Adaptable | Behavior Explained

Kelly O’Horo

I’m Kelly O’Horo, Attachment based EMDR Therapist, EMDRIA Consultant, and Advanced Trainer. I’m a mom of 5, Nonna of 5, wife, and a healer. I have the honor of spending my workdays walking along side people while they brave their healing journeys. I try to live with the generous assumption that we’re all doing the best we can with what we know. Therapists are teachers for the ”life stuff” and ”emotional vocabulary” that may not have been learned due to gaps in our care givers capabilities. In the last 15 years I’ve learned that people are freaking amazing, resilient, and inspiring. Most importantly, we are hardwired for connection and for healing! I hope to bring an authentic, compassionate, and unpolished approach while we explore a variety of topics such as parenting, marriage, relationships, dating, trauma, attachment, adoption, depression, addiction, anxiety, and love! There’s a why for all behaviors and an explanation that makes perfect sense as emotion is at the root of it all.

  1. 7h ago

    How to Rewire a Nervous System Stuck in Survival Mode (A Therapist Explains)

    Your nervous system isn't broken, it's doing exactly what it learned to keep you safe. The problem is, what protected you then can exhaust you now. In this episode, EMDR therapist Kelly O'Horo explains how the nervous system works, how stress and trauma get stored in the body, the science of neuroplasticity, and how therapies like EMDR help you rewire from survival mode toward flexibility and calm, including the “hand model of the brain” and why we “flip our lid” under stress.  Chapters:  0:00 — Your nervous system isn't broken  1:30 — The survival system, simply explained  4:00 — The hand model: why you “flip your lid”  7:00 — How trauma & stress get stored in the body  10:00 — Changing your relationship with stress  12:30 — Neuroplasticity: the brain can rewire  15:00 — How EMDR rewires survival responses I'm Kelly O'Horo, Attachment based EMDR Therapist, EMDRIA Consultant, and Advanced Trainer. I'm a mom of 5, Nonna of 5, wife, and a healer. I have the honor of spending my workdays walking along side people while they brave their healing journeys. I try to live with the generous assumption that we're all doing the best we can with what we know. Therapists are teachers for the "life stuff" and "emotional vocabulary" that may not have been learned due to gaps in our care givers capabilities. In the last 15 years I've learned that people are freaking amazing, resilient, and inspiring. Most importantly, we are hardwired for connection and for healing! I hope to bring an authentic, compassionate, and unpolished approach while we explore a variety of topics such as parenting, marriage, relationships, dating, trauma, attachment, adoption, depression, addiction, anxiety, and love! There's a why for all behaviors and an explanation that makes perfect sense as emotion is at the root of it all. -- Links -- https://linktr.ee/kellyohorolpc https://youtu.be/rLnARKekvgo https://www.emdria.org/find-an-emdr-therapist/

    19 min
  2. Jun 19

    Addiction Is Not the Problem, Trauma Is with Patrick O'Horo

    Welcome to Adaptable | Behavior Explained! In this episode, we take a deeper look at addiction and what’s happening beneath the surface with Patrick O'Horo. Rather than being the core problem, addiction is often explored as a coping response to unresolved trauma, emotional pain, and nervous system dysregulation. Together, we discuss how healing changes when we move beyond behavior and address the underlying trauma driving it. I'm Kelly O'Horo, Attachment based EMDR Therapist, EMDRIA Consultant, and Advanced Trainer. I'm a mom of 5, Nonna of 5, wife, and a healer. I have the honor of spending my workdays walking along side people while they brave their healing journeys. I try to live with the generous assumption that we're all doing the best we can with what we know. Therapists are teachers for the "life stuff" and "emotional vocabulary" that may not have been learned due to gaps in our care givers capabilities. In the last 15 years I've learned that people are freaking amazing, resilient, and inspiring. Most importantly, we are hardwired for connection and for healing! I hope to bring an authentic, compassionate, and unpolished approach while we explore a variety of topics such as parenting, marriage, relationships, dating, trauma, attachment, adoption, depression, addiction, anxiety, and love! There's a why for all behaviors and an explanation that makes perfect sense as emotion is at the root of it all. -- Links -- https://linktr.ee/kellyohorolpc https://youtu.be/rLnARKekvgo https://www.emdria.org/find-an-emdr-therapist/

    29 min
  3. Jun 12

    Addiction as an Adaptation: A Response to Pain, Trauma and Disconnection with Patrick O'Horo

    Welcome to Adaptable | Behavior Explained! This episode goes over addiction as an adaptation to pain, trauma, and disconnection rather than a moral failing or lack of willpower with Patrick O’Horo. We explore addiction not as something rooted in weakness or purely a disease model, but as a response the nervous system develops to cope with unresolved trauma and emotional pain. This perspective can shift how we understand both behavior and healing. I'm Kelly O'Horo, Attachment based EMDR Therapist, EMDRIA Consultant, and Advanced Trainer. I'm a mom of 5, Nonna of 5, wife, and a healer. I have the honor of spending my workdays walking along side people while they brave their healing journeys. I try to live with the generous assumption that we're all doing the best we can with what we know. Therapists are teachers for the "life stuff" and "emotional vocabulary" that may not have been learned due to gaps in our care givers capabilities. In the last 15 years I've learned that people are freaking amazing, resilient, and inspiring. Most importantly, we are hardwired for connection and for healing! I hope to bring an authentic, compassionate, and unpolished approach while we explore a variety of topics such as parenting, marriage, relationships, dating, trauma, attachment, adoption, depression, addiction, anxiety, and love! There's a why for all behaviors and an explanation that makes perfect sense as emotion is at the root of it all. -- Links -- https://linktr.ee/kellyohorolpc https://youtu.be/rLnARKekvgo https://www.emdria.org/find-an-emdr-therapist/

    27 min
  4. Jun 5

    How EMDR Helps Heal Addiction & Trauma

    Welcome to Adaptable | Behavior Explained! This episode goes over how EMDR helps heal addiction and trauma, exploring how unresolved experiences can keep people stuck in patterns of coping, avoidance, and emotional overwhelm, and how EMDR therapy helps the nervous system process painful memories so healing and recovery become possible. I'm Kelly O'Horo, Attachment based EMDR Therapist, EMDRIA Consultant, and Advanced Trainer. I'm a mom of 5, Nonna of 5, wife, and a healer. I have the honor of spending my workdays walking along side people while they brave their healing journeys. I try to live with the generous assumption that we're all doing the best we can with what we know. Therapists are teachers for the "life stuff" and "emotional vocabulary" that may not have been learned due to gaps in our care givers capabilities. In the last 15 years I've learned that people are freaking amazing, resilient, and inspiring. Most importantly, we are hardwired for connection and for healing! I hope to bring an authentic, compassionate, and unpolished approach while we explore a variety of topics such as parenting, marriage, relationships, dating, trauma, attachment, adoption, depression, addiction, anxiety, and love! There's a why for all behaviors and an explanation that makes perfect sense as emotion is at the root of it all. -- Links -- https://linktr.ee/kellyohorolpc https://youtu.be/rLnARKekvgo https://www.emdria.org/find-an-emdr-therapist/

    15 min
  5. May 22

    Panic and Health Anxiety

    Welcome to Adaptable | Behavior Explained! This episode explores the connection between panic attacks, health anxiety, and how EMDR therapy can help, breaking down how the nervous system can become stuck in cycles of fear and symptom monitoring, why panic can feel so overwhelming in the body, and how EMDR may help people process the underlying experiences and triggers that keep anxiety active. I'm Kelly O'Horo, Attachment based EMDR Therapist, EMDRIA Consultant, and Advanced Trainer. I'm a mom of 5, Nonna of 5, wife, and a healer. I have the honor of spending my workdays walking along side people while they brave their healing journeys. I try to live with the generous assumption that we're all doing the best we can with what we know. Therapists are teachers for the "life stuff" and "emotional vocabulary" that may not have been learned due to gaps in our care givers capabilities. In the last 15 years I've learned that people are freaking amazing, resilient, and inspiring. Most importantly, we are hardwired for connection and for healing! I hope to bring an authentic, compassionate, and unpolished approach while we explore a variety of topics such as parenting, marriage, relationships, dating, trauma, attachment, adoption, depression, addiction, anxiety, and love! There's a why for all behaviors and an explanation that makes perfect sense as emotion is at the root of it all. -- Links -- https://linktr.ee/kellyohorolpc https://youtu.be/rLnARKekvgo https://www.emdria.org/find-an-emdr-therapist/

    12 min
  6. May 17

    Choosing Your Hard with Victoria Brandt, LPC

    Welcome to Adaptable | Behavior Explained, in this episode, I’m joined by Victoria Brandt for a conversation on Choosing Your Hard, how avoiding discomfort today can often create deeper struggles later. We explore boundaries, emotional avoidance, nervous system patterns, and why growth usually feels uncomfortable before it feels freeing. Sometimes the hardest choices are the ones that ultimately bring the most peace and healing.  I'm Kelly O'Horo, Attachment based EMDR Therapist, EMDRIA Consultant, and Advanced Trainer. I'm a mom of 5, Nonna of 5, wife, and a healer. I have the honor of spending my workdays walking along side people while they brave their healing journeys. I try to live with the generous assumption that we're all doing the best we can with what we know. Therapists are teachers for the "life stuff" and "emotional vocabulary" that may not have been learned due to gaps in our care givers capabilities. In the last 15 years I've learned that people are freaking amazing, resilient, and inspiring. Most importantly, we are hardwired for connection and for healing! I hope to bring an authentic, compassionate, and unpolished approach while we explore a variety of topics such as parenting, marriage, relationships, dating, trauma, attachment, adoption, depression, addiction, anxiety, and love! There's a why for all behaviors and an explanation that makes perfect sense as emotion is at the root of it all. -- Links -- https://linktr.ee/kellyohorolpc https://youtu.be/rLnARKekvgo https://www.emdria.org/find-an-emdr-therapist/

    36 min

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I’m Kelly O’Horo, Attachment based EMDR Therapist, EMDRIA Consultant, and Advanced Trainer. I’m a mom of 5, Nonna of 5, wife, and a healer. I have the honor of spending my workdays walking along side people while they brave their healing journeys. I try to live with the generous assumption that we’re all doing the best we can with what we know. Therapists are teachers for the ”life stuff” and ”emotional vocabulary” that may not have been learned due to gaps in our care givers capabilities. In the last 15 years I’ve learned that people are freaking amazing, resilient, and inspiring. Most importantly, we are hardwired for connection and for healing! I hope to bring an authentic, compassionate, and unpolished approach while we explore a variety of topics such as parenting, marriage, relationships, dating, trauma, attachment, adoption, depression, addiction, anxiety, and love! There’s a why for all behaviors and an explanation that makes perfect sense as emotion is at the root of it all.

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