Desperately Seeking

Mikhila McDaid
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Personal essays in voice-note form, from your friendly neighbourhood oversharer. What began as a birthday bucket list, counting down to 40, evolved in to an exploration of the idea we (especially women) give fewer f*cks as we age. Most recently renamed 'Desperately Seeking' to fall in line with my substack title and make it more easy to find on your chosen podcast player. mikhila.substack.com

  1. Why You Can't FIX Your ADHD Mindset to Money

    2 DAYS AGO

    Why You Can't FIX Your ADHD Mindset to Money

    This year, I’ve been sharing my monthly spending on YouTube, with the larger goal to finally getting my financial s**t together. Turning 40, I had a bit of an ‘enough is enough’ epiphany and decided to start no only limiting my spending, but really scrutinising it. One question I received was from someone who truly did not get it (or me) and wanted to know what my longterm plan was. Surely I wasn’t going to have these rules for myself forever. That was interesting, I hadn’t thought of it but, yes! I probably will. In the same way that you can’t build muscle and then you’re fit forever, I can’t just ‘fix’ my impulsive, dopamine hunting brain and never worry about it again. I am someone who will likely always have to work on these things, medication or not. This came up in the second half of April’s budget chat and I decided to put it out as an audio episode for people who would’t have watched that, but who I think would benefit from either, hearing someone explain what they themselves experience, or who need to understand the other side because that’s not at all how their mind works. Not to be a Russel Brand about it but, I think we can all learn something from my past mistakes here. This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit mikhila.substack.com/subscribe

    26 min
  2. Politics - If You're Not Right, You're Wrong

    29 APR

    Politics - If You're Not Right, You're Wrong

    This is a free preview of a paid episode. To hear more, visit mikhila.substack.com Today’s episode touches on some ‘sensitive’ ground but I don’t think it should be. We’ve always been on different sides but NOW, if you’re not on my side, you’re my enemy. That shouldn’t be the case and it’s no way to change hearts and minds. It just keeps us further apart - and you know SOMEONE is benefitting …

    2 min
  3. People Pleasers - Who Are You Pleasing?

    27 APR

    People Pleasers - Who Are You Pleasing?

    This was inspired by a previous episode, a conversation with Lee and THIS fantastic interview between Lena Dunham and Drew Barrymore. I’d highly recommend you give that a watch, if this is your thing. This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit mikhila.substack.com/subscribe

    32 min
  4. Bad First Wife

    22 APR

    Bad First Wife

    This is a free preview of a paid episode. To hear more, visit mikhila.substack.com I was a bad first wife to my first husband. Almost 20 years later, I can see why.

    1 min
  5. You Should Be Your Own Biggest Fan

    20 APR

    You Should Be Your Own Biggest Fan

    dipping back in to the archives today, I thought this chat was relevant to a conversation I had last week. It was originally recorded as a YouTube video - apologies for the spotty audio - but I didn’t think I could re-record it and capture the same energy so.. here we are. This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit mikhila.substack.com/subscribe

    20 min
  6. ADHD Assessment - Audio/Visual Vlog

    19 APR

    ADHD Assessment - Audio/Visual Vlog

    This is a free preview of a paid episode. To hear more, visit mikhila.substack.com My first Substack VLOG. I wanted to document my feelings before and after my ADHD assessment and it felt like a good time to try video along with audio.

    3 min
  7. The Sober People Pleaser

    15 APR

    The Sober People Pleaser

    This is a free preview of a paid episode. To hear more, visit mikhila.substack.com Since giving up alcohol (originally temporarily) at the end of 2024, I really haven’t missed it at all. I thought I would. I assumed I had a budding dependence (part of why I stopped) and genuinely thought it would be a struggle. It turns out, once my brain decides on something, it’s VERY easy. A similar thing happened with my lucozade habit. I craved it, I couldn’t consider getting through the day without a couple of bottles of that liquid energy. Then one day I decided it had to stop and I have never wanted it since. Weird. Back to drinking. The only times I’ve felt a little tempted by alcohol is in the company of others. I have no need for social lubricant, I’m very happy to stay out late, dance and karaoke sober. The issue isn’t my want for the drink so much as I feel like I’m letting the side down.

    2 min
  8. Setting Boundaries - Not Everything is Your Responsibility

    13 APR

    Setting Boundaries - Not Everything is Your Responsibility

    Today’s episode is from the archives. A no longer available YouTube video, now in audio form. Not everything is your job, so Milo tell me. This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit mikhila.substack.com/subscribe

    14 min
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Personal essays in voice-note form, from your friendly neighbourhood oversharer. What began as a birthday bucket list, counting down to 40, evolved in to an exploration of the idea we (especially women) give fewer f*cks as we age. Most recently renamed 'Desperately Seeking' to fall in line with my substack title and make it more easy to find on your chosen podcast player. mikhila.substack.com

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  • Creator
    Mikhila McDaid
  • Years Active
    2025 - 2026
  • Episodes
    50
  • Rating
    Explicit
  • Copyright
    © Mikhila McDaid
  • Show Website
    Desperately Seeking

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