90 Days Later - Your Guide to Alcohol Freedom

Anna Charles
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I help you drink less or not at all. I teach a simple, doable way to live a full life without worrying what’s in your glass. If you find yourself saying yes to a drink when you really want to say no, this podcast is for you. If you want to learn how to moderate your drinking or quit, I can help. Let's talk - get on my calendar here: https://tidycal.com/90dayslater/consult

  1. 3D AGO

    214: The What-If Spiral

    The what-if spiral is completely normal. Our brains are wired with a negative confirmation bias, meaning they automatically scan for what could go wrong, especially when you’re changing a habit like drinking. What if I can’t figure this out. What if I don’t change. What if this is just how I am. In this episode, I explain why these thoughts feel so convincing, why they’re not happening in the present moment, and how letting future-based fears run today’s decisions is what keeps people stuck. You’ll also hear the core shift that actually breaks the spiral. We don’t wait to feel confident or calm to take action. We take action regardless of emotion. I’ll show you how to stop letting what-if thoughts decide your evenings and your social life, and how small, intentional actions dissolve fear faster than overthinking ever could. If you’re ready to step out of the spiral and into real momentum, press play. Before you listen, I want to invite you to a free training I’m hosting on 19 February called How to Care Less About What Other People Think When You Say No to Wine. It’s about breaking out of the what-if spiral, handling social pressure with confidence, and staying grounded in your decision even when you start second-guessing yourself. The training is live at 1pm Central, 2pm Eastern, and 7pm UK time. If you worry about awkward moments, comments from others, or being judged when you don’t drink, this will help. Sign up here: https://bit.ly/4rq1pzX Book a free discovery call and let’s explore what reward could look like without the wine: https://tidycal.com/90dayslater/consult

    14 min

  2. FEB 3

    213: The Displeasure of Instant Gratification

    Instant gratification is usually the reason people reach for wine. It works fast. It takes the edge off. It promises relief right now. But what if that quick relief is actually the thing keeping you stuck? In this episode, I turn instant gratification on its head and show you why the first few minutes are not the full story, and why drinking often creates more friction than freedom. If you’re trying to drink less and keep finding yourself negotiating, overthinking, or wondering why it doesn’t even feel that good anymore, this episode will land. I break down what’s really happening in your brain, how to zoom out of the moment, and how to choose calm and self-trust without white-knuckling. Press play and let’s change how this feels. Book a free discovery call and let’s explore what reward could look like without the wine: https://tidycal.com/90dayslater/consult

    14 min

  3. JAN 27

    212. Redefine the Problem

    What if drinking isn’t actually your problem… it’s your brain’s solution? In this episode, I break down why focusing only on the behaviour keeps you stuck and why “I drink because I’m stressed” doesn’t get you very far. When you redefine what’s really happening underneath the urge, everything shifts. Your brain stops clinging to alcohol because you’re finally solving the real problem. This is the work that leads to ease, control and alcohol becoming irrelevant.  DON'T MISS THE FREE TRAINING on Thursday 29 Jan at 1pm Central/2pm Eastern/7pm UK: "What to Do After Dry January (So It Actually Matters)". This is for you if you did Dry January successfully or not or even if you didn't but you kinda-woulda liked to have. Replays will be available to registrants. Register here: https://us06web.zoom.us/webinar/register/WN_5I21ypHmTNqxlw17lTQioA And if you want me right in your corner helping you uncover your patterns and change them for good, come book a free discovery call with me here: https://tidycal.com/90dayslater/consult

    19 min

  4. JAN 20

    211. Should vs. Could

    You’ve probably heard that saying “should” isn’t helpful, but rarely does anyone explain why. This episode unpacks how that tiny word fuels guilt, pressure, resistance and drinking patterns, especially for high achievers who hold themselves to impossible standards. When you swap “should” for “could,” your brain shifts from shame to choice and from pressure to power. That’s where real freedom begins. You’ll also be guided through a powerful exercise that reveals the honest reasons behind your drinking decisions. Download the Should vs Could worksheet at https://90dayslater.co/should-could/ Don’t just fill in the sheet - email it back to me for personal feedback. I read and will personally respond to every sheet so you experience real coaching insight straight away.  And if you’d like me fully in your corner as you rewrite your relationship with alcohol, book a free discovery call and let’s explore what reward could look like without the wine: https://tidycal.com/90dayslater/consult

    19 min

  5. JAN 6

    210. When You're Impatient for Progress

    Impatience is one of the most misunderstood parts of changing your relationship with alcohol. When progress feels slow, it’s easy to assume something isn’t working, when in reality you’re often right in the middle of the learning phase. Wanting this to feel easier can create mental friction that actually slows you down. Not because you’re doing it wrong, but because your brain is adjusting to doing something new. Discomfort doesn’t mean danger. It usually means growth. In this episode, I break down why impatience shows up, how it quietly pulls you off course, and what to do instead so you keep building momentum without pressure or self judgment. If you’re ready to stop negotiating with yourself and start moving through evenings, social situations, and urges with more ease and self trust, book a discovery call. I’ll help you build a plan that fits your life and shows you how to make alcohol take up less space in your head. It’s your turn. Book your call here: https://tidycal.com/90dayslater/consult

    22 min

  6. 12/09/2025

    209. Comfort Entitlement

    What if the real reason it feels so hard to stick to your drink plans is not willpower at all, but the quiet belief that it should feel comfortable. The moment things feel awkward, restless, or hard, your brain tells you something has gone wrong and sends you straight back to the familiar pour. In this episode I walk you through comfort entitlement, how it shows up in your evenings, and why there is discomfort both ways whether you drink or do not. Tune in to learn how to choose the discomfort that leads to the life you actually want. Book a free discovery call and let’s explore what reward could look like without the wine: https://tidycal.com/90dayslater/consult

    14 min

  7. 12/02/2025

    208. Asking for Help

    What if the hardest part of changing your drinking is not the cravings or the habits but the idea that you should be able to do it alone. In this episode we talk about why asking for help feels so uncomfortable for high achievers and why it is the one skill that can speed up everything you want. Tune in to hear how support makes the change easier, not harder, and why now is the perfect moment to let yourself be helped. I’m offering that help right now. Book a free discovery call and let’s explore what reward could look like without the wine: https://tidycal.com/90dayslater/consult

    17 min

  8. 11/25/2025

    207. Discomfort Avoidance

    What if the real reason you reach for a drink has nothing to do with wine at all. What if it is your brain trying to dodge a tiny moment of discomfort. The mental buzz. The restlessness. The feeling of wanting out. Discomfort avoidance is clever and quiet and it can shape your whole evening without you noticing. Tune in to discover why the real freedom comes from doing the opposite. When you learn how to feel the discomfort you usually escape, everything shifts. Urges lose their power and you feel more capable and more in control. This is the kind of accomplishment that builds confidence and turns drinking into a choice rather than a need. Book a free discovery call and let’s explore what reward could look like without the wine: https://tidycal.com/90dayslater/consult Link to the Holiday Freedom Bundle: https://kickstart.90dayslater.co/hfb-buy

    20 min
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I help you drink less or not at all. I teach a simple, doable way to live a full life without worrying what’s in your glass. If you find yourself saying yes to a drink when you really want to say no, this podcast is for you. If you want to learn how to moderate your drinking or quit, I can help. Let's talk - get on my calendar here: https://tidycal.com/90dayslater/consult

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