Abundant Thinking

Elan Gelfand
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Conversations With the Top 1% on How They Think. Past Guests Include: David Meltzer, Chris Voss, Derek Sivers, Mick Hunt, Phil Daru, John Lee Dumas, Suneel Gupta, Lisa Bodell, Juliet Funt, Shawn Dill, and more.

  1. 2d ago

    #156 - “There's No Such Thing as 70%. You're Either In or You're Not.” - Ryan Hawk

    Nobody teaches you that showing up halfway is an insult to the thing you said yes to. Ryan Hawk has spent 11 years and 690 conversations learning that, and building a show around the people who never forgot it. Ryan reveals why curiosity isn't just a skill, it's the primary way he gives and receives love, and why asking someone about the dedication page of their book opens them up faster than any interview technique ever could. He shares the four-stage learning flywheel that separates people who consume knowledge from people who actually compound it: fuel your intake, run experiments, reflect on what worked, then teach it to someone else. He explains why he refuses to invoice clients until after he speaks, and why telling every room "you don't have to pay me if I didn't crush it" is the forcing function that keeps his standards from slipping. And on his shelf sits a champagne bottle from 2019, still sealed - a daily reminder that the work is always becoming, never arrived. Connect with Ryan Hawk: Website: https://learningleader.comInstagram: https://instagram.com/ryanhawk12LinkedIn: https://linkedin.com/in/ryanhawk12Pre-Order Ryans Book: The Price of Becoming — https://learningleader.com/BecomingIf this episode gave you one idea worth keeping, please leave a 5-star review on Apple Podcasts or Spotify it takes 30 seconds and it helps more people find the show.

    54 min

  2. Jun 23

    #155 - Left for France at 13 to Chase Pro Soccer: The Self-Belief Test No One Talks About — Rehan Rayani

    There's a two-question test that reveals exactly how much your self-belief actually matters. Rehan found the answer after quitting professional soccer, while his childhood teammates are playing in the World Cup. Rehan left home at 13 to pursue professional soccer in France, spending nearly a decade competing at the highest youth and semi-professional level in Europe. He breaks down why he walked away from the sport that had defined his entire identity, not because he couldn't cut it, but because he discovered the difference between "playing with energy" and "working on energy": the moment you stop doing something for love and start doing it as obligation, the game is already lost. He shares the two-question self-belief test that proves only one person's belief in you actually counts, and explains how his real mission, bringing out the best in people was always the bigger driver, and professional soccer was only ever the vehicle. He also unpacks the Jay Shetty concept that stopped him in his tracks: "I am who I think you think I am" and why realizing it was a trap changed everything. Connect with Rehan Rayani: Website: https://rehanrayani.comInstagram: https://instagram.com/rehanrayaniLinkedIn: https://linkedin.com/in/rehan-rayani-2375731b2TikTok: https://tiktok.com/@rehan_rayaniIf this episode gave you one idea worth keeping, please leave a 5-star review on Apple Podcasts or Spotify — it takes 30 seconds and it helps more people find the show.

    33 min

  3. Jun 16

    #154 - 1.2 GPA to 4x CEO: "Here's What School Doesn't Teach You" — Doug Hardman

    The most money Doug Hardman ever made was the worst period of his life, 52 weeks of travel, three to five flights a week, watching his kids grow up on his ex-wife's Facebook feed. Doug graduated high school with a 1.2 GPA, has been CEO or founder of more than four companies, sold a fintech startup on March 10, 2020, three days before COVID destroyed the exact type of in-person spending business he'd just exited and has been bankrupt. He's currently running fractional consulting and a vintage t-shirt side business, and says it's the happiest chapter of his life. In this episode, Doug shares the one test that reveals whether something is your real business (it has nothing to do with market research), why the startup that went bankrupt instead of making hundreds of millions is one of his greatest successes, how to find the right person to take advice from using the same model he learned in 35 years of sobriety, and why real confidence comes from failing, not from studying people who already know the answer. Connect with Doug Hardman: Website: https://mrdoug.comInstagram: https://instagram.com/mrdougLinkedIn: https://linkedin.com/in/doughardmanFaded Vibes (vintage t-shirt business): https://fadedvibes.comIf this episode gave you one idea worth keeping, please leave a 5-star review on Apple Podcasts or Spotify — it takes 30 seconds and it helps more people find the show.

    1h 21m

  4. Jun 9

    #153 - 7x World Drumming Champion: He Won't Coach You Unless You Answer This Question — James Laughlin

    Most people can tell you what they want. Almost no one can answer what they're willing to suffer for. James Laughlin — 7x world drumming champion turned performance coach to Olympians, prime ministers, and F1 drivers — says that gap is exactly where high performance lives or dies. James won his first world drumming title at 13, then lost far more championships than he won — and that failure became the foundation of a coaching system now used by gold medalists and heads of state. In this episode, he breaks down the three habits he's found in every elite performer across sports, politics, and business; the three questions he asks before agreeing to coach anyone (and why he turns people away if they can't answer them); why balance is a myth for anyone serious about building something real; and the one thing he gave up five and a half years ago that he credits with more clarity, energy, and money than any tactic he's ever tried. Connect with James Laughlin: Website: https://www.jjlaughlin.comInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/jameslaughlinofficialLinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/jameslaughlincoachingBook: Habits of High Performers — https://www.amazon.com/Habits-High-Performers-James-Laughlin/dp/1969508272If this episode gave you one idea worth keeping, please leave a 5-star review on Apple Podcasts or Spotify — it takes 30 seconds and it helps more people find the show.

    25 min

  5. Jun 2

    #152 - You're Skilled at the Work and Terrible at the Business - Shawn Dill

    Throwback Episode - The better you get at your service business, the more it traps you. Dr. Shawn Dill has coached hundreds of service providers through exactly this wall, and his first move is always counterintuitive. Shawn breaks down why your professional training equipped you to do the work but guaranteed you'd struggle with the business side of it. Not a character flaw. A design flaw. He explains why good instincts are the exact thing blocking your next level: if your gut got you here, it can't get you there. He shares the pricing insight most service providers miss entirely: nobody buys in the middle, ever, and trying to compete there is a slow bleed. And he unpacks the bicycle analogy for leverage: finding the right coach or mentor isn't about learning more; it's about arriving faster. Connect with Shawn Dill: Website: https://adaptapreneur.comInstagram: https://instagram.com/drshawndillLinkedIn: https://linkedin.com/in/drshawndillBook: None of Your Business: https://www.amazon.com/None-Your-Business-Providers-Entrepreneurs/dp/1544513712If this episode gave you one idea worth keeping, please leave a 5-star review on Apple Podcasts or Spotify. It takes 30 seconds and it helps more people find the show.

    33 min

  6. May 26

    #151 - PhD Psychologist: Your Burnout Isn't from Overwork, It's Your Thoughtload — Dr. Liane Davey

    You're not overwhelmed because you're doing too much. You're overwhelmed because your brain is carrying a pile of stuff that isn't even the work, and that pile makes the actual work almost impossible to get to. Dr. Liane Davey is an organizational psychologist who advises CEOs, and she's spent years studying why smart, capable people burn out. In this episode, she introduces the concept of "thoughtload," the invisible cognitive and emotional tax that most of us have no word for yet. She breaks down why burnout is not stress (it's what happens after uncontrollable stress runs on too long), why your brain processes someone rejecting your idea the same way it processes physical pain, and how the best Olympic athletes manage this better than most executives ever will. She also shares her four-step emotional processing framework: where, what, why, and one action. It's a way to catch yourself before an emotion turns into a story that spirals. Simple. Repeatable. Actually works. If you're a leader, there's a line in here that'll stick with you: the busier things get, the more you can't afford not to protect your energy. Connect with Dr. Liane Davey: Website: https://lianedavey.comInstagram: https://instagram.com/lianedaveyLinkedIn: https://linkedin.com/in/lianedaveyBook: Thoughtload: Manage the Madness and Free Your Team to Do Great Work — https://www.amazon.com/Thoughtload-Manage-Madness-Free-Great/dp/1774586517If this episode gave you one idea worth keeping, please leave a 5-star review on Apple Podcasts or Spotify, it takes 30 seconds and it helps more people find the show.

    33 min

  7. May 19

    #150 - David Meltzer - God, Ego, Humility, and Losing $100M

    Most people spend years collecting mentors and still feel stuck. David Meltzer lost over $100 million, his mom's house, and his bearings, and what he found on the other side will change how you think about asking for help. David makes the case that asking for help isn't weakness, it's a gift to the person you're asking. He breaks down the difference between finding mentors and doing the private work no one can do for you, why every problem already contains its answer (he calls it the "resolution"), and the infinite loop of giving that rebuilt his life after losing everything. Plus: what his mom said to him at rock bottom that he still carries today. Connect with David Meltzer: Website: https://dmeltzer.comInstagram: https://instagram.com/davidmeltzerLinkedIn: https://linkedin.com/in/davidmeltzer2Book: Click Here If this episode gave you one idea worth keeping, please leave a 5-star review on Apple Podcasts or Spotify, it takes 30 seconds and it helps more people find the show.

    17 min

  8. May 12

    #149 - The Man Who Led 15,000 People: You've Become the Exact Boss You Used to Hate — Kyle McDowell

    Most managers don't set out to become the boss they once hated. Kyle McDowell led 15,000 people for 30 years in corporate America and admits he was that boss for the first 20 of them. His teams called him "The Shredder." He picked apart every presentation, needed to be the loudest voice in the room, and prioritized his own accolades over the people around him. It worked until it didn't. In this episode, Kyle breaks down the one-night epiphany that made him scrap everything and rebuild his leadership from scratch using 10 we-based behavioral standards he calls the 10 Wheeze. He explains why most leaders inherit the exact toxic traits they loathed in their own bosses, why observable behavior beats any mission statement on a wall, and why the guy who's just there for a paycheck deserves the same standard as your highest performer. Kyle also shares why he didn't tell his wife for a month that he was writing his book, and what his friend said when he finally did. Connect with Kyle McDowell: Website: https://kylemcdowellinc.comInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/kylemcdowellincLinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/kylemcdowellincBook: Begin With We — https://www.amazon.com/Begin-WE-Principles-Sustaining-Excellence/dp/1544529902If this episode gave you one idea worth keeping, please leave a 5-star review on Apple Podcasts or Spotify — it takes 30 seconds and it helps more people find the show.

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Conversations With the Top 1% on How They Think. Past Guests Include: David Meltzer, Chris Voss, Derek Sivers, Mick Hunt, Phil Daru, John Lee Dumas, Suneel Gupta, Lisa Bodell, Juliet Funt, Shawn Dill, and more.

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  • Creator
    Elan Gelfand
  • Years Active
    2024 - 2026
  • Episodes
    156
  • Rating
    Explicit
  • Copyright
    © Elan Gelfand
  • Show Website
    Abundant Thinking