The Kink Consultant

Amanda Dames, The Kink Consultant

Welcome to The Kink Consultant podcast, where we’re turning up the heat on all things kink in dating, relationships, and pop culture! Join Amanda each week as she dishes out the juiciest stories, expert advice, and shares a sneak peek behind the bedroom door—with some amazing guests along for the ride. Whether you're just a little kink-curious, ready to spice things up, or a seasoned pro, there's something here for you! Expect fun, laughter, and a whole lot of eye-opening conversations as we explore the wild world of intimacy, kink, and those oh-so-intriguing D/s dynamics.

  1. 19 HR AGO

    I’m Rebuilding My Life…Again

    Back by popular demand, my Biz Dom, Brenda joins me in this episode to talk about what the past year has actually looked like for me. We get into what it means to rebuild your life more than once, and what it’s like being in a 24/7 Dom sub dynamic that feels aligned and expansive while still navigating very real emotions like grief, uncertainty, and starting over. Brenda came prepared with questions that pushed me to slow down, reflect, and actually look at what this season of my life is asking from me. We also get into business, censorship, and what it looks like to be a sex educator online right now when platforms are actively shutting down conversations around safety, pleasure, and education. We talk about the importance of community, why long-form platforms matter more than ever, and how to stay connected in a space that is constantly shifting. If you’ve been going through a big life transition, questioning your path, or just trying to figure out how to hold both excitement and discomfort at the same time, this episode is going to feel very real, very human, and maybe a little bit like the permission slip you didn’t know you needed. I'M HOSTING A LIVE CLASS! Join here: https://www.amandadames.com/domenergy2 Connect with Amanda https://www.amandadames.com/ https://www.instagram.com/the_kinkconsultant/ Book A Consult Call with Amanda https://www.amandadames.com/book-a-consult Download the BDSM Checklist Here: https://www.amandadames.com/resource_redirect/landing_pages/2151620560 Join the Kinky Book Club: https://www.amandadames.com/offers/H3LbqfTw/checkout Courses and Resources to Help Your Kink Journey:  https://www.amandadames.com/store Episode Highlights:  (00:00) Long Distance, Big Decisions, and Moving for Love (08:30) Rebuilding Life in a New City and Starting Over Again (13:10) Finding Small Joys While Navigating Major Life Changes (16:01) Travel, Independence, and Relationship Expectations (27:07) Sex Education, Censorship, and Why Platforms Are Failing Creators

    35 min

  2. 3 APR

    How A Kinky Throuple Relationship Actually Works with Carnivale Risque 

    Let’s be honest, most people hear “throuple” and immediately assume chaos, jealousy, or some kind of messy situation waiting to happen. In this episode, I’m joined by Carnivale Risque, a real-life throuple made up of Tank, Ellez, and Obsidian, who are out here living, loving, and building a life together in a way most people only speculate about. We talk about what non-monogamy actually looks like behind the scenes, not the fantasy, not the internet version, but the real dynamics of communication, boundaries, and sharing a life with more than one partner. They break down how their relationship formed, how they navigate being a closed triad romantically while still playing and sharing energy in kink spaces, and what it really takes to make this kind of relationship work long term. We also get into the stuff people are really curious about but are too scared to ask. Sleeping arrangements, jealousy, conflict, finances, and yes, how three people actually function as a unit without everything falling apart. We talk about emotional maturity, ego checks, and why non-monogamy does not work without radical honesty and self-awareness. If you’ve ever been curious about non-monogamy, questioned the “one person forever” script, or just want a real, human look at what this dynamic can look like when it’s done with care, this episode is going to expand your perspective in the best way. Connect with Carnivale Risque https://carnivalerisque.com/ https://www.instagram.com/carnivalerisque https://www.facebook.com/229898104290303 https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCWAmtkOUzPRcV3rBpzVR9mg https://www.x.com/CarnivaleRisque Connect with Amanda https://www.amandadames.com/ https://www.instagram.com/the_kinkconsultant/ Book A Consult Call with Amanda https://www.amandadames.com/book-a-consult Download the BDSM Checklist Here: https://www.amandadames.com/resource_redirect/landing_pages/2151620560 Courses and Resources to Help Your Kink Journey: https://www.amandadames.com/store Episode Highlights 00:00 Poly and closed triad 23:27 Sex intimacy and kink 26:35 Vulnerability And Intimacy 27:16 Beyond The Fantasy 35:36 Switching Shame And Ego 38:06 Authenticity In The Industry 43:57 Titles And Real Experience

    56 min

  3. 26 MAR

    Dominatrix 101: Negotiation, Limits, and Creating a Safe BDSM Scene with Mistress Tash Mia

    What if the “perfect Dom” isn’t dark, scary, and mean… but sarcastic, grounded, and deeply present? In this episode, I’m joined by Mistress Tash Mia, a professional dominatrix and educator who brings humor, sarcasm, and real-world groundedness into her dominance. We talk about what authentic Dom energy looks like, why safety is the foundation of surrender, and how to start exploring desires without feeling like you need to go “extreme” to be valid. We also get into the behind-the-scenes reality of being a professional space holder, including what it takes to prevent Dom burnout, how to set energetic boundaries, and why presence is one of the rarest (and hottest) skills in BDSM. If you’re dominatrix-curious, already exploring, or trying to navigate power dynamics with a partner, you’re going to feel seen in this one. Press play, take what you need, and let this conversation expand your idea of what a dominatrix really does. Connect with Mistress Tash Mia https://www.instagram.com/theworldoftashmia https://www.mistresstashmia.com/ Sign-up for the Free Dom/Sub Dynamics Virtual Summit here: https://kconsultant--domsubliving.thrivecart.com/vip/ Connect with Amanda https://www.amandadames.com/ https://www.instagram.com/the_kinkconsultant/ Book A Consult Call with Amanda https://www.amandadames.com/book-a-consult Download the BDSM Checklist Here: https://www.amandadames.com/resource_redirect/landing_pages/2151620560 Courses and Resources to Help Your Kink Journey: https://www.amandadames.com/store Episode Highlights: 00:00 Normalizing kink: shame, secrecy, and why desire is more common than we think 03:10 Where to start in kink: identify desires + set an intention 04:00 Safety first: competence, boundaries, and protecting someone’s values 12:00 What makes a “good sub”: communication, consent, and intention 21:00 Training Doms: tools are easy, psychology is the real work 25:00 Dating while kinky: bring it up early, and don’t abandon what matters to you

    35 min

  4. 19 MAR

    What Is Shibari? A Conversation On Rope Bondage with Julieta Chiara

    She started as a sex blogger in Utah, flew to Japan to train under a Shibari master whose stare alone made her cry, and never looked back. In this episode, I sit down with Julieta Chiara, a certified Shibari instructor trained under Japanese master Hajime Kinoko, who went from studying to be a sex therapist to running a sex blog, to teaching Japanese rope bondage from her studio in Tulum. Julietta breaks down the difference between Shibari and Kinbaku, why self-tying is the most underrated way to learn, and how rope bondage can be a somatic meditation even when kink isn't the goal. We also get into her identity as a bonafide submissive who only takes a top role in rope, why she refuses to tie strangers for money, and how psychological kink rather than physical tools is where her submission actually lives.  This episode is intimate, deeply educational, and full of moments that will make you want to pick up a rope. Whether you've always been curious about Shibari or you've been in the scene for years, Julietta's perspective is refreshing, grounded, and genuinely one of a kind. Connect with Julieta Chiara https://www.instagram.com/julietachiara https://www.instagram.com/chiarashibari/ TKC Links Sign-up for the Free Dom/Sub Dynamics Virtual Summit here: https://kconsultant--domsubliving.thrivecart.com/vip/ Last Longer with Promescent. Head over to https://www.promescent.com/ and use the code TKC15 for 15% off. Connect with Amanda https://www.amandadames.com/ https://www.instagram.com/the_kinkconsultant/ Book A Consult Call with Amanda https://www.amandadames.com/book-a-consult Download the BDSM Checklist Here: https://www.amandadames.com/resource_redirect/landing_pages/2151620560 Courses and Resources to Help Your Kink Journey: https://www.amandadames.com/store Episode Highlights: 00:00 Shibari vs. Kinbaku: Why the Debate Is Overblown 08:15 Learning Shibari Online vs. In Person 13:00 How a Bucket List Trip to Japan Became Her Career 19:00 Growing Up Sex-Positive in Salt Lake City 24:00 Self-Tying as Somatic Meditation 26:00 Being a Submissive Who Only Tops in Rope 34:00 Psychological Kink, Objectification, and Getting Into Her Head 36:00 How to Find the Right Dom (It's Just Like Dating) 40:00 Three Things to Know Before Starting Your Rope Journey

    43 min

  5. 12 MAR

    Behind The Scenes of Rouge: The Sexiest Show In Vegas with Zion and Poppy

    The kinkiest show in Vegas is hosted by the most vanilla couple you'll ever meet.  In this episode, I get to sit down with Zion and Poppy, the hosts of Rouge at the Strat, for an inside look at Vegas's sexiest show. These Australian acrobats turned comedy hosts break down how they created the most authentically kinky show on the strip without actually being kinky themselves. We talk about audience interaction, improv comedy with drunk tourists, managing a topless show while pregnant, the wild backstage stories, and why being happily married actually makes them better at hosting a sex-positive show. Zion and Poppy also get real about working six nights a week with a toddler, handling inappropriate audience behavior, and why the best audiences are old married couples who have zero filter. This episode is hilarious, insightful, and a behind-the-scenes peek at what it takes to make Vegas magic. If you've ever wondered what happens backstage at a kinky Vegas show, this conversation delivers. Episode Highlights:  00:00 Why Rouge Stands Out 11:19 Vegas Sex Culture (And What's Actually Legal) 20:03 Favorite Acts in the Show 35:30 Wild Improv Moments and Callback Stories 40:57 Being Kinky Without Being Creepy 54:59 Warming Up the Crowd for Fantasy Answers Connect with Poppy and Zion   https://www.instagram.com/zionandpoppy/ https://www.instagram.com/rouge.vegas/ Connect with Amanda https://www.amandadames.com/ https://www.instagram.com/the_kinkconsultant/ Book A Consult Call with Amanda https://www.amandadames.com/book-a-consult Download the BDSM Checklist Here: https://www.amandadames.com/resource_redirect/landing_pages/2151620560 Join the Kinky Book Club: https://www.amandadames.com/offers/H3LbqfTw/checkout Courses and Resources to Help Your Kink Journey:  https://www.amandadames.com/store Joins the Couples Retreat https://www.amandadames.com/BetaWaitlist

    58 min

  6. 5 MAR

    How To Use Hypnotherapy for Better Sex with Jordan Wolan

    What if you could rewire how your brain stores pleasure in just one session? In this episode, I sit down with Jordan Wolan, a certified hypnotherapist who works with sexual freedom and performance anxiety, to talk about how hypnotherapy can actually help you have better sex. We get into what hypnosis really is (spoiler: you're already doing it when you scroll), how it can rewire your brain to enjoy new positions or experiences, and why your subconscious mind is way more powerful than willpower when it comes to lasting change. Jordan also breaks down hypnokink, how to explore it safely, and why this whole field requires way more ethics and care than most people think. If you've been curious about hypnotherapy, want to understand how your brain stores sexual habits, or you're wondering how to tap into deeper states during play, this conversation will open your mind to what's actually possible. Episode Highlights:  00:00 What hypnotherapy actually is 16:13 Rewiring your brain to enjoy better sex 21:44 Why hypnosis is becoming essential right now 31:30 Hypnokink, ethics, and how to stay safe 35:47 Consent, boundaries, and aftercare in hypnoplay Connect with Jordan Wolan  https://jordanwolan.com/ https://instagram.com/jordanwolan https://www.youtube.com/@JordanWolan Connect with Amanda https://www.amandadames.com/ https://www.instagram.com/the_kinkconsultant/ Book A Consult Call with Amanda https://www.amandadames.com/book-a-consult Download the BDSM Checklist Here: https://www.amandadames.com/resource_redirect/landing_pages/2151620560 Join the Kinky Book Club: https://www.amandadames.com/offers/H3LbqfTw/checkout Courses and Resources to Help Your Kink Journey:  https://www.amandadames.com/store Joins the Couples Retreat https://www.amandadames.com/BetaWaitlist

    43 min

  7. 26 FEB

    Sex Magic, Sigils, and Masturbating to Your Manifestations: A Conversation on Sex Alchemy with Lucy Baldwin

    Sex magic is real. And no, this isn't some Harry Potter stuff. This is actual ritual work that could change how you manifest, orgasm, and deal with your anger. In this episode, I sit down with Lucy Baldwin, shadow alchemist, magician, author, and podcaster, for a wild ride into sex magic, existential kink, and shadow alchemy. Lucy breaks down what sex magic actually is (spoiler: it involves masturbating to sigils), why your genitals are basically your second brain, and how to get off on things you hate through existential kink. We talk about the holy hexagram (yes, it's 69 in four directions), manifestation through orgasm, working with planetary magic instead of being a victim to Mercury retrograde, and why shame is the only thing blocking your pleasure. Lucy also gets real about the origins of existential kink in orgasmic meditation, radical approval, and how to turn your anger into arousal. This episode is mystical, practical, and permission-giving all at once. If you've ever been curious about magic, manifestation, or getting off on your problems, this conversation will blow your mind. Connect with Lucy Baldwin https://www.remolinacoaching.com/ https://www.instagram.com/lucy.baldwin.author Penetrate Radio Podcast https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLqoP78I-OC34i7hK4Vv41gKjr-Fk2QLJS The Seven: Living With The Planets Podcast https://tr.ee/w2lKwwbjLW Connect with Amanda https://www.amandadames.com/ https://www.instagram.com/the_kinkconsultant/ Book A Consult Call with Amanda https://www.amandadames.com/book-a-consult Download the BDSM Checklist Here: https://www.amandadames.com/resource_redirect/landing_pages/2151620560 Join the Kinky Book Club: https://www.amandadames.com/offers/H3LbqfTw/checkout Courses and Resources to Help Your Kink Journey:  https://www.amandadames.com/store Joins the Couples Retreat https://www.amandadames.com/BetaWaitlist

    31 min

  8. 19 FEB

    Can Doms Be Brats? The Debate That Broke KinkTok. A Discussion On Kink Theory, BDSM and Power Exchange

    Can doms be brats? Tripp Terrier says no, and the Internet lost its mind, and honestly he's not wrong. In this episode, I sit down with Tripp Terrier, power exchange content creator, kink theorist, and founder of Subspace, a free biweekly community support group for submissives and switches. We get into the brat-dom debate that's been haunting him for months, why submissives need to stop handing over all their power and actually show up 50%, and what consent really looks like before a scene even starts (hint: it's way more than a yes in the moment). Tripp also opens up about navigating social media as a straight white male dom, getting compared to Andrew Tate, his ADHD diagnosis, sobriety, and why the so-called old guard of kink needs to relax because the whole thing is newer than they think. This one is sharp, unfiltered, and the kind of conversation social media clips could never do justice. If power exchange theory is your thing, buckle up. Connect with Tripp Terrier https://trippterrier.com/ https://www.tiktok.com/@tripp.terrier https://www.instagram.com/trippunderme https://www.youtube.com/@trippterrier https://fetlife.com/TrippTerrier Connect with Amanda https://www.amandadames.com/ https://www.instagram.com/the_kinkconsultant/ Download the BDSM Checklist Here: https://www.amandadames.com/resource_redirect/landing_pages/2151620560 Join the Kinky Book Club: https://www.amandadames.com/offers/H3LbqfTw/checkout Courses and Resources to Help Your Kink Journey:  https://www.amandadames.com/store Joins the Couples Retreat https://www.amandadames.com/BetaWaitlist

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Welcome to The Kink Consultant podcast, where we’re turning up the heat on all things kink in dating, relationships, and pop culture! Join Amanda each week as she dishes out the juiciest stories, expert advice, and shares a sneak peek behind the bedroom door—with some amazing guests along for the ride. Whether you're just a little kink-curious, ready to spice things up, or a seasoned pro, there's something here for you! Expect fun, laughter, and a whole lot of eye-opening conversations as we explore the wild world of intimacy, kink, and those oh-so-intriguing D/s dynamics.

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  • Creator
    Amanda Dames, The Kink Consultant
  • Years Active
    2024 - 2026
  • Episodes
    80
  • Rating
    Explicit
  • Copyright
    © Amanda Dames, The Kink Consultant
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