A Balancing Act: Navigating A Loved One's Memory Loss

Kelly A Bertenshaw, MA CCC SLP ECDCS

When a loved one is diagnosed with Memory Loss or Dementia, family members can feel completely unprepared and overwhelmed. You're now trying to juggle managing your loved one's increasing need for care while also tending to your own family, career and life. It can truly feel like a balancing act. I'm Kelly Bertenshaw, a licensed Speech Language Pathologist and certified Dementia Care Specialist. I have worked with those affected by memory loss and their families for more than 20 years. I started this podcast to help you, the family members, as you navigate this journey. Your questions, comments and experiences will drive all our content. My goal is to provide you with proven strategies, relevant information and research, as well as actionable steps you can take today . Together, we'll find the answers. Because no one should walk this journey alone. RSSVERIFY

  1. Weight Loss and Dementia

    6D AGO

    Weight Loss and Dementia

    This episode explores why people with dementia often experience significant weight loss and changes in eating and drinking habits. Kelly explains how aging can affect eat and drinking, as well as how dementia can disrupt hunger and thirst signals, sensory processing, and the brain's ability to complete the steps involved in eating. She includes practical strategies to simplify mealtimes, prevent dehydration, and reduce caregiver stress. FACEBOOK PAGE: Please leave questions for Kelly, or set up a chat! https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61573800764103 Please consider donating to support A BALANCING ACT! https://buymeacoffee.com/navigatingmemoryloss Resources https://www.dementia.org.au/living-dementia/home-life/eating-and-dementia https://www.alzheimers.org.uk/get-support/living-with-dementia/changes-eating-habits-food-preference https://www.alz.org/help-support/caregiving/daily-care/food-eating?utm_source=google-grant&utm_medium=paidsearch&utm_campaign=google_grant&gad_source=1&gad_campaignid=90372426&gbraid=0AAAAAD14_NhWnrr-bvx0B-bwux9JRzUaF&gclid=Cj0KCQjw_IXQBhCkARIsADqELbJElVmccAgy8omnYc4mqN8eYv6EEpVG6CDSPovQC4NZPdFyNcBQEisaAsHQEALw_wcB The information shared in this podcast is for EDUCATIONAL AND INFORMATIONAL PURPOSES only, and should not be considered a substitute for medical advice. By listening to this podcast, you agree not to use this podcast as medical advice to treat any medical condition in either yourself or others, This entire disclaimer also applies to any guests or contributors to the podcast. Under no circumstances shall Kelly A. Bertenshaw, any guests or contributors to the podcast, or any employees, associates, or affiliates of A Balancing Act: Helping Families Navigate Memory Loss be responsible for damages arising from the use of this podcast.

    16 min
  2. Refusing Medications: From Resistance to Cooperation

    APR 29

    Refusing Medications: From Resistance to Cooperation

    When a loved one refuses their medications, it can feel like an emergency. The risks are real, the pressure is immediate, and the instinct to push for compliance is strong. But in many cases, that resistance is not about defiance—it’s communication. In this episode, Kelly breaks down what’s really behind medication refusal in memory loss, and guides us through methods focusing on protecting both safety and dignity, offering a more effective way to navigate these moments without escalating conflict or damaging trust. FACEBOOK PAGE: Please leave questions for Kelly, or set up a chat! https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61573800764103 Please consider donating to support A BALANCING ACT! https://buymeacoffee.com/navigatingmemoryloss Resources: https://www.aarp.org/caregiving/medical/parent-refusing-medication/ https://www.goodrx.com/health-topic/senior-health/elderly-parent-wont-take-medication?srsltid=AfmBOoqVi7cqZ_fmYk3NlUY5Ebcup3fZfdLOlpzP1V9NC7NT18G5-8ap The information shared in this podcast is for EDUCATIONAL AND INFORMATIONAL PURPOSES only, and should not be considered a substitute for medical advice. By listening to this podcast, you agree not to use this podcast as medical advice to treat any medical condition in either yourself or others, This entire disclaimer also applies to any guests or contributors to the podcast. Under no circumstances shall Kelly A. Bertenshaw, any guests or contributors to the podcast, or any employees, associates, or affiliates of A Balancing Act: Helping Families Navigate Memory Loss be responsible for damages arising from the use of this podcast.

    14 min
  3. Beyond Puzzles: Redefining "Brain Training" for those with Dementia

    APR 15

    Beyond Puzzles: Redefining "Brain Training" for those with Dementia

    In this episode, Kelly challenges the idea that cognitive activities like puzzles and card games are always beneficial for loved ones with dementia. She explains that as the disease progresses, these activities can create feelings of being tested rather than included, leading to withdrawal and disconnect. Kelly offers practical strategies for adapting activities and communication so loved ones feel valued, contributing, and connected rather than measured. FACEBOOK PAGE: Please leave questions for Kelly, or set up a chat! https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61573800764103 Please consider donating to support A BALANCING ACT! https://buymeacoffee.com/navigatingmemoryloss Resources https://www.aarp.org/caregiving/basics/dementia-tasks-activities/ https://www.alz.org/help-support/resources/kids/family-activities https://www.alz.org/help-support/caregiving/daily-care/activities?utm_source=google-grant&utm_medium=paidsearch&utm_campaign=google_grant&gad_source=1&gad_campaignid=90372426&gbraid=0AAAAAD14_NgGjuKB4Dw1mGyJDvnDGMqxl&gclid=CjwKCAjw7vzOBhBxEiwAc7WNrwtO_DChShBVoX_S2UtM2o7ZVpHaXZnPK5aa2Z-AP8NB16rxpOVQNBoCZ84QAvD_BwE The information shared in this podcast is for EDUCATIONAL AND INFORMATIONAL PURPOSES only, and should not be considered a substitute for medical advice. By listening to this podcast, you agree not to use this podcast as medical advice to treat any medical condition in either yourself or others, This entire disclaimer also applies to any guests or contributors to the podcast. Under no circumstances shall Kelly A. Bertenshaw, any guests or contributors to the podcast, or any employees, associates, or affiliates of A Balancing Act: Helping Families Navigate Memory Loss be responsible for damages arising from the use of this podcast.

    14 min
  4. A Turning Point: When "Fine At Home" No Longer Holds

    APR 1

    A Turning Point: When "Fine At Home" No Longer Holds

    In this episode, Kelly explores how a medical crisis, such as a fall or infection, often becomes the unexpected turning point when families first recognize the true extent of a loved one's dementia. From cognitive screening in the hospital to rehabilitation settings where the challenges become even more apparent, these moments, though emotionally overwhelming, can ultimately bring clarity and open the door to more realistic, proactive planning for the road ahead. Follow this episode with our "After the Diagnosis" episode: https://rss.com/podcasts/a-balancing-act/1796945/ FACEBOOK PAGE: Please leave questions for Kelly, or set up a chat! https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61573800764103 Please consider donating to support A BALANCING ACT! https://buymeacoffee.com/navigatingmemoryloss Resources: https://hign.org/consultgeri/try-this-series/recognition-dementia-hospitalized-older-adults https://www.ourparents.com/senior-health/avoiding-signs-of-dementia https://www.tuftsmedicine.org/about-us/news/recognizing-dementia-guide-early-symptoms-signs# The information shared in this podcast is for EDUCATIONAL AND INFORMATIONAL PURPOSES only, and should not be considered a substitute for medical advice. By listening to this podcast, you agree not to use this podcast as medical advice to treat any medical condition in either yourself or others, This entire disclaimer also applies to any guests or contributors to the podcast. Under no circumstances shall Kelly A. Bertenshaw, any guests or contributors to the podcast, or any employees, associates, or affiliates of A Balancing Act: Helping Families Navigate Memory Loss be responsible for damages arising from the use of this podcast.

    13 min
  5. Dignity of Risk: Balancing Safety and Independence

    MAR 18

    Dignity of Risk: Balancing Safety and Independence

    In this episode, Kelly tackles the ethical tension caregivers face between keeping loved ones with dementia safe and preserving their independence and sense of self. Through real-life stories, she introduces the concept of the "right to risk" — the idea that autonomy and uncertainty are inseparable, even for vulnerable adults. Kelly encourages "negotiated risk": practical home and communcative adaptations as alternatives to simply eliminating activities. Good caregiving isn't about preventing every mistake, but helping someone continue to live a life that still feels like their own. FACEBOOK PAGE: Please leave questions for Kelly, or set up a chat! https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61573800764103 Please consider donating to support A BALANCING ACT! https://buymeacoffee.com/navigatingmemoryloss RESOURCES: https://www.a24direct.co.uk/blog/balancing-independence-with-safety-in-home-based-care-plans#:~:text=While%20promoting%20autonomy%20is%20essential,Communicating%20Effectively%20with%20Families https://alzheimer.ca/en/help-support/im-caring-person-living-dementia/providing-day-day-care/decision-making-respecting The information shared in this podcast is for EDUCATIONAL AND INFORMATIONAL PURPOSES only, and should not be considered a substitute for medical advice. By listening to this podcast, you agree not to use this podcast as medical advice to treat any medical condition in either yourself or others, This entire disclaimer also applies to any guests or contributors to the podcast. Under no circumstances shall Kelly A. Bertenshaw, any guests or contributors to the podcast, or any employees, associates, or affiliates of A Balancing Act: Helping Families Navigate Memory Loss be responsible for damages arising from the use of this podcast.

    16 min
  6. Radical Acceptance: Overcoming Denial of a Loved One's Dementia

    MAR 4

    Radical Acceptance: Overcoming Denial of a Loved One's Dementia

    In this episode, Kelly explores how families often fall into denial when a loved one begins to show signs of dementia. And sometimes, even after the formal diagnosis. Kelly emphasizes this isn't about shame, but understanding the causes of denial and the risks associated with postponing acceptance. FACEBOOK PAGE: Please leave questions for Kelly, or set-up a chat! https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61573800764103 Please consider donating to support A BALANCING ACT! https://buymeacoffee.com/navigatingmemoryloss RESOURCES: https://wellnessstrategiesgroup.com/2025/04/family-denial-of-dementia/ https://www.bridgesbyepoch.com/2019/06/17/dangers-denial-dementia-and-peacefulness-resolution-1560780615/ https://homecareassistancedayton.com/dementia-diagnosis-denial/ MAYO CLINIC SUPPORT GROUP: https://connect.mayoclinic.org/group/caregivers/ ALZHEIMER'S ASSOCIATION SUPPORT GROUPS: https://www.alz.org/help-support/community/support-groups The information shared in this podcast is for EDUCATIONAL AND INFORMATIONAL PURPOSES only, and should not be considered a substitute for medical advice. By listening to this podcast, you agree not to use this podcast as medical advice to treat any medical condition in either yourself or others, This entire disclaimer also applies to any guests or contributors to the podcast. Under no circumstances shall Kelly A. Bertenshaw, any guests or contributors to the podcast, or any employees, associates, or affiliates of A Balancing Act: Helping Families Navigate Memory Loss be responsible for damages arising from the use of this podcast.

    13 min
  7. The Built-In Caregiver: Home

    FEB 18

    The Built-In Caregiver: Home

    Today's focus is on ways to capitalize on and modify the home environment to support a loved one with memory loss. Kelly walks listeners through thoughtful home modifications that can act as an additional caregiver by reducing cognitive demands on people living with dementia. The results show respect for the person with dementia while reducing frustration for both caregivers and their loved ones. By designing around dementia-related brain changes, homes can help preserve independence and safety while reducing caregiver burden. FACEBOOK PAGE: Please leave questions for Kelly, or set-up a chat! https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61573800764103 Please consider donating to support A BALANCING ACT! https://buymeacoffee.com/navigatingmemoryloss RESOURCES: Room-by-Room Guide for Caregivers https://alzfdn.org/wp-content/uploads/2021/03/The-Apartment-Guide-web.pdf 10 Ways to Home Safety https://www.alzheimers.org.uk/blog/10-ways-make-your-home-dementia-friendly The information shared in this podcast is for EDUCATIONAL AND INFORMATIONAL PURPOSES only, and should not be considered a substitute for medical advice. By listening to this podcast, you agree not to use this podcast as medical advice to treat any medical condition in either yourself or others, This entire disclaimer also applies to any guests or contributors to the podcast. Under no circumstances shall Kelly A. Bertenshaw, any guests or contributors to the podcast, or any employees, associates, or affiliates of A Balancing Act: Helping Families Navigate Memory Loss be responsible for damages arising from the use of this podcast.

    13 min
  8. "No strangers in my house!"

    FEB 4

    "No strangers in my house!"

    For someone living with memory loss, life already feels less predictable. Control is slipping in quiet ways. And home may be the last place that still feels familiar. The last place where they feel like themselves. So when help enters the conversation, it can feel less like support and more like losing autonomy. That’s why pushing harder often backfires. In this episode, Kelly talks about introducing care gradually with familiarity, consistency, and choice. Because the wall doesn’t come down when it’s forced. It comes down when it’s no longer needed. FACEBOOK PAGE: Please leave questions for Kelly, or set-up a chat! https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61573800764103 Please consider a donation to support A BALANCING ACT! https://buymeacoffee.com/navigatingmemoryloss RESOURCES: https://www.caregiver.org/resource/introducing-home-care-when-your-loved-one-says-no/ https://www.agingcare.com/articles/helping-seniors-adjust-to-new-caregiver-155012.htm https://arcadiahomecare.com/when-elderly-parent-refuses-in-home-care/ The information shared in this podcast is for EDUCATIONAL AND INFORMATIONAL PURPOSES only, and should not be considered a substitute for medical advice. By listening to this podcast, you agree not to use this podcast as medical advice to treat any medical condition in either yourself or others, This entire disclaimer also applies to any guests or contributors to the podcast. Under no circumstances shall Kelly A. Bertenshaw, any guests or contributors to the podcast, or any employees, associates, or affiliates of A Balancing Act: Helping Families Navigate Memory Loss be responsible for damages arising from the use of this podcast.

    12 min
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When a loved one is diagnosed with Memory Loss or Dementia, family members can feel completely unprepared and overwhelmed. You're now trying to juggle managing your loved one's increasing need for care while also tending to your own family, career and life. It can truly feel like a balancing act. I'm Kelly Bertenshaw, a licensed Speech Language Pathologist and certified Dementia Care Specialist. I have worked with those affected by memory loss and their families for more than 20 years. I started this podcast to help you, the family members, as you navigate this journey. Your questions, comments and experiences will drive all our content. My goal is to provide you with proven strategies, relevant information and research, as well as actionable steps you can take today . Together, we'll find the answers. Because no one should walk this journey alone. RSSVERIFY

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