According To B

Bokang Lehlokoe
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According to B is your go-to podcast for real talk with women who are ditching the rulebook and doing life their way. Hosted by Bokang Lehlokoe, it’s all about the messy middles, quiet wins, and bold moves behind the scenes. We’re not here for highlight reels - we’re here for who you’re becoming. Expect raw convos, big laughs, deep feels, and a reminder that living boldly beats living perfectly, every single time.

  1. 9H AGO

    Friendship Breakups, Comparison & Choosing Each Other w/ Landzy Gama & ZeeXOnline | According To B x Bernini

    This episode of According to B is brought to you in partnership with Bernini- the sparkling spritzer born from real wine.  We live in a world that quietly teaches women to compete - over beauty, success, relationships, and even friendships. And sometimes, without realising it, that pressure seeps into the very relationships meant to hold us. In this episode of According to B, we’re choosing something different. I’m joined by best friends and Because We Said So podcast co-hosts Landzy Gama and Zama Marubelela (ZeeXOnline) for a deeply honest conversation about female friendship as refuge, grounding, and one of adulthood’s greatest love stories. Together, we unpack: How comparison and competition show up in women’s friendships What female friendship teaches us about love and becoming Navigating friendship breakups without villains Why our friends often become the true witnesses to our lives This conversation is an invitation to slow down, soften, and savour the relationships that let us be messy, honest, and fully ourselves. Subscribe to The B Word here: https://www.youtube.com/c/TheBWord?su...  ✰ MEET OUR CO-HOSTS ✰ Zama & Landzy Landzy Gama and Zama Marubelele are best friends, Youtubers, content creators and the co-hosts of the podcast Because We Said So- a space beloved for its deeply relatable conversations about girlhood, friendship, love, and becoming. Known for their honesty, humour, and emotional openness, they’ve built a platform that feels like a safe place to land for women navigating adulthood in real time. What truly sets Landzy and Zama apart is the bond they share and the way they show up for each other- with softness, accountability, and care. Through their work, they remind women that friendship can be grounding, expansive, and life-shaping, and that choosing each other in a world that encourages comparison is a powerful act. Their journey reflects the beauty of growing together, speaking openly, and allowing friendship to be one of life’s greatest love stories. ✰ TIMESTAMPS✰ 00:00- Coming up 01:21- About the conversation 02:48- Meet Landzy & Zama 04:10- Landzy & Zama on vlogging vs podcasting 06:30- Game: Toast or Ghost 13:09- Landzy & Zama: The advice queens 13:59- Dilemma 1 23:52- Dilemma 2 27:51- What the end of a friendship has taught Landzy & Zama 31:55- What Landzy & Zama have learnt about themselves from each other 34:06- What friendship has given Landzy & Zama that romantic relationship hasn't 37:06- Advise to the girls that have experienced friendship hurt 39:54- Gifting Landzy & Zama their Breathe It In boxes 40:51- Outro ✰ SOCIAL MEDIA ✰ Bokang ➜ Instagram: @sheisbokang-  / sheisbokang    ➜ Tik Tok:@sheisbokang-  / sheisbokang      The B Word ➜ Instagram: @thebword_za - / thebword_za    ➜ Tik Tok: @thebwordza-  / thebword_za    Guest Zama ➜ Instagram: @zeexonline-https://www.instagram.com/zeexonline  ➜TikTok: @zeexonline- https://www.tiktok.com/@zeexonline  Landzy ➜ Instagram: @landzygama-https://www.instagram.com/landzygama ➜TikTok: @landzygama- https://www.tiktok.com/@landzygama  ✰ LISTEN ON ✰  Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/0XnqZ7b... Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast... Castbox: https://castbox.fm/channel/id5426930?... ✰ BUSINESS INQUIRIES ✰ E-mail: hello@thebwordmedia.com  ✰ TEAM/CREDITS ✰ Director: Bokang Lehlokoe Producer: Bokang Lehlokoe & Tshegetso Moepi  Production Assistant: Seanmile Dlamini Videography: Looped Pictures   Post Production: Looped Pictures

    42 min

  2. FEB 5

    Taking Control of Your Life: Jaxx Amahle on Choosing yourself | According To B & Bernini

    This episode of According to B is brought to you in partnership with Bernini - the sparkling spritzer born from real wine. A drink made for the women who choose to celebrate with each other. ✨ So many women aren’t unhappy - they’re just on autopilot.Living lives they inherited, not ones they consciously chose. In this episode of According to B, I sit down with Amahle “Jaxx” Jaxa to talk about what it really looks like to move from survival mode into intentional authorship: shaping your work, relationships, and identity around what you actually want. Jaxx’s journey reminds us that choosing your life doesn’t always mean burning it all down. Sometimes it’s about editing with honesty, courage, and self-trust and giving yourself permission to become again and again. This episode forms part of the According to B x Bernini “Breathe It In” series - conversations centred on presence, reflection, and choosing life on your own terms. Watch, reflect, and join the conversation in the comments. Subscribe to The B Word here: https://www.youtube.com/c/TheBWord?su...  ✰ MEET OUR CO-HOST ✰ Amahle Jaxa Amahle “Jaxx” Jaxa is a media personality, cultural commentator, and creative entrepreneur who has become one of South Africa’s most compelling voices in digital media. Known for her sharp insight, wit, and ability to make complex social and political conversations feel accessible, Jaxx has built a platform rooted in honesty, relevance, and cultural awareness. From shaping influential spaces in nightlife and events to stepping into her own as a trusted commentator and host, Jaxx’s journey reflects courage, reinvention, and intentional authorship. She is committed to encouraging women to think critically, trust themselves, and take up space boldly-proving that clarity, curiosity, and conviction can coexist with authenticity and warmth. ✰ TIMESTAMPS✰ 00:00 - Coming Up 01:00 - Introducing the Breathe It In series 02:33: - Meet Jaxx 05:33 - Game: Toast or Ghost 19:12 - Jaxx on authorship & autonomy 22:54 - The year  Jaxx chose to change her life  29:36 - Jaxx’s truth on dealing with imposte syndrome 31:45: - Jaxx’s advice for someone feeling stuck or stagnant 36:06: - Bokang and Jaxx talk navigating the 30’s 42:52 - Life categories: Jaxx’s picks 50:42 - Gifting Jaxx her Breathe It In basket 52:02- Outro ✰ SOCIAL MEDIA ✰ Bokang ➜ Instagram: @sheisbokang-  / sheisbokang    ➜ Tik Tok:@sheisbokang-  / sheisbokang      The B Word ➜ Instagram: @thebword_za - / thebword_za    ➜ Tik Tok: @thebwordza-  / thebword_za    Guest Jaxx ➜ Instagram: @jaxxofalltrades_sa-https://www.instagram.com/jaxxofalltrades_sa ➜TikTok: @jaxxofalltrades_sa- https://www.tiktok.com/@jaxxofalltrades_sa ✰ LISTEN ON ✰  Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/0XnqZ7b... Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast... Castbox: https://castbox.fm/channel/id5426930?... ✰ BUSINESS INQUIRIES ✰ E-mail: hello@thebwordmedia.com  ✰ TEAM/CREDITS ✰ Director: Bokang Lehlokoe Producer: Bokang Lehlokoe & Tshegetso Moepi  Production Assistant: Seanmile Dlamini Videography: Looped Pictures   Post Production: Looped Pictures

    53 min

  3. 10/22/2025

    When Did Friendships become so Hard & Expensive?! | According to B

    ➜ Subscribe to The B Word here: https://www.youtube.com/c/TheBWord?su... ✰ ABOUT ✰ This one is close to my heart. In this episode, I sit down with two of my closest friends, Maliaka and Tshegetso, for a real and honest conversation about what friendship looks like in adulthood- the beautiful, the hard, and the in-between.  We grew up watching rom-coms where the “best friend” character always had it all figured out, but real life doesn’t look like that. Between work, money, growing responsibilities, and trying to show up for ourselves, friendship can start to feel… complicated. So, we decided to talk about it–the distance that sometimes creeps in, the moments we’ve drifted, and the ways we’re learning to hold space for each other now that life isn’t as simple as it used to be. We also dive into: Why friendship feels harder as we get older.  The difference between drifting apart and simply growing up.  How money can shift the dynamic between friends. What showing up looks like in this season of our lives. Why sisterhood still matters-maybe now more than ever. ✰ TIMESTAMPS✰ 00:00 - Coming Up 00:43 - The best friend character in rom coms 03:36 - Introducing Maliaka & Tshegetso 05:27 - The girls meet cute stories  10:47 - Dilemma 1: Why is friendship so hard? 12:38 -The challenges’s of friendship now vs in the early 20’s 20:28 - Maliaka & Tshegetso’s response to the dilemma 27:34 - What the girls miss about friendship then vs what they value now 32:29 - Dilemma 2: When money changes friendship. 33:38 - Maliaka and Tshegetso’s response to the dilemma 41:30 - How necessary is it to be transparent about finances with friends? 49:21 -The title and genre of the movie that Maliaka & Tshegetso are casting Bokang in 52:23 - The post credit scene  55:22 - Afterthoughts ✰ SOCIAL MEDIA ✰ Bokang ➜ Instagram: @sheisbokang-https://www.instagram.com/sheisbokang  ➜ Tik Tok: https://www.tiktok.com/@sheisbokang    The B Word ➜ Instagram: @thebword_za -https://www.instagram.com/thebword_za  ➜ Tik Tok: @thebwordza https://www.tiktok.com/@thebword_za  ✰ LISTEN ON ✰  Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/0XnqZ7b... Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast... Castbox: https://castbox.fm/channel/id5426930?... ✰ BUSINESS INQUIRIES ✰ E-mail: hello@thebwordmedia.com  ✰ TEAM/CREDITS ✰ Director: Bokang Lehlokoe Producer: Bokang Lehlokoe & Tshegetso Moepi  Production Assistant: Denga Madzivhandila Editor: Palesa Radebe

    58 min

  4. 10/13/2025

    From Dropout To Digital Empire: Mpoomy Ledwaba’s Unconventional Road To Success | According To B

    ➜ Subscribe to The B Word here: https://www.youtube.com/c/TheBWord?su... ✰ ABOUT ✰ In this powerful episode of According to B, Bokang sits down with Mpoomy Ledwaba to unpack what it really means to step into your main character energy in career, love, and life. From career pivots to redefining what “having it all” means, Mpoomy’s story is heartfelt and deeply relatable. Together, Bokang and Mpoomy dive into the lessons, leaps, and mindset shifts that come with choosing yourself boldly, even when life doesn’t follow a straight script. What you’ll hear in this episode: Embracing career pivots and nonlinear pathsBalancing ambition with love, family, and wellbeingBreaking out of “supporting role” expectations placed on womenRedefining success on your own termsListener dilemmas on career, starting over, and relationshipsHow to give yourself permission to rewrite your story This conversation will leave you inspired to trust your own journey, embrace your boldness, and script your next chapter with intention. ✰ MEET OUR CO-HOST ✰ Mpoomy Ledwaba is a creative entrepreneur, podcaster, speaker, wife, and mom who has become one of South Africa’s most influential voices on faith, purpose, and intentional living. Known for her honesty and warmth, she has built a career rooted in redefining success on her own terms  balancing ambition with love, family, and wellbeing. From boldly pursuing her passions, to growing her platform as a storyteller and businesswoman, Mpoomy’s journey reflects the beauty of nonlinear paths and bold pivots. She is committed to showing women that they don’t have to fit into traditional molds or “supporting roles”-they can lead, create, and thrive while still embracing softness and balance. ✰ TIMESTAMPS✰ 00:00 - Coming Up 00:58 - The Rom Com montage 04:16 - Introducing Mpommy Ledwaba the main character 05:35 - Mpoomy's career as a movie 12:19 - Listeners dispatch:Career change uncertainty  16:19 - Mpoomy’s career pivots  20:34 - A lesson that Mpoomy learnt in the past that she applies today 23:08 - Listeners Dispatch 2: Starting over without disappointing anyone 30:17 - Giving yourself permission to outgrow a dream 35:53 - Listeners Dispatch 3:Can I have it all? 41:25 - How Mpoomy and her husband navigate their roles in their marriage 46:13 - Closing credits  48:22 - The title of Mpoomy’s next chapter ✰ SOCIAL MEDIA ✰ Bokang ➜ Instagram: @sheisbokang-https://www.instagram.com/sheisbokang  ➜ Tik Tok: https://www.tiktok.com/@sheisbokang    The B Word ➜ Instagram: @thebword_za -https://www.instagram.com/thebword_za  ➜ Tik Tok: @thebwordza https://www.tiktok.com/@thebword_za  Guest Mpoomy ➜ Instagram:https://www.instagram.com/mpoomy_ledwaba  ➜TikTok:https://www.tiktok.com/@mpoomyledwaba  ✰ LISTEN ON ✰  Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/0XnqZ7b... Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast... Castbox: https://castbox.fm/channel/id5426930?... ✰ BUSINESS INQUIRIES ✰ E-mail: hello@thebwordmedia.com  ✰ TEAM/CREDITS ✰ Director: Bokang Lehlokoe Producer: Bokang Lehlokoe & Tshegetso Moepi  Production Assistant: Moe Sonny Videographer & Editor: Palesa Radebe

    49 min

  5. 09/29/2025

    Stop waiting for permission and believe for more with Candice Modiselle

    ➜ Subscribe to The B Word here: https://www.youtube.com/c/TheBWord?su... ✰ ABOUT ✰ How do you give yourself permission to dream again? How do you stop playing small when it feels safer to shrink? And what does it look like to step into visibility not just in your career, but also in love? In this powerful episode, Tumelo Candice Sello (Formerly Candice Modiselle) returns to the podcast to unpack the mindset shifts, fears, and breakthroughs that come with embracing your main character energy and the accompanying mindset shift. Since her last appearance, Candice has stepped into a new chapter of life; she got married, deepened her walk in faith, and adopted a renewed mindset anchored in purpose. She shares what it looks like to release old versions of yourself, confront the fear of visibility, and boldly claim the life you know you’re meant to live.  We dive into:  The danger of waiting for permission vs. choosing yourself  Playing small, self-sabotage & unlearning “it’s not possible for me”  Moving from survival mode to possibility mode Redefining love as agency from waiting to be chosen to choosing yourself The turning points that help you step into your soft, bold, authentic life This conversation is about reinvention, courage, and becoming the main character in your own story not tomorrow, not when everything is perfect, but right now. ✰ MEET OUR CO-HOST ✰ Tumelo Candice Sello (formerly known as Candice Modiselle) is a creative entrepreneur, storyteller, and speaker whose journey embodies reinvention and bold authenticity. With a background spanning stage, screen, and business, Tumelo has become a trusted voice for women navigating visibility, purpose, and faith. Beyond her career, she is deeply passionate about conversations that empower others to shed fear, embrace growth, and step fully into who they are meant to be. ✰ TIMESTAMPS✰ 00:00 - Coming Up 01:11 - Rom com maincharacter breakdown 03:36 - She’s bacckkkkkk 04:26 - Check in 05:42 - Genre check 06:59 -The title of this season of Candice’s life 08:06 - Candices top 3 characters in her life right now 09:55 - The fatal flaw  13:19 - The difference between 20’s Candice and 30’s Candice 19:30 - Listeners dispatch 1: The creative that shrinks herself/plays small 21:08 - The ways in which Candice has played small 23:23 - Candices response to the dilemma 33:39 - Candices advice to someone who is afraid to start over  37:07 - How Candice is handling Tumelo Selo vs Candice Modiselle 38:40 - Listeners Dispatch 2: Waiting to be chosen 39:36 - Candices response to the dilemma 47:54 - Candices past experience shrinking herself in romantic relationships 51:25 - Healthy compromise vs settling  56:35 - Closing credits  57:59 - Post credits  ✰ SOCIAL MEDIA ✰ Bokang ➜ Instagram: @sheisbokang-https://www.instagram.com/sheisbokang  ➜ Tik Tok: https://www.tiktok.com/@sheisbokang    The B Word ➜ Instagram: @thebword_za -https://www.instagram.com/thebword_za  ➜ Tik Tok: @thebwordza https://www.tiktok.com/@thebword_za  Guest Candice ➜ Instagram:https://www.instagram.com/candicemodiselle  ➜TikTok:https://www.tiktok.com/@candicemodiselle  ✰ LISTEN ON ✰  Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/0XnqZ7b... Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast... Castbox: https://castbox.fm/channel/id5426930?... ✰ BUSINESS INQUIRIES ✰ E-mail: hello@thebwordmedia.com  ✰ TEAM/CREDITS ✰ Director: Bokang Lehlokoe Producer: Bokang Lehlokoe & Tshegetso Moepi  Videographer & Editor: Palesa Radebe

    1 hr

  6. 09/22/2025

    Changing My Life By Living Like A Rom-Com Main Character

    What would your life look like if it was the opening scene of a rom-com? For me, that question went from a fleeting thought to a full-on experiment. In this very first episode of According to B: Rom-Com Edition, I share how I decided to flip the script on my own life and start living with main character energy.From childhood weekends spent at the movies, to being raised on the glossy promises of early 2000s romantic comedies, I talk about the unrealistic expectations they planted in us and the reality check of what 30 actually looks like. Spoiler alert: no magazine corner office, no perfect meet-cute, just a lot of Netflix, Uber Eats, and scrolling LinkedIn.But then came the shift: what if the only thing standing between side character energy and leading lady energy was audacity? Inspired by the bold, sometimes delusional choices of rom-com heroines like Jenna Rink, Eva Dandridge, and Elle Woods - I decided to create my own plot twist. Thus, The Rom-Com Experiment was born.In this episode, I break down what it means to give yourself permission to dream again, why audacity is the bridge between who you are and who you want to be, and how to start taking those baby steps toward a life you don’t just love, but actually live.Plus, I share voice notes from you—the community—about your own rom-com opening scenes and audacious dreams, and we dive into lessons on romanticizing the everyday, saying yes to the scary stuff, and daring to believe in possibilities again.This is the start of a new chapter, not just for me, but for all of us. So grab your popcorn, your notebook, maybe even your favorite lip gloss, and let’s step into the role we were meant to play: the heroine of our own stories.✰ TIMESTAMPS✰00:00 - Intro00:31 - How the world of movies and TV influenced my childhood01:21 - The early 2000’s rom com era 02:28 - Realistic check-in on my life05:02 - The active re-write of my life07:39 - The rom-com experiment10:51 - Having audacity 12:15 - Listener's dispatch 1: Dealing with disappointment 15:53 - Listener's dispatch 2: Finding the courage to take a leap18:03 - Listener's dispatch 3: The audacious creative entrepreneur18:47 - Listener's dispatch 4: Unapologetically bold21:49 - Follow my rom-com(ish) series on my personal social media 22:21 - Outro ✰ SOCIAL MEDIA ✰Bokang➜ Instagram: @sheisbokang-https://www.instagram.com/sheisbokang ➜ Tik Tok: https://www.tiktok.com/@sheisbokang The B Word➜ Instagram: @thebword_za -https://www.instagram.com/thebword_za ➜ Tik Tok: @thebwordza https://www.tiktok.com/@thebword_za ✰ LISTEN ON ✰ Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/0XnqZ7b...Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast...Castbox: https://castbox.fm/channel/id5426930?...✰ BUSINESS INQUIRIES ✰E-mail: hello@thebwordmedia.com

    23 min

  7. 06/08/2025

    Unemployed in South Africa FOR YEARS to Living my Dream Life in Korea ft. Litha Meyile-Choi

    In this episode of According to B, I sit down with Litha Meyile Choi—a South African-born content creator and influencer now based in South Korea—who shares her incredible story of starting over, boldly chasing her dreams, and building a new life from scratch. In the midst of unemployment Litha packed her bags and moved across the world to teach English in Korea. With no backup plan, no clear roadmap, and very little certainty, she chose to take the leap anyway. What followed was a journey of resilience, self-discovery, love, and bold reinvention. In this conversation, Litha shares what it really took to start over—from the fears and uncertainties to the faith that kept her going. She takes us through the highs and lows of: Leaving home and building a life in a completely new country Making a bold career pivot from teaching to full-time content creation Navigating love and identity in an intercultural relationship Growing her brand, working with global companies, and staying grounded in her purpose Embracing discomfort, choosing herself, and redefining what it means to live boldly If you’ve ever felt stuck, scared to start over, or unsure of what’s next—this episode is your sign that the bold life is possible. ✰ MEET OUR CO-HOST ✰ Litha Meyile Choi Litha is a content creator, digital storyteller, and former teacher who has built a thriving platform as a full-time influencer in South Korea. Originally from South Africa, Litha moved abroad in her early twenties with no clear plan—just a deep desire for change and growth. Since then, she has become a sought-after voice in the lifestyle and beauty space, known for her authenticity, elegance, and boldness. Whether she’s partnering with global brands, sharing her intercultural love story, or encouraging her audience to take risks and embrace reinvention, Litha brings warmth, relatability, and courage to everything she does. ✰ TIMESTAMPS✰ 00:00-Intro 00:35-Coming up 02:10- Litha the waaaaaf 03:12- 10 out of 10 recommend 12:49-Bokang and Litha reflect on their post graduate aspirations 14:04-Litha’s experience with a fortune teller 15:13-Litha’s unemployment period  17:19-The moment Litha realized that her life needs to change 22:47-The power of putting yourself out there 24:25-Culture shocks Litha experienced 27:26-How Litha built her community  29:02-Litha’s moments of regret/confidence in her choice to move  33:32-How Litha’s journey as a content creator started  35:44- Litha’s popular TikTok feature-make up Saturdays 37:12-Litha’s dating journey in Korea 43:45-How Litha met her husband  48:00-How Korean women navigate the dating scene 49:31-Litha’s future in Korea 52:07-Litha’s success as a South African content creator in Korea 55:41-Litha’s advice the person in a dark place 59:31-Afterthoughths ✰ SOCIAL MEDIA ✰ Bokang ➜ Instagram: @sheisbokang-https://www.instagram.com/sheisbokang  ➜ Tik Tok: https://www.tiktok.com/@sheisbokang    The B Word ➜ Instagram: @thebword_za -https://www.instagram.com/thebword_za  ➜ Tik Tok: @thebwordza https://www.tiktok.com/@thebword_za  Guest Litha ➜ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lithameyilechoi ➜TikTok:https://www.tiktok.com/@lithameyilechoi  ✰ LISTEN ON ✰  Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/0XnqZ7b... Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast... Castbox: https://castbox.fm/channel/id5426930?... ✰ BUSINESS INQUIRIES ✰ E-mail: hello@thebwordmedia.com  ✰ TEAM/CREDITS ✰ Director: Bokang Lehlokoe Producer: Bokang Lehlokoe & Tshegetso Moepi  Production Assistant: Denga Madzivhandila Editor: Mbali Nzaka

    1h 1m

  8. 05/25/2025

    What they DON'T tell you about Motherhood: Changes to Bodies, Relationships & more w/ Friendship Frequency

    In this week's episode of According To B, I sit down with Stephanie Ndlovu and Petronella Tshuma — actresses, mothers, storytellers, and real ones. We’re talking about motherhood — the parts we don’t often say out loud. The parts that are beautiful. The parts that are hard. And everything in between.We talk about what it really means to become a mother, how your identity shifts, the guilt, the love, and how you rebuild yourself in the process. But this episode isn’t just for mothers — it’s for:The women who are raising childrenThe ones who are still figuring it outAnd the ones who know motherhood might not be for themIt’s honest, vulnerable, funny, and full of grace. This one’s for all the women — wherever you are on your journey. ✰ MEET OUR CO-HOSTS ✰ Stephanie Ndlovu Stephanie is an actress, writer, content producer. MTV SAF Co-Chair. MC. who has graced South African screens for over a decade. Known for her roles in Scandal and MTV Shuga, and other acclaimed projects, she is also co-host of Friendship Frequency with her best friend of over a decade Petronella Tshuma and The Ndlovu’s Uncut, a YouTube series with her husband. Petronella Tshuma Petronella is a multi-award-winning actress, co-host of the Friendship Frequency podcast and businesswoman. She is best known for her gripping performances in films like Of Good Report and TV shows such as Rhythm City, Scandal, Hustle, Mzansi Love, Sokhulu & Partners and 90 Plein Street. With a fearless approach to both her craft and her voice, Petronella is not only a powerhouse on screen but also a passionate advocate for authenticity, healing, and storytelling that reflects the real lives of women. ✰ TIMESTAMPS✰ 00:00 - Intro 01:56 - Coming up 03:39 - Meet Friendship Frequency 08:05 - 10/10 Recommend 17:06 - Stephanie and Petronella introduce their children 18:11 - What Petronella and Stephanie were not prepared for in motherhood 21:50 - Myth or reality: Motherhood pushes your career back 23:29 - The impact of motherhood on career aspirations 26:26 - Creating balance as moms and working women 29:25 - Myth or reality: Your body will never be the same after having kids 30:28 - Petronella and Stephanie's relationship with their post-baby bodies 34:49 - Dealing with unsolicited post baby body comments37:54 - Learning to accept the post-baby body 42:37 - Myth or reality: Becoming a mom means losing your old self 45:50 - The grieving process of letting go of the old you49:20 - The post baby growth 53:42 - Myth or reality: Moms automatically become the primary default parent 55:49 - Is there room for mothers to be honest about motherhood? 01:01:07 - Myth or reality: Kids will fix your relationship 01:02:40 - How did having a child change the relationship dynamic in marriage: Stephanie 01:05:26 - Lessons of dating as a single mom: Petronella 01:08:45 - What romance looks like post having kids 01:14:19 - Advice to women who are uncertain about becoming moms 01:20:02 - Where to find Petronella and Stephanie on social media 01:20:49 - Afterthoughts ✰ SOCIAL MEDIA ✰ Bokang➜ Instagram: @sheisbokang-https://www.instagram.com/sheisbokang ➜ Tik Tok: https://www.tiktok.com/@sheisbokang The B Word ➜ Instagram: @thebword_za -https://www.instagram.com/thebword_za ➜ Tik Tok: @thebwordza https://www.tiktok.com/@thebword_za Stephanie ➜ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/miss_sandows ➜TikTok:https://www.tiktok.com/@officialstephaniendlovu Petronella ➜ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/petronella_tshuma ➜ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@petronellatshuma ✰ LISTEN ON ✰ Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/0XnqZ7b... Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast... Castbox: https://castbox.fm/channel/id5426930?... ✰ BUSINESS INQUIRIES ✰ E-mail: hello@thebwordmedia.com ✰ TEAM/CREDITS ✰ Director: Bokang Lehlokoe Producer: Bokang Lehlokoe & Tshegetso Moepi Production Assistant: Denga Madzivhandila Editor: Nelani Majozi

    1h 22m
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According to B is your go-to podcast for real talk with women who are ditching the rulebook and doing life their way. Hosted by Bokang Lehlokoe, it’s all about the messy middles, quiet wins, and bold moves behind the scenes. We’re not here for highlight reels - we’re here for who you’re becoming. Expect raw convos, big laughs, deep feels, and a reminder that living boldly beats living perfectly, every single time.

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  • Creator
    Bokang Lehlokoe
  • Years Active
    2023 - 2026
  • Episodes
    21
  • Rating
    Clean
  • Copyright
    © Bokang Lehlokoe
  • Show Website
    According To B