Boundaries & Grace with Taylor Chandler

Taylor Chandler
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I help people break negative relationship cycles by shifting from Insecure to Secure Attachment.

  1. 2天前

    How the Perception–Reality Gap Destroys Connection (and More on the SER Framework)

    I’m sharing one of the most important models in self and relational development — the Perception–Reality Model — and connecting it back to the SER Framework. The P-R concept is a simple, powerful, and a major key to understanding why conversations turn into conflict and how to avoid it. Bottom line is... Perception is not reality. What you see, feel, and believe is shaped by your vantage point. That matters — but it’s not the same as truth. When your perception and reality are out of balance, chaos shows up in your interactions. Learning to check your perspective and expand it creates space for clarity, understanding, and healthier connection. Then we zoom out to the SER Framework — Self-Esteem, Energy, and Responsibility — the foundation for becoming an attractive match and increasing your quality of life as an individual. 👉 Previous Episode --  Models for Self & Relational Development -- Apple: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/boundaries-grace-with-taylor-chandler/id1540127181?i=1000729702954 Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/episode/2kjxKHyBXLgqsWdaM8wohP?si=6b464a06105d4f8d 👉 Download the model library here: https://docs.google.com/document/d/1IHPp0mPhKisLmyHdqNtEHufxEdiTyVWvgmAQ08pXm28/edit?usp=sharing 👉 Share the episode and support the channel if this work has helped you! Thank you for your support! Let's Work Together: Interest Form Website: https://www.iamtaylorchandler.com/ Instagram: @iamtaylorchandler YouTube: @iamtaylorchandler

    14 分钟

  2. 10月7日

    4 Things Every Woman Needs to Get Right

    In this episode, I’m breaking down four key areas every woman needs to get right — fitness, friendships, media, and attitude. These aren’t random tips — they’re about how you show up in your life, your relationships, and your community. From the way you take care of your body to the energy you bring into your friendships and conversations, everything you do leaves an impression. We’ll talk about: Why fitness isn’t just about looks, but about health, confidence, and longevity.How your circle influences your mindset and relationship success.The subtle ways media shapes your values and self-image.The role your attitude plays in how you’re perceived — and how you connect with others.If you’re ready to elevate your standards, build self-awareness, and take ownership of the energy you bring to the world — this one’s for you. Listen now, reflect, and take notes — these four areas will tell you exactly where to start. Thank you for your support! Let's Work Together: Interest Form Website: https://www.iamtaylorchandler.com/ Instagram: @iamtaylorchandler YouTube: @iamtaylorchandler

    33 分钟

  3. 10月2日

    8 Models to Evaluate Yourself and Relationships

    In this episode I walk through 8 practical models I use as a licensed marriage and family therapist and personal development coach. These frameworks are designed to help you evaluate yourself and your relationships, make better decisions, and get real results. Each model gives you a simple way to understand patterns, improve communication, and take action. If you’ve been stuck repeating the same problems in your life or relationships, these models will help you see the issues clearly and know what to do next. What you’ll learn: -Ability–Willingness Model: How to identify the real barrier to change -Energy Matrix: Managing your energy so you don’t burn out or overreact -Passive–Aggressive Communication Model: Where your communication style lands and how to adjust it -Chicken–Egg Dynamic: Breaking cycles of blame in relationships -CCC Model: Diagnosing the root of a problem (Character, Contingent, Circumstantial) -Authentic Self vs. Image Gap: Why the gap between who you are and what you project causes stress -Masculine–Feminine Polarity Model: How energy dynamics shape attraction and conflict -Time–Cost Model: Why delaying conversations makes problems more expensive to fix These are not abstract theories. They’re practical frameworks I use with clients to improve their personal growth and relationship health. 👉 Download the free guide with all 8 models here: https://docs.google.com/document/d/1IHPp0mPhKisLmyHdqNtEHufxEdiTyVWvgmAQ08pXm28/edit?usp=sharing Thank you for your support! Let's Work Together: Interest Form Website: https://www.iamtaylorchandler.com/ Instagram: @iamtaylorchandler YouTube: @iamtaylorchandler

    47 分钟

  4. 9月4日

    The Cost of Delay: A Case for Preventative Maintenance

    The longer you wait to address problems in your relationship, the higher the cost to solve them. Just like ignoring the “check engine” light on your car, avoiding issues in your marriage or dating life only leads to bigger breakdowns later. I explain how preventative maintenance can save your relationship before it’s too late. By paying attention to early warning signs and being proactive, you not only protect your relationship — you actually increase your peace, energy, trust, intimacy, and long-term satisfaction. We’ll cover 3 key areas every couple needs to maintain to avoid unnecessary conflict and future regret: How We Communicate – Avoidant, anxious, or aggressive styles that escalate conflict instead of resolving it. Where We’re Going – Aligning goals, values, and vision for long-term compatibility, not just short-term chemistry. How We Got Here – Accountability and taking responsibility for your impact on the relationship. If you want to build a healthy, lasting relationship, this episode will give you tools to recognize problems early and address them with honesty and maturity. Whether you’re dating, engaged, or married, preventative maintenance is the key. 💡 What You’ll Learn in This Episode: Why small problems compound like debt if ignoredHow communication patterns impact long-term intimacyThe difference between chemistry and compatibilityWhy accountability is non-negotiable for marriage successPractical steps for maintaining trust, peace, and emotional connection 📌 Want to work with me as a couple? https://mkd8uhsug6i.typeform.com/to/DcaoHcan 🌐 More resources: https://linktr.ee/iamtaylorchandler Gottman 4 Horsemen: https://www.gottman.com/blog/the-four-horsemen-recognizing-criticism-contempt-defensiveness-and-stonewalling/ Thank you for your support! Let's Work Together: Interest Form Website: https://www.iamtaylorchandler.com/ Instagram: @iamtaylorchandler YouTube: @iamtaylorchandler

    21 分钟

  5. 8月30日

    My Partner Needs HELP (High SER in relationship with Low SER)

    Are you growing as a person but feeling like you’re growing apart from your partner? In this video, I break down the High-Low Dynamic—what happens when someone with high self-esteem, high energy, and high responsibility (High SER) pairs with someone who is struggling with low self-esteem, low energy, or low responsibility (Low SER). I’m Taylor Chandler, a licensed marriage and family therapist and personal development coach. Using my SER framework, I’ll explain why this dynamic creates tension in relationships, dating, and marriage—and what you can do about it. We’ll cover: -Signs you’re in a High-Low relationship -How the H-L dynamic starts -Two paths forward This advice applies whether you’re dating, in a long-term relationship, or married. My goal is to help you become the best version of yourself and build the best possible relationship. If you’re ready to do the work—individually or as a couple—use the link below to apply for a consultation. 👉 Work with me: https://mkd8uhsug6i.typeform.com/to/jqyMCsr3 👉 More tools + writings: https://www.iamtaylorchandler.com/ Thank you for your support! Let's Work Together: Interest Form Website: https://www.iamtaylorchandler.com/ Instagram: @iamtaylorchandler YouTube: @iamtaylorchandler

    20 分钟

  6. 8月20日

    A Vital Conversation about Responsibility & Accountability

    Responsibility is the “R” in my SER framework — and it’s one of the keys to a better life and higher attraction. In this video, I break down the gigantic miscommunication showing up in almost every couple, tell you the crucial difference between responsibility and accountability, and what makes taking responsibility so hard (especially in relationships). If you want to build better character and a healthier relationship, this one’s for you :) 03:30 Difference between Responsibility and Accountability 05:50 A Couple Problem 10:30 Responsibility and accountability go together 14:54 Who is worth coaching? 15:20 The relationship between responsibility and control 17:04 Which direction am I going? 24:17 Over-burdened with responsibilities 30:17 Enabled, coddled, misinformed  34:40 America the land of the free 37:45 Human nature to find fault 38:52 Which came first, the chicken or the egg? 45:41 It’s really your fault 55:22 What I’m seeing in session 55:55 Society does not delude men about responsibility Thank you for your support! Let's Work Together: Interest Form Website: https://www.iamtaylorchandler.com/ Instagram: @iamtaylorchandler YouTube: @iamtaylorchandler

    1 小时 8 分钟

  7. 8月14日

    Shift These 3 Things for Higher Energy

    Higher quality relationships start with your energy. Simple shifts improve your life and attract the RIGHT people. In this episode, I give you 3 Markers & 3 Pathways to Higher Energy.  08:28 The invisible thing going on all the time 11:57 What do we need to know? 19:45 The minority is interested in Better 17:20 Three markers and three pathways 17:36 Marker #1: Attitude 22:24 The way you move towards partnership 27:12 Handling setbacks, stop being a victim, move on 35:42 Marker #2: Mindset 43:08 Marker #3: Consistency 44:52 Judgment  46:55 Three Pathways 47:05 Pathway #1: Audit 51:25 Pathway #2: Consumption 54:54 Pathway #3: Pro-social behaviors Thank you for your support! Let's Work Together: Interest Form Website: https://www.iamtaylorchandler.com/ Instagram: @iamtaylorchandler YouTube: @iamtaylorchandler

    57 分钟

  8. 8月10日

    Not enough good matches: The link between self-esteem and bad dating experiences

    The majority of people who want  relationships say there aren't enough good people to date and marry. I agree. In this episode I talk about what to do about it. 02:00 Scarcity of attractive matches in the dating market 06:55 Biological imperatives ?? 09:08 The truth of the minority 011:07 A dangerous move 13:28 Who is pursuing? 15:22  I would never! Who would ever? 19:33 Is this really why you’re single? 20:45 Are you over-inflated?  23:40 The truth is high energy 28:00 Most people have fundamental issues 28:50 Prenups 33:38 Breakups 37:15 Delusions of thinking you’re a great persons 41:04 Different kinds of relationships 43:20 The competition in dating 46:09 Supply and demand 46:45 Good people and popularity 54:45 How low self-esteem shows up 01:03:00 Irrational emotion Thank you for your support! Let's Work Together: Interest Form Website: https://www.iamtaylorchandler.com/ Instagram: @iamtaylorchandler YouTube: @iamtaylorchandler

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I help people break negative relationship cycles by shifting from Insecure to Secure Attachment.

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