A Styled Life

Alex Standley

Welcome to A Styled Life, the podcast for purpose-led female founders & senior leaders ready to use style as a powerful tool for confidence, impact, and influence. I'm your host, Alex Standley, multi award-winning Personal Stylist, Speaker and Sustainable Fashion Consultant, with two decades of experience in the fast-paced world of fashion. Join me as we redefine success from the inside out. This podcast isn’t just about clothes. It’s about personal power, purposeful style, and creating a life that aligns with your values. So whether you’re running a business, leading a movement, or stepping into your next chapter, you’re in the right place. Each week, we’ll dive into the world of personal style, sustainability, female empowerment, and living with intention. Through real stories, expert insights, and plenty of inspiration.

  1. Dressing for the Woman You're Becoming & The Legacy You’re Building with Founder Katie Keith

    18H AGO

    Dressing for the Woman You're Becoming & The Legacy You’re Building with Founder Katie Keith

    There's a version of success that looks right on paper but doesn't quite feel right in the mirror. That's what this conversation is really about. Katie Keith spent over 25 years in corporate finance, built her career in global banking, and sat at boardroom tables where she was often the only woman in the room. She left not because she failed, but because she outgrew it. And what followed - the identity reset, the physical transformation, the unlearning of everything corporate had shaped her to be - is one of the most honest accounts of stepping out of a system that's been defining you. We talk about what it means to be a woman of value, not just one who creates it. About the ritual she uses before she says yes to anything. About the moment she looked in the mirror and didn't recognise herself, and what she did about it. This is a conversation about identity, leadership presence, and what it means to dress for the woman you're stepping into before you've fully arrived there. TIMESTAMPS 01:03 — Why Katie left corporate and why she calls it an identity reset, not a career change  02:24 — Building what she wished she'd had 03:42 — When a business evolves beyond its founder's ego  05:17 — The unlearning: shedding what corporate taught you to be 06:12 — Thinking from five years in the future and how it changes every decision you make now  08:13 — Style as armour: the corporate uniform, the power suit, and what it protected  09:33 — Stepping out of the sea of suits and owning her visibility 10:00 — The physical transformation and why it was always part of the plan  11:32 — Dressing for the woman you're stepping into before you've fully arrived  13:45 — Why the right room is not a luxury, it's a strategy  15:06 — The permission slip: why women are waiting for someone to say it's okay  18:32 — The committee in your head and how to chair it  20:23 — Style, conditioning and the assumptions we make about who we have to be  22:14 — What ownership of self actually looks like in practice 28:45 — The fear of letting go and why she held on just a little too long  32:42 — Being a woman of value, not just one who creates it  33:09 — The three-question ritual Katie uses before she says yes to anything KEY TAKEAWAYS Style is not the last thing you update after you've evolved. It's a tool for stepping into who you're becoming.Every time you say yes to something that doesn't serve you, you erode your own self-trust.The right room doesn't just support you. It shows you how alike you all are beneath the titles and the polish.You don't need more planning. Sometimes you need to stop waiting for the permission slip and take the leap. If this conversation landed for you and you're ready to stop dressing for who you were and start showing up as the woman you're becoming, a Style Strategy Call is where we begin. 👉 Book yours here: www.alexandrastandley.co.uk/service-page/style-strategy-call CONNECT WITH KATIE Website: https://www.kk-collective.com  LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/k-keith  Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/katie_keith_collective/

    44 min
  2. When Your Style Hasn't Caught Up With Your Identity: Astrology & Leadership - with Rachel Maria Bell

    MAY 20

    When Your Style Hasn't Caught Up With Your Identity: Astrology & Leadership - with Rachel Maria Bell

    There's a moment a lot of women know. You've changed, in how you see yourself, in your career, in what you stand for, but your wardrobe is still telling the old story. That's what this conversation is about. Rachel Maria Bell is an astrologer, identity strategist, and founder of Quantum Expansion. She works with women who know they're here for something bigger - what she calls new paradigm leadership - helping them see themselves beyond conditioning and lead from a place of sovereignty. She's also a past client of mine, and her experience of working on her style is the thread that runs through this whole conversation. We cover a lot of ground - from the identity gaps that show up long before a woman touches her wardrobe & lockdown style, to what astrology actually does as a tool for self-recognition, to why the energy of a piece of jewellery or clothing matters. This is one of those episodes that will make you see things in a totally new light. I've been drawing more of this into my own work - the deeper identity tools, the layers beneath the surface. My session with Rachel was part of that. That's what I'm creating with my style work too and why I wanted her on the show. KEY TAKEAWAYS Style communicates trust before a single word is spokenWhat astrology actually does beyond knowing your star signWhat your chart reveals about how you show up in the worldA styled life isn't about the clothes. It's about coherence, when everything matchesThe collective turning point, and what it means for women who feel the pull but can't yet name it TIMESTAMPS 01:04 — Who Rachel is and the work she does  02:44 — From business lecturer to astrologer: the shift that changed everything  06:43 — What astrology actually does (beyond knowing your star sign)  12:05 — The identity shift that motherhood brings and why style keeps needing to catch up  13:33 — Lockdown, invisible businesses, and dressing for a price point you'd outgrown  16:39 — Colour, black, and why wearing the rules doesn't always mean following them  19:20 — Why style needs to hold all the different versions of who you are  28:46 — The energy of clothing and when a piece has run its course  34:33 — Reading a chart: the first house, the rising sign, and the seventh house  39:27 — Is there a connection between a woman's chart and how she expresses herself visually?  47:02 — Human design, projectors, and the value of being a seer rather than a doer  48:08 — Quick fire If this conversation landed for you and you're ready for your style & presence to match your success and future goals - a Style Strategy Call is where we begin. It's a free, no-pressure conversation. Book yours here:  https://www.alexandrastandley.co.uk/service-page/style-strategy-call CONNECT WITH RACHEL Find Rachel and her work at https://www.quantumexpansion.co.uk Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/rachelmariabell/ https://www.instagram.com/quantum_expansion_/ LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/rachel-maria-bell/

    51 min
  3. Why Your Style Still Doesn't Feel Like You - Human Design Astrology & Identity For Results That Last

    MAY 13

    Why Your Style Still Doesn't Feel Like You - Human Design Astrology & Identity For Results That Last

    You've done the work. The coaching, the therapy, the wardrobe edit. And you still walk into a room and get experienced as a smaller version of who you actually are. That's not a you problem, that's a missing piece. Most approaches to style start with the wardrobe and never go beneath it. Most approaches to identity stay in the mind and never land in the physical world. Nobody has held both together. Until now. In this episode, Alex unpacks the identity-led framework she has been using with powerful results, but quietly keeping to herself. Human Design, Astrology, Numerology, Character Strengths, Values. Not as a personality exercise. As the foundation that makes every styling decision rooted in who you actually are, not who you've been performing as. If you've ever thought this doesn't feel like me - this is the episode that explains why. And what to do about it. TIMESTAMPS 00:00 — The part Alex has been keeping quiet 02:15 — Why coaching, therapy and styling all work in isolation, and miss the whole picture 06:40 — The five identity lenses: what they are and how they're used 10:20 — Reading presence before the client says a word 13:45 — The questions that build the living picture underneath everything 17:10 — Colours, silhouette and signature style, only after identity clarity 19:30 — 15 years as a global fashion buyer: capable, competent, completely disconnected 23:00 — What changed when her daughter was born 26:15 — What her north node in Aries was asking her to stop doing 29:40 — Character strengths: why honesty first means she can't perform a version of herself that isn't true 33:00 — Human Design and style as embodiment, written into who she is 37:20 — The gap between who you are and how you're experienced is an embodiment problem 40:05 — Why the most lasting transformations feel like coming home KEY TAKEAWAYS Identity before clothing. Always. The sequence is the methodology.The gap between who you are and how you're experienced is not a wardrobe problem. It is an embodiment problem.The most confident transformations aren't a performance of someone new. They're a reclamation of who you already are. READY TO CLOSE THE GAP? If this episode landed and you're ready for someone to hold the whole picture together, start with the Styled for Impact guide. It's the beginning of the identity piece and will help you start asking the right questions before any of this work begins. Download it here: https://www.alexandrastandley.co.uk/styledforimpactguide Or if you're ready to talk, book a free Style Strategy Call: https://www.alexandrastandley.co.uk/service-page/style-strategy-call

    16 min
  4. How to Make Your First Impressions Count: Style, Presence and Communication with Priscilla Pollara

    MAY 6

    How to Make Your First Impressions Count: Style, Presence and Communication with Priscilla Pollara

    By the time you walk into the room, the first impression is already forming. The question is whether you shaped it or it shaped you. Priscilla Pollara has spent her career helping leaders, brands and politicians answer that question before it matters. This is a conversation about what actually happens in the moments that matter. The ones you have prepared for and still somehow not quite nailed. The filmed interview, the keynote, the high-stakes meeting where you knew your material but left feeling like you hadn't quite landed. Priscilla and Alex explore why style, presence and communication have to work together, and what falls apart when they don't. It is direct, honest and full of things you will want to write down as a female founder or senior leader. YOU'LL EXPLORE Why first impressions are made before you open your mouthThe difference between performing confidence and being preparedWhy buying something new for a high-stakes moment is one of the most common mistakes women makeWhat journalism teaches you about commanding attentionHow to decide what impression you want to leave before you walk inWhy Priscilla wants more women to learn to professionally boastWhat style and communication have in common and why they have to work together TIMESTAMPS 00:00 — First impressions and where Priscilla's work begins  01:02 — From newsroom to communications consultant  08:23 — What journalism teaches you about finding the story in a person  13:32 — Knowing the impression you want to make before you walk in  21:00 — When credibility doesn't translate into the room  28:08 — Being better in smaller groups and why that is not a weakness  35:28 — Dress how you want to be treated  37:27 — Why buying something new before a high-stakes moment lets you down  40:12 — Authenticity versus performance - where the line is  50:51 — Perception: how you see yourself is not how others see you 55:13 — The one thing Priscilla wishes more women would give themselves permission to do  58:13 — Quickfire: the wedding dress, the blazer collection and no fashion regrets If this conversation landed for you and you are ready to work on your own style, presence and communication before your next big moment, Stage Ready Style is a full-day in-person event on 17th June at Citizen M Tower Bridge, London. Alex and Priscilla are working with a small group of women, on exactly what this episode covers. Tickets are £497. Places are limited. 👉 https://www.alexandrastandley.co.uk/stagereadystyle Or if you want to start the conversation before then, book a free Style Strategy Call. 👉 https://www.alexandrastandley.co.uk/service-page/style-strategy-call Find Priscilla at www.toptrick.co.uk, on Instagram @priscillacomms and on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/priscilla-pollara/

    1h 1m
  5. APR 29

    The Style Identity Gap That Shopping Will Never Fix for Female Founders & Senior Leaders

    You have been meaning to sort your style for about eighteen months. You know this because the evidence is everywhere - the saved posts, the abandoned basket, the thing you bought, returned, then bought a safer version of and wore twice. You told yourself you would deal with it properly before the next big thing. And then the next big thing arrived, and you wore something fine. There is always a next big thing. There is never more time afterwards. In this episode, Alex Standley, Personal Stylist and Identity-Led Style Strategist, names the pattern that keeps capable, established women stuck in the getting-ready-to-get-ready loop, and why the solutions most of us reach for do not work. This is not a shopping problem. It is not a wardrobe problem. It is an identity problem. And until you solve it at that level, nothing else will stick. You will learn why effort alone does not fix the gap, what actually needs to come first before any style work will hold, and how the Mirror Moment changes everything that comes after. TIMESTAMPS 00:00 — The question most women are privately sitting with  01:20 — Not a laziness problem  02:17 — What we actually do when we want to sort our style  03:30 — Three patterns that show up again and again  04:37 — Treating the symptom, not the cause  05:10 — Why previous style work drifts  06:37 — What needs to come before anything else  10:00 — The free guide: Styled for Impact Ready to close the gap? If this episode named something you have been sitting with, start here. Download the free guide, Styled for Impact below. The style visibility guide for trailblazing female founders and senior leaders stepping into keynotes, media features, photo shoots and high-stakes rooms. So you walk in thinking about your message, not your reflection.  Work through it before you buy anything, clear out anything, or do anything practical at all. www.alexandrastandley.co.uk/styledforimpactguide

    13 min
  6. The Energy of Getting Dressed: Flower Essences, Identity and How We Show Up - with Saskia Marjoram

    APR 22

    The Energy of Getting Dressed: Flower Essences, Identity and How We Show Up - with Saskia Marjoram

    Every morning you answer a question - consciously or not. Who do I have to be today? Or, if you're lucky: who do I want to be today? Saskia Marjoram has spent over two decades helping women get back to the second question.  Saskia Marjoram is the founder of Saskia's Flower Essences, a former professional gardener, and spent a decade as assistant florist to the then Prince of Wales before building her own brand from the ground up. She now has a thriving online business and a retail shop in Somerset. Her world is botanicals and vibrational medicine. But what she's really talking about is the same thing I talk about every day: we're being photographed, filmed and expected to show up as our own personal brand more than ever, and that has changed how women relate to their own image. This conversation is about the gap between who you are and how you're coming across. And what it takes to close it. We explore: How flower essences work and what they actually treatWhy being constantly photographed has changed how women relate to their own imageThe Speaking with Confidence blend and why Saskia took it before we hit recordGrowing into a piece and what it means when the world finally sees you in itYou don’t ‘have nothing to wear’ you have nothing to wear for all the things you have to do todayThe energetics of natural fibres, colour, and dressing as a daily act of self-expression TIMESTAMPS 00:00 — When the most important conversations don't start with the clothes 00:52 — High Grove, Sandringham, and shooting parties in the Cotswolds 03:23 — Why the story behind you matters 08:33 — What flower essences actually do 09:22 — Bringing you back to the truest version of yourself 13:16 — The hemline at the wedding: knowing when something's slightly off 17:15 — Where the love of clothes began 27:06 — The blend for "I don't know what to wear anymore" 32:22 — Speaking with confidence: why you deserve to be heard 38:02 — Who do I have to be today? Or who do I want to be? 43:25 — Growing into your own presence 45:43 — Quick fire round KEY TAKEAWAYS How you get dressed is a question you're already answering - the work is to answer it consciously.Style isn't what you wear. It's every way you move through the world. READY TO CLOSE THE GAP? If this conversation landed for you and you want your style to match where you're headed, a Style Strategy Call is where we begin. Book yours here: https://www.alexandrastandley.co.uk/service-page/style-strategy-call FIND SASKIA Website: www.saskiasfloweressences.com  Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/saskiasessences/ Use code ALEX at checkout for 15% off.

    50 min
  7. Being Seen on Your Own Terms: Visibility, Identity & Permission, with Antonia Taylor, PR

    APR 8

    Being Seen on Your Own Terms: Visibility, Identity & Permission, with Antonia Taylor, PR

    What does it really mean to be visible? Not just seen, but seen in a way that feels aligned, intentional, and true to who you actually are right now? That question sits at the heart of this conversation. And the answer is more complicated than most visibility advice lets on. In this episode, Alex Standley is joined by Antonia Taylor, PR and communications strategist, founder of Antonia Taylor PR and Comms, and author of the report Being Seen: Women, Leadership and Visibility at Work. With over 25 years in B2B communications, Antonia has spent her career helping organisations amplify female voices and create environments where women can lead sustainably and visibly. Alex and Antonia explore the real barriers that hold women back from being seen, and why the answer is rarely about strategy, and almost always about self. They talk about the paradox of visibility (keep your head down and get overlooked; step forward and face the backlash), the internal critic that talks us out of everything, and what it actually means to build a visibility practice that you can sustain.  They also get into identity transitions, the symbolic power of shedding old versions of ourselves, and why your wardrobe might be holding a version of you that you've quietly outgrown. This is a conversation for the woman who wants to be seen, but on her own terms. EPISODE HIGHLIGHTS 06:03 — When the purpose behind your business quietly shifts 08:27 — What professional visibility actually looks like for women (it's not one thing) 10:17 — How hybrid working pushed women to the margins 14:35 — The paradox of visibility: overlooked or punished for standing out 16:24 — Wanting to be seen, wanting to be liked, and the permission women aren't giving themselves 17:05 — Fearing the exposure that comes with being visible 19:00 — The misogyny women have internalised about other women — and where it really comes from 23:22 — Consistency not constancy: building a visibility practice that doesn't break you 27:30 — Brené Brown, Adam Grant, and the bit everyone missed about vulnerability and boundaries 29:00 — Defining your own version of visibility and knowing your boundaries before you begin 31:02 — Loop it through your heart: the filter one TED Talk speaker uses before posting anything 38:32 — The black column dresses: a coach's advice and a symbolic shedding of an old identity 41:12 — Wardrobe scarcity mindset and the "one day" clothes that quietly chip away at self-worth 51:44 — Style evolution: Antonia on finding your own aesthetic as you get clearer on who you are 54:13 — Why caring about style is joyful, not frivolous 58:36 — The first step if you want to be seen but aren't sure how 1:00:14 — Having a bigger purpose than yourself as the reason to stand on stage CONNECT WITH ANTONIA Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/antoniataylorpr/ Report: Being Seen: Women, Leadership and Visibility at Work https://www.antoniataylorpr.com/being-seen/ ENJOYED THIS EPISODE? If this conversation resonated, share it with a woman in your world who is ready to be seen, but hasn't quite given herself permission yet. Ready to align how you show up with who you are actually becoming? Book a Style Strategy Call with Alex: https://www.alexandrastandley.co.uk/service-page/style-strategy-call

    1h 6m
  8. The Power of Being Seen: Visibility, Self-Worth, and Style

    APR 1

    The Power of Being Seen: Visibility, Self-Worth, and Style

    What actually stops accomplished women from stepping into visibility and what does it take to move through the fear that comes up at every level? In this episode of A Styled Life, we cover what visibility truly costs women, why self-worth is at the root of almost every block, and what it means to be in a room that actually changes how you see yourself. I'm joined by Sara Spindle and Jess Levy, sisters, co-founders of Level Up Ladies, and two of the most energetic and honest voices in the women's entrepreneurship space. Over three years, they've built a community of hundreds of women, created over 100 business collaborations, and consistently sold out every event they run. They also speak on stages in front of thousands of women.  Sara is also a client. We worked together on her bespoke colour palette & wardrobe foundations. So there's a personal thread running through this conversation, including what happened to Sara's relationship with colour and confidence after leaving teaching, and what it actually felt like to reconnect with both. In this episode we explore: Why low self-worth is the most common block to female visibility and why most women don't recognise itHow other people's projections become the scripts we live byThe role colour plays in confidence, energy and how you show upWhat Sara gained from working together and what she tells other women considering itWhy waiting until you feel "ready" in your body to invest in style is the wrong orderThe daily practice that rebuilds self-belief and why putting yourself last is a choice, not a fact Episode Highlights 00:00 — How Level Up Ladies began (a dream in Mauritius at 4am) 03:00 — Energy-first networking and why it changes everything 08:10 — The sister dynamic: seven years apart, radical honesty, and why that's the foundation 14:30 — What actually stops women from stepping into visibility 17:00 — How other people's fear shows up as criticism 19:45 — Why the work is never finished and why that's okay 23:20 — Colour as a conscious leadership choice 24:40 — Losing confidence after becoming a mum 27:00 — Using colour as a wellbeing tool, not just a style choice 29:50 — What Sara gained from the wardrobe edit and what changed her mornings 33:30 — Why waiting for the "right" body before working on your style is the wrong order 36:10 — Why high-achieving women still don't feel enough 43:25 — The dopamine list and the wins round 45:30 — "I just don't have time for myself" and why that's a choice If this conversation landed for you and you're ready to stop dressing for who you were and start dressing for who you're becoming a Style Strategy Call is where we begin. It's a free, no-pressure conversation. 👉 Book yours here: https://www.alexandrastandley.co.uk/service-page/style-strategy-call Connect with Sara & Jess:  Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/_levelupladies/ Website: https://levelupladies.co.uk/

    58 min

About

Welcome to A Styled Life, the podcast for purpose-led female founders & senior leaders ready to use style as a powerful tool for confidence, impact, and influence. I'm your host, Alex Standley, multi award-winning Personal Stylist, Speaker and Sustainable Fashion Consultant, with two decades of experience in the fast-paced world of fashion. Join me as we redefine success from the inside out. This podcast isn’t just about clothes. It’s about personal power, purposeful style, and creating a life that aligns with your values. So whether you’re running a business, leading a movement, or stepping into your next chapter, you’re in the right place. Each week, we’ll dive into the world of personal style, sustainability, female empowerment, and living with intention. Through real stories, expert insights, and plenty of inspiration.

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