The Nine to Kind Podcast with Lauren Ruth Martin

Lauren Ruth Martin LPC-MHSP
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  • Mental Health
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Taking care of yourself is a full time job and Nine to Kind helps make it easier. Join me, Lauren, licensed therapist and creator of The Nine to Kind Possibility Planner for weekly reflections and lessons on what it means to build and keep a "Nine to Kind." Episodes drop on Tuesdays and (most) Thursdays. Tuesdays are deeper dives on the feelings and whys...Thursdays are the practical tips and frameworks you can use that day. ninetokind.substack.com

Episodes

  1. Ep. 6: Community is Trending + I Have Thoughts...

    May 12

    Ep. 6: Community is Trending + I Have Thoughts...

    Nine to Kind's Admin Night is officially here! Before we get into what it actually is...we need to chat about the "trend of community. Brands are selling it, events are everywhere, and if you felt a little skeptical about all of it I totally get it. That skepticism is why I almost did not do this and what it took to get me to move forward. We get into what paying to be in a room with people actually gives you, why adult friendship feels so overwhelming, and how lower intimacy relationships are more valuable than we give them credit for. Admin Night was built for the chronically responsible person who needs a space to show up without being the one holding everything together. We are talking emails, taxes, adulting tasks, good drinks, real conversation, and zero pressure to perform. The formula is simple. Novelty plus community plus accountability plus nourishment. This episode walks through how that came together, why the serendipity of the right people in a room cannot be manufactured, and what incorporated self care actually looks like on a random Tuesday night. // // // // // Register for June's Admin Night HERE Connect with Nine to Kind + Lauren Shop Nine to Kind Follow Lauren on IG Follow Nine to Kind on IG Get full access to Nine to Kind at ninetokind.substack.com/subscribe

    19 min
  2. Possibility in Practice: The Pros, Cons and Prep Work for Disappointing Others

    May 7

    Possibility in Practice: The Pros, Cons and Prep Work for Disappointing Others

    Welcome to Possibility in Practice! I wanted to offer quick tutorials and skills that truly support you creating your own "Nine to Kind." This week we review a pros/cons format that give you a well rounded look at what's at stake or potential benefit. May has become December 2.0 for many of us, without the context of stress that the holidays have. By the end of the episode, you will be able to look at these difficult decisions with objectivity and hopefully have less on your schedule for the month. The 4 Column Framework: What are the PROS of opting in? What are the CONS of opting in? What are the PROS of opting out? What are the CONS of opting out? What you will notice is that the questions are simple but the answers speak to the layers of nuance we are navigating daily. Is there a specific tool within the Possibility Planner you want to understand better? Do you have a scenario that you are wanting to see what skills would be helpful to apply? Message me on IG or email me for future episodes! Connect with Nine to Kind + Lauren Nashville! Our first in person event is set to happen in June. Admin Night is body doubling and happy hour all together. For details and to get on the waitlist click HERE. Shop Nine to Kind Follow Lauren on IG Follow Nine to Kind on IG Get full access to Nine to Kind at ninetokind.substack.com/subscribe

    16 min
  3. Ep. 5: Can Pessimism Be a Form of Self Compassion?

    May 4

    Ep. 5: Can Pessimism Be a Form of Self Compassion?

    Our society loves us some toxic positivity doesn’t it?! Because of our culture that thrives on weaponizing gratitude and demean “negativity” we are often not taught how to sit with feelings like pessimism. People often find it odd of just how pessimistic I can be, especially as someone who instills hope in others for a living. The thing is...pessimism can truly be a guide if we learn how to be in a healthy relationship with it. This week's episode gets into how we are bypassing important information and feelings all in the sake of "good vibes only" and how possibility can be exactly what turns our relationship with pessimism into a healthy one. // // // Connect with Nine to Kind + Lauren: Nashville! Our first in person event is set to happen in June. Admin Night is body doubling and happy hour all together. For details and to get on the waitlist click HERE. Shop Nine to Kind Follow Lauren on IG Follow Nine to Kind on IG Get full access to Nine to Kind at ninetokind.substack.com/subscribe

    26 min
  4. Ep. 4: Stuck Overthinking? Same. Here's How I Got Out of the Cycle

    Apr 28

    Ep. 4: Stuck Overthinking? Same. Here's How I Got Out of the Cycle

    Overthinking is cute and all until is has you in a mental paralysis with no change in sight. This week I recount my most recent bout of overthinking paralysis and offer learnings from the other side. You will learn my 4 step process to shifting so that you have a go to process for the next episode of rumination! Join Nine to Kind for Admin Night! Gather with fellow overthinkers and overdoers for a night focused on compassionate accountability and community support for completing avoided tasks. Waitlist members get a special little happy along with first dibs on tickets. Join the waitlist HERE How we can connect: Nine to Kind on Substack Lauren Ruth Martin on IG Nine to Kind on IG Shop Nine to Kind Get full access to Nine to Kind at ninetokind.substack.com/subscribe

    24 min
  5. Ep. 3: The Sacrificial Shift Into Genuine Burnout Prevention

    Apr 20

    Ep. 3: The Sacrificial Shift Into Genuine Burnout Prevention

    Week by week I am realizing that Nine to Kind is about something bigger than scheduled self care. Building a "Nine to Kind" is deconstructing hustle culture by reshaping the role of work, hobbies, and sustainability in my life. This transition into embodiment has highlighted how deep chronic responsibility can go. Chronic Responsibility and Productivity Guilt have snuck their way back in through the push to monetize interests and shapeshifting hobbies into to a more palatable form of burnout. In the spirit of intention, I had to make structural and financial sacrifices. We dig into reflections around the reclaiming of time, reducing guilt driven overcommitment and how to incorporate autonomy building rituals into existing routines. Mentioned in this episode: Alexa Martinez: @alexacoaches on IG // Alexa's Website How we can connect: Nine to Kind on Substack Lauren Ruth Martin on IG Nine to Kind on IG Shop Nine to Kind Get full access to Nine to Kind at ninetokind.substack.com/subscribe

    29 min
  6. Ep.2: "Artisan" Marketing + Finding My Own Path

    Apr 14

    Ep.2: "Artisan" Marketing + Finding My Own Path

    Theme of the Episode: Rebuilding Nine to Kind with Artisan, Values Aligned Marketing After a week of vulnerable updates, I share yet another vulnerable update on the brand rebuilding process. We discuss my broader move away from stressful social media centric marketing toward more values aligned, high touch “artisan” marketing that prioritizes connection, events, and community over transactions. The reality is that Nine to Kind was never meant to be just a productivity planner brand...but more so a practical, self compassion focused collective for chronically responsible helpers who want to slow down and release productivity guilt. The episode connects this vision to accommodations, neurodivergence, and choosing an approach that fits how you operate, even if it’s slower, riskier, or less efficient. What I referenced in the episode: Off the Grid by Amelia Hruby, PhD (Podcast + Substack) Sunday Forever Timestamps: 00:00 Welcome and Thanks 00:46 Podcast Format Update 03:54 Marketing Without Socials 06:45 More Than a Planner 08:41 Artisan Marketing Vision 11:02 Brand Example Sunday Forever 13:13 High Touch Marketing Tactics 15:23 In Person Events Roadmap 18:41 Accommodations and Neurodivergence 22:13 Middle Path and Vulnerability Get full access to Nine to Kind at ninetokind.substack.com/subscribe

    26 min

  7. Apr 7

    Building in Public: An Honest Return to Your Feed

    Hi! I'm back to the Nine to Kind podcast after a break to share a life and business update. This wouldn't be without candor about the process of returning and a commitment to visibility in 2026. I give the behind the scenes peek into Nine to Kind's journey since 2023. One that has been humbling and perfectionism ridden triggering anxieties around money, debt, and self worth (despite it being part of the business building process). The past few months have included affirming experiences like an in person market, a speaking gig, and interest in coaching. These experiences helped me realize I don't need to quit but there is a need to accept a slower, aligned pace. I share my difficulty internalizing successes (“life dysmorphia”) and how this next iteration is an exposure to being truly seen. // // // Links from the episode: Nine to Kind on Substack Shop Nine to Kind Find me on IG // // // Timeline: 00:00 Welcome Back Update 02:41 Nine To Kind History 04:04 Q4 Pressure Spiral 06:43 Wins And Momentum 08:07 Quiet Season Reset 09:24 Therapy Or Personal Brand 12:26 Choosing My Way 13:46 Life Dysmorphia 19:03 Next 90 Day Focus 19:55 Podcast And Planner Vision Get full access to Nine to Kind at ninetokind.substack.com/subscribe

    25 min
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Taking care of yourself is a full time job and Nine to Kind helps make it easier. Join me, Lauren, licensed therapist and creator of The Nine to Kind Possibility Planner for weekly reflections and lessons on what it means to build and keep a "Nine to Kind." Episodes drop on Tuesdays and (most) Thursdays. Tuesdays are deeper dives on the feelings and whys...Thursdays are the practical tips and frameworks you can use that day. ninetokind.substack.com

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