愛、生活、人生系列

朱雯娟- Jenny Chu

我們的人生,離不開生活,我們的生活,又離不開愛,所以,愛是我們一切的源頭。為了實踐愛,我們要謙虛,修正自己,愛自己,我們要感恩身邊的每一件人、事、物,然後,我們更要感謝宇宙與天地的加持。 在愛的世界裡,我們要有十足的自信與信心,我們有極豐富的想像力,且相信「心想事成」,我們更有相當的勇氣,付諸每一個行動。因著愛,我們不會辜負我們的生活,我們的人生的。 這個「愛、生活、人生系列」的播客,是一連串的分享會,從第一集到往後的無數集,我將分享好多人生的故事,生活的故事,和愛的故事。但願這些美好的故事,是你、我行動力的靈感,生活的泉源,與生命的助力,就讓我們大家,一起隨我來吧! Powered by Firstory Hosting

  1. 23H AGO

    Learning without Age Limit

    Learning without Age Limit “Live as if you were to die tomorrow. Learn as if you were to live forever,” said Mahatma Gandhi. Yes. There is no age limit for learning in the world. Learning is a process that it continues throughout life, and learning, actually, has no age limit. In other words, whatever our age, there is always something new to learn, whether it’s a new language, a new skill, or a new perspective on life. Learning provides several personal and professional advantages. It can help keep our mind sharp, boost our memory, and lower our risks of cognitive loss as we age. In today’s fast-paced world, technology is advancing at an unprecedented rate, and new information is constantly emerging. This emphasizes the importance of lifelong learning more than ever before. Thus, it’s not only about learning new things; it’s also about developing the skills and adaptability needed to flourish in a constantly changing world. Furthermore, learning can provide a sense of fulfillment and personal improvement. It may help us discover new hobbies, push ourselves to grow, and connect with people who share our interests. The good news is that learning has never been more accessible. We may now study from anywhere, at any time, and at our own pace thanks to the proliferation of online learning platforms and tools. There are also many programs and workshops for older individuals who wish to keep learning and staying interested. Therefore, we might say that there is no age limit for learning; it is never too late to begin. The benefits of lifelong learning are numerous, and the chances are limitless, whether we wish to learn a new language, perfect a new trade, or just improve our knowledge. Young adults dream of having free time to do whatever they want. Then, retirement comes knocking. Now, it’s time to start thinking about how to fill all of the spare time that will soon be available. Retirement, on the other hand, presents an opportunity to learn and re-learn. The willingness to learn at an older age, especially enrolling to pursue a degree in an educational institution, probably is a trend, right now. In fact, it is never too late. For older people, they can come back to schools to learn lessons. Besides, learning is not only confined to educational institutions. Another way to learn at a much older age is by enrolling for online courses, attending seminars or listening to podcasts. Regardless of age, the pursuit of knowledge should be embraced and cherished. Education is not confined to the boundaries of a classroom, and there is no expiration date on our capacity to learn. Therefore, it is essential to recognize and appreciate that there is no age limit for learning. The traditional belief that education is solely for the young has become old-fashioned. Age should never be a barrier to acquiring new skills, exploring different subjects, or adapting to the ever-changing world. Learning does not have a specific timeline or expiration date. It is a continuous process that enriches our lives, broadens our perspectives, and keeps us intellectually engaged and stimulated. Embracing the concept of lifelong learning has numerous benefits, regardless of our stage in life. It enhances our cognitive abilities, improves memory retention, and stimulates critical thinking. Lifelong learning also fosters personal growth, builds self-confidence, and increases our adaptability to new situations. It is, really, crucial for us to carve out time for lifelong learning. Even dedicating a few minutes each day to read, listen to podcasts, or engage in intellectual discussions can make a significant difference for us and, specifically, for older people. From news, we also see that some people even join the professional courses at advanced age of 50/55, and succeed quite well. New ideas are emerging and new concepts are coming. The only way elders would lead a good and meaningful life in the future is to remain relevant in this highly unpredictable world. I find out that there is another but quite interesting perspective. Some of the elders did have the talents that remained hidden as unfulfilled dreams because of their demanding lives. Once they retire from professional job and complete all family responsibilities, these unfulfilled dreams drive them to charter new ways of life. Lifelong learning, truly, does not have any age restrictions. Equipped with traits like passion, commitment, drive and focus, we, especially, most of the older people, can learn anything at any age. To more effectively help older adults, a strengths-based approach to care rather than a paternalistic approach is essential. Older adults have a vast wealth of knowledge as well as a wide range of skill sets. While their quality of life may decline in the face of their aging circumstances, we should not view them as “high risks” but instead “able and capable.” We should not see them as victims but rather people who have hopes and dreams. It is important throughout life to dream big and never give up on what we really want. Older adults should be afforded those same opportunities to live boldly and to take risks. Nevertheless, in order to practice lifelong learning, the older people need physical strength, focus and perseverance. As we age, our bodies naturally undergo physiological changes that lead to a decline in muscle mass and strength. However, with the right exercise strategies, seniors can defy the odds and age strong. Strength training for seniors is not just about looking fit; it’s about preserving independence, reducing the risk of falls and fractures, and improving overall quality of life. Furthermore, many older adults have trouble maintaining focus and concentration as part of natural, age-related cognitive decline. The good news is that it’s possible to improve concentration and focus for older people. It simply requires a commitment to adopting new habits. This includes playing a musical instrument, learning to cook, taking up painting or learning a new language. Besides, having a strong social circle also reduces feelings of depression and loneliness, which could impact attention. Speaking with friends requires that we practice focus by paying attention to what they say, which also helps the older people maintain the ability to concentrate. The fact is that some of our elders believe that children always remain only children, and their experiences are much better than them. What they say might be probably right. But there are many things which create a lot of differences between earlier times and today’s time. Children, now, would want to take their own decisions. They don’t like anyone interfering in their ways. Due to these changes, we can no longer live the life our elders used to live. That’s why lifelong learning is necessary for both young and old generations. From now on, it’s better that our juniors and seniors can practice gratitude all the time by reflecting on daily blessings and expressing appreciation for the simple pleasures in life. Plus, both juniors and seniors should engage in social activities, such as group outings or volunteering, and foster their social connections through lifelong learning. Thus, we will build a better, more inclusive and resilient world for everyone. Powered by Firstory Hosting

    11 min
  2. NOV 24

    愛的實踐

    愛的實踐 《愛的藝術》是埃里希.佛洛姆 (Erich Fromm)在1956年出版的書。佛洛姆這本書最大的論點,即愛是一種能力,一種信仰、紀律、專注、耐性和練習的能力。佛洛姆認為,愛是一門藝術,需要知識和努力,愛不僅是愉悅的感受,更是兩個具有愛的能力的人,努力製造出來的。成熟的愛,是在保有自己完整的前提下,再主動去愛別人的力量。是在給予的行為中,感受到自己的強壯與豐饒。「施」之所以比「受」讓人更快樂,不是因為那是一種剝奪,而是因為「給予的行為」,是在表現我們自己蓬勃的生命力。當我們把自己生命裏活生生的東西給予出去時,我們同時把我們的喜悅、我們的興趣、我們的了解、我們的知識、我們的幽默,和我們的憂愁給出去,,那麼,我們便增強了自己的生命感,也擴大了他人的生命感。愛是一種喚起愛的能力,當我們努力去愛時,我們才會明白真正的愛,然後,才會體察到我們也正接受他人的愛。正如同我們信任,所以明白信任的必要,然後,才能感受到信任隨之而來的責任和能力。又如,因為我們具備藝術的修養,所以去欣賞藝術,然後,我們才感受到藝術帶來的樂趣。當我們努力去愛,然後感受到愛的那一刻,我們就可以清楚地知道,我們正在以正確的方式去愛。佛洛姆提到,愛的基本元素是:照顧、責任、尊重和了解,它們是所有愛的形式共有的特質。愛是我們對所愛者的生命及其成長的積極照顧。例如,因為我們愛著那棵玫瑰,我們日夜看顧澆注,對保護玫瑰產生了責任感,玫瑰便成為我們最珍貴的花。愛裏也要有尊重,因為我們尊重,所以我們讓玫瑰以自己的方式,而不是符合我們需要的方式成長。然後,以愛和照顧為動機的責任,再去尊重,是最超越和最深層的了解。     佛洛姆也強調母愛的重要。母愛是無條件的,它不需要被贏得,也不能被獲取、被創造和被控制。如果母愛存在,我們就是處在至福之中;如果母愛不存在,生活就失去一切美好。母愛有兩個層次,其一是照顧和責任,是保護小孩生命與成長的必須。另一個層次是態度,母愛會在小孩心中灌注對待生命的態度,讓他們覺得活著真好。自愛,是肯定自己生命的快樂、成長與自由,它植根於我們的愛的能力,及我們對自己的尊重、負責和了解。男女愛、兄弟愛,也都要先自愛,然後,再出自意志的行為,決心把自己對待生命的態度,委身給另一個人,或奉獻給親朋好友。最後,對神的愛,既不是在思想上了解上帝,也不是心中存有愛上帝的意念,而是與上帝合一的體驗。因為,上帝是人類的究極目標,所以,我們應當活出神的樣貌,在生活中的一切行為,全都要按照正義的原則,與神同在。     佛洛姆在書中說,愛最重要的是「愛的實踐」,愛是動詞,不是名詞,不是光說不練,而是要實際採取行動。愛的首要條件是自律,因著相信愛,我們要主動地、自律地去練習自愛與愛人。其次是要專注,花時間專注,就是愛。第三個條件是耐心,即使慢,即使看不見成果,我們也要表現愛。第四個條件是態度,我們要把整個生活的態度,都奉獻給愛。我們要練習實踐自律,學習專注,學習獨處,認真傾聽對方,全然活在當下,耐性地了解和接納自己與他人。最後,愛最需要的是信仰和勇氣,我們要有去冒險的能力,隨時準備好接受痛苦和失望。我們要能夠有勇氣的愛和被愛,要把生活中的種種困難、挫折與傷痛,看作可讓我們得到愛的挑戰。去愛,意謂著我們可能得不到任何好處,卻要把自己完全的給出去,但我們也會在被愛者的身上喚起愛,再將愛回饋給我們。佛洛姆盼望,我們都可以成為能愛人的人,有信仰,勇氣,自律,專注,耐心,獨立,了解,尊重,投入與責任。     佛洛姆的「愛的實踐」,說穿了,就是宇宙的法則。在宇宙中,愛是一種力量、一種振波及一種能源。愛是宇宙的法則。愛就是神,神就是愛,我們在世界上每個重大的事件,都是神刻意的愛的安排,萬物絕對沒有巧合和偶然,一切的發生,都是互相聯繫、制約與相連的。雖然,我們所了解的振波、能量,只限於可見光、X光、紅外線、紫外線……等等。但其實,我們的情感和思想,同樣是宇宙的振波,只是頻率與振動不同而已。宇宙擁有最高級而完美的振波,那就是愛的法則,愛是無緣大慈,同體大悲。所以,當我們選擇無私的去愛人時,一股源源不絕的能量,會從我們的心中湧出,滋潤和活化我們的身體。我們的身體本身,就是一個能量系統,當我們與他人接觸和交流時,我們是透過能量的放送,來做溝通的。我們愛的能量,會從我們的心輪散發出去,朝向我們所愛的人,及與我們關聯的人身上。我們越愛人,我們內心產生出來的能量就越多,我們的身體,也就會越健康與和諧。而且,被我們愛的人,也同樣能從我們釋放出來的愛的能量中,獲得很大的益處。因此,我們每天都要練習愛的能力,那是很重要的。如果我們能夠時時記住,我們是生命與愛的無窮泉源,那麼,這整個宇宙,就會永遠快樂、美好。愛是我們每個人非常切實可行且有益的選擇,因著愛,我們的世界與生命,將會獲得永恆的健康、和諧與繁榮。   Powered by Firstory Hosting

    9 min
  3. NOV 17

    對別人要樂觀其成,對自己要非常努力

    對別人要樂觀其成,對自己要非常努力 對別人做的事,我們要樂觀其成。在這個世界上,我們每個人都是獨一無二的,我們每個人都擁有不同的背景、價值觀和生活經驗。雖然我們無法改變別人,但我們可以選擇如何對待別人,那就是尊重別人。尊重別人,就是敬重對方的觀點與感受,並能肯定對方的能力與內在特質。尊重是可以學習的。心理學家霍勒曼(Holloman)與耶茨(Yates)歸納出以下表達尊重的語彙: 1. 鼓勵的語彙 2. 寬容的語彙 3. 表達對對方的理解 4. 表達重視彼此的觀點 尊重,是一種美德,也是一種智慧,它不僅能讓我們獲得良好的人際關係,也能讓我們在這個世界上,活得自在與快樂。尊重並不代表毫無原則地迎合對方,而是發自內心地接納別人的獨特性。我們每個人都有自己的想法和選擇,這些選擇或許與別人不同,但並不代表是錯的。而且,我們也不該因為別人的選擇與我們不同,就對其加以批判或貶低,而是要試著去理解,甚至學習如何包容不同的聲音。真正強大的人,並不是批評別人,來突顯自己的優越的,而是懂得尊重每一個人。在職場上,領導者如果能夠尊重員工的意見,傾聽不同的聲音,他的團隊往往會有凝聚力,員工也會更願意為公司付出。同樣地,在家庭關係中,若夫妻、家人之間,能夠彼此互相尊重,而不是一味地要求對方,按照自己的方式做事,那麼,家庭生活也會更加和諧。      當然,面對親人或朋友,特別是和我們關係密切的人,我們自然會很在意對方的想法或心情。其實,關係愈緊密,我們愈需要學習理解。理解,意味著尊重別人因其生活經驗,所形塑的價值觀、想法或做法,及衍生的情緒感受。理解,不需帶著評價,也無所謂好壞或對錯。在人際關係上,本來就是彼此互相的,自己做好是應該,但是,不要用自己的標準來要求、衡量別人。每個人都有自己的優缺點,只是差異不同,不論我們外在有多謙恭有禮、光鮮亮麗、或品學兼優,甚至在朋友面前,有多隨和、脾氣好,但我們總是有弱點的時候,與其想要改變別人,不如先改變自己,接納包容別人。對於別人做的事情,我們就是要樂觀其成,要讚嘆、喜樂,感恩歡愉才是。      再者,我們要對自己非常努力。生活從來不會辜負每一個努力的人。當我們越努力時,我們就會變得越幸運。我們要在自己人生的道路上,一直努力奔跑,變成自己喜歡的樣子,擁有自己想要的美好生活。我們要讓努力感動自己,讓努力遇見更好的自己。牛頓說:「無論任何事情,只要肯努力,沒有不成功的。」生活不會辜負每一個努力的人,那些轉錯的彎道,孤獨的夜晚,滴下的汗水,都會讓我們成為獨一無二。只要我們對某個東西有追求,一直在不斷地追求,不斷的努力,並為之付出代價,總是會有回報的,這回報有時來得快,有時得到得晚,但請耐心等待,成功之花,一定會為我們而開的。一個真正努力的人,是有執行力的人,他/她懂得掌握自己的工作量,制定如期完成的計畫和策略,發揮高度的時間管理,並有效率地達成目的。所有的事情,都取決於我們的選擇。在人生的旅程中,我們經常面臨各種各樣的選擇。這些選擇,不僅影響我們的生活質量,更決定我們成為什麼樣的人。「選擇,是一種力量,也是一種責任。」我們每天都在做選擇,從生活中的小事,到人生中的大事,無時無刻,我們都在選擇。而這些選擇,決定了我們未來的方向和高度。既然選擇了,我們就要有決心和態度,努力地盡全力付出與達成。我們要勇敢的去想像,很努力地把我們的選擇具象化,寫下來、畫下來,變成長期計畫,把長期計畫,再分割為中、短期細項。每天,我們都要為自己做一些行動,勇往直前,不要後悔,努力達成目標,無怨無悔地,開心完成每一件事。無論大事、小事,一旦選擇,我們就把它當作唯一,帶著微笑的勇氣,盡我們自己最大的努力去實踐。生活不會辜負每一個努力的人,我們要讓努力感動自己,讓努力遇見更好的自己。 Powered by Firstory Hosting

    7 min
  4. NOV 10

    心之所向Following My Heart

    心之所向Following My Heart 我心心念念的事是,我要有一間屬於我自己的舞蹈教室。     There are two ways of determining if we are “following our hearts.” The first way is whether we are following the desires that our hearts are calling us or not, and the second one is if we are living in our hearts. In other words, one is about the actions we are taking, and the other is more about we are the exact persons. Doing what we love means that we have to listen to our intuition, and take actions to follow our passions to the world without fear. Our society today is driven by our minds, our fears and our ego. We do not place as much value and emphasis on passion, love, fulfilment and spiritual purpose. Rather, it is about external success, money, security, stability and reputation. As a result, many of us do not feel it is that important to really tune in to our hearts and hear what they want. This is the reason why when we attempt to start following our hearts, we cannot do what we desire. In fact, our hearts’ desires may not have an initial guarantee of income, or it may require a pay cut. It may mean that we have to go against what our family wants for us, or what our friends expect of us. We, certainly, come across some people, all the time, who have these amazing, beautiful dreams and desires, but they suppress and ignore them and tell themselves that they never have them. For most people, it is much easier to live in denial than actually face what they really want. They would rather pretend that they are happy with what they have, and justify to themselves that their inner dreams are not so important anyway. To get started, we must begin by finding the courage to discover what our hearts want. We may experience feelings of confusion, self-doubt and even regret what we do in the first beginning. It’s OK. It is time for each of us to wake up, and connect with what we surly want. In order to do this, we have to be willing to do things differently, and to challenge the expectations that others hold of us. Our hearts, in reality, are connected to something larger. We might call it Spirit, the Unconscious, God, Higher-self, or the Universe. When we follow our hearts more, and our minds see the results, the integration naturally occurs. We’ve probably seen others follow their hearts. It looks good, but, on the contrary, we doubt our own abilities. They must have some kinds of magical abilities, right? No. They’ve simply experimented a bit more. They aren’t fearless. They just take things one day at a time, and one step at a day. They do feel fear, overwhelm, and confusion, just like everyone else. The difference is that they have developed the trust in themselves. One of the main ways that we can follow our hearts is by noticing our feelings. Those feelings come with peace and encouragement. They are enduring. The more we follow our hearts, the better we get at it. It’s not about being perfect. It’s about learning and discovering how our hearts communicate with us. We can say that courage is not the absence of fear, but the decision to act in spite of it. It’s about stepping into the unknown, armed with the belief in ourselves and the conviction that the journey is worth embarking on. Courage, yet, involves embracing vulnerability, and being open to the possibility of failure, criticism, or disappointment, but choosing to move forward because the potential for growth and fulfillment outweighs the fear of what we might go wrong.     Sooner or later, I will find an ideal dance space near “Kaohsiung Cultural Center,” where parking cars won’t be the problem. We all know that injury prevention is essential for dancers at every skill level, and having the right equipment can significantly reduce the risk of accidents and long-term damage. Therefore, the key components, such as a properly installed dance floor, well-positioned ballet barres and shatterproof mirrors, certainly, create a safer and more effective dance environment. In my dance space, the high-quality dance floor is necessary for safe dance practices. Ballet barres are a required equipment, too, that provides stability and balance during warm-ups, stretches and strength training. The excellent ballet barre, indeed, ensures that our dancers can engage in low-impact training safely. Besides, mirrors are another critical element in my dance space. For dancers, observing posture is really vital for correcting movements and avoiding injury from improper techniques. Wall-mounted mirrors are commonly found in my dance space, while portable mirrors provide a flexible solution for extra usage. These mirrors are lightweight, making the dancers in my space easy to move and adjust them with wheels. Dance is an art form that requires skill, talent, and dedication to master. The role of a dance teacher is just as important as that of a dancer, and it takes a unique set of skills and expertise to teach dance effectively. Of course, the first and most obvious requirement for a dance teacher is a strong mastery of dance technique. A dance teacher must be able to perform the movements they’re teaching with precision, clarity, and style. In addition to dance technique mastery, a dance teacher also need to have teaching expertise, including how to communicate effectively with students, how to break down movements into manageable steps, and how to provide constructive feedback and corrections. They are also able to adapt their teaching styles to the needs of individual students, whether they’re beginners or advanced dancers. Definitely, becoming a professional and successful dance instructor requires more than just technical expertise in dance. They should be adaptable and are able to modify their teaching approaches to cater to different styles and levels. All in all, in my dance space, our great dance instructors will teach skilled dance techniques to students, and will inspire, motivate, and cultivate a love for dance in their students. As Martha Graham, the mother of modern dance, once said, “Dance is the hidden language of the soul,” I will follow my heart to imagine that our dance instructors and the students will practice together on a journey of self-expression, creativity, and growth in my dedicated dance space soon.  Powered by Firstory Hosting

    10 min
  5. NOV 2

    生死何去何從

    生死何去何從 根據能量守恆定律,能量不會無故生成,也不能無故摧毀,它只能以不同的形式,轉化存在。也就是說,在巨觀中的「滅」,其實是另一種形式的「存續」,人體分解,正是遵循著宇宙這樣的法則在運轉。「塵歸塵,土歸土」,宇宙萬物,都是分解、腐敗,然後,我們讓身體與周遭環境,融為一體,原本存在於我們體內的物質,也同時滋養其他生命的成長。試觀,我們每個人,都有過去,生命絕對不是突然產生與滅亡的。那麼,我們的生命,究竟從何而來?將往何處去呢?生命的過去,就是我們每個人的歷史,從小學、中學到大學,每個階段,都有歷史,如果我們知道自己生命的歷史,我們就能知曉生命的價值,而生命的價值,也不光是生命的過去,更是生命的未來。我們人的一期生命,不過數十寒暑,當生命結束後,我們要往何處去轉生呢?換句話說,我們這個形體消滅了,是否又有另一個形體復活呢?死亡是否就是投胎轉世,到其它地方繼續生長,所以才叫往生呢?據說,人的「生」與「死」,在宇宙中,就如同「冰」和「水」的互相轉遞一樣,水可以凝結成冰,冰也可以溶化成水;我們死了以後,是可以再生,生了之後,還是會死的;生生死死,死死生生,在生死輪轉之中,我們的生命,絕對是可以永遠不死的。因為,耶穌基督說:「信上帝者,得永生。」人的生命,應該都是永生的。   如果知道生命是永生的,那麼,我們就要修心養性、立功立德才對啊!任何人都有生老病死,我們對生則喜,歡慶祝福,面臨老死時,卻都驚惶、恐怖,此乃皆是常情。可是,生老病死,是人生必經的歷程,生固然可喜,老病死也未必可悲?如同一年當中,季節的變換,寒暑的更替,舊的一年過去,新的一年又開始,生命的延續,應該也是如此的啊!因此,我們可以不必害怕死亡,因為,死亡是生死流轉的自然現象。其實,人一出生,死亡就跟著我們了,死亡是隨時都在我們身邊的。生的時候,我們都想要有尊嚴,死的時候,我們更需要尊嚴。所以,死者臨終時,我們不要呼天搶地,要給死者有尊嚴,祈禱他們離去時,能到達更高的靈性層級。身體是載具,衰敗滅亡後,靈魂還會繼續存在。我們要在自己生前時,時刻培養內心心靈的聖火,我們也要在送別親朋好友的最後一程時,祈禱、祈求他們的靈魂,安詳地、無有恐懼地,接受神聖的愛與光,回到宇宙大地的懷抱。      平常,我們就要好好守住自己的心靈,因為,我們的心靈,就是我們的靈魂,生生不滅的。對於臨終前的告別,我們要以「感恩您,謝謝您」的心情,祈願死者能功德圓滿,死而無憾。法鼓山聖嚴法師說:「能生,則必須求生,非死不可,則當歡喜接受;感恩生存,感謝死亡。」在生命結束時,我們生前擁有的財產、名利,全都帶不走,真正可以帶走的,就是我們的慈悲心、智慧心和有功德的生命。想要「善終」,我們必先「善生」。真正的愛,是讓我們愛的人,沒有煩惱,被我們愛的人,沒有痛苦。以愛為中心來分享,內心就平安,我們就能適時放手,表現真愛。慈悲和智慧,是一體的兩面,有智慧的人,其內心世界,常能保持平靜、清楚、明白,不受環境困擾,還能關懷他人,這是慈悲心。我們在世,更要積極、正向地看待自己,學習開放自己的胸懷和心靈,善待別人,培育我們內心更多的慈悲。當我們仁慈地對待自己,體恤別人時,無論是生、是死,都會帶給我們無限的喜悅和快樂。生死相續相生,我們祈盼著,臨終有人陪伴,平時扮演好自己的角色,孝順父母、教養子女,認真活在當下,真誠擁抱生命,並坦然面對老病,這樣,我們才能很自在地迎接死亡,永續經營來生。 Powered by Firstory Hosting

    8 min
  6. OCT 26

    Stay Hungry, Stay Foolish求知若飢,虛心若愚

    Stay Hungry, Stay Foolish求知若飢,虛心若愚 “Stay hungry, stay foolish (求知若飢,虛心若愚)” 這句話是蘋果公司創辦人賈伯斯(Steve Jobs),在2005年史丹佛大學的畢業典禮演講時的結語。賈伯斯用hungry,是要我們保持渴望追求目標的動力及熱情,就像對成功的飢餓一樣,永遠不要滿足於當下,要有飢餓的態度和行動。不管做什麼事,我們都要把自己當個傻子foolish,不要為自己設限,要一直行動下去,要求知若飢,虛心若愚,順從自己的感覺,放心去做就對了。賈伯斯強調,對工作的熱愛,是人生中最大的動力,即使在挫折面前,也不要失去信心,要堅持找到自己熱愛的事物。生命短暫,我們要讓每一天,都過得有意義。我們要不斷地學習與成長,保持對知識的強烈渴求,就像飢餓時想吃飯一樣。我們要勇於突破自己,保持飢餓感,持續前進。再者,我們也要像電影「阿甘正傳」的主角一樣,不要害怕失敗或被嘲笑,要勇敢地嘗試新事物。因為愚蠢的嘗試,可能帶來意想不到的結果。保持愚笨的態度,則能讓我們不被自己的思維所束縛,相信一切都有可能,相信自己可以不斷地學習和成功。     Steve Jobs said “Stay hungry, stay foolish” in his famous speech for graduate students at Stanford University in 2005. But this phrase is not from Jobs himself. He quoted it from Stuart Brand’s magazine “The Whole Earth Catalogue,” published during 1960s in America. The quote was printed on the back of the last edition of this publication in 1974, and this was what Jobs wished the students for getting into life and work: Stay hungry, stay foolish. Jobs addressed Stanford’s graduating class in 2005, and his words, his touching stories, insightful quotes, and witty comments really make anyone proudly live by. When Jobs, one of the most successful men of his time, discussed his life as a student, he, too, felt the need to attend college. He faced what many people were deathly afraid of: uncertainty. His lack of understanding caused him to stop attending college. However, it turned out to lead him to learn his favorite calligraphy instead. Jobs talked about raising Apple from its infancy, but being shoved away after a decade of hard work. Nevertheless, his love of the work helped him carry on to greater success. In his speech, Jobs quoted the saying “Stay hungry, stay foolish.” and it has become many people’s motto. Staying foolish is realizing that we are still a fool, no matter how much we’ve learned or experienced. There is always more to explore. Staying hungry is wanting to find those things that we are still unknown and uneducated. In his talk, Jobs recounted three stories. The first was dropping out of Reed College, but showing up for the courses he wanted to take. Dropping out was a tough decision. Then, getting fired from Apple was the second. Clearly, it was not his choice, but it led him to create Pixar Animation Studios. Finally, facing death was so hard for him. When facing death, he realized that he had to follow his own intuition, and not to live other people’s lives. Facing death let him know that he ought to take chances to do what was truly important in his life. He taught us the true meanings of “Stay hungry, stay foolish.” It is a fact that when we stay hungry and stay foolish for things, the more knowledge we can acquire, and the better we get at succeeding. In other words, the truth is, if we stay hungry and stay foolish at all times, keeping a growth mindset instead of a fixed mindset, we would, undeniably, flourish and succeed. First of all, while staying hungry and foolish, we, surely, know our true purposes of life. Anyway, it is the only way we can make a positive impact in the world. We can listen to our hearts and develop our awareness. We, then, would have ambitious, keep going and find ways to develop our ideas in our daily lives. Secondly, to stay foolish is to take risks. Taking risks that other people find irrational are a necessary part for any great success. When people say, “Being a dropout and start a business is foolish,” “Becoming a professional musician is impossible,” and “Devoting our life to solving a worldwide problem that no one else can is crazy,” they might not be true. On the contrary, the world would be boring and unchanged if nobody took the risks. Even though most of the people believe that they cannot change the world, it still does not stop the ones who do them from trying. We could have the courage to try to gain knowledge and have a mindset that challenges the common standards, not to accept them. And more often than not, we would, definitely, stay hungry and even stay foolish to challenge the status quo. Actually, “Stay hungry, stay foolish” can mean that we make a difference. It is a good advice for anyone to enter adulthood and independence, to go out there in the world, to leave the cocoon of home, to keep the dreams alive and to move forward to where we want to go. When we learn to stay hungry and stay foolish, we might try our best to take risks, think big and change things for the better. And if it does not work, we may be possible to attempt to do something different and keep on going. Albert Einstein said, “The difference between stupidity and genius is that genius has its limits.” So, once we stay fresh, naïve, hungry and foolish, we really learn and grow. We take on the knowledge. We practice skills. We are never self-satisfied. Brick by brick, we, finally, build the real paths to achieve what we want. It is a timeless call to action. In the end, we are different to pursue our wildest ambitions with tremendous enthusiasm, without regard for the status quo. Learning is a superpower. When we “stay hungry and stay foolish,” we are hunger every day for our desires, we are different, and we never fool ourselves into thinking that we can become who we are today. Powered by Firstory Hosting

    10 min
  7. OCT 21

    To Be Perfectly Imperfect

    To Be Perfectly Imperfect The world is as a stage, and we are as actors playing our roles in it. And how can we learn to become a better actor. Shall we need to be perfect, whatever that means? Actually, trying to be perfect is exhausting. It’s a full-time job with no time off. However, when we say “I am perfectly imperfect,” we meant it in the best possible way or in the most optimal way possible. We, probably, cannot be perfect all the time, but we are finally learning to embrace ourselves as we are, not as we think we have to be. Perfectly imperfect might feel like, “This is who I am. I am not hiding.” It is rooted in self-acceptance. Imperfectly perfect feels more like noticing the beauty inside the flaws. In other words, letting go of perfection would let us be much kinder to ourselves. Whether we call it perfectly imperfect or imperfectly perfect, what we have learned is that perfection keeps us living small, and we are afraid to make mistakes. On the contrary, accepting the imperfections give us the freedom to be ourselves, without worrying whether we could fail or succeed.  In fact, in our lives, we have many flaws… like the way we talk, stand, and walk. We put too much trust into people. We are not confident in many ways. We might have been stuck in, for so many years, in order to appreciate who we are, and improve ourselves without the drive to be worthy in the eyes of others. The truth is, nothing is perfect, and to create the illusion that such an ideal could exist is a misconception because “perfection,” in its simplest form, is impossible to achieve. There will always be someone or something “better,” whether that’s in school, sports, family, or jobs. We, indeed, focus so much on comparing ourselves to the people around us because competition is what our society is built on. Whenever we plan to do something, we give it our best, and hope something great to come out of it. Initially, we do feel that the piece we have created is something beautiful and unique. But soon, we start to see the imperfections in it. We undervalue it and scrutinize our work. We end up getting trapped in a never ending loop of trivial improvements. Yes, it’s no doubt that we do have many flaws. Even though we strive to become someone who is perfect, and we all think that we should give more time to make the things perfect, probably, due to our flaws, there is no such perfect things at all in the world. The true magic always lies in seeing the perfection in the imperfection. Therefore, until the very end of our lives, we should admit that we have done our best, and have perfectly kept on moving to the imperfect world. I want to take CCVS’s (Kaohsiung Municipal Chung-Cheng Industrial High School) YLP (Youth Leadership Program) as an example to illustrate the perfections in imperfections. First of all, the students of CCVS are not majoring in English. They only have regular English classes in school. They don’t even have extra time to train their English speaking skills. In other words, they are, truly, imperfect in their English abilities to match the goal of YLP. Secondly, by a sponsoring Toastmasters club (Golden Noon Toastmasters Club), YLP is a workshop consisting of eight one-and-a half-hour meetings that enable CCVS students, between the ages of 14 and 18, to develop their communication and leadership skills through practical experiences. In the meetings, these students will learn how to evaluate their own speaking abilities, prepare and deliver speeches, and control their voice, vocabulary, and gestures. Meetings are like Toastmasters club meetings that YLP, especially, helps students build effective communication skills, while understanding their own communication styles. However, in real situations, eight meetings cannot guarantee the students to acquire the techniques of English speaking. That is the imperfect environment. Finally, in such imperfect classroom managements, students still try their best to practice English, and deliver their speeches no matter how terrible they might present. This is the true courage that I do admire them. As an English teacher as well as an experienced Toastmasters member, I can see their fears. But, on the other hand, I notice that these students make progress week after week because of their constant practices. I do appreciate their efforts and respect their endeavors. This is the confidence for them to show their will for learning whatsoever. Since childhood, we have been taught by the society that we should always try our best. We want to come first in class because that will make us become good students. We want to earn much money so that we can perfectly spend it wherever we want. That’s true. We do our best all the time. Then, what happens when we encounter experiences overloaded with sad emotions than goodness and happiness? In many circumstances, we actually know our deepest fears and also our deepest strengths. The outside world is permanently imperfect. We really can’t control it. That means, it is impossible for us to pursue the goals of perfection, and reach for the wonderful conditions outward. The only thing we can do is that we can be perfect as much as possible in the face of imperfect things around us. When we look back at our lives, we could evidently see many flaws, and few incidents are perfect. These imperfect things, definitely, expose our weaknesses and insecurities. But, in our hearts, we, keenly, perceive that we, surely, make efforts and work hard. That’s enough for us to be perfect in front of imperfect circumstances around the world. Powered by Firstory Hosting

    8 min
  8. OCT 12

    人緩則安

    人緩則安 「事緩則圓,人緩則安,語遲則貴」的意思,是指碰到事情不要操之過急,要慢慢地設法應付,才能得到圓滿的解決。「事緩則圓,人緩則安,語遲則貴」,這三句深富智慧的話,是出自清代俞萬春的《蕩寇志》,它啟示我們,面對困境時,不宜過於急躁。當遭遇挑戰時,要冷靜思考、循序漸進,在生活中,也應保持淡定,不要過於焦慮,說話時,更應當謹慎,有分寸,言之有物,才能使語言更具價值。這三句話,不僅是一種生活的智慧,更是我們為人處事的指引。換句話說,「事緩則圓,人緩則安,語遲則貴」的意思,是要我們遇事慢慢處理,不要操之過急。生活要慢慢適應環境,不要急於求成。說話要慢慢思考,不要急於表態。      首先,「人緩則安」意指,人在面對事務時,若能保持緩慢從容的態度,不急於求成,則能處於穩定和舒適的狀態。它提醒我們,要沉著應對,避免過度焦慮和急躁,因為心境的平靜,有助於迎接變數,並達成圓滿的結果。  l  保持冷靜,避免情緒干擾:  在遇到問題時,不要被急躁或焦慮的情緒影響,須從長計議,才能避免決策失誤。  l  循序漸進,穩紮穩打:  緩慢並不代表停滯不前,而是採取穩健、有條不紊的步調,一步步解決問題,以確保最終成功。  l  適應環境,保持穩定:  當改變發生時,不急於求成地去適應,而是給自己時間,慢慢地適應環境,才能保持心境的穩定與舒適。 「人緩則安」提醒我們,如果我們能夠緩慢地生活,我們就能夠更好地享受每一天。因為,當我們匆忙地過日子時,我們會感到焦慮和緊張,進而影響我們的健康和幸福。相反地,當我們緩慢地生活時,我們可以更好地享受人生,提高幸福感和生活品質。在現代社會中,我們經常會感到壓力和焦慮,那是因為在競爭激烈的世代裡,我們必須不斷地努力,才能保持競爭力。然而,這種競爭激烈的生活方式,往往導致我們疲憊不堪、焦慮和緊張。因此,如果我們能夠學會緩慢地生活,我們就能夠更好地把握每時每刻的快樂與美好。      其次,「事緩則圓」強調,我們遇事,要慢慢處理,不過於急躁,才能得到圓滿的結果。無論我們遇到什麼問題,其實都不用急著馬上回應,船到橋頭自然直,人生也絕不會因為單一的事情就毀掉。在空間上,我們自己最要緊;在時間上,此刻當下最重要。所以,我們不要焦慮,不要內耗,允許一切事情,自然發生。就算當下的結果,不是我們想要的,我們也要相信,未來會慢慢長成我們喜歡的樣子。泰戈爾說:「即使向空谷吶喊,也要等一會兒,才能聽見回音。」好事多磨,慢有慢的好處,晚有晚的道理。我們因為常常想要控制結果、追求完美,反而給自己帶來不必要的壓力。遇到問題時,我們不用急著去改變外在的世界,我們唯一需要關注的,就是自己內心的反應。靜就是吉,緩就是機。堅信凡事發生,必有利於我,給自己多一點時間,就是給好運多一些機會。時間是一種寶貴的資源,它可以帶來成功和幸福,也可以是失敗和痛苦。在現代社會中,我們經常被迫快速地做出決定和行動,這使得我們常忽略時間的價值。如果我們能夠學會緩慢地思考和行動,我們就能夠更好地掌控生活,實現目標和理想。      最後,「語遲則貴」是指,說話應謹慎思考,不貿然發言,這樣,才能使語言更有價值。我們在面對與人相處和言語交流時,應當要保持緩慢、從容、冷靜,要好好地思考,充分地表達自己。在現今社會中,溝通和交流是非常重要的,古訓道:「知止而後有定,定而後能靜,靜而後能安,安而後能慮,慮而後能得」。心浮氣躁的人,難成大事;真正的強者,大都能平靜如水,保持清醒的頭腦,不慌不忙,有條不紊。我們每個人,總會遇到形形色色的急事、難事、爛事。慢下來,靜下來,積蓄力量,穩住情緒,掌控心態,這樣,我們才能更加清晰,輕鬆地再出發。做到事緩則圓,人緩則安,語遲則貴,心靜則安,我們才能修養好自己的心態,修行好自己的心境。凡事不可急躁,心緩地接納,慢慢地觀察,抽絲剝繭地分析,我們才能找到問題的出口,對症下藥。事慢則圓,人慢則成,為人處世,沉得住氣,才能隨時靜下來,水到渠成。     《小窗幽記》道:「處事當熟思緩處,熟思則得其情,緩處則得其當。」真正的智者,遇到問題,從不着急,而是懂得深度思考,耐心分析,直到豁然開朗。《禮記》云:「水深則流緩,語遲則人貴。」水越深的地方,水流越平緩。那些有涵養、有人品的人,說話不急不慢,不慌不忙。我們做人,說話,不單要慢一些,說得清楚一點,還要說得少一些。《周易》云:「吉人之辭寡,躁人之辭多。」說話慢半拍,或是少說話,甚至是不說話,才能避免禍從口出。寧願做一個善於聆聽的人,也不要做一個尖酸刻薄、冷嘲熱諷、咄咄逼人、污言穢語的人。會說話的人,能愉悅人心,也能成就彼此。心靜則安,心靜,世界就靜了。世界靜了,一切雜物,都將會沉澱。凡事萬物,我們都要懂得清虛靜泰,才能活出從容、淡定、心安、心足。真正的智者能人,遇事從不着急,放緩步調,看清形勢,合理判斷。謹言慎行的人,尊重別人,心靜如鏡,心安存福,他/她必能從容地邁過坎坷,熬過波折,樂享當下的歲月靜好。 Powered by Firstory Hosting

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我們的人生,離不開生活,我們的生活,又離不開愛,所以,愛是我們一切的源頭。為了實踐愛,我們要謙虛,修正自己,愛自己,我們要感恩身邊的每一件人、事、物,然後,我們更要感謝宇宙與天地的加持。 在愛的世界裡,我們要有十足的自信與信心,我們有極豐富的想像力,且相信「心想事成」,我們更有相當的勇氣,付諸每一個行動。因著愛,我們不會辜負我們的生活,我們的人生的。 這個「愛、生活、人生系列」的播客,是一連串的分享會,從第一集到往後的無數集,我將分享好多人生的故事,生活的故事,和愛的故事。但願這些美好的故事,是你、我行動力的靈感,生活的泉源,與生命的助力,就讓我們大家,一起隨我來吧! Powered by Firstory Hosting

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