Abuse Isn't What You Think

Jackie Graybill
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Abuse Isn't What You Think

Are you wondering if your toxic or dysfunctional relationship might be more, might be... Abusive? You're in the right place to find out! Go on a journey from trauma to triumph with your host, Jackie Graybill. She escaped an abusive marriage and went on to earn her Masters in Understanding Domestic and Sexual Violence. Jackie takes all of her experiences and storytelling skills to bring you compelling, eye-opening and healing content with the guests she interviews and also in her solo episodes. Have you ever been curious about EFT Tapping? Some episodes feature this healing modality. It's powerful, free and easy to do. You don't need any equipment other than your fingers and a quiet space. Join this warm community and expand your education about abuse and abusers (often the people we love and care about), and why they strategically control and abuse us. Are you ready to find out if, just maybe, Abuse Isn't What You Think? Join the online Facebook group, Trauma to Triumph Sisterhood: https://www.facebook.com/groups/traumatotriumphsisterhoodchallenge/ Check out more from your podcast host, Jackie Graybill: https://msha.ke/jackiegraybill

  1. On Expectations

    07/24/2022

    On Expectations

    In this episode, your host, Jackie, gets real about how her expectations have been holding her back, including why she hasn't been releasing episodes lately. What expectations have been holding you back? If you are, or think you may be, experiencing abuse, click here in the US for help If you are, or think you may be, experiencing abuse, click here in the UK for help If you’re interested in working with Jackie or booking her to speak at your event, conference, school or company, click here to schedule a quick Connect Call via Calendly For more information about your host, Jackie, copy and paste this link into your browser to check out her milkshake (Linktree alternative ;): msha.ke/jackiegraybill

    9 min
  2. Is Financial Abuse a Thing?

    06/24/2022

    Is Financial Abuse a Thing?

    In this episode, your host, Jackie, explains financial abuse and leads you through a powerful Tapping session. Have you experienced financial abuse?  If you are, or think you may be, experiencing abuse, click here in the US for help If you are, or think you may be, experiencing abuse, click here in the UK for help EFT Tapping Meditation time stamps: Tapping explanation: 29:03 Tapping: 32:07-48:23 Cool Quote in the Episode:“I realized that I deserve more than those breadcrumbs. I deserve more than the leftovers.” - Jackie If you’re interested in working with Jackie or booking her to speak at your event, conference, school or company, click here to schedule a quick Connect Call via Calendly For more information about your host, Jackie, copy and paste this link into your browser to check out her milkshake (Linktree alternative ;): msha.ke/jackiegraybill Recommendations in the Episode:Information What is Coercive Control? Guide to Gaslighting It takes 7 times, on average, to leave an abusive relationship for good How to find a local Domestic Violence Shelter in the US How to find a local Domestic Violence Shelter in the UK National Domestic Violence Hotline in the US Refuge in the UK What is The Great Resignation? The Great Resignation = more jobs available Merida from Brave Yelena Belova from Hawkeye and Black Widow Books Maid: Hard Work, Low Pay, and a Mother’s Will to Survive by Stephanie Land a...

    54 min
  3. How Can I Release My Fears?

    06/07/2022

    How Can I Release My Fears?

    In Jackie’s interview with Lynda Sunshine West, you’ll learn how running away as a five-year-old (to get away from an abusive father) and being gone for a week led to the belief that nobody loved her, which shaped her into a people pleaser who was ruled by fear, and how she overcame it. Inside the Episode:  *Find out what Lynda says was “the greatest gift I've ever given to myself.” *Lynda believes that no matter our age, we can change our belief systems, even if they are “locked in tight.” Find out how she changed hers. *Learn Lynda’s Powerful Forgiveness Exercise! *Find out how to tell the difference between fear that’s stopping you and your intuition that’s warning you. *Find out why Lynda calls the popular acronym for fear (False Evidence Appearing Real) stupid, and the powerfully effective acronym she replaced it with. If you are, or think you may be, experiencing abuse, click here in the US for help If you are, or think you may be, experiencing abuse, click here in the UK for help Guest Bio and Cool Quotes in the Episode:As the Founder and CEO of Action Takers Publishing, Lynda Sunshine West’s mission is to empower 5 million women and men to share their stories with the world to make a greater impact on the planet. She is affectionately known as The Queen of Collaboration. Lynda Sunshine is a Book Publisher, Speaker, Multiple Times International #1 Best-Selling Author, Executive Film Producer, and a Red Carpet Interviewer. Action Takers Publishing Action Takers Publishing on LinkedIn Action Takers Publishing YouTube Channel Quotes in the Episode from Lynda: “You have a story to tell and when you start telling your story, it does several things. One is it helps you to heal. And the other thing is you can help others heal also through your story.” “Even though I was no longer with the abuser, the abuse was still in my head and now I became the abuser of myself.” “When you leave an abusive environment, you can't go back to the same environment because it’s going to help pull you back in. So find those people in your life who do believe in you, who do want to see you succeed and surround yourself with those people.” “When I know the cause, I can move through it.” “Once we have awareness, we can make a decision. And the decision is to stay the same or to change. Either way, we're making a decision. I have awareness. If I decide to stay the same, I have made that decision.” “The majority of my fears were based on the fear of judgment. That fear is the biggest fear.” “When we find our purpose, it's our job and duty to spend the rest of our lives living on purpose instead of living on accident.” “See the opportunity, then seize the opportunity.” If you’re interested in working with Jackie or booking her to speak at your event, conference, school or company, click here to schedule a quick Connect Call via Calendly For more information about your host, Jackie, copy and paste this link into your browser to

    1h 16m
  4. How Can I Change My Relationship Patterns?

    05/30/2022

    How Can I Change My Relationship Patterns?

    Jackie Graybill interviews Regina Andler about her experience as a teenager and how she has healed her life. Regina is a Jack Canfield Success Principles Certified Coach and is the founder and CEO of Autumn Ascent Consulting. She can be found at her website and her Facebook group. If you are, or think you may be, experiencing abuse, click here in the US for help If you are, or think you may be, experiencing abuse, click here in the UK for help Recommendations in the Episode: Information The Cycle of Abuse What is Coercive Control? Lundy Bancroft’s 9 Types of Male Abusers The 5 Stages of Grief Mirror Meditation What is The Law of Attraction? E+R=O (Event + Response = the Outcome) It takes 7 times, on average, to leave an abusive relationship for good Your Gut is Your Second Brain Financial abuse is found in 98% of all cases of abuse Books Boundaries: When to Say Yes, How to Say No To Take Control of Your Life by Dr. Henry Cloud and Dr. John Townsend Coercive Control: How Men Entrap Women in Personal Life by Evan Stark The Success Principles: How to Get from Where You Are to Where You Want to Be by Jack Canfield a...

    1h 11m
  5. Can Men Experience Abuse Too?

    04/23/2022

    Can Men Experience Abuse Too?

    If you are, or think you may be, experiencing abuse, click here in the US for help If you are, or think you may be, experiencing abuse, click here in the UK for help In this episode, Jackie interviews author and non-profit founder Lee Marks on his story and his path to becoming an author and an advocate for men who experience abuse. Bio + Cool Quotes from this Episode's Guest: Lee Marks is the founder of Break the Silence UK and began the organization following the release of “Break the Silence,“ his support guide for male victims of domestic abuse. This book is now used in a number of male domestic abuse services across the UK as well as being on the approved reading list for the domestic abuse diploma at his local university. Following the success of this, Lee has gone on to write his first fiction novel “The Silent Truth,“ again based around a male victim of domestic abuse that has received very high praise indeed. Lee is a qualified CBT and NLP therapist and is currently undertaking his Masters degree in Understanding Domestic and Sexual Violence. “Has your partner ever portrayed any behavior that made you feel a bit uncomfortable? If so, let's talk about that.” “What we hear all the time is domestic abuse is a gendered crime. It is not. Domestic abuse is a crime that can happen to anybody.” “I'd like to say one day I'd fully recover, but I think domestic abuse changes you as a person. And I think that aspects of the way that it changes you, that you can't go back to how you were. And what you have to do, is you're recreating the best possible you, you can, from that situation that you've been in. And it's about having the right people around you that are going to support that process. Over 11 years since I came out of that relationship, and it's still an ongoing process, I'm still learning about me, I'm still learning about who I am.  I had to become a whole new person. I'm not the person I used to be.” If you’re interested in working with Jackie or booking her to speak at your event, conference, school or company, click here to schedule a quick Connect Call via Calendly For more information about your host, Jackie, copy and paste this link into your browser to check out her milkshake (Linktree alternative ;): msha.ke/jackiegraybill Recommendations in the Episode: Organizations Break the Silence: The Organization Lee Founded Video for Break the Silence UK The Court Said UK Books Break the Silence: A Support Guide for Male Victims of Domestic Abuse (by Lee Marks) The Silent Truth (by Lee Marks) a...

    1h 10m
  6. Can You Experience Abuse If You're a Successful and Confident Woman?

    04/08/2022

    Can You Experience Abuse If You're a Successful and Confident Woman?

    If you are, or think you may be, experiencing abuse, click here in the US for help If you are, or think you may be, experiencing abuse, click here in the UK for help Jackie interviews singer/songwriter Brandi MacLaren on her story and experience of tragedy and abuse as a confident and successful woman. Cool Quote from the Episode: “I think it's so important for women to support women. I think that's just so important because we need to stand together and say, it's not going to fly. It's not gonna go under the radar anymore. We're going to stand behind each other and be a voice for the other person. And you are heard and you are seen, and you're not doing this alone.” - Brandi MacLaren If you’re interested in working with Jackie or booking her to speak at your event, conference, school or company, click here to schedule a quick Connect Call via Calendly For more information about your host, Jackie, copy and paste this link into your browser to check out her milkshake (Linktree alternative ;): msha.ke/jackiegraybill Recommendations in the Episode: Quotes Maya Angelou quote  Music I Surrender by Brandi MacLaren (Spotify) I Surrender by Brandi MacLaren (Apple Music) Caligo, Brandi's Duo (Spotify) Caligo, Brandi's Duo (Apple Music) Information It takes 7 times, on average, to leave an abusive relationship for good Books Why Does He Do That: Inside the Minds of Angry and Controlling Men by Lundy Bancroft Dodging Energy Vampires: An Empath's Guide to Evading Relationships That Drain You and Restoring Your Health and Power by Christiane Northrup, MD Psychopath Free: Recovering from Emotionally Abusive Relationships With Narcissists,...

    1h 9m
  7. Will Smith, Chris Rock and What Slapgate Says About Our Culture

    04/04/2022

    Will Smith, Chris Rock and What Slapgate Says About Our Culture

    If you are, or think you may be, experiencing abuse, click here in the US for help If you are, or think you may be, experiencing abuse, click here in the UK for help Guest Vanessa L. Wilde (a fellow abuse survivor whose story is told in a future episode), joins Jackie in discussing Slapgate in the light of abuse. What does this incident say about our culture and do we need to change? If you’re interested in working with Jackie or booking her to speak at your event, conference, school or company, click here to schedule a quick Connect Call via Calendly For more information about your host, Jackie, copy and paste this link into your browser to check out her milkshake (Linktree alternative ;): msha.ke/jackiegraybill More to Explore from the Episode:Take a read of my article on Medium about Slapgate More about Jada and alopecia Laura Richards’ Podcast, Crime Analyst Laura Richards’ Instagram post about Jada Amy Shumer’s response to Slapgate: traumatizing PHENOMENAL interaction between Oprah and Amy Shumer talking about their abuse experiences Tiffany Haddish’s surprising Slapgate response Article telling white women and abuse victims that Slapgate is not about us Book about Cluster B’s and lack of empathy: Psychopath Free by Jackson MacKenzie 20% of the population are Cluster B Personality Disordered abusers: The Empath’s Guide to Evading Energy Vampires by Christiane Northrup Guide to Gaslighting  a...

    56 min
  8. How Can the Law Help Protect Victims of Abuse and Coercive Control?

    03/27/2022

    How Can the Law Help Protect Victims of Abuse and Coercive Control?

    Join Jackie as she interviews special guest, NYU Professor Christine Cocchiola, who shares her own abuse journey and her fight to pass Jennifer’s Law (coercive control legislation) in the US state of Connecticut. If you are, or think you may be, experiencing abuse, click here in the US for help If you are, or think you may be, experiencing abuse, click here in the UK for help Guest Bio and Cool Quotes in the Episode: Christine Cocchiola, LCSW NYU, DSW-c, 2022 Coercive Control Advocate, Researcher, Educator & Survivor www.christinecocchiola.com coercivecontrolisipv on Instagram & FB and coercivecontrol on Twitter “Victims are highly agreeable and conscientious. They are off the charts in those two areas.” - Christine Cocchiola on study of shared victim traits by Sandra Brown “One of the key characteristics [of abusers] is charming.” - Christine Cocchiola “700 children have died since 2008 at the hands of an abuser, because a judge allowed the abuser to share custody.” - Christine Cocchiola “Not all narcissists are pedophiles, but all pedophiles are narcissists” - Christine Cocchiola “Coercive control is the foundation of domestic abuse.” - Christine Cocchiola “At the moment we start to disengage [from the abuser], they actually intensify.” Christine Cocchiola If you’re interested in working with Jackie or booking her to speak at your event, conference, school or company, click here to schedule a quick Connect Call via Calendly For more information about your host, Jackie, copy and paste this link into your browser to check out her (Linktree alternative) Milkshake: msha.ke/jackiegraybill Recommendations in the Episode: YouTube Vids: Dr. Grande on psychopathy (paying attention to Psychopath Factor 1 and Factor 2) Dr. Ramani on manipulation tactics of narcissists Dr. Ramani on scapegoating Sandra L. Brown on specific temperament traits of those who get trapped in relationships with and by psychopaths   Studies and Articles: Christine Cocchiola’s study: COVID-19 and Sheltering in Place: The Experiences of Coercive Control for College Students Returning Home Baker and Ben-Ami study on Parental Alienation a...

    57 min
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Are you wondering if your toxic or dysfunctional relationship might be more, might be... Abusive? You're in the right place to find out! Go on a journey from trauma to triumph with your host, Jackie Graybill. She escaped an abusive marriage and went on to earn her Masters in Understanding Domestic and Sexual Violence. Jackie takes all of her experiences and storytelling skills to bring you compelling, eye-opening and healing content with the guests she interviews and also in her solo episodes. Have you ever been curious about EFT Tapping? Some episodes feature this healing modality. It's powerful, free and easy to do. You don't need any equipment other than your fingers and a quiet space. Join this warm community and expand your education about abuse and abusers (often the people we love and care about), and why they strategically control and abuse us. Are you ready to find out if, just maybe, Abuse Isn't What You Think? Join the online Facebook group, Trauma to Triumph Sisterhood: https://www.facebook.com/groups/traumatotriumphsisterhoodchallenge/ Check out more from your podcast host, Jackie Graybill: https://msha.ke/jackiegraybill

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    Jackie Graybill
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    © Copyright 2023 Jackie Graybill
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