4: From Stagnation to Creation: Turning 40 with Sara

Is 40 the age where adulthood finally finds you, or do we just keep figuring it out as we go? In this episode, I'm joined by an extra special guest: my spouse, Sarah! In our conversation, we acknowledge the grief that comes up once you hit 40, the freedom of queerness in aging, and how Erik Erikson’s theories on generativity help reframe midlife as a time of creativity and opportunity. From mourning fading possibilities to finding surprising moments of growth and acceptance; we explore the tension between feeling “too old” and embracing the joy in new beginnings, even as we say goodbye to some old dreams. Whether it’s going back to school, rethinking career paths, or accepting our newfound wrinkles, this episode is all about embracing the messy and creative middle-life.

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