More than Roommates Scott Kedersha, Derek Davidson, Gabrielle McCullough

In this episode, Derek and Scott interview speaker and author, Jordan Raynor. Jordan is a leading voice of the faith and work movement, and in this episode we get very practical as we discuss the connection, challenges, and opportunities of work and marriage.

Questions for Discussion:
1. Spend some time thinking about Jordan’s statement – who do you do your work with?
2. How can you not let your work/jobs negatively affect your marriage and family?
3. How can you be fully present both at home AND at work?

Resources:
Books by Jordan Raynor – Redeeming Your Time, The Sacredness of Secular Work, The Word Before Work
Website – Jordanraynor.com
Jordan’s Podcast – Mere Christians
Book – Every Good Endeavor, by Tim Keller

Scripture:
Genesis 1:26-28
Revelation 21
Isaiah 65:17-23

 In Part 2 in a series on emotional intimacy, Derek, Gabrielle, and Scott discuss how to practically grow in emotional intimacy with your spouse. Check out Part 1 of this 2-Part series if you haven't already!
  
Scriptures:
Genesis 2:25
Galatians 6:2
Ephesians 5:31-32
Matthew 18:15-17
Ecclesiastes 4:9-10
 
Resources:
Podcast – More Than Roommates - Episode 80 – Fully Known, Fully Loved
Podcast – More Than Roommates - Episode 64 - Questions to Ask Your Spouse Every Week
Book – Untangle Your Emotions, by Jennie Allen
Book – The Voice of the Heart, by Chip Dodd
Book - The Naked Marriage, by Dave and Ashley Willis

Questions to Discuss:
1. How do you handle an “emotional mismatch” in your marriage (when one more readily expresses/shares/shows their emotions)?
2. What prevents you from being emotionally intimate with your spouse (i.e., technology, invalidation)?
3. How can you create more time and space for emotional intimacy?

We don’t often talk about emotional intimacy in marriage—we get to be fully known and fully loved in marriage. In part 1 of this 2-part series on emotional intimacy, Derek, Gabrielle, and Scott discuss what it means to be emotionally intimate in marriage.

Scriptures:
Genesis 2:25
2 Corinthians 12:9-10

Resources:
Book – The Voice of the Heart, by Chip Dodd
Book - The Naked Marriage, by Dave and Ashley Willis

3 Questions to Ask Your Spouse:
1. Is there anything that I’m holding back from or not confessing to my spouse?
2. How can we be more emotionally intimate with each other (i.e., clear out time and space for emotionally intimacy)?
3. Am I providing a safe space for my spouse?

Are you and your spouse thoughtful about your views and practices about drinking/alcohol? In this episode of More Than Roommates, Derek, Gabrielle, and Scott discuss how to be more thoughtful about decisions you make about drinking and alcohol.

Scriptures:
John 2
1 Corinthians 6:12
1 Corinthians 10:31
Ephesians 5:18
Isaiah 5:22-23

Questions to Discuss:
1. When did you have your first alcoholic drink (if ever)?
2. How can you and your spouse be more thoughtful about alcohol and your marriage?
3. Have a conversation with your spouse and an age-appropriate conversation with your kids about alcohol.

Resources:
Christ-Centered Recovery - Regeneration Recovery & Celebrate Recovery
Substance Abuse Resources

Many of us struggle with anger in small and big ways. How does your anger impact your spouse and your marriage? In this episode of More Than Roommates, Derek, Gabrielle, and Scott discuss how anger impacts our own marriages and how anger can affect your marriage as well.
 
Scriptures:
Proverbs 15:1
Ephesians 4:26-27
Proverbs 21:19
James 1:19-20, 4:1
 
Questions to Discuss:
1. What are the small day-to-day things that get you frustrated?
2. Do you find yourself quick to anger or slow to anger? What would your spouse say about you?
3. What are the triggers that you’ve identified that make you quick to anger both in life in general and in your marriage?

Resources:
Book – Unoffendable, by Brant Hansen

Like it or not, our struggles affect our marriages more than we realize. In this episode of More Than Roommates, Gabrielle and Scott talk with Ann Daly about struggles, recovery, and your marriage. Because of Jesus, life change is possible for everyone and for every marriage.

Scriptures:
James 5:16
Proverbs 28:13
Genesis 2:24
Galatians 1:10
Romans 5:3-5
1 Peter 4:19
Galatians 6:9
Hebrews 3:13

Resources:
Regeneration recovery – change is possible!
Regeneration Struggle Finder – What are you struggling with?
Celebrate Recovery

Questions to Discuss:
1. Do you tend to identify yourself by your sin or by your relationship with Jesus Christ?
2. How do your issues/challenges affect your marriage?
3. What lies do you tend to believe? Who does God say you are? (Replace the lies with Truth).