Raising Men

Shaun Dawson

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Raising Men is a podcast about parenting, masculinity, and the lifelong journey of raising sons—and ourselves—to be men of courage, character, and purpose. Hosted by Shaun Dawson, each episode features real conversations with parents, leaders, and thinkers redefining what it means to raising men in today’s world.

1 day ago

What Sadistic AI, Bare feet, and a Talking Cat All Have to do with Raising Men

Shaun Dawson dives into an unexpected source of parenting wisdom: the bestselling sci-fi series Dungeon Crawler Carl by Matt Dinniman. Behind its absurd premise—a man in his boxers and a leather jacket navigating a brutal, subterranean reality-TV death trap with his ex-girlfriend’s cat—lies a surprisingly tactical manual for modern male agency. Shaun draws parallels between protagonist Carl’s sudden descent into a rigged system and the overwhelming challenges faced by young men today. Rather than panicking or adopting a victim mentality, Carl shifts from his reactive "Conan brain" to his strategic "Sherlock brain," demonstrating self-mastery, logic, and protective values under extreme pressure. Drawing on insights from previous podcast guests, Shaun breaks down how fathers can model emotional regulation, teach their sons to embrace agency over despair, and guide them through their own modern "dungeons" without resorting to rigid aggression or passive avoidance. Key Takeaways Dungeon Crawler Carl as a Modern Metaphor: The abrupt, unfair world collapse in the book mirrors how the modern world, filled with constant digital stimulation and shifting rules, often feels to young boys today.Conan Brain vs. Sherlock Brain: When facing chaotic or unfair situations, boys are tempted to react from their amygdala ("Conan brain") with panic or anger. Self-mastery comes from shifting into the prefrontal cortex ("Sherlock brain") to strategically ask, "What is my next move?".Agency Over Victimhood: The system wants young men to feel like victims because victims panic and make entertaining mistakes. True strength lies in taking complete ownership of the parts of life you can control.Values Define True Strength: Real strength isn't posturing or puffing out your chest; it's standing between harm and the people you're responsible for while maintaining disciplined values.Co-Regulating Through Distress: When kids spiral, get angry, or face fears, fathers must stay in their "Sherlock brain" to model emotional regulation rather than reacting to their child's anger with aggression."And it turns out that it's also kind of a tactical manual for modern male agency disguised as a ridiculous sci-fi book series." — Shaun Dawson Shaun Dawson introduces an unexpected source of tactical manual lessons for modern male agency The wild opening premise of Dungeon Crawler Carl by Matt Dinniman Comparing Earth's flattened structure to the modern world young men face today How young men are nudged toward passive consumption anger and despair Shifting out of the reactive Conan Brain and into the strategic Sherlock Brain Recalling David Rossi's framework on processing emotional data vs spiritual self-mastery Overriding physical panic by choosing values and something bigger to protect Connecting Aaron Blaine's Green Beret principles of evaluating ground realities and serving last Why posturing isn't real strength and the trap fathers fall into during kid distress How the dungeon wants people to act like victims and why we must reject that identity A personal moment with Shaun's son realizing his parents will eventually die Shaun's unexpected joy in discovering the massive Dungeon Crawler Carl fanbase at Comic-Con Books, Links and Frameworks Mentioned Books & Media Dungeon Crawler Carl (Book Series) by Matt DinnimanDungeon Crawler Carl (Audiobook Version)00:00 – Introduction: Tactical manual disguised as sci-fi01:30 – The wild premise of Dungeon Crawler Carl03:20 – Parallels between the dungeon and modern boyhood challenges04:44 – Systems nudging young men toward despair and outrage05:20 – Conan Brain vs. Sherlock Brain under pressure06:56 – Processing emotional data: Lessons from Dave Rossi08:30 – Overriding physical panic by protecting core values09:22 – Green Beret principles: Lessons from Aaron Blaine10:49 – Real strength vs. posturing and dad traps12:54 – Rejecting victimhood and keeping personal agency14:39 – A father's role when sons face life's heavy dungeons Podcast Episodes & Guests Mentioned Episode 12: Dave Rossi https://raising.men/episodes/the-imperative-habit-of-raising-conscious-young-men-with-dave-rossiEpisode 15: Aaron Blaine https://raising.men/episodes/battles-before-the-battlefield-aaron-blaine-on-becoming-the-father-he-never-hadEpisode 10: Dr. Daniel Singley https://raising.men/episodes/the-psychology-of-raising-emotionally-healthy-boys-with-dr-daniel-singleyFrameworks & Concepts Two-Brain Theory (Conan the Barbarian Brain vs. Sherlock Holmes Brain): A neuroscience metaphor contrasting the reactive, survival-driven amygdala (Conan) with the deliberate, strategic prefrontal cortex (Sherlock)[cite: 1, 2].Emotional Data vs. Meaning (Dave Rossi): Recognizing fear, anger, and panic as raw biological feedback (data) rather than letting impulse define the outcome.Evaluating Ground Realities (Aaron Blaine / Military Leadership): Accepting the unchosen environment as it is, maintaining core values, and executing with calm discipline
4 days ago

Rebuilding Character and Leading Through Turbulence with Brandon Martini

In this episode of Raising Men, host Shaun Dawson sits down with Brandon Martini, the co-founder of Stratus Financial and host of the Aviation Mentors podcast. Brandon shares his incredible journey from maxing out credit cards to build a successful flight school from a maintenance closet, all the way to navigating a devastating professional betrayal that nearly ruined his entire business operations. Beyond his achievements in professional aviation, Brandon opens up honestly about the deep personal growth that came from unexpected early fatherhood and long term co-parenting challenges. He completely dismantles the toxic "myth of normality" perpetuated by social media highlights and explains why comparison negatively affects individual self-esteem. Through tales of business resilience and shifting family dynamics, Brandon provides actionable wisdom on leading his son by example. Ultimately, he delivers a powerful conversation centered around emotional intelligence, overcoming severe adversity, and the singular principle that guides all his relationships: radical honesty and directness. Key Takeaways The Myth of Normality: There is no universal standard for a normal life, especially in the era of social media highlights; true stability comes from defining and embracing your own unique normal.Resilience Through Betrayal: Professional hardships and employee betrayals can cause immense emotional stress, but maintaining operational integrity and high standards ensures long term vindication and survival.Value Creation vs. Fixed Pie Mindset: Success in business and life comes from a synergistic mindset focused on growing the pie and creating true value alongside others, rather than fighting over a fixed resource.Emotionally Mature Co-Parenting: Successful co-parenting requires putting personal egos aside to focus entirely on maximizing a child's potential, transforming past relational failures into supportive partnerships.Honesty and Directness as a Foundation: Raising healthy men requires modeling absolute honesty and directness in all relationships, allowing people to know exactly where you stand even if it causes temporary discomfort.“There's no such thing as normal. There's only such thing as your normal.” “Industries are small, people will always remember.” “If you are honest and direct with people, sometimes you'll piss them off, but at least they know where you stand.” 00:00 The myth of normality and social media highlights 00:45 Welcome Brandon Martini co founder of Stratus Financial 01:43 Finding a grandfather's logbook and gaining a passion for flying 04:00 Maxing out credit cards to build a flight school from a closet 06:04 Partner disputes over minimum wage laws and expanding the company 07:43 Facing a massive business betrayal from a disgruntled employee 12:13 Vindication after a rival flight academy collapses in three months 21:26 Navigating early fatherhood and life changes in your early twenties 25:50 Developing emotional maturity and the secrets to successful co-parenting 33:22 Teaching kids how to navigate comparison and establish their own normal 40:15 Parental boundaries and building a safe environment for open discussion 57:42 The number one principle for raising healthy men honesty and directness Books, Links and Frameworks Mentioned Aviation Mentors Podcast: Brandon Martini's podcast focused on aviation mentorship. https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/aviation-mentors/id1643985141Stratus Financial: The financial firm co-founded by Brandon Martini to assist aspiring pilots. https://stratus.finance/meet-brandon-martini-stratus-financial-co-ceo/Westbound Flight Academy: The short-lived rival flight school mentioned during the business betrayal discussion.141 Certification: The FAA procedural framework utilized by Brandon's flight school to ensure top-tier maintenance and training operations.The Fixed Pie vs. Variable Pie Mentality: A conceptual framework shared during the episode regarding value creation, collaboration, and growing resources rather than dividing them.
23 Jul

How Manly Are You?

What does a healthy vision of masculinity actually look like, and how do we measure our progress toward it? In this episode of Raising Men, host Shaun Dawson is joined live by Don Ross, creator of Manhood Tribes, to take and dissect Don’s “How Manly Are You?” questionnaire. Together, they walk through Shaun’s live self-assessment—covering everything from emergency eye-flushing home repair mishaps and physical capability to time margin, male friendships, and standing up against power abuse. Don breaks down the underlying framework of the quiz: the 5 Marks of Manhood (Strength, Courage, Skill, Honor, and Allegiance). They unpack why strength is built for service, how honor requires relational depth within a male tribe, and how true allegiance means aligning daily time and mind share with core values. This conversation provides an honest, practical mirror for any man looking to track his growth and show up better for his family. Key Takeaways Strength Is Built for Service: True masculine physical strength is not about vanity or aesthetic perfection; it is about developing a capable body that can handle daily demands and step up during emergencies to protect and serve others.Courage Means Moving Toward Fear: Courage is not the absence of fear or bravado, but the active choice to lean into discomfort—whether facing physical danger or initiating a hard, necessary conversation.Honor Is an Inherently Relational Trait: Honor cannot exist in isolation. It is earned horizontally within a trusted tribe of peers who share your values, challenge your shortcomings, and hold you accountable.Allegiance Requires Mind Share and Margin: True allegiance is demonstrated through how you manage authority, habits, and time. Overcommitted schedules and lack of margin rob men of the ability to live intentionally according to their core principles.Masculinity Is Dynamic, Not Static: Growth in manhood is an ongoing journey rather than a single destination. Periodic self-assessment helps men identify seasonal blind spots and continuously level up across different life chapters.Transcript Summary 00:10 Introduction to Don Ross and the How Manly Are You Questionnaire00:46 Shaun begins rating himself on home repairs and shares a water heater disaster 04:32 Assessing physical strength, reliability, emergency readiness, and work relationships 05:35 Shaun reflects on male friendships and the origin of the Raising Men project 07:12 Evaluating personal influences, harmful substances, and workout consistency 08:50 Discussing time margin, overcommitment, and lessons from a family ski trip 11:59 Evaluating body confidence, service to others, and standing up to power abuse 13:50 Rating skill collection, working with partners, and personal honesty 15:13 Quiz completion and introducing the 5 Marks of Manhood 16:37 Defining Strength and Courage beyond cultural stereotypes 20:41 Exploring Skill and the impact of relational mentorship versus YouTube learning 22:46 Deep dive into Honor, peer pressure, and the necessity of male tribes 28:11 Defining Allegiance, next steps, and wrap-up Books, Links and Frameworks Mentioned Books & Publications How to Be a Man by Don RossLinks & Community Manhood Tribes: https://manhoodtribes.comhttps://www.manhoodtribes.com/showhttps://youtube.com/@manhoodtribesManhood Tribes by Don Ross: https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0CRB7PSR7?lv=shuf&channelId=500&plpRedirect=mhFallbackHow to be a Man by Don Ross: https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0FPM3HWGL?lv=shuf&channelId=500&plpRedirect=mhFallback Frameworks Mentioned The 5 Marks of Manhood: A framework defining the core baseline characteristics found across historical male culture: Strength: Physiological capability cultivated to serve and protect.Courage: Moving toward physical, emotional, or social fear rather than avoiding it.Skill: Developing and passing on practical abilities that add value to the community.Honor: The horizontal relational currency earned within a peer group sharing high moral standards.Allegiance: The vertical orientation to authority, core spiritual/philosophical principles, and self-mastery over time and vices
20 Jul

Why Every Father Needs a Tribe with Don Ross

Together, Shaun and Don dive deep into the cultural confusion surrounding modern masculinity and the isolation epidemic trapping today's fathers. Don shares his raw, personal journey of overcoming an addiction to pornography by bringing his struggles out of the dark and into the light with a trusted brother. This conversation serves as a powerful tactical guide for any father wanting to build a life-changing brotherhood for himself while modeling authentic, honorable connection for his sons. Key Takeaways Willpower Alone Fails against Vices: Modern vices like internet pornography and sports gambling are psychologically designed to hijack the male brain, meaning raw discipline and willpower are rarely enough to break free.The Isolation Epidemic Is Real: Men are currently facing a widespread isolation crisis. While many do not explicitly identify it as "loneliness," they lack even a single trusted friend they can turn to during a personal crisis.Shame Drives Struggles Underground: Shaming behavior—whether used by a parent toward a son or by a man toward himself—festers toxic habits in the dark; true freedom requires bringing hidden struggles out into the light.The Three Pillars of a Tribe: Building a transformative brotherhood requires three critical components: a clear vision of manhood, deep camaraderie that goes beyond surface hobbies, and an intentional pursuit of personal freedom.Honor Is Taught through Peer Circles: True honor is about carrying your own weight and doing right by your peers. Boys naturally seek the approval of their friends, making it essential to guide them toward healthy, value-aligned friend groups."The missing piece to overcoming their toughest challenges isn't willpower, it's not discipline, it's not even prayer—it's community." "We have a weird kind of paradox in our culture for men where we don't want to ask for the help that we would willingly offer if we were in our own shoes." "Shame thrives in darkness and in hiddenness. The moment that you start to bring it out into the light with another human being... those lies don't make sense anymore."Links and Websites Manhood Tribes Website: https://www.manhoodtribes.comHow Manly Are You Quiz: https://www.howmanlyareyou.com Pop Culture ReferencesTed Lasso (TV Show): Mentioned by Shaun and Don during a discussion on male intimacy, noting the benchmark connection between Ted Lasso and Coach Beard, as well as the dynamic of the "Diamond Dogs".
16 Jul

Grief Legacy and the True Cost of Waiting to Have Kids

Thirty years ago, Shaun Dawson sat by his mother's bedside in Albuquerque, New Mexico, watching her take her final breath. In this deeply moving and intensely personal solo episode, Shaun looks back at the raw reality of that loss and the decades of grief that followed. He unpacks the complex emotions of a young college student wrestling with anger, resentment, and a profound sense of impending loss—emotions that still spark moments of shame and reflection today. Shaun shares the beautiful, funny, and deeply human moments of his mother’s final days, including the invaluable guidance of hospice care and the legacy left behind in a series of cassette tapes. Ultimately, this episode is a contemplation on legacy, the choices we make as parents, the biological cost of starting a family later in life, and how we can consciously choose to honor those who shaped us. Key Takeaways Grief is an active choice: While the pain of early loss is imposed upon us, over time we can consciously choose how we engage with and process our grief.The mythologizing of parents: Over decades of absence, we tend to turn lost parents into mythological figures, but rediscovering their raw, messy humanity is where true connection lies.The double-edged sword of older parenting: Waiting to have children offers the advantages of wealth, wisdom, and patience, but it comes with the painful risk of missing out on their adulthood.Forgiveness over resentment: Confronting youthful anger and the shame of how we treated loved ones during stressful times is a necessary step toward healing.Hospice care is an essential bridge: Hospice workers serve a dual client system, gently guiding both the terminal patient and the grieving family through the threshold of death. "I realized that this was inevitable and I could fight it and make it worse or I could try and make it as wonderful as I could." — Shaun Dawson 00:00 - Shaun reflects on the thirty-year anniversary of his mother's passing 01:00 - The indispensable role of hospice care for patients and families 02:00 - A backlit nurse raises the question of angels at the bedside 03:20 - Shifting from fighting the inevitable to making the end wonderful 04:30 - Reflecting on a risky three-week road trip before her passing 06:20 - Facing the anger, resentment, and youthful shame of those final months 07:50 - A mother’s quiet act of absolute grace and unconditional forgiveness 08:30 - Rediscovering a mother's raw humanity through inherited audio cassette tapes 09:50 - Pondering paternal legacy and how technology prevents parental mythologizing 11:40 - The painful trade-offs and biological costs of starting a family later in life 14:30 - Watching children grow from seeking closeness to wanting independence 15:50 - Recognizing the unconscious triggers of annual grief and honoring her legacy Concept: The Mythological Parent vs. The Human Parent — Understanding and accepting parents as real, flawed human beings rather than flawless archetypes.Concept: Unconscious Grief Triggers — How seasonal anniversaries manifest as physical and emotional stress before the conscious mind connects them to past trauma.Resource: Hospice and Palliative Care Services — Referenced for their vital dual support of terminal patients and their grieving families.
13 Jul

Healing The Past To Protect Your Son's Future with Steve Biddulph

In this deeply moving episode of Raising Men, host Shaun Dawson reunites with world-renowned psychologist and bestselling author Steve Biddulph to pivot the conversation from raising sons to transforming fathers. Moving past cultural caricatures, they dive into the profound psychological realities shaping modern masculinity. Steve explores his seminal concept of the "river of manhood," explaining how masculinity is a learned virtue that must flow into a boy from a community of good men rather than an innate quality. The discussion tackles the pervasive "father wound" that impacts up to 90% of men through estrangement, criticism, or emotional absence. By balancing the raw gravity of life with the necessity of emotional flexibility, Steve provides a generational roadmap for fathers to dismantle their emotional armor, engage in healing, and embrace active, soft-eyed presence. Key Takeaways Masculinity is a River that Must Flow: True manhood is not an inborn trait; it is a flexible, learned software passed down through thousands of hours of deep, exposed connection with healthy male role models.The Illusion of Ego Fantasies: Every boy carries a "dream dad" and every father carries a "dream son," but these mental projections never align in reality. Forcing a child to act as an ego badge is a parenting catastrophe; true fatherhood requires loving the real person in front of you.The Pervasiveness of the Father Wound: Statistically, only 10% of men report having a close, nourishing relationship with their fathers, leaving the remaining 90% struggling with wounds of estrangement, hyper-criticism, or duty-bound distance.Three Timeless Truths of Male Initiation: Grounded in ancient rites of passage, young men must internalize three inner realities to transition into true adulthood: accept that they will die, realize their life is not entirely about them, and let go of the illusion of absolute control.The Generational Power of Presence: Children live entirely in the present moment. A rich childhood is built out of thousands of individual "todays" marked by a father's eye-to-eye connection, full-bellied laughter, and gentle, un-harsh boundaries. “Getting your ego fantasy of a kid in a real shape is a disaster. No kid is supposed to be the ego badge to be worn by their parents.” “If you can feel your own wounds, then you will not wound your own children.” “A good childhood is made up of 9,000 todays. Presence—if you can do presence, then your parenting and your partnering will work really, really well.” 00:00 Introduction: Shifting the Focus to Fathers 02:31 Navigating the Changing Tides of Masculinity 05:05 The River of Manhood Explained 11:07 Breaking the Father's Ego Fantasy 16:26 Understanding the Father Wound 21:57 The Three Types of Damaged Fathering 25:22 Traveling from Boyhood to Manhood 36:43 The Power of Ancient Male Initiation 42:05 The Three Inner Truths of Growth 47:00 Managing Tension: The Bowling Ball Analogy 52:45 The Principle of True Presence 54:46 Shaun’s Personal Experience with Presence Books, Links and Frameworks Mentioned Books The New Manhood by Steve Biddulph https://www.amazon.com/The-New-Manhood/dp/1760851140Raising Boys in the 21st Century by Steve Biddulph https://www.amazon.com/Raising-Boys-21st-Century-Completely/dp/0008283672What It’s Like to Go to War by Richard Malantes https://www.amazon.com/What-Like-War-Karl-Marlantes/dp/B0071UEX8WFrameworks & Concepts The 90/10 Father Relationship Breakdown: A diagnostic tool indicating that 30% of men are estranged from their fathers, 30% have a "cactus" (prickly) relationship, 30% operate strictly out of duty, and only 10% share a close, nourishing bond.The Three Inner Truths of Male Initiation: A framework popularized by Franciscan monk Richard Rohr stating that true adulthood requires accepting mortality ("you are going to die"), shifting focus away from the ego ("your life is not about you"), and surrendering outcomes ("you can't control anything").Father Time Studies: A field of university research tracking the exact minutes fathers spend in direct conversation with their children, historically averaging just six minutes a day.The Bowling Ball Analogy: A behavioral tool used to manage parental tension, illustrating the importance of focusing deeply on your inputs before letting go and releasing your control over the ultimate outcome.
9 Jul

Q&A: Initiations & Navigating the Digital Landscape

Navigating the threshold of modern adolescence requires more than passive autopilot parenting; it demands intentionality, real-world action, and an unyielding commitment to relational connection. In this powerful Q&A episode of the Raising Men Podcast, host Shaun Dawson steps into the breach to address the deep cultural noise and heavy transitions facing young men today. Drawing from the collective wisdom of past guests—including former Navy SEAL Eric Davis and men’s leadership pioneer Dan Doty—this session tackles two of the most pressing anxieties keeping fathers awake at night: engineering a meaningful, challenge-based rite of passage for a 13-year-old boy, and effectively countering the cynical grip of "black pill" algorithmic masculinity without resorting to counterproductive authoritarian tactics. Discover how to lower your son's defensive drawbridge, model healthy vulnerability, and present a high-definition version of masculinity right inside your own home. Navigating the threshold of modern adolescence requires more than passive autopilot parenting; it demands intentionality, real-world action, and an unyielding commitment to relational connection. In this powerful Q&A episode of the Raising Men Podcast, host Shaun Dawson steps into the breach to address the deep cultural noise and heavy transitions facing young men today. Drawing from the collective wisdom of past guests—including former Navy SEAL Eric Davis and men’s leadership pioneer Dan Doty—this session tackles two of the most pressing anxieties keeping fathers awake at night: engineering a meaningful, challenge-based rite of passage for a 13-year-old boy, and effectively countering the cynical grip of "black pill" algorithmic masculinity without resorting to counterproductive authoritarian tactics. Discover how to lower your son's defensive drawbridge, model healthy vulnerability, and present a high-definition version of masculinity right inside your own home. Key Topics CoveredModern Rites of Passage: Navigating the critical 13-year-old threshold intentionally rather than letting it pass on autopilot.Resilience as a Trainable Skill: Shifting away from passive digital consumption and building a boy's "bias towards action" through real-world outdoor adventures, physical challenges, and safe framework failure.Deconstructing "Black Pill" Masculinity: Understanding why boys turn to hyper-cynical online gurus (like Andrew Tate and Jordan Peterson) to resolve identity crises amidst a cultural male vacuum.Connection over Authoritarianism: Why blocking sites or playing the authoritarian enforcer backfires, and how to use relational equity and high-definition masculinity to compete with screens.Model the Struggle, Don't Just Be the Expert: You do not need to have every clean answer figured out. True leadership is being willing to stay in the room, sit in the discomfort, and model how to handle fear, power, and connection directly in front of your son. 00:00:01 Introduction and Listener Mailbag Q&A 00:00:23 The Power of Example and Counterexample 00:02:28 Modern Rites of Passage 00:03:07 Stepping into the Breach: Overcoming Default Parenting 00:04:41 Updating Parenting Models for the Digital Age 00:05:22 Training a Bias Towards Action and Resilience 00:06:23 Introducing Intentional Discomfort and Real-World Consequences 00:07:53 Countering "Black Pill" Masculinity 00:09:37 The Gateway Drug: Where Online Gurus Get It Right 00:11:53 Understanding the Male Identity Crisis and the Algorithm Vacuum 00:13:48 Shifting from Authoritarian Enforcement to Real-World Competition 00:17:41 Modeling the Struggle Key Topics Covered Modern Rites of Passage: Navigating the critical 13-year-old threshold intentionally rather than letting it pass on autopilot.Resilience as a Trainable Skill: Shifting away from passive digital consumption and building a boy's "bias towards action" through real-world outdoor adventures, physical challenges, and safe framework failure.Deconstructing "Black Pill" Masculinity: Understanding why boys turn to hyper-cynical online gurus (like Andrew Tate and Jordan Peterson) to resolve identity crises amidst a cultural male vacuum.Connection over Authoritarianism: Why blocking sites or playing the authoritarian enforcer backfires, and how to use relational equity and high-definition masculinity to compete with screens.Model the Struggle, Don't Just Be the Expert: You do not need to have every clean answer figured out. True leadership is being willing to stay in the room, sit in the discomfort, and model how to handle fear, power, and connection directly in front of your son. (Note: This aligns with Shaun Dawson's core podcast principle: "Excellence is failure.") Resilience is not a static personality trait that you either have or you don't have. Resilience is a skill and it is a functional skill trained by maintaining and restoring your ability to act under stress." — Eric Davis "Our culture has effectively clear-cut the traditional forests of modern masculinity... leaving a massive male vacuum." — Dan Doty "You don't argue with the screen, you compete with it." — Shaun Dawson Books, Tools, & Websites Mentioned Book: Raising Men: Lessons Navy SEALs Learned from Their Training and Taught to Their Sons by Eric Davis https://www.amazon.com/Raising-Men-Lessons-Learned-Training/dp/125009173XTool: The Curiosity Template / Reporter Questions Framework (asking open-ended, non-judgmental questions to lower the child's defensive drawbridge)https://raising.men/episodes/beyond-the-battlefield-a-navy-seal-s-guide-to-raising-good-men-with-eric-davishttps://raising.men/episodes/the-wild-and-tender-work-of-fatherhood-with-dan-doty
6 Jul

The Secret Superpower of Parenting with Jody Hill

In this episode of Raising Men, host Shaun Dawson sits down with Jody Hill, a best-selling author, speaker, and parenting sidekick, to unpack the transformative power of a parent’s words. Jody, the author of The Parent's Secret Superpower, shares a simple yet life-altering message: the language parents use daily directly shapes how children view themselves and navigate their futures. Moving past the pressure to read every parenting book or attend endless courses, she reminds parents that their greatest asset is already within them. Through powerful real-world stories and practical strategies, Jody explains how to resist the urge to constantly rescue children from minor struggles and instead build their long-term confidence. This deep dive explores how to intentionally construct a safe environment for kids to fail, shift our defaults from criticism to affirmation, and raise self-aware, independent adults. Key Takeaways Your Words Establish Your Child's Identity: The beliefs children form about themselves dictate how they show up in the room, face challenges, and navigate adulthood.Equipping Over Rescuing: Swooping in to solve a child’s problems or struggles robs them of building real resilience and silently communicates that they are incapable.Praise the Effort, Not Just the Result: Shifting the focus from final outcomes to hard work and persistence helps manage performance pressure and prevents kids from equating perfection with self-worth.Create a Safe Place to Fail: Utilizing techniques like the "compliment sandwich" to affirm before correcting teaches children that mistakes are learning opportunities rather than moments for shame.Parent Beyond the Immediate Moment: Pausing to reflect on the long-term goal of raising self-reliant adults stops emotional escalation and overrides the natural default to react with control or irritation."Your words are the greatest tool and the greatest asset that you have to change the trajectory of your child's life." "When you see something that you want to speak to that could be a little bit better, pause and be like, 'What can I affirm first?' before I offer that correction out of a kind heart." "Equipping and empowering them—it's slower and it's longer... You gotta think about the end result, the long-term goal, not the in-the-moment." Transcript Summary 00:00 – Resisting the parental instinct to do everything for your child.00:43 – Shaun welcomes author, speaker, and parenting sidekick Jody Hill.02:00 – How a parent's words shape a child's internal identity.04:24 – The Masaru Emoto water crystal experiment and its biological parallel.08:55 – A gang member's success story detailing mindsets and privilege.14:55 – Breaking the default reflex to criticize and troubleshoot wrong answers.18:45 – The Tiger Woods analogy and why excellence requires embracing failure.21:45 – Tying shoes: a lesson in stopping to empower rather than rescue.28:20 – Eradicating the "Terrible Twos" myth by shifting parental expectations.33:30 – Managing spelling test pressure and praising effort over perfect grades.38:30 – Navigating ego, youth basketball struggles, and post-game processing.50:00 – Raising boys as a single mother and finding positive male role models.Books, Links and Frameworks Mentioned The Parent's Secret Superpower – Best-selling book by guest Jody Hill. http://mysecretsuperpower.com/Get Jody's FREE Confidence Boosters & Busters Guide - http://mysecretsuperpower.com/Masaru Emoto's Water Crystal Experiment – A scientific study exploring the impact of positive and negative intentions on water structures.The Compliment Sandwich – A communication framework where a correction is placed between an initial and final affirmation.Sherlock Brain vs. Conan Brain – An emotional regulation metaphor used by Shaun to describe moving past immediate, survival-driven reactions into calm logic.Follow Jody on her official page @JodyHillParenting

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Raising Men is a podcast about parenting, masculinity, and the lifelong journey of raising sons—and ourselves—to be men of courage, character, and purpose. Hosted by Shaun Dawson, each episode features real conversations with parents, leaders, and thinkers redefining what it means to raising men in today’s world.

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Shaun Dawson
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2025 - 2026
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