A Muse's Daydream: Creative Journeys to the Present Moment

jill badonsky

Hi. It's Jill Badonsky. This podcast is  stories to free your creativity and promote mindfulness.  I am an author/illustrator of three and a half  books on creative mindfulness, inspirational humorist,  performance poet, creator of Kaizen-Muse Creativity Coaching Certification Training, workshop leader, and certified yoga instructor. I live with two cats and a bougainvillea.  www.themuseisin.com  www.kaizenmuse.com P.S.  Don't text while driving

  1. The Return of Surviving the Family During the Holidays

    11/23/2024

    The Return of Surviving the Family During the Holidays

    Send us a text Hi There, Jill Here, This episode is a rerun of humorous suggestions of how to deal with family during the holidays. It gives a number of tongue-in -cheek and whipped-cream-in-mouth ways to deal with a dysfunctional family at the holidays... or really, anytime. Sometimes a little humor and perspective around the holidays is called for.  I know it was for me. Have a beautiful holiday season. Subscribe to A Muse's Daydream wherever you get your podcasts A new Kaizen-Muse Creativity Coaching Training is coming up in January 2025. For those who want to understand more about how to unfold the creative process for others and/or yourself, through science, intuition, mindfulness and not taking yourself so seriously. More here. I loiter here. Script: Hi this is Jill Badonsky and this is a special episode of a Muse’s daydream.. reality version because it’s the holidays and holidays can be tough if you choose to spend it with a dysfunctional family. So this is; Dysfunctional Family Survival Guide for the Holidays If you regress as soon as a family member gives you a funny look, if you’ve ever been known to throw mashed potatoes across the table when a food fight wasn’t on the agenda. If you think every year THIS will finally be the one where you will be the change you want to be but instead you turn into the gravy you want to see on the turkey   Here are a few creative survival tips gathered from extensive studies from the Muse is In laboratories where empirical results were extracted from millions of subjects all over the world.. I it made up.. I forget which.        1. Pretend like you are spending the holiday with the family of a friend of yours instead of your own family . It can entertaining, provide distance and perhaps even seem entertaining.  Or along the same lines, make believe you are observing the sequel to August: Osage County. Remember the one where Julia Roberts repeatedly tosses the f-bomb at the pitiful mother, Meryl Streep. Just compare your family to that and if it’s worse, never mind.    You could try wearing a disguise, you know one of those glasses with the big noses – but you must do it with a straight face.   2. Whenever a family member pushes one of, you know, those BUTTONS, saying THAT THING or behaving THAT WAY THAT MAKES YOU CRAZY and making you FORGET EVERY GAIN YOU'VE PAID FOR IN YEARS AND YEARS and YEARS of THERAPY, have an automatic response ready. Suggestions:               A. Say to yourself, "Well, bless their heart!"  (Southern accents are particularly helpful here.).   B. Think to yourself, "My bodyguard will be here in a minute." Imagine handing your feelings over to your bodyguard and payIng no mind to the offending party - cuz things are taken care of.    C. If you can't avoid incoming verbal torment, just brush it off your body as if it were cat hair, cookie crumbs, or gnats.  (Use a lint roller for special effect and even wave it while the offending party is talking as if catching the debri before it lands on your mild demeanor).   D. While they pushing all your sensitive buttons , stare just above their eyes in the  middle of their forehead with a blank expression on your face. Stay in that position no less than 15 minutes after they've finished.   E. When they are speaking, DUCK down as if allowing their ver Support the show Upcoming art and creativity programs www.themuseisin.com

    7 min
  2. 11/15/2024

    Blue Returns

    Send us a text Hi... I'm back with the podcast to be a catalyst for creative escape and inspiration. If you're still listening, I'm grateful. I'm not a consistent person except in the department of creativity. RIght now, we need it more than ever. May this poem and the accompanying music and effects lend some calm and motivation to do your own art and writing. It's a great time to be trained as a creativity coach not only to take your own creativity deeper, but to be a lighthouse for others searching for that shore. `Jill Badonsky Narration I held blue captive yesterday in a large plastic tub from Target.  The sky went white, the ocean orange, the blue jay red.  I took blue out and wrapped it around me to feel how blue could feel.  I felt the history of the sky.   I knew its gravity, its view, its preoccupations, its ubiquity.   I knew its limitlessness. Its grasp of orbit. I tasted blue, it tasted grape.   It smelled of delphinium and pie and the sea.  I spun it in the air, blue turned to cadmium, azure, denim, satin, velvet.  It turned green in the sun's yellow and midnight as the moon turned its back. Then I set blue free.  It seeped out of the tub, out my door and in grand ceremony, at once filled bird and sky and ocean and …  songs about loves lost. And then I wrote this: Sometimes I feel like I’m held captive  -   Then I remember  if I want I can seep of out my tub, out the door and in grand ceremony,   fill the sky, like blue.  A lot like poetry and prose and art, music and dance and then maybe have some pie. And so can you. Ruthlessly dedicate yourself to your passion. Support the show Upcoming art and creativity programs www.themuseisin.com

    4 min
  3. 11/25/2023

    Starry Starry Determination - Reloaded

    Send us a text I’ve spent a career teaching how self-judgment works against us in the creative process.    I’ve spent a lifetime dealing with my own harsh self-judgment, so I have the requisite compassion to understand its costs.   Once we’ve made it to a place of near completion, there is time is to be discerning, but the process requires license to start out crappy, make mistakes, and tolerate not being able to bring into reality the exact thing we envisioned. We need that freedom for  the enjoyment that leads to the best end products.    The inner critic comes with being human, but it is vital to our success and enjoyment as creative people to persist in spite of it.  In this regard, the creative process is an opportunity to create a better, more resilient self as we learn to be there for ourselves with compassion.   Listening to Amanda Knox in her series called Resilience on Sam Harris’s podcast, Waking Up, is the first time I heard the following logic reached as she contemplated the self-judgment she was feeling while being incarcerated four years for a murder she did not commit:    “Berating yourself for being stupid does not make you smarter.”      Along the same lines, berating yourself for:  not feeling good enough at your passion not being the same as other artists or writers you see on social mediaprocrastinationresistancehesitanceanything else you're struggling with ... does not improve the quality of your work or to get you to show up for creative pursuits..    It’s what we naturally do because that’s how evolution wired us, but it’s why we need to be ready to shift our thinking when we notice we are ineffectively judging ourselves again.    Van Gogh had such a strategy.  Here’s the script to my 2021 episode of A Muse’s Moment to go along as you listen to the narration and music. “If you hear a voice within you say you cannot paint, then by all means paint and that voice will be silenced.” Vincent Van Gogh said that. In less than 10 years, he painted almost 900 paintings – the voice that told him he couldn’t paint… didn’t have a chance.  Now picture yourself fueled by this sentiment.    Think this: There’s something I want to do but I’m not feeling that good at it, or, I feel others are better than I am, or that it’s not something I can ever do, or I’m too old, I don’t know where to start .. but by all means I’m going to do it …. paint, write, dance, speak, build my business,  and head toward that creative north star that is calling my name anyway.   I don’t need to be perfect, but I do need to find enjoyment along the way … with patience and curiosity.. because the more I allow for the process to be enjoyable, the more I will, by all means doggedly stay with the process until the doubting voices pull up a chair beside me and start giving me ideas instead of discouragement. Or maybe they could write a critique for tuna casserole. If you hear a voice within you say you cannot be creative in any way say: Thanks for sharing…I’m doing it anyway.  ************************************** The Kaizen-Muse Creativity Coaching Training was recognized by Life Coaching Magazine as the best creativity coaching available. Now the tools and approaches that won it that honor are shared monthly, starting in January in a Zoom Session called Let's Talk About Creativity. Free to members of Support the show Upcoming art and creativity programs www.themuseisin.com

    2 min
4.9
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Hi. It's Jill Badonsky. This podcast is  stories to free your creativity and promote mindfulness.  I am an author/illustrator of three and a half  books on creative mindfulness, inspirational humorist,  performance poet, creator of Kaizen-Muse Creativity Coaching Certification Training, workshop leader, and certified yoga instructor. I live with two cats and a bougainvillea.  www.themuseisin.com  www.kaizenmuse.com P.S.  Don't text while driving