Rich Queer Aunties

Christabel Mintah-Galloway
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Two queer African lesbians aunties having the conversations our cultures told us to swallow. Rich Queer Aunties is a space for truth-telling at the intersection of culture, queerness, relational healing, and diaspora life. Hosted by Christabel and Kachi, two Igbo daughters, lovers, thinkers, and truth-telling aunties, we unpack the emotional, cultural, and relational stuff we were never supposed to name out loud. From hierarchical colonial collectivist conditioning to people-pleasing, from religious trauma to queer love, from rupture to repair, we talk through the real work of becoming whole. We’re not here to perform wisdom, we’re here to practice liberation in real time, through honest conversations, cultural analysis, and the relational skills we’re still learning ourselves. If you’ve ever felt split between worlds…the obedient child and the rebellious self…the good daughter and the free adult…the hyper-competent professional and the lonely inner child…this is your space. We see you! Come sit with us as we explore: • decolonial relational skills • African diaspora identity • queer partnerships and chosen family • boundaries, rupture, repair, and interdependence • the ways patriarchy, whiteness, and religion shape our bodies and relationships • the joy, rage, humor, and tenderness of becoming ourselves Follow along on IG @richqueeraunties @christabelmintahgalloway and @qingkachi and join the deeper community having these conversations. Pull up a chair. Remove the mask. Your aunties are talking.

  1. 4D AGO

    32: Navigating conflict as African Lesbians. How childhood trauma shapes our present relationships.

    In this deeply vulnerable Part 1 episode, Christabel and Kachi peel back the layers of their origin stories to understand how they learned to navigate conflict, safety, and love. Coming from two distinct backgrounds, both shaped by the violence of the Biafran genocide survivors and the silence of a strict religious household, we explore the survival strategies that saved us as children but challenged us as adults. In this episode, we discuss: The Fighter vs. The Performer: How Christabel learned to "fight back" and "hulk out" as a parentified daughter, while Kachi learned to "perform goodness" and embrace silence to survive a high-control environment. The Cost of Survival: The impact of domestic violence, physical abuse, and the pressure to be a "good child" on our nervous systems. Queer Identity in the Shadows: Kachi opens up about navigating lesbian identity in a Nigerian Catholic all girls boarding school and the internal conflict of hiding to stay safe. Two Paths to Healing: We break down the myth that there is only one way to heal. We discuss how Kachi found herself through solitude, sobriety, and psilocybin , while Christabel needed to heal in relationship to witness her own triggers. Join us as we trace our attachment styles back to the source and prepare the ground for Part 2. Find us on Instagram @richqueeraunties @christabelmintahgalloway @qingkachi If you enjoyed this episode, leave us a review, rate us and share with one person today to help the algorithm do its thing to get this to the people who need it. XO, Your Rich Queer Aunties Christabel & Kachi

    41 min

  2. 11/19/2025

    31: Queer, African & Engaged: Grieving family while choosing ourselves

    Christabel and Kachi are back. Two queer Igbo aunties, newly engaged, talking honestly about what it means to choose a lesbian life in the shadow of homophobic parents, church aunties, and colonial expectations. In this episode they unpack what engagement and turning forty have stirred up. Christabel shares what it is to propose after two divorces and a Jehovah’s Witness childhood. Kachi talks about returning to the community they grew up in with Christabel who is fully tatted and pierced and feeling the monitoring spirits in the room. Together they name the grief of parents who will never fully celebrate their love, and the freedom that comes from refusing to hide. They explore grief as an alchemical practice for queer African babies. What happens when you stop waiting for your family to change, tell the truth anyway, and let yourself mourn the parents you wish you had. How grief purifies, how boundaries shift, and how standing in your reality becomes an offering to the ancestors and to the next generation of queer Africans. If you are the obedient child who turned into the rebellious queer adult, if you are tired of hiding from your family while holding everyone else together, this conversation is for you. Find us on Instagram @richqueeraunties @christabelmintahgalloway @qingkachi If you enjoyed this episode, leave us a review, rate us and share with one person today to help the algorithm do its thing to get this to the people who need it. XO, Your Rich Queer Aunties Christabel & Kachi

    38 min

  3. 06/17/2025

    30: It’s Not a Mother Wound. It’s Patriarchy.

    We keep saying we have mother wounds, but what if the real injury is deeper than our mothers? In this episode, we ask the question no one wants to touch: Who are our mothers, really? Not the role they performed. Not the fears they passed down. But the person underneath all that patriarchal survival. Christabel and Kachi crack open a deeply personal conversation about rage, abandonment, girlhood, queerness, and what it means to love our mothers without excusing the harm. From forced obedience to performative connection, we explore how patriarchy trains us to mistrust other women, and how healing means confronting the system, not scapegoating each other. If you've ever felt triggered by other women, if you're grieving the relationship you never had with your mother, if you’re trying to change the dance by changing your own steps, this one’s for you. If you enjoy our work, please comment/rate/share. This is what helps us get known so we can make money doing work we love. ✨ If you’re in the Bay Area, come be in the room with us for The Gathering on June 21. It’s a lush, intimate night of expertly made cocktails, radically honest conversation, and real community around the theme of Love and Rage. → ⁠Get your ticket⁠ Want a deeper way to practice this work? The Relational Skills for Liberation workbook is your companion, especially if you’re learning how to show up for yourself and others without performing perfection. → ⁠Download the workbook⁠ Want early access to future workshops and behind-the-scenes reflections? → ⁠Join the waitlist⁠ CONNECT WITH US 📸 Instagram: ⁠@richqueeraunties⁠ | ⁠@christabelmintahgalloway⁠ | ⁠@qingkachi

    47 min

  4. 05/29/2025

    29: Love & Rage - What Did You Inherit and What Are You Choosing

    Love & Rage — What Did You Inherit and What Are You Choosing? This is our first video upload. Let us know what you think! Should we do more videos? How do we honor our rage without becoming who harmed us? In this episode of Rich Queer Aunties, we talk about love and rage, what we inherited, what we’re choosing instead, and how we’re learning to hold both without abandoning ourselves. We speak as African daughters, as queer folks, as partners learning to fight fair, and as children unlearning obedience as the price of love. This conversation is honest, tender, and necessary. We explore: ​Why rage felt safer than softness in many of our homes​How rage and tenderness can coexist when we stop suppressing ourselves​The cost of performing obedience in relationships—especially with family​How we learned to channel anger into truth, not destruction​What it looks like to individuate without cutting off our roots✨ If you’re in the Bay Area, come be in the room with us for The Gathering on June 21. It’s a lush, intimate night of expertly made cocktails, radically honest conversation, and real community around the theme of Love and Rage. → Get your ticket Want a deeper way to practice this work? The Relational Skills for Liberation workbook is your companion, especially if you’re learning how to show up for yourself and others without performing perfection. → Download the workbook Want early access to future workshops and behind-the-scenes reflections? → Join the waitlist — CONNECT WITH US 📸 Instagram: @richqueeraunties | @christabelmintahgalloway | @qingkachi

    48 min

  5. 03/27/2025

    28: Severed Selves, Righteous Rage & the Courage to Reintegrate

    In this raw and reflective episode of Rich Queer Aunties, Christabel and Kachi use the hit show Severance as a powerful metaphor for the emotional fragmentation many of us endure, especially queer, Black, immigrant, and formerly religious folks. Through deeply personal storytelling, they explore themes of reintegration, rage, community, grief, and the courage it takes to reclaim your full self in a world that rewards compartmentalization. From family estrangement to navigating therapy, medicine, and chosen family, this conversation is a reminder that healing isn’t clean, but it’s real. Whether you’ve seen Severance or not, this episode invites you to reflect: What parts of yourself have you severed to survive? And what would it take to live from a place of wholeness? Ọganihu Collective⁠ – A community for creatives of diasporic origin building sustainable, interdependent businesses. If you’re a creator looking for ongoing support, join us. Comment/rate/review the podcast – This helps a lot for visibility for a podcast hosted by two Black, Queer Women. Follow ⁠Christabel⁠and ⁠Kachi⁠ on Instagram for more offerings and a good time!  Tune in and let’s get into it.

    50 min

  6. 02/25/2025

    27: Building Relational Skills to Defy Empire

    In this episode of Rich Queer Aunties, we dive deep into why relational skills are essential for our collective liberation. We explore the tensions between individualism, collectivism, and interdependence, unpacking how capitalism, white supremacy, and patriarchy have shaped the way we relate to one another. Christabel and Kachi reflect on their personal journeys with repair, conflict resolution, and deepening relational skills, not just in friendships and romantic relationships, but also in movement spaces. Why do so many relationships fall apart over unspoken expectations? How do we build the resilience to stay, repair, and grow while also discerning when to walk away? We also talk about the role of community in healing from relational trauma, how prioritizing deep relationships is a direct act of resistance against empire, and why building strong relational skills is crucial for any liberatory movement. Plus, Christabel shares how her 12 years in nursing leadership have shaped her understanding of conflict navigation, emotional intelligence, and showing up for others, even when it’s hard. This is an episode about unlearning, relearning, and doing the slow, necessary work of repair, for ourselves, our communities, and our collective futures. Ọganihu Collective – A community for creatives of diasporic origin building sustainable, interdependent businesses. If you’re a creator looking for ongoing support, join us. Comment/rate/review the podcast – This helps a lot for visibility for a podcast hosted by two Black, Queer Women. Follow Christabeland Kachi on Instagram for more offerings and a good time!  Tune in and let’s get into it.

    45 min

  7. 01/30/2025

    26: If Your Spirituality Is Isolating You, It’s Not Working: A Critique of How We Practice Indigenous Spirituality

    Spirituality should bring us closer to ourselves, to each other, and to the land. But too often, we see people leaving oppressive religious structures only to recreate the same hierarchies, dogma, and isolation in their spiritual journeys. In this episode, we ask: Are we truly decolonizing our spirituality, or are we just replicating the same patterns with different language? We explore: ✨ How indigenous wisdom offers pathways to healing beyond Western individualism ✨ The ways colonial trauma shapes modern spiritual practices ✨ Why relational accountability must be central to any spiritual path ✨ How to practice spirituality in a way that fosters community, connection, and liberation Healing, unlearning, and reclaiming indigenous knowledge should not make us lonelier. It should deepen our relationships and bring us home to interdependence. Ready to build community while doing this work? 🔹 Come join us at The Gathering (Oakland, Feb 15th) – A space to unlearn and reimagine intimacy outside of patriarchal structures. Tickets available now (4 tickets left)! 🔹 Ọganihu Collective – A community for creatives of diasporic origin building sustainable, interdependent businesses. If you’re a creator looking for ongoing support, join us. 🔹 Comment/rate/review the podcast – This helps a lot for visibility for a podcast hosted by two Black, Queer Women. Follow Christabel and Kachi on Instagram for more offerings and a good time!  Love,  Christabel & Kachi; The Rich Queer Aunties

    43 min

  8. 01/07/2025

    25: Healing Beyond the Master’s Tools: Therapy, Queerness, and Rediscovering Indigenous Wisdom

    Healing Beyond the Master’s Tools: Therapy, Queerness, and Rediscovering Indigenous Wisdom In this deeply reflective episode, Christabel and Kachi dive into the layered complexities of healing as queer African immigrant women navigating Western therapeutic tools, cultural inheritance, and the longing for ancestral wisdom.  They explore questions like:  • Are the tools we’re using to heal truly liberating us?  • What happens when therapy and mindfulness no longer feel like enough?  • How do we reclaim indigenous healing practices that were disrupted by colonialism?  Through raw storytelling and vulnerable reflection, they unpack the ways queerness became a lens for healing, the heartbreak of systemic betrayal, and the deep longing to return to something ancient, something rooted.  This conversation is not just about personal healing, it’s about collective liberation, about challenging systems that ask us to stay small, silent, and stagnant.  If you’ve ever felt stuck on your healing journey, if you’ve questioned whether the tools available to you are truly serving your growth, this episode is for you.  Tune in, reflect, and let’s query deeper, together.  Listen now on Spotify, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you stream your favorite shows. Don’t forget to rate, review, and share, it helps so much! 💖 ✨ Connect with us: Follow on Instagram: ⁠@christabelmintahgalloway⁠ Join the conversation on Substack: ⁠Rich Queer Aunties⁠ Support the community on Patreon: ⁠Oganihu Collective Till next time, Christabel & Kachi.

    37 min
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Two queer African lesbians aunties having the conversations our cultures told us to swallow. Rich Queer Aunties is a space for truth-telling at the intersection of culture, queerness, relational healing, and diaspora life. Hosted by Christabel and Kachi, two Igbo daughters, lovers, thinkers, and truth-telling aunties, we unpack the emotional, cultural, and relational stuff we were never supposed to name out loud. From hierarchical colonial collectivist conditioning to people-pleasing, from religious trauma to queer love, from rupture to repair, we talk through the real work of becoming whole. We’re not here to perform wisdom, we’re here to practice liberation in real time, through honest conversations, cultural analysis, and the relational skills we’re still learning ourselves. If you’ve ever felt split between worlds…the obedient child and the rebellious self…the good daughter and the free adult…the hyper-competent professional and the lonely inner child…this is your space. We see you! Come sit with us as we explore: • decolonial relational skills • African diaspora identity • queer partnerships and chosen family • boundaries, rupture, repair, and interdependence • the ways patriarchy, whiteness, and religion shape our bodies and relationships • the joy, rage, humor, and tenderness of becoming ourselves Follow along on IG @richqueeraunties @christabelmintahgalloway and @qingkachi and join the deeper community having these conversations. Pull up a chair. Remove the mask. Your aunties are talking.

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  • Creator
    Christabel Mintah-Galloway
  • Years Active
    2020 - 2025
  • Episodes
    32
  • Rating
    Explicit
  • Copyright
    © Christabel Mintah-Galloway
  • Show Website
    Rich Queer Aunties

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