Do Yourself a Favour

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Tamara (Tam-rah) Callaghan Cooke (or just Tam!) Uses the wisdom of the great thinkers to discuss the whole of life. Talking about not just the pretty shiny parts, but also the challenges and setbacks, and how these very things, when faced courageously, can most lead to growth, joy and success.

  1. 9 hr ago

    Tanya Hallett - The Narcissistic Bully: How to escape their trail of destruction

    They're charming to leadership, devastating to their team, and almost impossible to catch. In this episode, Tam Callaghan sits down with workplace expert Tanya Hallett to talk about narcissistic bullies at work: what they actually are, why organisations keep missing them, and what to do if you're dealing with one.  Tanya breaks down the key difference between a standard workplace bully and a narcissistic one, why the second category is in a completely different league, and how the DAVO pattern (Deny, Attack, Reverse Victim Order) leaves targets confused, doubting themselves, and unable to articulate what just happened. She also covers what gaslighting actually looks like on the ground, why documentation matters more than you think, and what your real options are if you're in the middle of this.  This is one of the most practically useful episodes on workplace harm the show has done. Whether you're a leader trying to understand what's happening in your team, or someone trying to survive a difficult situation, this conversation gives you real tools.  In this episode:  The difference between a bully and a narcissistic bully, and why it matters  The trail of destruction: what happens to teams when one arrives  Why narcissistic bullies are so hard for leaders to spot  DAVO explained: deny, attack, reverse victim order  How gaslighting erodes confidence and psychological safety  What leaders should actually be watching for  Thinking like a lawyer: how to build your evidence  Practical self-protection: documentation, written follow-ups, limiting verbal contact  Your options as a target: cope, escalate, or exit  The real cost to organisations that ignore this  Do Yourself a Favour is available on YouTube: https://linktr.ee/doyourselfafavour_podcast  Join the conversation! Do Yourself a Favour is on Facebook LinkedIn: https//www.linkedin.com/in/tamaracallaghan/  Do Yourself a Favour is recorded at Tailwind Studio: https://www.linkedin.com/company/tailwind-studio  Formerly known as the 50/50 Podcast.  ———————  Chapters  0:00 Intro  0:09 What People Mean by 'Narcissistic Bully'  1:06 Trail of Destruction: Team Impact  3:14 Core Traits: Fragile Ego, Charisma, Managing Up  5:34 Why Leaders Miss Narcissistic Bullies (Red Flags)  6:42 DAVO: Deny, Attack, Reverse Victim Order Explained  9:11 Gaslighting Effects: Confidence & Psychological Safety  11:01 What Leaders Should Watch For (Patterns & Evidence)  15:33 Think Like a Lawyer: Building Your Evidence  19:21 Documentation: How to Record Incidents Safely  20:57 Limit Verbal Contact & Use Written Follow-ups  24:08 Maintain Professionalism — Don't Stoop Down  26:40 Compassion as a Coping Tool (Perspective)  29:00 The 'Ick' Factor: Confusion After Interactions  31:26 Manager Responses & Possible Outcomes  33:58 Options for Targets: Cope, Escalate, or Exit  36:28 Cost to Organisations & Leadership Accountability  39:34 Closing Remarks & Thanks  ———————  #NarcissisticBully #TanyaHallett #TamCallaghan #DoYourselfAFavour #WorkplaceBullying #PsychologicalSafety #Gaslighting #WorkplaceWellbeing #DAVO #Leadership #HRPodcast #WorkplaceCulture #Narcissism #SelfProtection #PodcastAustralia

    40 min

  2. 6 days ago

    The Wind Beneath Your Wings: Worth, Ego and Kindness

    Do you want to be Bette or Barbara? If you know the movie Beaches, you know the question. Bette Midler's character is the star, the one in the spotlight. Barbara Hershey's is quieter, less visible, deeply loving and deeply loved. In this episode, Tam Callaghan has been wrestling with which one she wants to be, and the answer surprised her.  For most of her life Tam's ego has measured her worth through achievement, recognition and applause. But after reading a post about kindness and sitting with what she's contributed over the last 20 or 30 years, she had a genuinely softening realisation: she's been far more Barbara than she ever gave herself credit for.  This episode also covers the backup singer dream, the difference between creating from ego and creating from joy, and why peace and self-love aren't distractions from the mission. They are the mission. Plus, a practical exercise worth doing – Writing a list of 50 things you've done well since the start of the year, split across what you've achieved and what you've done for others.  Warm, honest, and one of Tam's most personal episodes yet.  In this episode:  The Bette vs Barbara question and what it revealed  Why the kindness we show others often goes uncounted in our own minds  Ego achievement vs genuine contribution: measuring life differently  The backup singer dream and what it says about wanting just enough attention  Separating worthiness from what you create  Why self-love is the mission, not a distraction from it  The list of 50 things and how to do it  Do Yourself a Favour is available on YouTube: https://linktr.ee/doyourselfafavour_podcast  Join the conversation! Do Yourself a Favour is on Facebook LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/tamaracallaghan/  Do Yourself a Favour is recorded at Tailwind Studio: https://www.linkedin.com/company/tailwind-studio  Formerly known as the 50/50 Podcast.  ———————  Chapters  0:00 Intro — Beaches reference and audience demographics  0:51 Wrestling with Bette vs Barbara  1:45 Being performer vs supporter — personal history  3:33 The impact of kindness and being 'Barbara'  6:28 Reflection on ego, achievement, and worthiness  9:16 Distinguishing creation from ego-driven success  11:14 Personal dreams and perspective — backup singer story  12:27 Desire for self-recognition and impact  13:50 Self-care as the mission — peace and self-love  14:41 Practical exercise — list of 50 things and closing  ———————  #TamCallaghan #DoYourselfAFavour #Beaches #BetteOrBarbara #SelfLove #Ego #PersonalGrowth #Kindness #Authenticity #SelfCompassion #InnerWork #Worthiness #PodcastAustralia #MindsetShift #BeTheWindBeneathYourOwnWings

    16 min

  3. 16 Jun

    Alvin Quah - How to be truly valuable

    Authenticity gets thrown around constantly in workplaces, but what does it actually mean to bring your real self to work without oversharing, burning bridges, or pretending the bottom line doesn't exist? Tam Callaghan sits down with celebrity chef, LinkedIn writer and longtime friend Alvin Quah to dig into one of the most overused and underexplored ideas in modern work culture.  Alvin brings a perspective that's hard to find: someone who has lived and led in corporate environments, left them, and can now speak with honesty about what psychological safety, authenticity and values alignment actually feel like from the inside. Together, he and Tam cover what it costs when people can't be themselves at work, why a great boss can make a broken company survivable, and why soft skills are foundational, not optional extras.  The conversation also gets into culture, generational difference, introverts in the workplace, hiring for team fit, and what it looks like when trust and friendship exist in a professional setting.  Warm, thoughtful, and the kind of conversation that makes you reconsider a few things.  In this episode:  What authenticity actually means, and what it doesn't  Filters, code-switching and the layers people wear at work  Why psychological safety often lives or dies with one person: your boss  Edited authenticity: being real without being raw  Generations, culture and making space for introverts  How Alvin thinks about hiring and constructive conflict  Why soft skills are the most foundational skills of all  Values, leadership and being genuinely valuable at work  Do Yourself a Favour is available on YouTube: https://linktr.ee/doyourselfafavour_podcast  Join the conversation! Do Yourself a Favour is on Facebook  LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/tamaracallaghan  Do Yourself a Favour is recorded at Tailwind Studio: https://www.linkedin.com/company/tailwind-studio  Formerly known as the 50/50 Podcast.  ———————  Chapters  0:00 Intro — Do Yourself a Favour (Bed Edition)  0:06 Setting the Scene — First On-the-Bed Episode  0:33 Guest Introduction — Alvin Quah  0:57 What We Mean by Authenticity  1:31 Authenticity vs. Corporate Masks  2:03 Filters, Code-Switching & Workplace Layers  6:00 Psychological Safety & Leadership Umbrellas  8:16 Authenticity Isn't Rawness — Edited Authenticity  10:02 Love, Boundaries & Managing Difficult Conversations  12:01 Generations, Culture & The Power of Introverts  17:03 Hiring, Team Fit & Constructive Conflict  22:21 Trust, Friendship at Work & Psychological Safety  24:04 Soft Skills Aren't Soft — Foundational Skills  46:43 Being Valuable — Values at Work and Leadership  1:12:20 Closing Thoughts — Vulnerability, Hope & Wrap-up  ———————  #AlvinQuah #TamCallaghan #DoYourselfAFavour #Authenticity #PsychologicalSafety #WorkplaceCulture #Leadership #SoftSkills #CodeSwitching #TrustAtWork #ValuesAtWork #WorkplaceWellbeing #PodcastAustralia #LinkedInCreator #BringYourselfToWork

    1hr 12min

  4. 10 Jun

    The Terrifying Freedom of Not Knowing

    What do you do when there's no plan, no clear path, and no idea if what you're doing is heading anywhere? In this episode, Tam Callaghan gets honest about the extended period of unknowing she's been living through and what she's learning from it. This one covers the ego structures we build to protect ourselves from disappointment, what happens when those structures fall away, and why the mission she thought she was on turned out to be something else entirely. Tam talks about the difference between chasing external validation and actually finding peace in yourself, why self-love isn't selfish, and what it looks like to just keep taking the next step that feels right without knowing where it leads. It also includes one of her favourite Hugh Laurie quotes, which is worth the listen on its own. Raw, personal, and genuinely useful for anyone sitting with uncertainty right now. In this episode: The ego structure of 'one day I'll be famous' and what happened when it collapsed Why external recognition will never be enough, and what to do instead The bridge of cringe: walking into the fog and staying in motion Why self-love is the foundation, not the reward Choosing a context that works for you rather than against you Doing the next right thing when there's no plan Hugh Laurie on readiness, and why now is as good a time as any Do Yourself a Favour is available on YouTube: https://linktr.ee/doyourselfafavour_podcast Join the conversation! Do Yourself a Favour is on Facebook LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/tamaracallaghan/ Do Yourself a Favour is recorded at Tailwind Studio: https://www.linkedin.com/company/tailwind-studio Formerly known as the 50/50 Podcast. ——————— Chapters 0:00 Terrifying freedom of not knowing 0:10 Privilege and perspective 0:36 Ego: 'One day I'll be famous' 1:43 Facing uncertainty about worth 2:01 Transition, freedom and experimentation 2:26 Faith and trust challenged 2:44 Mission: peace and self-love 4:06 Doing the next right thing 4:37 Walking into the fog — the bridge of cringe 4:58 Breakthroughs, joy and presence 6:00 Choosing a helpful context 7:20 Self-love as the foundation for giving 11:00 Take steps before you're ready; now is as good as any ——————— #TamCallaghan #DoYourselfAFavour #NotKnowing #SelfLove #Uncertainty #PersonalGrowth #Authenticity #InnerWork #ExternalValidation #TrustTheProcess #Ego #Mindset #PodcastAustralia #HughLaurie #BridgeOfCringe

    12 min

  5. 2 Jun

    Daily Serve Nutrition's Jess Burvill - From Supermarkets to 171K Followers

    Tam Callaghan sits down with her friend and accredited dietitian Jess Burvill, the person behind the wildly useful Instagram page Daily Serve Nutrition, to talk about how a career in advertising, a mid-life study pivot, and a clear no-judgment voice turned into one of Australia's fastest-growing nutrition accounts.  Jess came to dietetics as a second career after years in advertising agencies, and it turns out those two worlds have more in common than you'd think. They cover how she applies advertising principles to nutrition content, why simple and useful always wins, what the growth from zero to 171,000 followers in 18 months actually looked like from the inside, and how she handles the less glamorous parts, including trolls, , From the supermarket job that helped shape her thesis focus, and what it takes to study full-time through COVID while working, to her current reality of success, opportunity and truly hard work.  Warm, honest, and a lot of fun.  In this episode:  How advertising skills translate directly into social media content  Why Daily Serve of Nutrition grew so fast and what Jess actually did differently  The IDC posts and why the no-judgment approach resonates  Studying dietetics part-time, then through COVID, while working  The supermarket job that sparked her research direction  Dealing with trolls and imposter syndrome at scale  Brand partnerships, workload, and where it all might go next  Follow Jess: https://www.instagram.com/dailyservenutrition/  Do Yourself a Favour is available on YouTube: https://linktr.ee/doyourselfafavour_podcast  Join the conversation! Do Yourself a Favour is on Facebook  LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/tamaracallaghan  Do Yourself a Favour is recorded at Tailwind Studio: https://www.linkedin.com/company/tailwind-studio  Formerly known as the 50/50 Podcast.  ———————  Chapters  0:00 Intro & Welcome  0:07 Meeting Jess Burvill  0:22 Daily Serve Nutrition — Instagram Praise  1:03 No-nonsense approach & ‘DNC’' posts  1:53 Follower milestone: 171,000 & rapid growth  3:01 Career shift: Advertising to Dietetics  5:01 Advertising skills carried into social content  11:01 Studying, COVID & juggling work  15:00 Supermarket jobs & thesis inspiration  20:03 Dean's Scholar research project  27:00 Content strategy: design, voice & no-judgment  33:00 Challenges: trolls, imposter syndrome & balance  40:00 Workload, brand partnerships & future options  46:00 Reflection on mission, impact & celebrating wins  53:00 Closing, birthday plans & sign off  ———————  #JessBurvill #DailyServeNutrition #TamCallaghan #DoYourselfAFavour #Dietitian #NutritionPodcast #InstagramGrowth #SecondCareer #NoBSNutrition #SocialMediaStrategy #ContentCreator #WomensHealth #PodcastAustralia #HealthyEating #ImposterSyndrome

    1hr 8min

  6. 27 May

    You're Angry at You!

    Tasha Broomhall from Blooming Minds returns to share the findings from her PhD research into how workers and leaders are experiencing Australia's psychosocial safety regulations, and the results are eye-opening.  Leaders across organisations, including very senior ones in large companies, are either unaware of their obligations or aware but left with no clear pathway to meet them. Many are DIYing it on their own time, which creates its own risks. Mid-level managers in particular are being handed responsibility without the agency, resources, or support to actually deliver it, and Tasha's research found they are burning out as a result.  Tasha and Tam cover what a genuine systems approach looks like versus a tick-box one, who should actually own psychosocial safety within an organisation, how to facilitate real cross-level dialogue, the silence problem around vulnerable workers, and some practical things leaders can do right now without waiting for organisational change.  Honest, rigorous, and genuinely important for anyone who manages people or influences how workplaces are designed.  In this episode:  What Tasha's PhD research set out to find and what it revealed  Why leaders are DIYing psychosocial safety and why that's a problem  Who should own this, and why handing it to safety or HR alone doesn't work  Building a cross-functional reference group that actually functions  The mid-level manager squeeze: responsibility without authority  Why vulnerable workers often can't report, and what organisations miss because of it  NDAs, exit processes, and the ethical concerns Tasha raises  Practical steps: the 10-minute check-in, device habits, and consultation pathway  https://www.facebook.com/share/v/1C8EfBw7yP/   https://www.instagram.com/upspiral.life?igsh=MjN6eHZkY3Y1Z3po   'Drink the Poison' Quote Info -    https://fakebuddhaquotes.com/holding-onto-anger-is-like-drinking-poison/   Do Yourself a Favour is available on YouTube: https://linktr.ee/5050_podcast  Join the conversation! Do Yourself a Favour is on Facebook  LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/tamaracallaghan  Do Yourself a Favour is recorded at Tailwind Studio: https://www.linkedin.com/company/tailwind-studio  Formerly known as the 50/50 Podcast.  ———————  Chapters  0:00 Intro & Guest Introduction  0:35 Episode Purpose & Webinar Reflections  2:31 PhD Research Focus: Psychosocial Safety  4:24 Study Method & Key Findings Overview  5:41 Leaders' Uncertainty and DIY Responses  7:28 Theories Used: Systems Thinking & SDT  9:53 Who Owns Psychosocial Safety?  11:07 Building a Cross-Functional Reference Group  13:30 Facilitating Safe Cross-Level Dialogue (example)  22:06 Mid-Level Managers: Burden, Burnout & Boundaries  28:24 Psychosocial Silence: Reporting & Vulnerable Workers  33:54 NDAs, Exit Processes & Ethical Concerns  39:19 Regulatory Duty, SDT & Simple Leadership Tips  40:48 Practical Moves: 10-Minute Check-Ins & Device Habits  45:59 Team-Level Ownership & Consultation Pathways  58:48 Closing: Make Work Better — Vision & Next Steps  ———————  #PsychosocialSafety #TashaBroomhall #TamCallaghan #DoYourselfAFavour #WorkplaceWellbeing #Leadership #MidLevelManagers #WorkplaceCulture #HRPodcast #PsychologicalSafety #WorkHealthAndSafety #SystemsThinking #ManagerBurnout #PodcastAustralia #MakeWorkBetter

    12 min

  7. 19 May

    Tasha Broomhall - Psychosocial Safety at Work: From Simple to Systems-Based Solutions

    T Tasha Broomhall from Blooming Minds returns to share the findings from her PhD research into how workers and leaders are experiencing Australia's psychosocial safety regulations, and the results are eye-opening.  Leaders across organisations, including very senior ones in large companies, are either unaware of their obligations or aware but left with no clear pathway to meet them. Many are DIYing it on their own time, which creates its own risks. Mid-level managers in particular are being handed responsibility without the agency, resources, or support to actually deliver it, and Tasha's research found they are burning out as a result.  Tasha and Tam cover what a genuine systems approach looks like versus a tick-box one, who should actually own psychosocial safety within an organisation, how to facilitate real cross-level dialogue, the silence problem around vulnerable workers, and some practical things leaders can do right now without waiting for organisational change.  Honest, rigorous, and genuinely important for anyone who manages people or influences how workplaces are designed.  In this episode:  What Tasha's PhD research set out to find and what it revealed  Why leaders are DIYing psychosocial safety and why that's a problem  Who should own this, and why handing it to safety or HR alone doesn't work  Building a cross-functional reference group that actually functions  The mid-level manager squeeze: responsibility without authority  Why vulnerable workers often can't report, and what organisations miss because of it  NDAs, exit processes, and the ethical concerns Tasha raises  Practical steps: the 10-minute check-in, device habits, and consultation pathway  Do Yourself a Favour is available on YouTube: https://linktr.ee/5050_podcast  Join the conversation! Do Yourself a Favour is on Facebook  LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/tamaracallaghan  Do Yourself a Favour is recorded at Tailwind Studio: https://www.linkedin.com/company/tailwind-studio  Formerly known as the 50/50 Podcast.  ———————  Chapters  0:00 Intro & Guest Introduction  0:35 Episode Purpose & Webinar Reflections  2:31 PhD Research Focus: Psychosocial Safety  4:24 Study Method & Key Findings Overview  5:41 Leaders' Uncertainty and DIY Responses  7:28 Theories Used: Systems Thinking & SDT  9:53 Who Owns Psychosocial Safety?  11:07 Building a Cross-Functional Reference Group  13:30 Facilitating Safe Cross-Level Dialogue (example)  22:06 Mid-Level Managers: Burden, Burnout & Boundaries  28:24 Psychosocial Silence: Reporting & Vulnerable Workers  33:54 NDAs, Exit Processes & Ethical Concerns  39:19 Regulatory Duty, SDT & Simple Leadership Tips  40:48 Practical Moves: 10-Minute Check-Ins & Device Habits  45:59 Team-Level Ownership & Consultation Pathways  58:48 Closing: Make Work Better — Vision & Next Steps  ———————  #PsychosocialSafety #TashaBroomhall #TamCallaghan #DoYourselfAFavour #WorkplaceWellbeing #Leadership #MidLevelManagers #WorkplaceCulture #HRPodcast #PsychologicalSafety #WorkHealthAndSafety #SystemsThinking #ManagerBurnout #PodcastAustralia #MakeWorkBetter

    59 min

  8. 14 May

    All of you is welcome - How Acceptance Ends Inner Battles

    What if the parts of yourself you most want to get rid of are actually trying to help you? In this episode, Tam Callaghan explores parts therapy and why resisting any part of yourself, whether it's striving, jealousy, impatience, or anxiety, makes it louder, not quieter.  Drawing on her own experience with her striving part, and a conversation with a friend battling impatience, Tam makes a case for welcoming all parts of yourself rather than fighting them. It's the same principle as the previous episode on emotions, applied to the deeper, more persistent forces that drive how we behave.  She shares the experts and resources that have helped her most, and sets herself some homework alongside you.  A good companion episode to What You Resist Persists, but works as a standalone too.  Kim Holland - https://trulybe.au/ Usha Raman - https://usharaman.com.au/ Lachie Samuel - https://www.lachiesamuel.com/   Peter Crone - https://www.petercrone.com/   Mike Fields - https://jmikefields.com/   What is "Parts" Therapy? - https://integrativepsych.co/new-blog/what-is-parts-work-therapy-ifs#:~:text=Parts%20work%20is%20a%20type%20of%20therapy,versions%20of%20managers%20that%20act%20more%20impulsively   In this episode:  What parts therapy is and how it differs from working with emotions  Why rejecting a part of yourself just makes it fight harder  Tam's striving part and what it was actually trying to do  The jealousy example and why she couldn't be with it  Reframing impatience as a strength, not a flaw  Recommended experts including Usha Rahman, Peter Crone, Lockie Samuel and J Mike Fields  Homework: practice arriving as you are     Do Yourself a Favour is available on YouTube: https://linktr.ee/5050_podcast  Join the conversation! Do Yourself a Favour is on Facebook  LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/tamaracallaghan  Do Yourself a Favour is recorded at Tailwind Studio: https://www.linkedin.com/company/tailwind-studio  Formerly known as the 50/50 Podcast.   #AllOfYouIsWelcome #TamCallaghan #DoYourselfAFavour #PartsTherapy #InternalFamilySystems #IFS #SelfCompassion #PersonalGrowth #Striving #PeoplePleasing #Impatience #SelfAcceptance #Mindset #PodcastAustralia #MentalWellness

    16 min
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Tamara (Tam-rah) Callaghan Cooke (or just Tam!) Uses the wisdom of the great thinkers to discuss the whole of life. Talking about not just the pretty shiny parts, but also the challenges and setbacks, and how these very things, when faced courageously, can most lead to growth, joy and success.

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  • Creator
    Tamaracallaghan
  • Years Active
    2024 - 2026
  • Episodes
    77
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    Explicit
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