The Backdoor Podcast

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The Backdoor Podcast with Steph & Kayls is where no question is off-limits. The viral duo behind TikTok’s hit “question series” take their raw, hilarious chemistry to the mic — diving deep into relationships, social media, and the realities of being viral creators, parents, and OnlyFans personalities. Expect unfiltered conversations, hot takes, and the kind of honesty everyone thinks but never says. Because sometimes, the real talk happens through the backdoor. NEW episodes Monday & Thusdays.

  1. 2 days ago

    What Your Partner Wishes You Knew But Will Never Tell You | Ep. 81

    What Your Partner Wishes You Knew But Will Never Tell You There are probably things your partner wishes you understood without having to ask—but for one reason or another, they may never actually say them out loud. In this episode, we get into the thoughts, feelings, frustrations, and expectations that partners often keep to themselves. We talk about the little things that can make someone feel loved and appreciated, the things that quietly hurt, the importance of feeling heard and desired, and the expectations couples sometimes assume their partner should already understand. We also discuss why people hold back from saying what they really feel and how unspoken thoughts can eventually create distance in a relationship. This episode is an honest conversation about the things your partner might wish you noticed, understood, or did differently—but may be too nervous, uncomfortable, or afraid to actually tell you. Topics discussed include: Things partners secretly wish you understood Feeling appreciated and valued The little things that matter in a relationship Unspoken expectations Feeling heard and understood Affection, attention, and quality time Things that quietly hurt your partner Why partners sometimes hold back their feelings Communication and emotional needs How unspoken frustrations can affect a relationship What couples can do to better understand each other Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

  2. 20 Aug

    The Relationship Double Standards We All Have.. | Ep. 80

    The Relationship Double Standards We All Have We all have relationship standards—but are we actually willing to follow the same rules we expect from our partner? In this episode, we have an honest conversation about the double standards that can show up in relationships and dating, including the ones we may not even realize we have. We discuss the different expectations people can have for themselves versus their partners, from friendships and social media to jealousy, communication, going out, money, attraction, and boundaries. We also debate whether some double standards are actually unfair or if there are situations where different expectations can make sense. This episode is all about holding ourselves accountable, recognizing our own contradictions, and asking whether we'd be okay with our partner doing the exact same things we do. Topics discussed include: Double standards we have in relationships Expecting things from your partner you don't do yourself Social media and relationship boundaries Jealousy and insecurity Friendships with the opposite sex Going out without your partner Communication and texting expectations Money and spending habits Attraction and flirting Relationship rules and personal boundaries Whether every double standard is actually unfair Holding yourself accountable in a relationship Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

  3. 13 Aug

    The Habits That Make Someone Fall Out Of Love | Ep. 79

    The Habits That Make Someone Fall Out Of Love Falling out of love doesn't always happen because of one huge mistake. Sometimes, it's the small habits that slowly create distance, resentment, and disconnection over time. In this episode, we talk about the everyday behaviors that can quietly change the way your partner feels about you and your relationship. We discuss how taking someone for granted, poor communication, constant criticism, lack of affection, unresolved arguments, emotional distance, and stopping the effort can slowly damage a relationship. We also explore how relationships can change when couples become too comfortable and stop intentionally making each other feel valued. This episode is an honest conversation about the habits that can slowly kill attraction and connection—and what couples can do before those habits become impossible to ignore. Topics discussed include: Taking your partner for granted Lack of effort and consistency Constant criticism and negativity Poor communication Emotional distance and shutting down Neglecting affection and intimacy Never resolving arguments Losing appreciation for your partner Becoming too comfortable in a relationship How small habits can create major relationship problems Ways couples can reconnect before it's too late Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

  4. 6 Aug

    The Green Flags We Ignore.. | Ep. 78

    The Green Flags We Ignore Everyone talks about red flags, but what about the green flags? In this episode, we shift the focus to the positive qualities that often get overlooked in relationships and discuss why they're just as important—if not more important—than spotting warning signs. We break down the healthy behaviors that build trust, respect, and long-term compatibility, while also asking an important question: Is it actually a green flag... or is it just the bare minimum? In a fun segment, we debate common relationship behaviors and decide whether they deserve praise or should simply be expected in a healthy partnership. From communication and consistency to emotional maturity, accountability, and mutual respect, this episode explores what truly makes a relationship strong and why social media may have lowered—or raised—our expectations in all the wrong ways. Whether you're dating, in a long-term relationship, or simply reevaluating what you want in a partner, this conversation will help you recognize the qualities that deserve more attention. Topics discussed include: The green flags people often overlook Green Flag or Bare Minimum? (special segment) Consistency vs. grand gestures Healthy communication habits Emotional maturity and accountability Respect, trust, and reliability Relationship standards and expectations What healthy love actually looks like Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

  5. 27 Jul

    What's Something You'd Never Tell Your Partner | Ep. 76

    What's Something You'd Never Tell Your Partner? Is complete honesty always the best policy, or are there some thoughts that are better left unsaid? In this episode, we explore the question every couple has probably thought about but rarely admits out loud: Is there anything you'd never tell your partner? We discuss the difference between privacy and secrecy, whether every thought needs to be shared, harmless white lies, past relationships, attraction to other people, embarrassing moments, and the boundaries that help build trust rather than break it. We also dive into when honesty strengthens a relationship, when it can create unnecessary hurt, and how couples can communicate openly without feeling like they have to reveal every single thought. Whether you're dating, engaged, or married, this episode offers an honest conversation about trust, communication, and finding the balance between transparency and personal privacy in a healthy relationship. Topics discussed include: Is total honesty always the right approach? Privacy vs. keeping secrets in a relationship White lies and whether they're ever acceptable Thoughts you don't have to share with your partner Past relationships and difficult conversations Trust, boundaries, and emotional safety When honesty helps—and when it can hurt Building stronger communication without oversharing Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

  6. 23 Jul

    The Biggest Myths From Social Media | Ep. 75

    The Biggest Myths From Social Media Social media is packed with advice, trends, and opinions—but how much of it is actually true? In this episode, we break down some of the biggest myths the internet continues to spread about relationships, dating, and everyday life, and discuss how these ideas can shape our expectations without us even realizing it. We dive into viral relationship "rules," unrealistic lifestyle standards, the pressure to constantly compare yourself to others, and why so much online advice lacks real-life context. We also share our own experiences as content creators, discussing the difference between what people see online and what actually happens behind the scenes. If you've ever caught yourself wondering whether social media is helping or hurting the way we think, this episode is an honest conversation about separating fact from fiction and focusing on what really matters. Topics discussed include: The biggest myths social media has normalized Viral relationship advice that isn't always realistic Comparison culture and unrealistic expectations Why highlight reels distort reality The pressure to live a "picture-perfect" life Behind the scenes of being content creators Learning to think critically about online advice Building confidence without comparing yourself to others Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

  7. 20 Jul

    The Lies Social Media Tells Us About Relationships | Ep. 74

    The Lies Social Media Tells Us About Relationships Social media has changed the way we view love, dating, and long-term relationships—but is it setting unrealistic expectations? In this episode, we unpack some of the biggest myths social media promotes and how they can quietly impact the way we see our own relationships. From highlight reels that make every couple look perfect to viral relationship advice, unrealistic standards, public validation, and comparison culture, we discuss how online content can shape our expectations in ways we don't always recognize. We also talk about the pressure to create a "picture-perfect" relationship, why every relationship looks different behind the scenes, and how to build confidence in your relationship without comparing it to what you see online. Whether you're constantly seeing relationship content on your feed or you've caught yourself comparing your relationship to someone else's, this episode offers an honest conversation about separating social media from reality. Topics discussed include: The biggest relationship myths social media pushes Comparison culture and unrealistic expectations The pressure to have a "perfect" relationship online Viral dating advice: helpful or harmful? Public validation and posting your relationship How social media affects trust, communication, and self-esteem Building a healthy relationship away from the internet Focusing on what's real instead of what's viral Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

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The Backdoor Podcast with Steph & Kayls is where no question is off-limits. The viral duo behind TikTok’s hit “question series” take their raw, hilarious chemistry to the mic — diving deep into relationships, social media, and the realities of being viral creators, parents, and OnlyFans personalities. Expect unfiltered conversations, hot takes, and the kind of honesty everyone thinks but never says. Because sometimes, the real talk happens through the backdoor. NEW episodes Monday & Thusdays.

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