A Whole Mess

A Whole Mess Podcast

A Whole Mess is a mental health podcast where two therapists talk wellness, humor, and the hard stuff. We blend clinical insight with real-life messiness, sharing personal stories, therapy tools, and unfiltered conversations. From emotional breakthroughs to existential spirals, we explore healing, connection, and the chaos in between—with curiosity, laughter, and heart.

Episodes

  1. 09/11/2025

    Fighting Fair: How to Disagree Without Destroying Your Relationship

    This week on A Whole Mess, we’re diving into the messy world of arguments — the ones you have with your partner, your best friend, or even your roommate. Conflict gets a bad reputation, but here’s the truth: disagreements aren’t the problem, it’s how we handle them. We’ll unpack why fights happen in the first place — from burnout and mismatched timing to identity threats and passive-aggressive digs — and walk through the five most common conflict styles people fall into when stress runs high (The Fighter, The Avoider, The Passive-Aggressive, The Fixer, and The Shut downer). From there, we’ll share the Fair Fighting Rules therapists actually use in session, the ones that can turn an explosive fight into a chance for deeper connection. Along the way, expect both humor and heart as we call each other out on our own conflict styles, swap client-friendly tools, and validate that feeling overwhelmed doesn’t mean you’re broken — it just means you’re human. 🎧 Join us for: The 5 conflict styles and how to spot them in yourself (and others) Therapist-approved Fair Fighting Rules that actually work Practical tools like “repair routines,” time-outs, and conflict safe words New perspectives on why conflict can be a doorway, not a dead end Because fighting fair isn’t about avoiding disagreements — it’s about protecting the relationship while still getting your needs met.

    58 min
  2. 08/09/2025

    Dream Theories, Decoded: What’s Going On In There?

    This week on A Whole Mess, we’re cracking open the mysterious world of dreams. Are they secret messages from your subconscious, brain static from REM sleep, or just your mind’s late-night improv show? We’ll take you on a whirlwind tour through some of the biggest dream theories — from Freud’s repressed desires and Jung’s archetypal messages to neuroscience takes like Activation-Synthesis, Threat Simulation, and Emotional Regulation. Expect equal parts insight and irreverence as we unpack the manifest vs. latent content of your dreams (thanks, Freud), wander through Jung’s shadowy symbols, and poke at the brain’s habit of turning random neural firings into full-on cinematic adventures. Along the way, we’ll debate whether dreams matter in therapy, share how (and when) we talk about them with clients, and compare how different theories might interpret the same bizarre dream. We’ve also got a rapid-fire dream quiz for Morgan — including whether most people dream in black and white, how long you’ll spend dreaming in your lifetime, and why anxiety keeps showing up as the uninvited guest in your dream life. Whether you love decoding your dreams or think they’re just nighttime nonsense, this episode will give you fresh ways to think about them — and probably make you laugh at least once. 🎧 Join us for: Freud vs. Jung: The dream duel you didn’t know you needed Neuroscience takes on what your brain is doing at 3 a.m. Why “being chased” is basically a universal dream theme Listener prompts for the weirdest dream you’ve ever had So grab your journal, your curiosity, and maybe a cup of tea. Your dreams might be divine messengers… or brain farts. Either way, they’re worth talking about.

    56 min

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A Whole Mess is a mental health podcast where two therapists talk wellness, humor, and the hard stuff. We blend clinical insight with real-life messiness, sharing personal stories, therapy tools, and unfiltered conversations. From emotional breakthroughs to existential spirals, we explore healing, connection, and the chaos in between—with curiosity, laughter, and heart.