250 episodes

Rediscover the confident and connected parent you long to be.

We’ll show you how.

Adoption Wise Lisa C. Qualls and Melissa Corkum

    • Kids & Family
    • 4.9 • 199 Ratings

Rediscover the confident and connected parent you long to be.

We’ll show you how.

    #245: The Science of Caring with Dr. Jon Baylin and Jessica Sinarski

    #245: The Science of Caring with Dr. Jon Baylin and Jessica Sinarski

    We often get questions about whether teachers or other folks who interact with our kids can have blocked care. Or what about siblings? Also, can you have blocked care towards a spouse? Since we weren't the first ones to name blocked care, we went to the source. We are thrilled to bring you this conversation with Dr. Jonathan Baylin, author of Brain-Based Parenting and other works, and Jessica Sinarski of BraveBrains. Besides digging deeper in the science of caregiving, we also talk about the differences between primary and secondary blocked care and blocked compassion.

    Dr. Baylin received his doctorate in clinical psychology from Peabody College of Vanderbilt University in 1981. While continuing his clinical practice, he has immersed himself in the study of neurobiology and in teaching mental health practitioners about the brain. Dr. Baylin has delivered keynote sessions at international conferences and has also given numerous workshops both internationally and regionally within the USA.

    Jessica Sinarski is a licensed mental health counselor, educator, and award-winning author. She is also the founder of the resource and training platform BraveBrains. Jessica makes tough topics easier, empowering the healers and the cycle breakers among us. She lives in Pennsylvania with her husband and three busy boys.

    Click here to download a transcript for this episode.



    Relevant Links

    Brain-Based Parenting: The Neuroscience of Caregiving for Healthy Attachment* by Baylin and Hughes

    Connect with Jessica on Instagram

    Climbing Out of Chronic Stress (with printable cheat sheet)

    FREE Blocked Care Assessment

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    • 41 min
    #244 When Blocked Care Affects Your Marriage

    #244 When Blocked Care Affects Your Marriage

    Marriage is already hard, but add in parenting children with significant needs and blocked care, and staying married may seem impossible. In this episode, Lisa and Melissa answer two listener questions about marriage and blocked care with personal stories and practical tips. If you're not married, you'll still find insights you can apply to your close relationships with folks who love your family.

    Click here to download a transcript for this episode.



    Relevant Links

    FREE Blocked Care Assessment

    Dr. Sue Johnson (Emotionally Focused Therapy)

    Books by Dr. Sue Johnson*

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    • 35 min
    #243: The Power of Community when Reclaiming Compassion with Kayla North

    #243: The Power of Community when Reclaiming Compassion with Kayla North

    We believe that overcoming blocked care is best in community. In this episode, we explore the power of community and compassion in the journey of foster care and adoption. Kayla North generously shares her experiences of blocked care and how support, self-care, and practical strategies can lead to resilience and healing. They also talk about how mom's found hope through attending Reclaim Compassion book clubs last summer.

    Ryan and Kayla North are a dynamic husband-and wife duo who have dedicated their careers to helping adults create environments where children feel safe, welcome, and loved. Through their work, they have become trusted voices for parents, professionals, churches, and educators. They are Co-Founders of One Big Happy Home and the Empowered Parent Podcast.

    Click here to download a transcript for this episode.



    Relevant Links

    Connect with Kayla on Instagram

    Free Reclaim Compassion Group Guide

    • 42 min
    #242: How a Child’s Mental Health Impacts the Family with Amber Reynolds

    #242: How a Child’s Mental Health Impacts the Family with Amber Reynolds

    Lisa and Amber Reynolds (our Director of Communications) chat about the challenges of parenting a young child struggling with mental illness. Amber shares candidly about what she wishes she had done differently, how her son's mental illness affected her health, and how she's overcoming blocked care. As an Enneagram 8, Amber loves advocating well for all those in her care. She and her husband, Chris, have been foster parents for seven years and have three children through adoption.

    Click here to download a transcript for this episode.



    Relevant Links

    Connect with Amber on Instagram

    Join Reclaim Compassion

    • 46 min
    #241: [workshop] What Shapes You: Unlocking Your Family System for Hope

    #241: [workshop] What Shapes You: Unlocking Your Family System for Hope

    Generally, what we carry into our childhoods and throughout our adulthood is part of a wider series, even patterns, of behavior, traumas, and worldviews. In this workshop, Dr. Stoker will give a very brief overview of Family Systems theory. You will learn:



    * highlights for Family Systems theory

    * a narrative that will assist you in seeing systems more objectively

    * tools to heal and offer hope for those with whom you live and serve



    Dr. Andy Stoker (he/him) is married to Megan, and they are parents to two sons, Alex (20) and Wesley (15). Andy is an ordained United Methodist minister, holds a secular PhD in Family Science, and is a certified mindfulness meditation teacher in the Western Buddhist tradition. He currently serves as the Senior Pastor of Central United Methodist Church in Albuquerque, New Mexico. For over two decades, Andy advocated for justice, fairness, equity, and inclusiveness in the Dallas area in the areas of public education, fair employment, healthcare access, and housing justice. In his free time, he co-hosts a parenting podcast with a psychologist and pediatrician called “Parenting for the Present."

    Click here to download a transcript for this episode.



    Relevant Links

    Connect with Andy on Instagram

    Parenting for the Present podcast

    Generation to Generation: Family Process in Church and Synagogue* by Edwin H. Friedman

    Bowen Theory's Secrets* by Michael Kerr

    The Bowen Center on Youtube

    A Family Genogram Workbook* by by Israel Galindo, Elaine Boomer, and Don Reagan

    *this is an affiliate link

    • 1 hr
    #240: Tangible Ideas for Processing Grief

    #240: Tangible Ideas for Processing Grief

    Foster care and adoption are full of ambiguous losses and disenfranchised grief. In this episode, Lisa and Melissa discuss the gap between expectations and reality which can lead to feelings of grief. They offer tangible practices, including writing, verbal processing, and bodywork. The importance of acknowledging and processing darker emotions such as sadness, anger, or resentment without judgment is emphasized. Lastly, they mention adapting these practices for children experiencing similar grief and loss.

    Click here to download a transcript for this episode.



    Relevant Links

    Reclaim Compassion: The Adoptive Parent's Guide to Overcoming Blocked Care with Neuroscience and Faith* by Qualls and Corkum

    #33: Grieving the unexpected losses in adoption

    #121: An Introduction to Trauma & Tension Release Exercise (TRE) with Christa Bevan

    FREE Facebook Group

     

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    • 28 min

Customer Reviews

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199 Ratings

199 Ratings

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