https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCGiJdF0yeTyRJanW_uSICDw?sub_confirmation=1⁠ Spotify: ⁠https://open.spotify.com/show/2gaheQLxBwByM9txVzlpI6 Apple Podcasts: ⁠https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/understandable/id1399616905 Amazon Music: ⁠https://music.amazon.de/podcasts/ee3580cb-61c5-4aa1-9ad4-1204014078e7/understandable⁠ ► Episode Timestamps: 00:00 Intro 01:49 How Many People are Avoidant vs. Narcissistic? 03:41 Narcissism vs. Avoidant Attachment Behaviors 21:43 The Overlap: Similarities 26:18 Can They Change and become available for Relationships? 29:30 How To Change: What Actually Matters ► Reach Out To Me :) E-Mail: info@understandable.net ► Hi, my name is Robert! I make videos about how to build stable, secure relationships without losing yourself or waiting forever for the “perfect” partner. :) ► Disclaimer: None of the contents are therapeutic or medical recommendations. The contents are not to be understood as therapeutic-medical instructions and are neither intended as professional health advice nor as education. I am not a health professional myself. My content is based on research and my personal experiences working with various therapists as a client for three years.

    33 min

  7. 19 juin

    Healed Avoidant Describes The Exact Moment He Decided to Change

    ► Build stable, secure relationships without the push and pull: https://understandable.net (ad) Welcome to today's episode! The most personaly yet. I describe my last break up phase and the day I decided to change. ► Links and Resources: Limerence Video: https://youtu.be/gDz8U2zaF0A?si=4qCYZ7saWj3pPgu7 Missing Puzzle Piece Video: https://youtu.be/7kGDhim-YlY?si=OWT50rFjoO2gB1_8 Why Avoidants Have no Clue What They Need & Feel Video: https://youtu.be/YoerBrHSdUI?si=6nUYCvwwIDiyqjhV ► Subscribe On Your Favorite Platform! YouTube: ⁠https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCGiJdF0yeTyRJanW_uSICDw?sub_confirmation=1⁠ Spotify: ⁠https://open.spotify.com/show/2gaheQLxBwByM9txVzlpI6 Apple Podcasts: ⁠https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/understandable/id1399616905 Amazon Music: ⁠https://music.amazon.de/podcasts/ee3580cb-61c5-4aa1-9ad4-1204014078e7/understandable⁠ ► Episode Timestamps: 00:00 Before I Decided To Change 07:10 The Moment I Decided To Change 18:16 Did I Come Back to My Ex? 19:30 The Honest Reason Avoidants Pull Away 26:00 What an Avoidant Needs to Change ► Reach Out To Me :) E-Mail: info@understandable.net ► Hi, my name is Robert! I make videos about how to build stable, secure relationships without losing yourself or waiting forever for the “perfect” partner. :) ► Disclaimer: None of the contents are therapeutic or medical recommendations. The contents are not to be understood as therapeutic-medical instructions and are neither intended as professional health advice nor as education. I am not a health professional myself. My content is based on research and my personal experiences working with various therapists as a client for three years.

    32 min

  8. 17 juin

    Healed Avoidant Explains the 5 Stages of an Avoidant Rebound Relationship

    ► Build stable, secure relationships without the push and pull: https://understandable.net (ad) Welcome to today's episode! Many of you asked for the rebound phase. Here it is: The Avoidant's Rebound relationship doom cycle. ► Links and Resources: Deactivation Strategies Video: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=fi-wUf36e9k&t=1s ► Subscribe On Your Favorite Platform! YouTube: ⁠https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCGiJdF0yeTyRJanW_uSICDw?sub_confirmation=1⁠ Spotify: ⁠https://open.spotify.com/show/2gaheQLxBwByM9txVzlpI6 Apple Podcasts: ⁠https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/understandable/id1399616905 Amazon Music: ⁠https://music.amazon.de/podcasts/ee3580cb-61c5-4aa1-9ad4-1204014078e7/understandable⁠ ► Episode Timestamps: 0:00 What About The Rebound Phase? 01:38 Stage 0: Before Breakup 09:52 Stage 1: Preparing the Springboard 13:24 Stage 2: Breakup 17:12 Stage 3: Honeymoon Period 18:51 Stage 4: Trigger Phase 20:32 Stage 5: De-Fantasizing 22:28 The Final Act ► Reach Out To Me :) E-Mail: info@understandable.net ► Hi, my name is Robert! I make videos about how to build stable, secure relationships without losing yourself or waiting forever for the “perfect” partner. :) ► Disclaimer: None of the contents are therapeutic or medical recommendations. The contents are not to be understood as therapeutic-medical instructions and are neither intended as professional health advice nor as education. I am not a health professional myself. My content is based on research and my personal experiences working with various therapists as a client for three years.

    27 min
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► Hi, my name is Robert! For a long time, I wondered why relationships felt so much harder for me than for others. Over the past years, I had the privilege of spending thousands of dollars and countless hours working with four different therapists, exploring what actually creates emotional safety ► Disclaimer: None of the contents are therapeutic or medical recommendations. The contents are not to be understood as therapeutic-medical instructions. I am not a health professional. My content is based on research & my personal experiences working with various therapists as a client for 3 years.

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  • Création
    Robert Siegers
  • Années d’activité
    2018 - 2026
  • Épisodes
    383
  • Classification
    Contenu explicite
  • Copyright
    © Robert Siegers
  • Site web de l’émission
    UNDERSTANDABLE

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