On today’s episode of the Arizona Equals Conversation, Jeanne interviews Sonora Reyes, author of The Lesbiana’s Guide to Catholic School and finalist for the National Book Awards. They talk about the complex process of coming out, how writing fiction can be a way to process trauma, and whether the publishing industry is ready for the kind of characters Sonora wants to write. Links & Context * Sonora Reyes * The Lesbiana’s Guide to Catholic School * Preorder: The Luis Ortega Survival Club * National Book Awards Finalists * Brick Road Coffee * Queerizona * one•n•ten * #actuallyautistic on Tumblr Full Transcript 00;00;00;05 - 00;00;27;20 Jeanne From Equality Arizona, you're listening to the Arizona Equals Conversation. I'm Jeanne Woodbury. I'm the interim executive director for Equality Arizona and the host of this podcast. Each week on the show, I interview a queer person about the map of their life and the paths they've taken through it. Today, I'm really excited to release this interview with National Book Award finalist Sonora Reyes, author of the Lesbiana's Guide to Catholic School. 00;00;28;19 - 00;00;49;21 Jeanne I was actually introduced to Sonora through a previous guest on the podcast, Jesse, one of the co-owners of Brick Road Coffee in Tempe, and I love how that really captures the spirit of the show. You know, as we add more and more stories to the project, it's really rewarding to see how those stories connect to each other, and the picture that paints of Arizona. 00;00;50;25 - 00;01;14;01 Jeanne I absolutely loved my time with Sonora and the conversation we got to have. We covered some really interesting topics, like online community, processing trauma through writing fiction, representations of autism, and I hope that you enjoy it as much as I did. But just like this conversation is mostly spoiler-free for Sonora's novel, I'm going to make this intro pretty much spoiler-free for the conversation. 00;01;14;18 - 00;01;29;16 Jeanne So let's just jump into it. 00;01;33;21 - 00;01;44;03 Sonora Okay, hi, I'm Sonora Reyes. I am an author, of the book The Lesbiana's Guide to Catholic School. I use they/them pronouns. Um, yeah! 00;01;45;02 - 00;01;54;12 Jeanne Alright, thank you! Sonora Sorry that was a horrible introduction. Jeanne No, it's fantastic, it was fantastic. Sonora I'm so bad at intros. Like, what do I say? 00;01;55;11 - 00;02;00;02 Jeanne Yeah, no, I always, um, I always struggle to know how to talk about myself. 00;02;00;03 - 00;02;01;15 Sonora Yeah, it's hard. 00;02;02;12 - 00;02;08;27 Sonora Which is silly because it's like, Oh, I have to do it all the time now. And I still haven't gotten the hang of it. 00;02;10;13 - 00;02;29;13 Jeanne Well, so anyway, it's pretty informal, but thanks for sitting down with me and talking. I bought your book and I read your book and I really loved it. Sonora Aww. Jeanne It took me like 60 pages to really figure out where it was going. I was like, This is interesting. And then I got into it. I was like, Oh, this is actually really fascinating. 00;02;29;26 - 00;02;50;01 Jeanne And one of the things that I wanted to ask you about is, you know, a lot of the book is about levels of being out and what it means to come out and what it's like to be outed. And kind of one of the central tensions, at least in the way I read the book, is between this character, Bo, who's out. 00;02;50;12 - 00;03;16;01 Jeanne And then the main character, who is not out. And they go to the same school, and there's this tension of like, I'm only going to tell Bo that I'm gay. And I wondered, like, is this something that you have experience with? It's like, it's a really nuanced conversation about being out where it's like, Well, why wouldn't she just come out to this person and have this safe relationship? 00;03;16;07 - 00;03;22;23 Jeanne And that's a big part of what the book is about. Sonora Yeah. Jeanne But I really found myself thinking, oh, this is this is unique. This is different. 00;03;23;01 - 00;03;53;06 Sonora Yeah. And I think the reason why I chose to have Yami be so hesitant to come out is because I really wanted to tell a story where when she comes out, she's fully ready and she's fully, like, embraced herself by that point because the first time she came out, she wasn't. And, when she came out to Bianca and then Bianca outed her at her old school. 00;03;53;11 - 00;03;59;00 Sonora So that's not really a spoiler; it's in like the first part of the book. The first page, I think. 00;03;59;08 - 00;04;00;19 Jeanne I think so. Yeah. 00;04;01;28 - 00;04;32;26 Sonora But so since she experienced that I wanted to give her kind of both, like, options. So she had her coming out experience taken from her. And then the next time she gets to take it into her own hands and do it the way she wants to do it in, even if she has this perfect situation where she, one of her best friends, is gay and out and, and her gay friends parents are very supportive of her friend. 00;04;33;11 - 00;05;06;02 Sonora And so she knows that like her friend group would be supportive and she knows that like the same situation wouldn't happen again. But then, in my opinion, I don't think you need to have like a reason to not be ready, if that makes sense? Jeanne I agree, yeah. Sonora So, like, she just wasn't yet, and it just took a little bit for her to, like, she had to kind of dip her toes in a little bit and then find her groove and eventually figure out who she was and figure out when she was ready, so. 00;05;06;09 - 00;05;26;13 Jeanne I remember at one point she's talking with another character — I don't want to spoil things, but there's another character who we find out is bisexual — and she's saying this thing where it's about, Look, I'm out to this person, I'm out to this person: just because I'm not, like, officially out to everyone. Does that mean I'm hiding? 00;05;26;28 - 00;05;45;24 Jeanne And does it mean I'm not out unless I go to every single person and tell them one by one? Sonora Yeah. [laughs] Jeanne That, you know, I'm gay. And I feel like that's something I've heard a lot of people talk about in terms of being out. It's like, well you're constantly coming out. It's not like it becomes a, like a name tag that's stuck to you. 00;05;46;23 - 00;05;51;12 Jeanne How do you think about that? Like in your own life, in terms of being out and — 00;05;51;18 - 00;05;58;16 Sonora Yeah, so I think that I'm at the point where I'm very ready to be out like, you know, writing gay books and like — 00;05;58;16 - 00;06;01;16 Jeanne Yeah. 00;06;01;16 - 00;06;31;06 Sonora So I do whatever I can these days to like actually show people that I'm like, queer in some way. Like, you know, I cut my hair. I like, I don't know, I feel like I, I want to, like, wear clothes that make me feel comfortable. I want to, like, hang out in very queer spaces and just, like, be around people who I feel comfortable with and I kind of do — 00;06;31;07 - 00;06;52;11 Sonora So there's conversation in the book where Bo is saying that like, she's like Schrodinger's gay, right? Where she like always has to scream about being gay and Chinese for anyone to like, actually see her. And I totally feel that, like, myself. Like I'm like, I feel like I just I, but I'm past the point of feeling like I have to, 00;06;52;11 - 00;06;54;06 Sonora And I'm at the point now where I'm like, I want to. 00;06;54;17 - 00;06;55;02 Jeanne Oh, yeah. 00;06;55;05 - 00;06;57;23 Sonora You know, like, I'm just like, I'm just always shouting about it. 00;06;58;08 - 00;07;12;23 Sonora Because I, like, feel ready to, but like, it took me a long time to get there and it took me like a really long time to feel like I was ready to, like, actually do it of my own volition instead of because I felt like I was supposed to, you know? 00;07;13;14 - 00;07;25;23 Jeanne Right. And in the course of that journey, I mean, what was the thing, was it — you know, you mentioned spending time in really specifically queer spaces and around people. Is that what enabled that or was it just, time? 00;07;26;10 - 00;07;49;18 Sonora I think just time because I was in kind of a unique situation where like I've talked about this before, where like I — so I wrote the Lesbiana's Guide to Catholic School. It's about a lesbian cis girl. I am not cis or a girl or a lesbian. And I used to wear that hat; like her experience is what I experienced in high school. 00;07;50;00 - 00;08;13;21 Sonora So I still feel like that's my experience because I very much thought that that was me for a very long time. And so I have worn many hats in my life. And I think you're going to see like a lot of different books that like showcase those different experiences because I want to explore like all of who I am and who I was and who I have been. 00;08;14;15 - 00;08;17;22 Sonora Just so you know, process some trauma. 00;08;19;09 - 00;08;30;14 Sonora I feel like that's my brand now is just processing trauma through my books, but in a like hopeful way I hope — in a way that feels happy at the end. 00;08;30;27 - 00;08;50;13 Jeanne Something I haven't gotten to talk about very much with other authors is — and you, you know, you bring up this idea of processing trauma through your books — there's a unique relationship, right, between like an author and a reader or the audience in general, where you can say these things and it's not like someone's looking at you while you're saying them. 00;08;51;00 - 00;09;10;20 Jeanne But then at the same time, like, I bought your book on a shelf at Changing Hands and it had like a staff recommendation placard. So like a lot of people are reading these and if you put something like that in there, do you feel like it's communication and that's what's helpful in terms of processing or is it just, writing it down? 00;09;10;28 - 00;09;12;12 Jeanne I guess maybe it could be both. 00;09;12;15 - 00;09;37;02 Sonora I think both, but I think for me, like I can t