夏冰雹的播客

夏冰雹的播客

大家好,我是夏冰雹,一名英语教育视频创作者,也是一名终身学习者。在“夏冰雹的播客”中,我将与你分享我的个人读书感悟,一起探索书中的智慧,激励我们活出自己想要的人生。

  1. 全英Talk|焦虑是好事,恰恰因为现代社会流动性强、机会更多

    5月6日

    全英Talk|焦虑是好事,恰恰因为现代社会流动性强、机会更多

    英文字幕提取: A large part of our confusion and pain and struggles in our 20s 我们20多岁时的大部分困惑 痛苦和挣扎 come from the gap between agricultural society and modern society. 都源于农耕社会与现代社会的鸿沟 Because we entered the modern society just a few decades ago, 因为我们进入现代社会才短短几十年 which is not long ago. 不算很久 Before we entered the modern society, 在进入现代社会之前 our society repeated itself. 我们的社会是循环往复的 Every season you would grow the same crops, same foods. 每个季节种植同样的作物 同样的粮食 Your parents experiences could be copied to you 父母的经验可以直接套用在你身上 and your grandparents had a life basically similar to yours. 祖辈的生活也与你大同小异 That society was full of certainty 那个社会充满确定性 but definitely lacked social mobility. 但显然缺乏社会流动性 It was pretty hard for a peasant 对佃农来说 to accumulate wealth and become a small landlord 要积累财富成为小地主 and then become a huge landlord. 再变成大地主是相当困难的 But a major feature of modern society is fluidity 但现代社会的一大特征就是流动性 It's a concept put forward by some sociologists. 这是社会学家提出的概念 Basically it means that we have many more options. 简单来说就是我们有更多选择 Our identity is changeable. 我们的身份是可变的 We can change our life trajectiories several times 我们可以多次改变人生轨迹 We can accumulate wealth instantly. 可以快速积累财富 We can also lose our wealth rapidly. 也可能瞬间失去财富 We can find different jobs, different professions, 能找到不同的工作 职业 and different life paths. 和不同的人生道路 But at the same time, it creates confusion. 但与此同时 这也会让人感到困惑 When people say I don't have options, 当人们说我没有选择时 it actually means you have too many options. 实际上意味着你的选择太多了 Some psychologists found that 心理学家发现 when you have too many options in front of you, 当你面前的选择太多时 your brain stops working 大脑就会停止运作 because it's hard for you to select the best one. 因为你很难选出最佳选项 Your brain struggles with analyzing, 大脑在分析比较时陷入挣扎 comparing this to that 反复权衡各种选择 and your brain doesn't work. 结果反而无法思考决策 The optimal number of choices is actually between three to five. 最理想的选择数量其实是3到5个 One major reason behind your inaction 你迟迟不采取行动的主要原因 might be having too many options. 可能就是选项太多 You could be a doctor. You could be a lawyer. 你可以当医生 也可以当律师 You could be a police officer. 你可以当警察 You could be president. 你甚至可以当总统 So you can be anything you want. 所以你能成为任何你想成为的人 So who am I? What do I want to do? 那么我是谁 我想做什么 Which one is the best for me? 哪个选择最适合我 The harsh truth is that the more options you have, 残酷的现实是 你拥有的选择越多 the more uncertainty you will face. 面临的不确定性就越大 This is a dilemma faced by a lot of young people in modern society, 这是现代社会很多年轻人面临的困境 especially in post-capitalist society. 尤其是在后资本主义社会 The market offers you a tremendous amount of opportunities 市场为你提供了海量机会 At the same time you don't know who you are. 但同时你却不知道自己是谁 So I think a great way to make better decisions 我认为做出更好决策的好方法 is to look at your life from a long-term perspective. 是从长远角度审视你的人生 Just imagine you are 80 years old 想象一下你已80岁高龄 and you are lying on your deathbed 正躺在临终的病榻上 and think about 回顾着 what you have been through in your life. 这一生所经历的一切 So ask yourself, what kind of regrets do I have? 问问自己 我有什么遗憾 If I'm gonna live again, 如果重活一次 which regret I'm going to get rid of? 我会消除哪个遗憾 There was a palliative nurse living in australia. 澳大利亚有位临终关怀护士 She basically takes care of people who are dying, 专门照顾临终病人 and then she asks those patients: 她曾询问那些患者 What is your biggest regret in your life? 你此生最大的遗憾是什么 So here is the most common regret. 以下是最常见的遗憾 I wish I had the courage to live a life true to myself. 我多希望当初有勇气活出真正的自己 So for a lot of people, they live their whole life 很多人终其一生 by molding and changing your expectations 都在不断调整改变自己的期望值 and fitting into the models set by society or people around them. 只为迎合社会或他人设定的标准 So for those of you who are watching this video, 所以正在看视频的你 I really want you to know 请一定要记住 that the biggest treasure we have as young people is time. 年轻人最宝贵的财富就是时间 You still have time to figure your life out. 你还有时间去探索人生 You still have time to find your life direction, 你还有机会找到人生方向 find your passions, and pursue your dreams. 找到你的热爱 追逐你的梦想 For all of us, the endpoint of our life or destination is the same. 对我们所有人来说 生命的终点或归宿都是相同的 We will die someday. 终有一天我们会死去 We will disappear from this world. 我们会从这个世界消失 But the journey matters. 但过程才最重要 So don't be afraid of stepping up and taking actions 所以不要害怕迈出脚步采取行动 because you only live once. 因为你只活一次 Create a life you want. 去创造你想要的人生

    3 分鐘
  2. 无助是人的本能,希望需要刻意练习|全英Talk

    3月14日

    无助是人的本能,希望需要刻意练习|全英Talk

    英文转写文档: During the Spring Festival, I met a few relatives and cousins. Through our interactions, I was shocked by how pervasive learned helplessness is. I have a relative who graduated from a first-tier university a year ago. He said no employer wanted him. I asked, “Did you go to any job fairs?” He said no. I asked, “Did you revise your résumé?” He said no. I tried to help him improve his résumé, but it had only two lines. He said he had nothing to write because he had almost no projects or internships during college. I suggested that he could try to get a few internships now. He said no one would want him because he had already graduated. He also refused to go to interviews because he was afraid he wouldn’t be able to answer the questions. I told him he could prepare in advance. If he failed an interview, he could reflect on what went wrong, improve, and try again. Or he could develop small applications at home for fun, or even imitate his dad and start a small business. He shook his head. This is not a special case. I have met several relatives who fall into the same trap of thinking. Their conclusion is that there is nothing they can do — and they don’t even want to try.  This mentality fits into what psychologists call learned helplessness. You may have heard of the famous experiment in which three groups of dogs were placed in cages and given electric shocks at intervals. One group could press a lever to stop the shocks and escape. Another group pressed a lever that didn’t work, and eventually gave up trying to escape.  Some psychologists believe learned helplessness comes from childhood neglect or repeated discouragement. Others argue that helplessness is an automatic human tendency, and that hope is something that must be learned. To break learned helplessness in dogs, researchers placed them in a completely new environment and physically moved their legs. Eventually, the dogs realized they could escape the cage.  This suggests that for people with learned helplessness, create a new enviornment for yourself. Get yourself moving. Leave the places that trapped you.  This suggests that for people with learned helplessness, creating a new environment matters. Get yourself moving. Leave the places that have trapped you. Every outcome in our lives is the result of many factors, both internal and external. We cannot attribute all success solely to internal factors like ability, effort, or attitude. Likewise, we cannot attribute all failure entirely to external factors like unsupportive parents, friends, or environment. Of course, many things are out of our control. But there are always things within our control. For example, when I was obese, I blamed the abundance of temptations in the world and believed I had a genetic predisposition to obesity, so I thought I couldn’t control it. But once I switched to a natural diet and started running three kilometers every day, my weight returned to normal. It has remained healthy for more than fifteen years. There is always something we can do. We are not victims of our lives. I like the Chinese proverb: 尽人事,听天命 do your best and leave the rest to fate. When you look back, you will have no regrets.

    4 分鐘
  3. 全英Talk|总觉得别人在笑话你?其实都是聚光灯效应带来的幻觉

    2月26日

    全英Talk|总觉得别人在笑话你?其实都是聚光灯效应带来的幻觉

    你总觉得别人在笑话你?别人的眼光真的存在吗?自卑和怕丢脸都只是自我幻觉,没有人会像你一样在意自己。一个心理成熟、精神自由的人,应该打破本能的聚光灯效应。 Transcript: You’ve made a mistake, and you feel like the whole world is watching you. You imagine your relatives and friends laughing at you, and you feel like you’ve lost face. If you believe this is true, you may be falling into a cognitive bias called the spotlight effect. In social psychology, we tend to assume that other people are paying far more attention to us than they actually are.  Let’s say you have acne on your face. You walk out onto the street and feel anxious, thinking everyone will notice it. But is anyone really paying attention? To be honest, most young people in China are myopic. Many people can’t even see clearly. And even if they do notice, they usually don’t care. The same is true for appearance anxiety. You may think everyone is focusing on how you look, but in reality, you are outside their visual focus. Do people care about you as much as you think they do?Are you Lady Gaga or Taylor Swift, with paparazzi following you? Of course not. People who fall into this mentality are often psychologically immature. When we are babies, the world revolves around us. Our needs are the center of our family. But as we grow up, if we still think that way, we fall into egocentrism. That’s where the spotlight effect comes from.  Many of us unconsciously believe that we are the center of the universe and that all the spotlight is shining on us. If you’ve spent some time in public, you’ll notice that most people do not care about your business.  There are even extreme cases where employees passed away in office cubicles and their colleagues didn’t notice for days. What does that mean? We are not the center of the universe. People are busy with their own lives, their own anxieties, and their own problems. A mature person breaks free from this“baby giant” mentality. We are not the center of the world. In reality, only a very small number of people truly care about you: maybe your parents, siblings, or a few close friends. And even they have their own lives to live. So turn off the spotlight you’ve placed above your head, and begin to live for yourself. Let go of your ego.  When you’re interacting with people, shift your attention outward.  Forget about your own image. But focus on what you can help with. Focus on the meaningful work in front of you.  For example, I’m a passionate public speaker. When I’m on stage, I don’t feel nervous or pressured. Because the presentation is not about me — it’s about them. I’m there to share ideas that transform my audience's lives.  Move your focus from protecting your own image to creating value for others, and the spotlight effect just goes away. That’s when freedom begins.

    3 分鐘
  4. 你的朋友圈,是你最好的简历|全英 Talk

    1月31日

    你的朋友圈,是你最好的简历|全英 Talk

    越来越多人把朋友圈锁进 “3 天可见”,让主页变得一片空白,但其实,这方小小的空间,正是你最低成本、最鲜活的个人简历与作品集。 Transcript: What I find interesting is that a lot of young people have stopped posting on social media. They only allow others to see about 3 days of updates on their friends' circle. Of course, this definitely makes sense—some people want to keep their lives private. But I think, as long as you present yourself to your friends either in person or online, you’re going to show your portfolio. So your posts on Moments are a form of portfolio. As someone working in the media industry, the first lesson we learned is to build our portfolio. Building a portfolio is the easiest way to help people understand who you are, what you do, what you care about, and what you can offer them. So social media posts aren’t just about your private feelings or daily life—they’re about what you can offer to the world, and what your friends or people out there can resonate with. If you never post anything on social media, people won’t get to see your talents. Because it takes time to get to know someone, and for most people, time is their most valuable asset. They definitely won’t spend hours getting to know someone they just randomly come across. So if you can consistently post your ideas, thoughts, products, or work on your social media, people will immediately get a sense of your personality, your contributions, and your work ethic. I actually learned a lot from my friends—artists, designers, actors, entrepreneurs, and IT professionals. They usually share their ideas before launching their products, get feedback from their friends, finalize the first version, and then refine those products later. I think this is a really smart way to leverage collective wisdom. Sometimes you get so immersed in your own ideas that you lose sight of what the market really needs, and you have no clue about your audience or users. So the best approach is to post your work, reach out to them, gather their insights and feedback, and use that to improve your products. This concept is actually called the Minimum Viable Product (MVP) test, and it’s widely used in Silicon Valley and by many business leaders. The best way isn’t to wait until your product is perfect, but to tap into collective wisdom and find people who can help you refine it. By sharing more of your ideas, you’ll also attract the right friends—those who truly appreciate your values, work, and personality. You can build rapport and trust with these people, and they’ll stay with you throughout your life. Of course, I’m not encouraging you to post randomly about your private feelings, lash out on social media, or argue with people for no reason. I’m saying you should put your best ideas out there. You can share your thoughts in progress. If we think of all ideas as a market, you’ll notice that the most mediocre ones usually stand out. Why? Because a lot of smart people don’t post. Some are unwilling to share their values—they’re afraid their ideas will be criticized. They don’t believe in themselves or their values because they think they’re not 100% ready. But I believe the best ideas will eventually shine through. And finally, here’s the most important question: If you never put your ideas out there, who will benefit from them? It’s a huge loss to the world—you’re so talented, you have so many great ideas, and the world deserves to know your wisdom, your contributions, and your values. Right?

    4 分鐘

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大家好,我是夏冰雹,一名英语教育视频创作者,也是一名终身学习者。在“夏冰雹的播客”中,我将与你分享我的个人读书感悟,一起探索书中的智慧,激励我们活出自己想要的人生。

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