Divorce Happens

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Welcome to Divorce Happens, the podcast where we inspire, educate, and support you through divorce and beyond so that you can start fresh on the next phase of your journey. Produced by Fresh Starts Registry, the only divorce registry platform for everything you need to begin again, including home items, hype team, and everything in between. Remember, divorce happens...and then, we start fresh. We're here to support you before, during, and after divorce. Hosted by Olivia Dreizen Howell, the co-founder and CEO of Fresh Starts Registry.

  1. 50 Challenges. 6 Continents. One Divorce: How Lisa Niver Found Herself — and Fearlessness — After 50 with Lisa Niver

    14 hr ago

    50 Challenges. 6 Continents. One Divorce: How Lisa Niver Found Herself — and Fearlessness — After 50 with Lisa Niver

    She was lying on the ground in Thailand, her husband having just shoved her in public, not knowing if her neck was broken, her arm was broken — knowing only that her heart was. In that moment, journalist, traveler, and diver Lisa Niver could not have imagined that the next chapter of her life would take her skydiving, mountain biking down a ski run in Lake Tahoe, and scuba diving with bull sharks in Mexico. She could not have imagined that she would turn 50 on the other side of all that pain — freer, braver, and more herself than she had ever been. But that is exactly what happened. Lisa is the author of Brave-ish: One Breakup, Six Continents, and Feeling Fearless After 50 — a memoir that begins on the worst day of her life and traces the extraordinary journey that followed. After returning to Los Angeles alone from Asia, Lisa threw herself into the unknown: therapy, a gym with pole dancing and burlesque classes, an undiagnosed eye condition finally identified and corrected, and eventually, 50 challenges she set for herself before turning 50. Along the way, she discovered something that quietly changed everything — that bravery isn't a trait you're born with or without. It's not a light switch that's either on or off. It's exposure. It's support. It's showing up to shark school in the morning so you can go into the water in the afternoon. Lisa had spent years believing she was the kind of person who wasn't brave. Divorce, and everything that came after it, proved her wrong. This episode is for anyone who has ever stood at the wreckage of something they thought would last forever and wondered if they would ever laugh again, travel again, feel like themselves again. Lisa's answer — generous, funny, and hard-won — is yes. It gets better. And sometimes the path through is not the one you planned, but the one that asks you to try something you never thought you could do. You don't have to write the next chapter. You just have to turn the page. 🔗 Check out Fresh Starts Registry: The first & only divorce registry + support platform ➡ https://www.freshstartsregistry.com/ 📱 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/freshstartsregistry/ 📘 Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/FreshStartsRegistry 🎙 Podcast IG: https://www.instagram.com/divorcehappenspod/ 📬 Magazine: https://divorceguidemagazine.com/

    15 min

  2. 2 days ago

    Hey Olivia, Why Do I Feel So Much Guilt When I Think About Leaving My Emotionally Abusive Husband?

    If you’ve ever sat with the thought of leaving an emotionally abusive relationship and felt, instead of relief, a wave of guilt — this episode is for you. Not the guilt of someone who is doing something wrong. The guilt of someone who has been so thoroughly conditioned to put themselves last that the simple act of imagining their own freedom feels like a betrayal. In this deeply compassionate and psychologically grounded solo episode of Divorce Happens, host Olivia Howell names that specific, gut-wrenching feeling and does something more valuable than tell you to push past it: she explains exactly where it comes from. Because understanding the source of the guilt — really understanding it — is what begins to loosen its grip. Olivia walks through two of the most important and most misunderstood psychological realities of emotionally abusive relationships. The first: that the guilt survivors feel when they consider leaving is not their conscience speaking. It is the abuse speaking. Emotional abuse works, in part, by systematically training its target to feel responsible for the abuser’s feelings, reactions, and pain — so that any act of self-prioritization triggers shame. The second: trauma bonding. Olivia explains in clear, accessible terms why the brain forms a powerful attachment to an abusive partner through cycles of tension, cruelty, and relief — and why knowing a relationship is harmful is entirely compatible with feeling an overwhelming pull to stay. Both of these frameworks offer the same thing: not an excuse, but an explanation. And explanations, offered with warmth and without judgment, have the power to change everything. The episode closes with the section that will hit hardest for parents: the guilt about the children. Olivia speaks directly and without hedging to the mothers who are staying, or hesitating, because of their kids — and offers the clearest possible reframe: children do not need their parents to stay together. They need their parents to be safe and present. And a parent being worn down by emotional abuse cannot be fully present, no matter how hard they try. This is not a comfortable thing to hear. It is a true thing. And the women who need to hear it most are the ones this episode is for. If you are anywhere on the spectrum of considering leaving an emotionally abusive marriage — the questioning stage, the terrified stage, the almost-ready stage — this episode will make you feel less alone, more understood, and a little more certain that what you are feeling is not proof that you are wrong. 🔗 Check out Fresh Starts Registry: The first & only divorce registry + support platform ➡ https://www.freshstartsregistry.com/ 📱 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/freshstartsregistry/ 📘 Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/FreshStartsRegistry 🎙 Podcast IG: https://www.instagram.com/divorcehappenspod/ 📬 Magazine: https://divorceguidemagazine.com/

    8 min

  3. 2 days ago

    Hey Olivia, What Are Your Feelings on Divorce Parties? (My Honest Answer!)

    What if the end of your marriage deserved a party? Not in spite of how hard it was — but because of it. In this joyful, irreverent, and unexpectedly moving solo episode of Divorce Happens, host Olivia Howell makes the full-throated, unapologetic case for divorce parties — and why throwing one might be one of the most psychologically meaningful things you can do for yourself after divorce. This is the episode that will make you laugh, maybe tear up a little, and then immediately start texting your best friend about a date. It’s fun. It’s real. And it makes a genuinely compelling argument that the way we treat the end of a marriage says everything about how we value the people inside it. Olivia opens by dismantling the cultural shame that tells us divorce is something to be gotten through quietly — moved past quickly, spoken about in hushed tones, survived rather than celebrated. She reframes divorce as what it actually is: a decision. Often one of the bravest, most self-aware decisions a person will ever make. And she draws a sharp, clarifying parallel: we throw parties for graduations, new jobs, babies, retirements — every major life transition where one chapter closes and another begins. Divorce is all of that. It is frequently the most significant transition of a person’s adult life. So why, she asks, would we not mark it? From there, she gets into the real psychology of ritual — why ceremony matters, what it does for your nervous system and your sense of self, and why skipping the ritual often means skipping the processing. A divorce party, in whatever form it takes, is a way of planting a flag: I made it through that. I’m still here. The episode closes with something that hits harder than you might expect from a conversation about parties: an invitation to stop waiting until you’ve fully healed, until everything is figured out, until the new life is all lined up perfectly. Olivia’s argument is that you deserve to be celebrated now — in the middle of the rebuilding, on the other side of the hardest part, exactly as you are. From a low-key dinner with the three people who held you together, to a weekend trip somewhere you always wanted to go, to a full-on night out in a dress you feel incredible in — every version counts. Every version is right. This episode is a permission slip, a toast, and a love letter to everyone who made it through. 🔗 Check out Fresh Starts Registry: The first & only divorce registry + support platform ➡ https://www.freshstartsregistry.com/ 📱 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/freshstartsregistry/ 📘 Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/FreshStartsRegistry 🎙 Podcast IG: https://www.instagram.com/divorcehappenspod/ 📬 Magazine: https://divorceguidemagazine.com/

    7 min

  4. 2 days ago

    Hey Olivia, How Do I Start Talking About Possibly Separating When Communication Is Gone?

    There is a particular kind of loneliness that lives inside a marriage that has gone quiet — where you’ve been having the conversation about separating entirely in your own head for weeks or months, but haven’t said a single word of it out loud. Not because you don’t know what you feel. But because you genuinely don’t know how to start — especially when real communication between you and your spouse has all but disappeared. In this solo episode of Divorce Happens, host Olivia Howell sits with that exact moment and offers something rare: not a to-do list, but a deeply compassionate and practically useful framework for what it actually takes to crack open that silence. Olivia begins with the reframe that changes everything: when communication breaks down in a marriage, it isn’t laziness or weakness that keeps the hard conversations from happening. It’s a nervous system doing its job — protecting you from a pattern that has taught you, over and over, that bringing things up leads somewhere painful. Understanding that is the first step toward finding the conditions that make the conversation possible rather than impossible. From there, she walks through how to start small — not with the full weight of the word “divorce,” but with a single honest sentence that opens a door rather than detonates a bomb. She covers when and where to have this conversation, why writing it down first is an act of self-advocacy rather than weakness, and what it means to give yourself permission to need support before you say a single word to your spouse. What makes this episode so quietly powerful is what it gives listeners permission to feel: that the silence in their marriage is not a personal failure, that they are not obligated to have a conversation they aren’t ready for, and that the beginning of this process doesn’t have to be perfect — it just has to be honest. For anyone sitting in the in-between space of a marriage that feels over but hasn’t been named yet, this episode is a hand reaching through the silence. It’s the step before the step — and it’s exactly where so many people need to start. 🔗 Check out Fresh Starts Registry: The first & only divorce registry + support platform ➡ https://www.freshstartsregistry.com/ 📱 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/freshstartsregistry/ 📘 Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/FreshStartsRegistry 🎙 Podcast IG: https://www.instagram.com/divorcehappenspod/ 📬 Magazine: https://divorceguidemagazine.com/

    7 min

  5. 3 days ago

    Hey Olivia, How Do I Tell My Husband That I Want a Divorce?

    There is a question that lives in the bodies of thousands of people right now — not just in their minds, but in the tightness of their chests and the sleepless hours of 3 a.m. It’s not “should I get divorced.” It’s the harder, more specific thing: how do I actually say the words? In this intimate solo episode of Divorce Happens, host Olivia Howell steps into that question with the steady, grounded warmth of someone who has been there — and who has spent years sitting with women who have been there too. Whether you’ve been rehearsing this conversation in your head for months or you’re just beginning to let yourself admit what you know, this episode meets you exactly where you are. Olivia walks through four practical, compassionate frameworks for approaching the conversation: how to get grounded in yourself before you say a single word to him; why your safety — physical, emotional, and financial — is the non-negotiable first filter; how to choose the right moment and setting; and what to actually say when you sit down to do it. She offers three real opening scripts — calm, clear, and human — that you can adapt in your own voice. And she makes one of the most important distinctions in the episode plainly clear: you are not asking for his permission. You are communicating a decision. That shift alone can change everything about how you walk into the room. The episode closes with something equally important: what comes after. Because however he responds — with silence, with rage, with grief, with relief — his reaction is not yours to manage, solve, or take back. Olivia reminds listeners that this conversation doesn’t have to be finished in one sitting, that they are allowed to hold a boundary in how it unfolds, and that the bravery it takes to say these words out loud deserves to be honored — even if the only person honoring it in the moment is you. If you’re not quite ready for this conversation yet, she points you to the episode before this one. And if you are ready — this episode will help you get there. 🔗 Check out Fresh Starts Registry: The first & only divorce registry + support platform ➡ https://www.freshstartsregistry.com/ 📱 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/freshstartsregistry/ 📘 Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/FreshStartsRegistry 🎙 Podcast IG: https://www.instagram.com/divorcehappenspod/ 📬 Magazine: https://divorceguidemagazine.com/

    9 min

  6. 3 days ago

    Hey Olivia, How Do I Push Past the Fear and File Against My Narcissistic Ex?

    There’s a question that sits quietly in the minds of thousands of people every single day — and this week, one woman had the courage to send it to Olivia’s Instagram DMs: “How do I push past the fear and file against my narcissistic ex? We have a two-year-old.” In this intimate solo episode of Divorce Happens, host Olivia Howell speaks directly to that listener — and to every person navigating the terrifying intersection of narcissistic abuse, co-parenting fears, and the decision to finally leave. This is the episode for anyone who has sat with a racing heart and asked: am I safe to do this? Olivia unpacks one of the most misunderstood dynamics in high-conflict divorce: that the fear you feel before you file isn’t a sign that you’re weak — it’s evidence that your nervous system has been conditioned by someone who weaponized fear to keep you in place. She addresses the most common concern that holds parents back — the children — and offers a clarifying, research-backed reframe: staying in a toxic dynamic doesn’t protect your kids. It shapes them. A two-year-old’s nervous system is learning what love and conflict look like right now, from the environment you’re living in. Filing for divorce isn’t abandoning your child. In many cases, it’s the most protective thing you can do. This episode closes with a powerful reminder: you do not have to white-knuckle your way through a narcissistic divorce alone. Building your team — a family law attorney experienced in high-conflict cases, a therapist or divorce coach who understands narcissistic abuse dynamics, and a circle of people who know the truth — is not a luxury. It’s a survival strategy. If you’re in this season right now, this episode will give you something more valuable than advice: it will give you permission to take the first step. 🔗 Check out Fresh Starts Registry: The first & only divorce registry + support platform ➡ https://www.freshstartsregistry.com/ 📱 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/freshstartsregistry/ 📘 Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/FreshStartsRegistry 🎙 Podcast IG: https://www.instagram.com/divorcehappenspod/ 📬 Magazine: https://divorceguidemagazine.com/

    6 min
  7. The Good Divorce: How to End Your Marriage Without Ending Your Family by Karen McNenny

    3 days ago

    The Good Divorce: How to End Your Marriage Without Ending Your Family by Karen McNenny

    What if divorce didn't have to destroy your family — what if it could actually make it better? That's the radical, deeply human premise at the heart of this week's episode of Divorce Happens, and it's brought to life by someone who's lived it, studied it, and built an entire career helping others do it well. Karen McNenny is a 15-year divorce survivor, certified divorce coach, co-parent specialist, parent team expert, and Crucial Conversations trainer. As founder of the Good Divorce Academy, she helps couples navigate the end of their marriage not as adversaries but as partners in protecting their children's future. And now, fresh off the press in May 2026, she's the author of The Good Divorce: How to End Your Marriage Without Ending Your Family — a book Olivia describes as the one she would have handed her own parents when she was ten years old, watching her own family come apart. The conversation goes deep, fast. Karen reframes divorce not as a failure or a weapon, but as a tool of transformation — a life transition that, when navigated with intention and education, can reduce conflict, protect children, and even leave families with more grace, kindness, and love than they had before. What lingers long after the episode ends is the quiet power of Karen's closing wisdom: don't stay too long, and find your way to an elegant exit. She reminds listeners navigating divorce recovery that healing is ultimately an inside job — it has nothing to do with whether your co-parent cooperates, and everything to do with the story you choose to keep telling yourself. Her framework for the two-home family, her concept of the compost pile (turning what's gone sour into fertilizer for something new), and her reminder that everything will be okay in the end — and if it's not okay, it's not the end — offer both a roadmap and a lifeline for anyone who thought a good divorce was impossible. This episode is essential listening for every divorcing parent, divorce-adjacent family member, or professional working with families in transition. Website - https://www.karenmcnenny.com/ Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/karenmcnenny/ Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/gooddivorcecoach YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/@karenmcnenny1344/videos LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/in/gooddivorcecoach/ Goodreads - https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/241964095-the-good-divorce Amazon - https://www.amazon.com/Good-Divorce-Marriage-Without-Ending/dp/1394374267 Bookshop - https://bookshop.org/p/books/the-good-divorce-how-to-end-your-marriage-without-ending-your-family-karen-mcnenny/b6ad733ab25c13b2

    32 min

  8. 21 May

    Is It Okay to Feel Relieved After Divorce? Yes. Here's Why You Need to Stop Feeling Guilty About It with Olivia Howell

    There's an emotion that lives in a quiet corner of a lot of divorced women — one they haven't said out loud to their therapist, their best friend, or maybe even themselves. And in this solo episode of Divorce Happens, Olivia is naming it directly: relief. Relief after divorce — or even during it — is one of the most common and least talked-about emotional experiences of divorce recovery. The exhale that finally comes. The shoulders that finally drop. The quiet that feels like peace instead of loneliness. And then, almost in the same breath, the guilt that crashes in right behind it. Because what kind of person feels relieved that their marriage is over? What does that say about you? Olivia's answer is clear and compassionate: it says you were carrying something very heavy for a very long time. That's it. That's the whole answer. In this episode, Olivia unpacks why relief is not a confession — not proof that you never loved him, that your marriage meant nothing, or that you're grieving wrong. It's a physiological response. It's your nervous system finally exhaling after years of being on high alert. She also speaks directly to the women who felt relieved and then immediately wondered if that relief meant they should have left sooner — and why that line of thinking deserves a really careful second look. The most powerful takeaway of this episode might be this: relief and grief are not opposites. They can exist in the exact same moment. You are allowed to exhale and also cry. To feel lighter and also feel the loss. To be glad it's over and still mourn the version of it you always hoped it could be. These are not contradictions. They are the completely human, completely valid emotional reality of ending a marriage. This one is for every woman who has felt relieved and then felt ashamed of it. You don't have to whisper about this anymore. In this episode: Why relief after divorce is one of the most common — and most shamed — emotions in divorce recoveryWhat relief actually tells you about how much you were carryingWhy feeling relieved doesn't mean you were wrong to stay as long as you didHow relief and grief can exist at the exact same time — and why that's not a contradictionA direct, loving message to the women who feel guilty for finally being able to breathe 🔗 Check out Fresh Starts Registry: The first & only divorce registry + support platform ➡ https://www.freshstartsregistry.com/ 📱 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/freshstartsregistry/ 📘 Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/FreshStartsRegistry 🎙 Podcast IG: https://www.instagram.com/divorcehappenspod/ 📬 Magazine: https://divorceguidemagazine.com/

    6 min
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Welcome to Divorce Happens, the podcast where we inspire, educate, and support you through divorce and beyond so that you can start fresh on the next phase of your journey. Produced by Fresh Starts Registry, the only divorce registry platform for everything you need to begin again, including home items, hype team, and everything in between. Remember, divorce happens...and then, we start fresh. We're here to support you before, during, and after divorce. Hosted by Olivia Dreizen Howell, the co-founder and CEO of Fresh Starts Registry.

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  • Channel
    Fresh Starts
  • Creator
    Fresh Starts Registry
  • Years Active
    2024 - 2026
  • Episodes
    244
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    Clean
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    © Fresh Starts Registry
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    Divorce Happens

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