Actually, you know what

Actually, You Know What
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"Actually, you know what" is a story/experience telling podcast where Stephany (aka Steggy) dives into relationships, self-growth, and all of the lessons learned (and not learned) along the way. Humor, honesty, and chaos is promised. Think of it like chatting with your best friend over a glass of wine: sometimes funny, sometimes deep, always real. Joined often by her partner-in-crime Mal, this is your space to laugh, reflect, heal, and feel a little less alone in the messy journey of figuring life out.

Episodes

  1. 12/22/2025

    Episode 11: Coven Concerns - Listener Submissions Edition PART 2!

    Join us as we continue reading submitted red flags!

    59 min

  2. 12/15/2025

    Episode 10: Coven Concerns - Listener Submissions Edition!

    The coven has spoken!In this episode, we read and react to listener-submitted red flags straight from Instagram. We received so many submissions that we had to split this one up into 2 parts! Make sure to tune in for part 2! *Apologies for the uneven levels for the first half of the episode. We're still learning!!

    1h 1m

  3. 12/08/2025

    Episode 9: Where The Green Flags Go

    This episode dives into the celestial signs of a healthy partner...the green flags that feel like moonlight. From reciprocity to health communication, Steggy talks about what dating looks like when the universe finally sends someone who feels like peace instead of chaos.

    48 min

  4. 11/24/2025

    Episode 8: Soft Men and Survival Plans

    This week, Mal and Steggy talk about what made them cry! Which leads into a discussion about gentle men vs violent men. We explore the difference between men who lead with tenderness and men who move through the world with volatility, and how that shapes our sense of safety and trust.And, in true us fashion, the conversation shifts into a fully serious breakdown of our roles in a hypothetical zombie apocalypse. From instincts to strategy to who actually survives, we unpack the gendered dynamics that show up even at the end of the world.

    1h 5m

  5. 11/17/2025

    Episode 7: Slow Burns in a Swipe Left World

    In this episode, I dive into the chaos of modern dating, where nonchalant DMs and bare-minimum effort somehow became the norm..yikes! I reflect on how that culture has shaped the way I, and most of society, interprets interest, why genuine intention can feel suspicious, and how being used to intensity makes healthy pacing feel unfamiliar. I briefly talk about unlearning old patterns, relearning what softness and trust look like, and navigating the tiny panic that comes with the very unfamiliar slow burn. Most importantly, I explore what it means to build a happy, healthy relationship with myself first so that whenever the right person shows up, I’ll be as ready as I can be!

    27 min

  6. 11/10/2025

    Episode 6: Tears and Theories

    In this episode, we revisit the "What Made You Cry This Week" segment and explore some of our favorite relationship theories; the weird ones, the oddly accurate ones, and the ones that make you question everything you thought you knew about timing and connection.

    1h 8m

  7. 11/03/2025

    Episode 5: Celestial Solitude

    Everyone keeps asking if I’m alone… but honestly? The quiet of my own galaxy feels better than orbiting someone who doesn’t see me. In this brief episode, I (Steggy) talk about celestial solitude and how people tend to confuse my peace with loneliness.

    14 min

  8. 10/27/2025

    Episode 4: Falling Stars and Failing Men

    Mal and Steggy dive into red flags, karmic lessons, and why every ex seems to be a Libra. Mix in a little K-pop, cosmic chaos, and self-awareness, and you’ve got another episode straight from the stars

    1h 4m

  9. 10/20/2025

    Episode 3: Love Bombs and Supernovas

    In this episode, Steggy wanders through the constellation of her past red flags, the cosmic kind that look like “potential” until they burn you out. From rescuing the perpetually unlucky to mistaking chaos for chemistry, she unpacks the patterns that kept her orbiting the same lessons. It’s raw and hopefully funny as she turns her heartbreak into a healing spell (with a pinch of self-roast). This is for anyone who’s ever said “maybe this time it’ll be different”...and finally realized they were the magic all along.

    1h 5m

  10. 10/13/2025

    Episode 2: Moonlight and Stardust

    In this episode, Mal and Steggy dive into their shared history! They go through the chaos, laughter, and lessons that carried them from their 20s into their 30s. They reflect on how friendships evolve with age, what it takes to stay connected through life’s changes, and how creativity became a grounding force along the way. Through honest conversation and humor, they share how Moonlight & Stardust came to life, an idea of a space born from friendship and a little bit of magic.

    1h 1m

  11. 10/06/2025

    Episode 1: The Big Bang

    WE'RE OFFICIALLY LAUNCHED! In this full-length debut episode of Actually, You Know What, I briefly unpack the chaos of my dating life - from moving to Chicago (and back) to navigating heartbreaks, dating apps, and the fine line between insecurity and trauma. It’s raw, funny, and real, with some honest advice for men thrown in for good measure. Because I'm nice like that. I hope you enjoy - weekly episodes will be dropped every Monday!

    48 min

  12. 09/02/2025

    Episode 0: Before the Big Bang

    Consider this Episode Zero! This is just a short introduction to Actually, You Know What and me, your host - Steggy! This 16 minute episode will set the stage for what this podcast is all about, why I started it, and what to expect each episode. Grab your tea, wine, or whatever your vibe is and get comfy. This is the beginning of the beginning!

    17 min
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"Actually, you know what" is a story/experience telling podcast where Stephany (aka Steggy) dives into relationships, self-growth, and all of the lessons learned (and not learned) along the way. Humor, honesty, and chaos is promised. Think of it like chatting with your best friend over a glass of wine: sometimes funny, sometimes deep, always real. Joined often by her partner-in-crime Mal, this is your space to laugh, reflect, heal, and feel a little less alone in the messy journey of figuring life out.

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