2 Be Better

Chris Burkett
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We are the 2 Be Better Podcast. Chris and Peaches read emails, answer questions and have hard discussions to help you on your personal growth journey. We are not licensed for anything but we have lived through a lot. Join us. Lets grow!! Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/2-be-better--5828421/support.

  1. 1D AGO

    Set Boundaries, Find Peace Chapter 5 Boundary Violations, Microaggressions and Codependency

    In this episode we break down Chapter 5 of Nedra Glover Tawwab’s Set Boundaries, Find Peace and show you exactly what boundary violations look like in real life. We walk through micro and macro boundary violations, microaggressions, oversharing, guilt trips, enmeshment, codependency, trauma bonding and counter dependency, using real examples of toxic relationships, emotional manipulation, mixed messages, people pleasing and walking on eggshells in dating, marriage, family, friendships and at work. You will hear scripts and phrases to call out gaslighting and guilt tripping, how to say no without over explaining, how to shut down trauma dumping and microaggressions, and how to stop drowning for people who refuse to stand in three inches of water. If you are a people pleaser, recovering codependent, or stuck in a toxic relationship, this conversation will help you recognize red flags, set clear boundaries and reclaim your time, energy and peace. We close with powerful reflection questions on how your life will change with healthy boundaries and challenge you to pick one relationship where you finally stand your ground instead of being the ground they walk on, then share your biggest boundary struggle and what you’re doing to work on it in the comments so your story can help someone else. Keywords: boundaries, boundary violations, healthy boundaries, people pleasing, codependency, enmeshment, trauma bonding, counter dependency, microaggressions, guilt trips, toxic relationships, emotional abuse, gaslighting, Nedra Glover Tawwab, Set Boundaries Find Peace, relationship advice, healing journey, personal growth. Disclaimer: We are not professionals. This podcast is opinioned based and from life experience. This is for entertainment purposes only. Opinions helped by our guests may not reflect our own. But we love a good conversation. Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/2-be-better--5828421/support.

    1h 1m

  2. 1D AGO

    Hermetic Principle 6, Cause and Effect, End Victim Mentality, Fix Your Marriage

    In this video, Chris breaks down the 6th Hermetic Principle, Cause and Effect, and makes it painfully practical for real life, discipline, and relationships. You’ll learn why “nothing happens by accident” isn’t about fate, it’s about patterns, inputs, and the results you keep getting, even when you don’t like admitting your part in them. He ties cause and effect to karma, habit loops, personal responsibility, and why victim mentality is a cause that produces predictable effects like stagnation, resentment, and feeling stuck.  If you want better outcomes in your marriage, your mindset, and your day to day life, this is a straight shot to the leverage points. Chris walks through common marriage “chain reactions” like criticism, avoidance, broken agreements, lack of repair, and how those causes turn into distance, distrust, and dead intimacy over time. Then he gives you tools you can actually use, like a cause audit, lag time awareness, and a language upgrade using I statements versus you statements to lower defensiveness and keep connection while telling the truth. Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/2-be-better--5828421/support.

    32 min

  3. 2D AGO

    Hermetic Principle 5 Rhythm, Breathwork, High Tide Low Tide Plan, Depression Ego

    In this video, you’ll learn the Hermetic Principle of Rhythm and how it explains the cycles you keep living through, the highs where you feel unstoppable, and the lows where you question everything. Chris breaks rhythm down as the “breath of life,” expansion and contraction, push and pull, growth and rest, and shows why your mood, motivation, money, creativity, confidence, and even your sense of purpose naturally rise and fall. You can expect practical clarity on why you suffer when you demand permanent momentum, or panic during an “exhale,” and how to stop letting temporary swings make permanent decisions. You’ll also get tools you can use immediately, including a one minute breath reset, a two-plan method that builds a high tide plan and a low tide plan, and a no major decision rule for those moments when you’re at the top or bottom of the wave. The episode applies rhythm to relationships, discipline, and relapse patterns, and finishes with a hard, direct segment on depression as an ego loop, identity fusion, and self-focused narration, plus how to interrupt that loop with usefulness, service, behavior, and small wins that rebuild confidence. If you’ve been stuck in cycles of intensity and collapse, this will give you language, structure, and a steady way forward. Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/2-be-better--5828421/support.

    19 min

  4. 3D AGO

    Hermetic Principle 4 Polarity, Love vs Hate, Attachment, Self Mastery

    In this episode of the Hermetic Principles series, you’ll get a practical breakdown of the Hermetic Principle of Polarity, the idea that “opposites” are usually the same thing on a spectrum, different in degree, not different in kind. You’ll learn how polarity explains emotional transmutation, how to move from fear toward courage, anger toward clarity, shame toward humility, and how to stop getting trapped in all or nothing thinking. Expect real, grounded examples, plus an easy “ladder” method you can use to shift your state one notch at a time instead of trying to fake a total transformation. This video also takes polarity straight into relationships, attachment, and conflict, including the hard truth that love and hate can sit side by side because they’re both high-intensity attachment, and that the real opposite of love is indifference. You’ll hear a raw, useful talk on post-divorce obsession, rumination, and how to convert that energy into boundaries, rebuilding, and clean detachment, without lying to yourself about what you feel. It wraps with polarity in leadership and masculine and feminine dynamics, showing how strength and softness can coexist when you learn to control degree, not perform a persona. Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/2-be-better--5828421/support.

    26 min

  5. 4D AGO

    Hermetic Principle 3 Vibration, Baseline Breathwork, Better Relationships

    In this episode of the Hermetic Principles series, we break down the Third Hermetic Principle, Vibration, and translate “everything vibrates” into something you can actually use in real life. You’ll learn how your inner state, your nervous system, your emotions, and your “baseline” shape what you notice, what you interpret, and how you respond, especially under stress. This is a grounded conversation about frequency, vibe, and energy alignment, without turning it into vague woo woo, because the goal is clear, state management that changes outcomes. You can expect practical tools you can apply immediately, including a baseline check before hard conversations, simple breathwork patterns to downshift fast, and a “ten second” reset you can use mid trigger to respond with clarity instead of reacting. We also get into why most relationship fights are about state, not content, how echo chambers and inputs affect your baseline, and how to protect your vibration by changing what you consume and the environment you live in. If you want better communication, better conflict repair, stronger leadership energy, and more control over your reactions, this is the episode. Disclaimer: We are not professionals. This podcast is opinioned based and from life experience. This is for entertainment purposes only. Opinions helped by our guests may not reflect our own. But we love a good conversation. Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/2-be-better--5828421/support.

    45 min

  6. 5D AGO

    Gratitude, Marriage Advice & Building The Tribe 2 Be Better Podcast S3 Ep 52

    In this end of year onesie episode of the 2 Be Better Podcast, Chris and Peaches look back on three years of marriage work, spiritual awakening, and building “The Tribe” from a simple “let’s see what happens” show into a movement that is actually changing homes. They read raw gratitude emails from listeners whose relationships, mental health, and families were transformed through better communication, masculine and feminine polarity, and choosing not to quit when life tested them. From saved marriages and healthy divorces to babies, new friendships, and a community that does wellness checks at 3 a.m, this is a long form gratitude episode for anyone serious about healing, love, and growth.  You will also hear where they are going next, from psychedelic integration coaching and ayahuasca ceremony work, to plans for land, retreats, a mushroom based spiritual “church,” future birth and midwife support, and a non profit to help Tribe members in real crisis. Chris opens up about softening his anger, finding compassion, and what it really costs to become a better husband, father, and leader, while Peaches talks about peace, feminine energy, and the emotional income that comes from service. If you want honest marriage advice, relationship coaching in real time, and a community that refuses to let you stay a victim, this episode will push you to stop flirting with your dream, put your dues in, and be the person who finishes. Disclaimer: We are not professionals. This podcast is opinioned based and from life experience. This is for entertainment purposes only. Opinions helped by our guests may not reflect our own. But we love a good conversation. Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/2-be-better--5828421/support.

    1h 2m

  7. 12/26/2025

    Shadow Work For Couples | Triggers, Nervous System, Parts Work & 10 Relationship Healing Exercises

    Disclaimer: We are not professionals. This podcast is opinioned based and from life experience. This is for entertainment purposes only. Opinions helped by our guests may not reflect our own. But we love a good conversation. In this 2 Be Better Podcast deep dive, Chris and Peaches break down shadow work in plain English and show you how to use it without burning your life down. You will learn what the “shadow” actually is, why it is not evil, and how it shows up as overreactions, people pleasing, perfectionism, jealousy, shutdown, and that harsh inner critic that never shuts up. They walk you through the three layer model of trigger, meaning, and action urge, how your nervous system sets the ceiling for your insight, and why naming your parts, your stories, and your body sensations gives you your power back. You will also hear how shadow work ties directly into intimacy, why unspoken wounds get blamed on your partner, and how to start telling the truth about your reactions without turning it into self attack or character assassination.  From there, they move into ten step by step shadow work exercises you can do alone or as a couple, including “the story I tell myself,” family echoes from your childhood home, trigger maps and care plans, resentment to request, ritual release, values to behaviors, and future memory scenes that help you manifest different outcomes instead of repeating the same fight in new outfits. You will get concrete scripts for naming your parts, asking for space without stonewalling, coming back with one clear request, using check ins, repair rehearsal, and parts dialogue so you can stop living in survival mode and start living as your real self. If you are looking for shadow work for couples, nervous system regulation, marriage communication tools, Jungian shadow work, or practical spiritual growth that you can use in real relationships, this episode gives you a full framework plus a free downloadable PDF of the exercises on the 2BeBetter.com resources tab so you can follow along and actually do the work Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/2-be-better--5828421/support.

    48 min

  8. 12/25/2025

    Hermetic Principle 2 Correspondence, As Above So Below, Change Your Patterns

    In this episode, we break down the second Hermetic Principle, Correspondence, and translate “as above, so below, as within, so without” into real life, practical language. You’ll learn how your inner standards, beliefs, and nervous system show up in your habits, your communication, your boundaries, and your results, and why the same “fractal” patterns repeat across marriage, masculinity, parenting, discipline, finances, and self respect. This isn’t mysticism for the sake of sounding deep, it’s a clear lens for spotting the hidden structure beneath your daily choices, then making small corrections that compound. You can expect direct examples that hit home, like how “the straw that broke the camel’s back” is never about the straw, it’s about the load you ignored for too long, and why conflict is usually about trust, safety, respect, appreciation, power, and fear of abandonment, not the trash, tone, sex, budget, or in laws. The episode also gives you a simple framework to “upgrade the pattern” by naming the cycle without blame, identifying the belief driving it, and repeating the correction until it becomes your new default, plus a real talk segment on why change is hard, how familiar pain protects identity, and how self respect becomes the fuel for transformation. Disclaimer: We are not professionals. This podcast is opinioned based and from life experience. This is for entertainment purposes only. Opinions helped by our guests may not reflect our own. But we love a good conversation. Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/2-be-better--5828421/support.

    27 min
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We are the 2 Be Better Podcast. Chris and Peaches read emails, answer questions and have hard discussions to help you on your personal growth journey. We are not licensed for anything but we have lived through a lot. Join us. Lets grow!! Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/2-be-better--5828421/support.

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  • Creator
    Chris Burkett
  • Years Active
    2022 - 2026
  • Episodes
    417
  • Rating
    Explicit
  • Copyright
    © Copyright Chris Burkett
  • Show Website
    2 Be Better

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