Eve Rodsky

Émissions

Épisodes

  1. 496 - Women's Work: Fair Play - Redistributing the Housework Cards with Eve Rodsky

    05/08/2022

    496 - Women's Work: Fair Play - Redistributing the Housework Cards with Eve Rodsky

    I'm so excited to have Eve Rodsky on the podcast again! Eve first joined me on the podcast back in episode #312 where she discussed her book Fair Play: A Game-Changing Solution for When You Have Too Much to Do (and More Life to Live). I highly recommend going back and listening to that episode so you have a foundational understanding of the concept of Fair Play. Since she was here last time, she has released the Fair Play Documentary that I also think you should go watch. In this episode, Eve and I discuss the invisible work being done at home and how society has tried to erase the gender division of labor in the home. So much focus has been on women and giving women tools to better balance work life and home life. Eve found it difficult through Fair Play to give solutions to families who said that both the man and the woman in the household were doing a task. Enter the mustard. How did the mustard get into your refrigerator? This is a great example that you have to hear Eve use to explain the difference between the execution of a task versus the cognitive labor related to a task. It's eye-opening! We then discuss some of Eve's family background growing up with a single mom as well as my daughter Abby's life as a single mom today. A large number of children each year are both to single moms. These single moms are unfortunately at a disadvantage because they are usually holding all of the cards for their families and therefore have fewer work and income opportunities available.  Eve also walks me through an exercise that I hope you will also do for yourself. First, what is an activity outside of your roles that you love to do and share with the world? This goes beyond self-care or exercise or pleasure reading. Second, what is something you love to do? What values does doing this thing bring up for you? I of course talked about travel and learning, but Eve helped me see how understanding the values underneath these things will help you find activities that can bring up these values for you even when you're unable to do the activities you really want to do. I hope you enjoyed this conversation with Eve Rodsky as much as I did! Connect with Eve Rodsky Visit FairPlayLife.com Watch the Fair Play Documentary Follow Fair Play Life on Instagram Listen to episode #312 - Fair Play with Eve Rodsky

    47 min
  2. 51: Division of Labor with Eve Rodsky

    25/09/2023

    51: Division of Labor with Eve Rodsky

    This is the show that will make you take a closer look at how the work is shared in your household. The problem cannot be solved by simply handing out to-do lists. I’m joined by Eve Rodsky, who is working to change society one partnership at a time by promoting a new 21st-century solution to an age-old problem. Still today, women shoulder two-thirds or more of the unpaid domestic work and child care for their homes and families, and this burden is taking its toll! Again, there are deeper issues to consider. Let’s talk about this topic with Eve! Show Highlights: ●      How Eve came to write her book, Fair Play ●      How many wives/moms have an automatically assigned role in their homes ●      How the shift in marriage occurs where women do most of the “invisible work” ●      How Eve’s book is structured with information and practical ways to divide labor ●      How a story about the Tooth Fairy illustrates the mindset shifts that need to happen in both partners to have fair play ●      Why couples get into a measuring contest about whose job is harder ●      Why we need to break down harmful norms that hurt us all and be clear about each partner’s role ●      Is your home infested by RATs? (randomly assigned tasks) ●      Why accountability and trust are vital in home organization ●      Why the mental load is more taxing in most cases than the actual execution of tasks ●      How to view boundaries with a fresh and freeing perspective and find your “unicorn space” Resources and Links: Connect with Eve Rodsky: Website, Instagram (Fair Play Life), Instagram (Eve), and TikTok Connect with KC: Website, TikTok, Instagram, and Facebook Get KC’s book, How to Keep House While Drowning We love the sponsors that make this show possible! You can always find all the special deals and codes for all our current sponsors on our website: www.strugglecare.com/promo-codes Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

    47 min
  3. Reimagining Our Relationships Toward Rebalancing The Domestic Workload with Eve Rodsky

    12/07/2023

    Reimagining Our Relationships Toward Rebalancing The Domestic Workload with Eve Rodsky

    We’re back with another installment of our Being Seen and Heard series, and we think this one is going to strike a nerve with many of you out there who are looking for a better, stronger, fairer, narrative when it comes to the balance of work in your home and toward raising children. Are you the one in your relationship who is handling the lion’s share of the care and feeding of your littles PLUS taking care of their pickups and dropoffs to school, daycare, sports, bathtimes, bedtimes, wiping noses, butts PLUS managing the domestic front of grocery shopping, cleaning, organizing, handling the social calendar, vacations, PLUS working a 40 hour a week job either inside or outside the home? We see you and are asking a question that maybe you ask every day; why are women still, in a day and age where we make up 55.9 percent of the workforce and where 40 percent are the main breadwinner in the home, still responsible for so much when it comes to child rearing and domestic workload? Our guest this week has created a national conversation about greater equality on the home front with a system she created through intense research that helps couples create balance, by understanding that women are doing what she calls almost all of the “invisible labor” in the home, with at least two thirds of them having a job outside the home as well. Eve Rodsky is a Harvard Law School grad with years of training in organizational management When she had her first child (and began to see her identity at her job being stripped away because of it) and then began the dance of balancing her job with all of her duties as a mother (for which she bore the lion’s share of the domestic and child rearing responsibilities, as so many women do) she started to wonder: what would it be like if couples could reimagine their relationships as to how it relates to rebalancing the work it takes to run a home? So began her “Fair Play” system, where she sets couples up for success in relationship and parenting by helping them change the way they think and talk about their home life.  Jen and Eve discuss:  The patriarchal history that has been around for centuries that informs why the imbalance of domestic workload still exists when so many other categories for women have been elevated How important it is to invite men into their full power into the home, removing barriers and stereotypes as to what men’s and women’s strengths are there Changing the notion that women’s time is somehow less important than men’s–and that the “invisible work” women do is toward guarding the time of men  How the overwhelming pace of work, child rearing and home management eventually ends up making us sick and damaging our relationships, and what we can do about it  BONUS: Eve puts Jen to the test with a question from her Fair Play card deck where we dive deep into Jen’s family values–a question that is illuminating to all of us in understanding each other in relationship.  Thank you to our sponsors! Thought-Provoking Quotes: “Changing and inviting men into their full power in the home is the only way women are gonna be able to step out into their full power in the world.” - Eve Rodsky “We've convinced women that their time is sand. It's infinite. Whereas we guard men's time as if it's finite like diamonds.” - Eve Rodsky Resources Mentioned in This Episode: Peter Drucker Robert Waldinger Ted Talk Fair Play Life Instagram Fairlifeplay.com I’m Glad My Mom Died by Jennette McCurdy - book recommendation Tiny Beautiful Things by Cheryl Strayed - book recommendation  The Kingdom of Prep: The Inside Story of the Rise and (Near) Fall of J. Crew - book recommendation Guest’s Links: Eve’s Website Eve’s Facebook Eve’s Instagram Eve’s Twitter Connect with Jen! Jen’s website Jen’s InstagramJen’s Twitter Jen’s FacebookJen’s YouTube To learn more about listener data and our privacy practices visit: https://www.audacyinc.com/privacy-policy Learn more about your ad choices. Visit https://podcastchoices.com/adchoices

    1 h 11 min
  4. 516- Set...

    23/12/2022

    516- Set...

    In part two of this three part Ready, Set, Go series, we are going to discuss the middle child of the Ready, Set, Go family - SET. What does it mean to get SET and to be SET? The running joke for visionary entrepreneurs like myself is the quote, "Ready, Fire, Aim!" And boy have I lived that quote in the past! At first, in my 20s, it was because I didn't know what I was doing - at home, at work, or as a parent. I learned the hard way - every time! But later in my 30s, it wasn't really my fault anymore. There wasn't enough time to prepare or aim. Life was moving so fast that I was missing important things while running at Mach 1 speed! It wasn't my fault. And it's not yours either. The last time we had "preparation time" in our calendars was in grade school where our teachers carefully planned our assignments and workload so we had time to complete things. By the time high school arrived: extra-curricular activities, part-time jobs and sleep filled in all the cracks and then some. No one has enough time. And no one is going to give us more time. #truth Work colleagues, parents, children, partners, neighbors and friends all want our time. Some demand, some plead, some expect it without question. And we give it…gladly, lovingly, freely. We get up earlier, stay up later, eliminate hobbies and rearrange our days. Eve Rodsky compares our time this way, "Men's time is worth diamonds, and women's time is like sand." Ouch. You can't unhear that. But, it's true for me. Greg has a golf night. He goes on fishing and golf trips. I haven't had a hobby night or gone on a trip with friends since having children (22 years ago)! After work, Greg makes dinner and then watches TV. Now, I do the dishes (sometimes), take a bath and do a puzzle. But I feel weird about it. Until a few years ago, my after-work activities involved driving kids, cleaning the kitchen, laundry, straightening up, etc. until I felt it was an acceptable time for me to stop "working" and take my bath. When are we going to give ourselves the permission to take back a little of our time? Last week we talked about being ready. The truth is you and I are OVER ready. We have been for decades. But we don't make the plan and run the race to a different end. Why is this? SET is all about saying your time is not more important, but AS important as everyone else's. For me, in this season, it means I am going to start my Ph.D program and travel - A LOT. For work, for pleasure, and for me. Let me be clear. My family is not happy about it. They intellectually support it, but in words and actions, they are not pleased with the change. Am I being selfish? Maybe. Would I want it for every single one of them? Absolutely! When one of my family members wants to…further their education, move out, have a baby, take a trip, find a new doctor, pursue a new passion…I facilitate the how, when, where, and payments. I am happy for the sacrifices of time and self-focus I have devoted to my family over the last 25 years, and for the ability to grow Organize 365® around my family. But now I want to pour more of my time and talent into my unique gifting. So, how do we get SET to do the things we want and need to do in life? We know how to help others in our lives get set. We set our kids up for school, set-up their school supplies, bookbags, dorm rooms, etc. We set our partners up for their endeavors and trips. We know how to get set-up; we just don't often look at doing it for ourselves the way we do for others. How do we SET ourselves up for success? Getting SET comes after getting ready because when you are getting SET you are already ready. You are doing the final steps before you GO (more on that next week). What do you need to GO? Get that together now. How can you get SET for a productive and proactive new year? If your goal is to reclaim your home and your time - I have the solution for you. The Productive Home Solution™ is a new way of thinking about your space and time! Half of the battle with anything we are ready and set to do is deciding what the next step is (and then the next step after that). Avoid decision fatigue and use The Productive Home Solution™ as your roadmap to guide you through the journey of getting organized. Organization will carry you through so many of your goals and was the first step for me getting to where I am today. EPISODE RESOURCES: The Productive Home Solution™ Organize 365® Year End Bundle The Productive Home Solution™ Planning Day - December 31, 2022 Did you enjoy this episode? Please leave a rating and review in your favorite podcast app. Share this episode with a friend and be sure to tag Organize 365® when you share on social media!

    45 min
  5. Enough is enough! Fair Play & carving out your Unicorn Space ft. Eve Rodsky

    16/09/2022

    Enough is enough! Fair Play & carving out your Unicorn Space ft. Eve Rodsky

    Listen up, this episode is required listening for all those who are feeling overwhelmed, spread thin, and completely exhausted by this *little thing* we call life. We often talk about this in private but it’s time to make it public–why is it that women are expected to bear the brunt of the domestic workload?! Managing a career and a household is most certainly a gateway to burnout. So how do we adjust our lives to alleviate the crush of the invisible workload? That’s where Heather’s next guest comes in. Heather is joined by the best-selling author of “Fair Play” and “Unicorn Space”, Eve Rodsky, who will define this unique challenge in terms that you’ll most definitely relate to. It’s a conversation that will completely change the way you perceive yourself, your partnerships, and will encourage you to carve out time for yourself. Eve opens up about her own journey and how her research ultimately resulted in being “mesearch” while also providing you with the tools needed to mitigate being complicit in your own oppression. Plus, have you ever heard about “careopause”?! We’re diving into the alarming crisis affecting women worldwide (including Heather). All this and so much more on this episode of Heather Dubrow’s World.Please support the show by checking out our sponsors! Indeed: Visit Indeed.com/HEATHER to start hiring nowSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

    49 min
  6. Changing the Invisible Workload (with guest Eve Rodsky)

    23/10/2019

    Changing the Invisible Workload (with guest Eve Rodsky)

    The "invisible workload" has become shorthand for the never-ending to-do list that moms keep in our heads-- because much of that work is invisible to the people we do it for, let alone the larger world. That work falls to us because moms tend to be the default parent, whatever our outside-the-home workload (or that of our spouses) might be. Are you the one who leaves work when the baby throws up at day care? Do you know which closet the wrapping paper is in- and if you're almost out? Is it your calendar that keeps track of when your kid has to bring the snack for soccer? Yup, us too. Most of us get majorly resentful about this invisible work. Some of us make lists of it all (to make it more visible). Those lists make us mad. Not very much changes. We start to think that this is just the way it has to be. But we don't have to fall for the old chestnut that women are just better at multitasking, and so we might as well keep doing it all. As professor of neurogenetics Dr. Pat Levitt explains: "I don't know of any research that shows women are better multitaskers than men. In fact, multitasking is bad for everyone because our brains are not built to deal with more than one complex thing at a time." This week's guest tells us how to effect actual change in our household distribution of labor by putting new systems in place that work for everyone. Eve Rodsky is author of the new book Fair Play: A Game-Changing Solution For When You Have Too Much To Do (And More Life To Live), and she's showing us all a path forward to create the relationships and households that we deserve. Don't miss this interview! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

    49 min
  7. Signs of Burnout. Time Is Our Most Valuable Currency. Creativity & The Three C’s. Gratitude.

    03/03/2022

    Signs of Burnout. Time Is Our Most Valuable Currency. Creativity & The Three C’s. Gratitude.

    What would it look like for you to reimagine time as your most valuable currency?? Well, Amy sat down with New York Times bestselling author, Eve Rodsky, and Dr. Aditi Nerurkar {MD, MPH, physician, speaker & correspondent} to talk about just that!! TIME = YOUR MOST VALUABLE CURRENCY. Eve and Dr. Aditi are passionate about people {especially women} knowing that they have permission to be unavailable! With people feeling more burned out than ever…this is a very important conversation. Along with setting boundaries surrounding your time, getting creative is imperative to your well-being {and implementing Eve’s Three C’s can help you tap into that creativity: curiosity, connection and completion.} They wrapped up their chat with some ‘4 Things Gratitude’ with Eve sharing 2 things she’s thankful for {gave some good book recommendations + moleskin journals that she loves writing in} & Dr. Aditi shared 2 things {a fun flower thing she’s doing weekly + an online workout program!!}   Dr. Aditi Nerurkar Website: https://www.draditi.com Instagram: @draditinerurkar https://www.instagram.com/draditinerurkar/   Eve Rodsky Website: https://www.everodsky.com Instagram: @everodsky https://www.instagram.com/everodsky/   Fair Play + Unicorn Space Instagram Page @fairplaylife https://www.instagram.com/fairplaylife/   Time Out: A Fair Play Podcast (hosted by Eve Rodsky, featuring Dr. Aditi Nerurkar) https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/time-out-a-fair-play-podcast/id1601845368   Best places to find more about Amy: RadioAmy.com + @RadioAmy Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.com See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

    39 min