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Titles In BDSM and D/S: The Psychology Behind Them

Why are there so many titles, honorifics, and pet names in BDSM, D/S, and kink? Does calling someone by a title actually reinforce a dynamic, or is it just a word? Does wanting a titlerespected cross the line into demanding respect someone has not earned? Discover the researched psychology behind titles and honorifics.
Oct 13

The BDSM Safety Framework Debate: Beyond SSC and RACK

The safety acronyms like SSC, RACK, PRICK, and the 4Cs are designed to help keep us safer in BDSM, but why do they lead to arguments? It seems counterintuitive that in D/S, kink, and BDSM, consent and risk frameworks can create such heated debate, but they do. So discover what the fuss is about and what all this alphabet soup actually means for you.
Sep 15

The Most Asked BDSM Question And How Not To Slip And Fall

It’s back! The most asked question in BDSM and kink. The question is small, just seven words, maybe even simple, but the truth is, this little question is deep. So deep that this episode builds on the last one. While the last episode explored opening the door, and this is about keeping your balance; no slipping or falling once you have walked in. So grab your headphones, get comfy, and press play today.
Sep 29

The Most Asked Question In BDSM: May I Have This Dance

The final installment of the Most Asked Question In BDSM is here, and no, that question is not: am I dominant or submissive, what should I learn about kink first, or is BDSM, D/S, and kink safe? In fact, this part of the question's answer asks: Are you ready to dance? So put on your dancing shoes, waltz to a comfy spot, and press play.
Sep 1

The Most Asked BDSM Question? Opening The Door

What is the most asked question in BDSM? It’s not: Am I dominant or submissive?What should I learn about BDSM first?Is BDSM, D/S, and kink safe? It is a bigger question than you think, so I am breaking it into thirds, and the first step? Well, that’s gotta get your foot in the door, and while it sounds easy, the tricky bit is understanding how to do it.
05/23/2023

S.2 Episode Twenty-Seven: Finding Your Place In The Kink Community

Welcome to this episode of Chatting With The Lightkeeper and this week we will chat about finding your place in the BDSM Community. Navigating the BDSM world can be intimidating and overwhelming - so we want to help you find your place in the community. In this episode, we'll be discussing the journey to connect with others, make real-life connections and how to make sure you’re being safe and responsibly. Also want that BDSM is a fun and exciting way to explore yourself, so don’t be afraid to take your time and find your way.
05/09/2023

S.2 Episode Twenty-Five: Breaking the BDSM Stereotype: Challenging Media Narratives

In this episode of Chatting With The Lightkeeper, we explore the intersection of media stereotypes and BDSM. Every day, we are bombarded with images of what it means to be a "normal" person, or what is considered socially acceptable. But what happens when you don't fit into these stereotypes? How do you express yourself and your sexuality without being judged? In this episode, we'll take a look at how media stereotypes can affect our understanding of BDSM, and how we can challenge these stereotypes and create a more inclusive culture for all. Link To Leather Archives & Museum mentioned in this episode: https://leatherarchives.org
Aug 18

BDSM and Kink: 15 Things People Get Wrong

When it comes to exploring kinks, everyone makes mistakes, so don’t look at the title and think “Oh god, here is a lecture on mistakes.” Look, this is not a lecture, a stern talking-to, nor another list of BDSM and kink red flags. What you will discover is that I took the time to go down the rabbit hole of research to find fifteen of the most common faux pas in BDSM, D/S, and kink. It doesn’t matter if you’re “mint in box” but curious, a lifestyle veteran who can’t remember where the box is, or someone who’s read a zillion kink guides, kink consent guides, and chats about BDSM, bondage, and D/S all the time; this episode will bring a fresh perspective you can use on your kink journey.
Jul 7

D/S Contracts: Non-Negotiable or Nope?

D/S contracts: some swear by them, but others will not touch them. Why? Find out what they are, what makes them a must-have, a hard no, or a maybe; so you can decide for yourself. So grab your earbuds, get comfortable, and press play. No contract required!
Jan 6

Exploring America's Most Desired Sexual Fantasy - S.5 Episode One

Do you know what the number one sexual fantasy is forAmericans? With 2026 just arrived many are making resolutions that include BDSM, D/S and kink fantasies. This episode explores America’s most popular fantasy with practical advice on how to take it from dreamy desire to lived reality. So get comfortable, put in your earbuds, discover this kinktastic fantasy and learn what you need to know should you want to bring this often unspoken fantasy to life.

Welcome to Chatting With The Lightkeeper, where curiosity leads to conversation and there is always something new to discover. Hosted by writer and podcaster Edward Volkl, this channel brings together thoughtful discussions, fascinating history, personal perspectives, and educational conversations about relationships, human behavior, and the many ways people connect. Whether you prefer an in-depth conversation or a quick, informative listen, there is something here that will spark your curiosity. With two distinct podcasts offering different listening experiences, you can enjoy everything from brief educational features to longer conversations filled with interesting perspectives, historical insights, and subjects worth talking about.

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Titles In BDSM and D/S: The Psychology Behind Them

The BDSM Safety Framework Debate: Beyond SSC and RACK

The Most Asked BDSM Question And How Not To Slip And Fall

The Most Asked Question In BDSM: May I Have This Dance

The Most Asked BDSM Question? Opening The Door

S.2 Episode Twenty-Seven: Finding Your Place In The Kink Community

S.2 Episode Twenty-Five: Breaking the BDSM Stereotype: Challenging Media Narratives

BDSM and Kink: 15 Things People Get Wrong

D/S Contracts: Non-Negotiable or Nope?

Exploring America's Most Desired Sexual Fantasy - S.5 Episode One

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