Orthodox Conundrum

Scott Kahn

The Orthodox Conundrum is a forum in which we look honestly at the Orthodox Jewish community, identifying what works well and what does not, so that, through an honest accounting, we can find solutions that will be successful. We will examine some of the major issues that affect the Orthodox world, without exaggeration, whitewashing, or pretending that they don't exist. Our hope is that the Orthodox Conundrum will spark wider discussion that will enable Orthodox Judaism to continue moving forward in the areas at which it excels, and to rectify the areas that need improvement.

  1. What Is a Seruv? Understanding Get Refusal and the Jewish Divorce Process (286)

    2 小時前

    What Is a Seruv? Understanding Get Refusal and the Jewish Divorce Process (286)

    Check out Orthodox Conundrum Commentary on Substack and get your free subscription by going to https://scottkahn.substack.com/ - and paid subscribers get this and other episodes of the Orthodox Conundrum Podcast ad-free and with early access and additional bonus content! Today's episode deals with a topic that many people have heard about, but far fewer people actually understand. Terms like get refusal or seruv are often mentioned, sometimes with strong reactions, but often without a clear sense of what they mean in practice. So in this conversation, we're going to take a step back and try to understand the system itself. What exactly is a seruv? How does the Beit Din process work when a couple is going through a divorce? At what point does a difficult or contentious situation cross the line into something more serious? And where does the system function as it is meant to, and where does it sometimes break down? My guests today are Jen Lankin, co-CEO of ORA, the Organization for the Resolution of Agunot, and Rabbi Jonathan Hefter, ORA's Director of Partnerships and Innovation. ORA works closely with individuals navigating some of the most complex and painful cases in the Jewish divorce system, and they bring both practical experience and a broader perspective on how these situations unfold. One of the important ideas you will hear in this episode is that these situations can become complicated very quickly, but that complexity does not change the underlying reality. When a get is being withheld or used as leverage, that is a serious problem. And understanding how and why that happens is essential if we want to address it effectively. We also talk about concepts that are not always part of the public conversation, like "get delay," the role of community responsibility, and an emerging view that the get may need to be given earlier in the process in order to avoid becoming a point of leverage. And just as importantly, we discuss the idea of survivor led advocacy. Public pressure, including rallies, protests, and communal action, can sometimes be effective, and ORA does use those tools. But they are not always the right approach, and even when they are, it is essential that the agunah herself is the one guiding that decision. The process matters, not just the outcome, and supporting someone through this kind of situation means ensuring that she retains agency over how her case is handled. This is a serious and sometimes uncomfortable topic. But it is also an opportunity to better understand how the system works, and to think more carefully about how we, as a community, respond when things do not go as they should. Please listen to and share this podcast, and let us know what you think on the Orthodox Conundrum Discussion Group on Facebook (https://www.facebook.com/groups/432020081498108). Thanks to all of our Patreon subscribers, who have access to bonus JCH podcasts, merch, and more - we appreciate your help, and hope you really enjoy the extras! Visit the JCH Patreon site at https://www.patreon.com/jewishcoffeehouse. Write to aliza@jewishcoffeehouse.com to learn all about creating your own podcast. Music: "Happy Rock" by bensound.com

    1 小時 11 分鐘
  2. 3月31日

    The Most Commonly Asked Questions About Hilchot Pesach, with Rav Chayim Soloveichik (Orthodox Conundrum Classic)

    As Jewish people across the globe prepare for Pesach, we're pleased to re-release this classic episode of the Orthodox Conundrum, originally published in March, 2023. More than any other Jewish holiday, Pesach is associated with questions. That's obviously true for the Seder, but it's also true when it comes to the intense preparations that precede the chag. Jewish law regarding cleaning for Pesach is very extensive, and the misconceptions are often very prevalent. For that reason, we're proud to present a conversation with Rav Chayim Soloveichik shlit'a, where Scott asked some of the most common questions people ask as they prepare for Pesach. We thank Rav Chayim for generously giving his time and expertise, and hope that this episode can serve as a valuable resource and guide as people throughout the Jewish world get ready for Zman Cheiruteinu. Among the issues Rav Chayim addressed are: 8:54 - Crumbs and vacuuming 10:39 - Purchasing milk and eggs before Pesach 12:43 - Medicines on Pesach 14:29 - Defining "Nifsal M'achilat Kelev" (something inedible to a dog) 18:24 - New lipstick or ChapStick on Pesach 18:38 - Canola oil 20:28 - At what point do kitniyot become forbidden on Erev Pesach for Ashkenazi Jews, and can they be cooked in a kosher for Pesach pot 23:10 - Egg matzah 23:42 - Checking books for crumbs 24:50 - Selling chometz 27:46 - Preparing the house if you're going away for the entire holiday 29:33 - Roommates who jointly own chometz 30:10 - A car wash before Pesach 30:48 - Foods that don't require special Pesach certification 31:35 - Dismantling pots and pans before kashering them 31:57 - Kashering a pot with a stain 32:21 - Kashering a gas stove 33:55 - Kashering a non-self-cleaning oven 35:16 - The 24 hour rule regarding an urn used to kasher counters and sinks  35:50 - Lining the refrigerator 36:43 - Kashering a metal sink 36:58 - Kashering dishwashers Check out Orthodox Conundrum Commentary on Substack and get your free subscription by going to https://scottkahn.substack.com/ - and paid subscribers receive episodes of the Orthodox Conundrum Podcast ad-free and with early access and additional bonus content! Please listen to and share this podcast, and let us know what you think on the Orthodox Conundrum Discussion Group on Facebook (https://www.facebook.com/groups/432020081498108). Thanks to all of our Patreon subscribers, who have access to bonus JCH podcasts, merch, and more - we appreciate your help, and hope you really enjoy the extras! Visit the JCH Patreon site at https://www.patreon.com/jewishcoffeehouse. Write to aliza@jewishcoffeehouse.com to learn all about creating your own podcast. Music: "Happy Rock" by bensound.com

    46 分鐘
  3. 3月30日

    Ways to Make the Seder Matter: Being Your Authentic Self (Crossover episode with Stream of Dreamearly)

    This week's episode is a little different. Instead of our usual format, I'm sharing a conversation where I'm the guest on Alana Gelnick's excellent Stream of Dreamearly podcast, in an episode entitled Ways to Make the Seder Matter: Being Your Authentic Self. As we prepare for Pesach, this discussion explores a simple but powerful idea: the Seder is not about getting everything right, but about creating a feeling, building connection, and giving our children experiences they will carry long after they forget the details. If this resonates, I encourage you to listen to the other episodes in this miniseries as well, including conversations with Rabbi Steve and Sharon Richter on choosing a Seder theme and Rabbi Yair Menchel on creating a meaningful Seder experience. I will also be rereleasing additional classic Orthodox Conundrum Pesach episodes in the coming days. Enjoy, and chag kasher v'sameach! Listen to Ways to Make the Seder Matter: Choosing a Theme, with Rabbi Steve and Sharon Richter on Spotify or Apple. Listen to Ways to Make the Seder Matter: Creating an Experience, with Rabbi Yair Menchel on Spotify or Apple. Check out Orthodox Conundrum Commentary on Substack and get your free subscription by going to https://scottkahn.substack.com/ - and paid subscribers receive episodes of the Orthodox Conundrum Podcast ad-free and with early access and additional bonus content! Please listen to and share this podcast, and let us know what you think on the Orthodox Conundrum Discussion Group on Facebook (https://www.facebook.com/groups/432020081498108). Thanks to all of our Patreon subscribers, who have access to bonus JCH podcasts, merch, and more - we appreciate your help, and hope you really enjoy the extras! Visit the JCH Patreon site at https://www.patreon.com/jewishcoffeehouse. Write to aliza@jewishcoffeehouse.com to learn all about creating your own podcast. Music: "Happy Rock" by bensound.com

    35 分鐘
  4. One People, Two Realities: Israeli and American Jews in Tension (285)

    3月23日

    One People, Two Realities: Israeli and American Jews in Tension (285)

    Check out Orthodox Conundrum Commentary on Substack and get your free subscription by going to https://scottkahn.substack.com/ - and paid subscribers get this and other episodes of the Orthodox Conundrum Podcast ad-free and with early access and additional bonus content! In the wake of war, many Israelis have begun asking a difficult question: Have American Jews become more distant from Israel, or does it only feel that way? In this wide-ranging and deeply honest conversation, Rabbi David Fine and Dr. Laura Shaw Frank join me to explore what is really happening beneath the surface. Together, we examine shifting patterns of engagement, the emotional and psychological divide between Israeli and American Jewish experiences, and the uncomfortable reality that what strengthens one community can sometimes strain the other. From declining fundraising and "compassion fatigue," to rising antisemitism in the United States and divergent beliefs about the advisability of the current war, and the very different ways each community experiences this moment, this episode challenges easy assumptions. It also raises a deeper question: are we witnessing disengagement, or simply living in two very different Jewish realities? This is not a conversation about blame. It is an invitation to greater understanding, greater sensitivity, and a stronger sense of shared destiny. Find the Women's Gallery Podcast on Spotify, Apple, or anywhere you get your podcasts. To listen to the latest episode of Intimate Judaism, Don't Look, Don't Tell, click here. Please listen to and share this podcast, and let us know what you think on the Orthodox Conundrum Discussion Group on Facebook (https://www.facebook.com/groups/432020081498108). Thanks to all of our Patreon subscribers, who have access to bonus JCH podcasts, merch, and more - we appreciate your help, and hope you really enjoy the extras! Visit the JCH Patreon site at https://www.patreon.com/jewishcoffeehouse. Write to aliza@jewishcoffeehouse.com to learn all about creating your own podcast. Music: "Happy Rock" by bensound.com

    1 小時 12 分鐘
  5. How Would Pharaoh Read the Haggadah? with Rabbi Dr. Joshua Berman (284)

    3月16日

    How Would Pharaoh Read the Haggadah? with Rabbi Dr. Joshua Berman (284)

    Check out Orthodox Conundrum Commentary on Substack and get your free subscription by going to https://scottkahn.substack.com/ - and paid subscribers get this and other episodes of the Orthodox Conundrum Podcast ad-free and with early access and additional bonus content! What if the story we tell at the Seder was originally speaking directly to the world of Pharaoh? In this episode of the Orthodox Conundrum Podcast, Rabbi Dr. Joshua Berman of Bar Ilan University joins me to discuss his fascinating new Haggadah, Echoes of Egypt. Drawing on discoveries from Egyptology and the broader study of the ancient Near East, Rabbi Berman shows how the Torah often takes the language, imagery, and political assumptions of ancient Egypt and turns them on their head. Seen in this light, familiar phrases in the Haggadah take on new meaning. The Exodus becomes not only a story of liberation, but a profound challenge to the worldview of the ancient world, replacing the glorification of kings and power with a revolutionary vision of God, freedom, and the dignity of ordinary people. If you want to experience the story of the Exodus with fresh eyes this Pesach, this conversation may change the way you read the Haggadah—and the way you imagine the world from which it first emerged. Find the Women's Gallery Podcast on Spotify, Apple, or anywhere you get your podcasts. To listen to the latest episode of Intimate Judaism, Don't Look, Don't Tell, click here. To order Rabbi Dr. Berman's new Haggadah, Echoes of Egypt, click here. Please listen to and share this podcast, and let us know what you think on the Orthodox Conundrum Discussion Group on Facebook (https://www.facebook.com/groups/432020081498108). Thanks to all of our Patreon subscribers, who have access to bonus JCH podcasts, merch, and more - we appreciate your help, and hope you really enjoy the extras! Visit the JCH Patreon site at https://www.patreon.com/jewishcoffeehouse. Write to aliza@jewishcoffeehouse.com to learn all about creating your own podcast. Music: "Happy Rock" by bensound.com

    1 小時 9 分鐘
  6. Anxiety Isn't the Enemy: A Jewish Way to Live - and Thrive - With Uncertainty, with Dr. David Rosmarin (283)

    3月9日

    Anxiety Isn't the Enemy: A Jewish Way to Live - and Thrive - With Uncertainty, with Dr. David Rosmarin (283)

    Check out Orthodox Conundrum Commentary on Substack and get your free subscription by going to https://scottkahn.substack.com/ - and paid subscribers get this and other episodes of the Orthodox Conundrum Podcast ad-free and with early access and additional bonus content! Over the past few years, and certainly over the past week, anxiety has become part of the background noise of Jewish life. People in Israel are living with sirens and uncertainty. People in the diaspora are following the news constantly, worrying about family, about Israel, about growing antisemitism, about the future and their place in the world. And even beyond the current moment, anxiety has become something many of us talk about openly in ways we didn't a generation ago. Usually when we talk about anxiety, the assumption is simple: anxiety is something to eliminate. Something to suppress. Something to cure. But what if that assumption is wrong? My guest today, Dr. David Rosmarin, is a clinical psychologist, Associate Professor at Harvard Medical School, and the founder of the Center for Anxiety. He argues that while anxiety can be a disorder, it more often is nothing of the sort, and not even necessarily a problem. In fact, anxiety is actually a built-in human tool which can sharpen our awareness, deepen our relationships, strengthen resilience, and even push us toward greater spiritual growth.. In our conversation, we talk about how anxiety works, why modern culture may misunderstand it, and how Jewish ideas like emunah, bitachon, and even daily rituals like tefillah can help us engage anxiety in healthier and more productive ways. Dr. Rosmarin also shares a simple four-step framework for working with anxiety: identify it, share it with others, embrace the discomfort instead of running from it, and finally learn to let go of the illusion that we control everything. This isn't a conversation about pretending everything is fine. It's a conversation about how human beings, and particularly Jews with a long spiritual tradition, can live honestly with uncertainty while still moving forward. So if you've felt anxious lately — and honestly, who hasn't — I think you'll find this discussion both practical and deeply thoughtful. Visit Dr. Rosmarin on line at https://dhrosmarin.com/, and join his free webinar here. Find the Women's Gallery Podcast on Spotify, Apple, or anywhere you get your podcasts. To listen to the latest episode of Intimate Judaism, Don't Look, Don't Tell, click here. Check out the Stream of Dreamearly Podcast on Apple, Spotify, or any other podcast provider. Please listen to and share this podcast, and let us know what you think on the Orthodox Conundrum Discussion Group on Facebook (https://www.facebook.com/groups/432020081498108). Thanks to all of our Patreon subscribers, who have access to bonus JCH podcasts, merch, and more - we appreciate your help, and hope you really enjoy the extras! Visit the JCH Patreon site at https://www.patreon.com/jewishcoffeehouse. Write to aliza@jewishcoffeehouse.com to learn all about creating your own podcast. Music: "Happy Rock" by bensound.com

    58 分鐘
  7. How Should a Religious Community Respond to Its Own Extremists? With Rabbi Yitzchak Blau (282)

    2月23日

    How Should a Religious Community Respond to Its Own Extremists? With Rabbi Yitzchak Blau (282)

    Check out Orthodox Conundrum Commentary on Substack and get your free subscription by going to https://scottkahn.substack.com/ - and paid subscribers get this and other episodes of the Orthodox Conundrum Podcast ad-free and with early access and additional bonus content! When disturbing stories emerge from within a religious community, the instinctive response is often immediate: they don't represent us. But what comes after that? In recent weeks, incidents involving religious Jews, from violence connected to Israeli settlers to attacks that shocked fellow Orthodox communities, have forced difficult questions into the open. How should a religious society respond when wrongdoing appears within its own ranks? When does healthy skepticism become denial? And what responsibility do leaders and ordinary community members bear when disavowal alone feels insufficient? In this episode, Rabbi Yitzchak Blau joins me for a thoughtful and challenging conversation about moral responsibility, communal leadership, and the tension between loyalty and honesty, particularly within the Modern Orthodox and Religious Zionist world. This is not a political discussion but a religious one. It is a conversation about truth, accountability, and what it means for a community to live up to its own values. To listen to the latest Q&A episode of Intimate Judaism, click here. Please listen to and share this podcast, and let us know what you think on the Orthodox Conundrum Discussion Group on Facebook (https://www.facebook.com/groups/432020081498108). Thanks to all of our Patreon subscribers, who have access to bonus JCH podcasts, merch, and more - we appreciate your help, and hope you really enjoy the extras! Visit the JCH Patreon site at https://www.patreon.com/jewishcoffeehouse. Write to aliza@jewishcoffeehouse.com to learn all about creating your own podcast. Music: "Happy Rock" by bensound.com

    1 小時 5 分鐘
  8. Super Bowl Ads Under the Microscope: A Torah Look at America's Biggest Commercial Break, with Rabbi Uri Cohen (281)

    2月16日

    Super Bowl Ads Under the Microscope: A Torah Look at America's Biggest Commercial Break, with Rabbi Uri Cohen (281)

    Check out Orthodox Conundrum Commentary on Substack and get your free subscription by going to https://scottkahn.substack.com/ - and paid subscribers get this and other episodes of the Orthodox Conundrum Podcast ad-free and with early access and additional bonus content! Let me begin with a slightly uncomfortable question. How much of what we believe, value, and even desire has been shaped not by Torah, not by education, but by advertising? Every year during the Super Bowl, companies spend many millions of dollars for a single minute of our attention. We laugh at the commercials, we quote them, many people look forward to them more than the game itself. But commercials are also doing something more; they are not neutral. They are carefully crafted arguments about happiness, success, identity, relationships, and what kind of life we are supposed to want. And that creates a real issue for people who live according to the values associated with a Torah lifestyle - particularly because the power of advertising often lies in its subtext, or the metamessage. These commercials show us a mirror of what society cares about, while at the same time shaping and teaching these values and concerns without our conscious knowledge. It can be frightening to realize that we are being powerfully affected by messages that we may not even notice. Sometimes these messages are beneficial, and often they're somewhat insidious. Either way, they help create the filter through which we see the world - and that's why it's so important to pay attention to them, and work to uncover what they're telling us about the world in which we live. Put differently: if the Torah speaks to every generation and every cultural reality, as Rav Soloveitchik famously said, then we cannot simply switch off our religious consciousness when the entertainment begins. At the same time, this isn't only an endeavor for Orthodox Jews. Anyone who lives in the modern world benefits from learning how to watch culture thoughtfully instead of passively. Rabbi Uri Cohen joins me today to do something unusual. We treat this year's Super Bowl commercials as texts to be interpreted. We'll laugh a little, analyze a lot, and explore what these ads reveal about modern anxieties, technology, materialism, identity, and even anti-Semitism. And honestly, part of what we're doing today is simply enjoying that experience together. This is a fun episode. These ads are clever, creative, and often genuinely entertaining. The goal is not to condemn popular culture. It's to understand it. Because a Torah Jew is meant to live thoughtfully within the world, not outside it, and sometimes even a Super Bowl commercial can become a starting point for serious reflection. So yes, this episode is entertaining. But after hearing Rabbi Cohen's insights, it may also change the way you watch the next commercial break.  To listen to the latest Q&A episode of Intimate Judaism, click here. Please listen to and share this podcast, and let us know what you think on the Orthodox Conundrum Discussion Group on Facebook (https://www.facebook.com/groups/432020081498108). Thanks to all of our Patreon subscribers, who have access to bonus JCH podcasts, merch, and more - we appreciate your help, and hope you really enjoy the extras! Visit the JCH Patreon site at https://www.patreon.com/jewishcoffeehouse. Write to aliza@jewishcoffeehouse.com to learn all about creating your own podcast. Music: "Happy Rock" by bensound.com

    1 小時 24 分鐘

簡介

The Orthodox Conundrum is a forum in which we look honestly at the Orthodox Jewish community, identifying what works well and what does not, so that, through an honest accounting, we can find solutions that will be successful. We will examine some of the major issues that affect the Orthodox world, without exaggeration, whitewashing, or pretending that they don't exist. Our hope is that the Orthodox Conundrum will spark wider discussion that will enable Orthodox Judaism to continue moving forward in the areas at which it excels, and to rectify the areas that need improvement.

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