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Victoria VIKI Cumberbatch
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If you’re a late-diagnosed ADHD woman who’s tried all the productivity hacks and still feel like you’re failing at life, here’s your lighthouse. You’re done with advice made for men. Done with coaches who don’t understand why their strategies send you into shame spirals. Done with optimizing and hustling your way to burnout. This isn’t just another ADHD podcast. It starts as a 6-month self-coaching journey from burnout to embodied autonomy. I’m Viki, a PCC life coach for the neurodiverse with trauma sensitive somatic and breathwork training. I’ve been where you are with the rumination, the

  1. 6d ago

    5:3 | Self Care Begins with One Word: No

    You’re not rude. You’re reclaiming yourself.In this episode, I’m diving into the challenging realities of BOUNDARY setting - especially when you’ve been raised, praised, or socialized to be agreeable, accommodating, and available 24/7.Inside this episode, we’ll unpack:• Why boundary-setting feels so hard for women & neurodivergent folks• How people-pleasing gets coded as safety• Why boundaries are actually a somatic self-care practice• A simple sentence to start using if saying “no” still feels impossibleThis one’s for every recovering good girl, over-giver, and over-explainer.💬 Drop a comment: What boundary are you working on this week?Shownotes:- Nedra Tawwab book on boundaries: https://amzn.to/4q2Lnvm - Lysa TerKeurst on boundaries & goodbyes: https://amzn.to/4iJtkro ___________________________📌 Late diagnosed? Take the quiz to see what’s possible: https://www.victoriouscoach.com/awadhdquiz 📌 Local to Denver? Check out an event: https://victoriouscoach.eventbrite.com  📌  Liked the content? Consider keeping the lights on & buy me a coffee! https://coff.ee/cumberbatcg 💫 The BEST all around business platform for entrepreneurs, periodt! Unltd. email, CRM, sales pages, funnels, course creation, communities [and so much more, it's actually wild]: https://openinapp.link/sio___________________________Hey, I’m Viki! TLDR I’m a resilience coach empowering the neurodiverse from living in states of TENSION to living in a state of INTENTION. As a trauma sensitive practitioner, I support people through coaching, somatics and events. Sometimes, I post about empowerment through health, wellness and natural living. Find more: victoriouscoach.com/linkz

  2. Jul 14

    5.2 | Your Boundary Problem Isn't Actually a Boundary Problem

    You do not have a boundary problem. You have a nervous system that learned disappointing people was dangerous.This week on Adventuring with ADHD we get into fawning, the fourth survival response nobody warned you about, and why every boundary book you have read has been quietly failing you. Spoiler: the words were never the issue. A boundary is a regulation skill wearing a communication costume, and you cannot script your way out of a survival response.We cover what fawning actually is, why traditional boundary advice flops for ADHD women, the regulation it really takes to hold a line, and the self-trust underneath all of it.| Want to start this course at its origin? https://youtu.be/hFz0gdpdA9A || Chapters |0:00 - You don't have a boundary problem1:27 - Meet the fourth F: fawning2:47 - Why every boundary book fails you4:28 - Which survival pattern is yours (free quiz)5:07 - A boundary is a regulation skill in disguise6:39 - The self-trust layer underneath it all8:15 - How to actually measure a boundary9:07 - Your assignment this week| Shownotes |• xxx___________________________📌 Late diagnosed? Take the quiz to see what’s possible: https://www.victoriouscoach.com/awadhdquiz 📌 Local to Denver? Check out an event: https://victoriouscoach.eventbrite.com  📌  Liked the content? Consider keeping the lights on & buy me a coffee! https://coff.ee/cumberbatcg 💫 The BEST all around business platform for entrepreneurs, periodt! Unltd. email, CRM, sales pages, funnels, course creation, communities [and so much more, it's actually wild]: https://openinapp.link/sio___________________________Hey, I’m Viki! TLDR I’m a resilience coach empowering the neurodiverse from living in states of TENSION to living in a state of INTENTION. As a trauma sensitive practitioner, I support people through coaching, somatics and events. Sometimes, I post about empowerment through health, wellness and natural living. Find more: victoriouscoach.com/linkz

  3. Jul 7

    5:1 | The Yes That Finally Did It | Why Neurodivergent Adults Struggle With No

    People-pleasing is not a personality flaw. It is a survival response, and for a lot of neurodivergent adults it is the one nobody taught us to put down.This episode kicks off a brand new month on fawning and boundaries. I tell the story of Dani, a composite client whose smallest yes finally broke her, and walk through how she learned to set boundaries with her mom, her partner, and eventually a new boss without a single apology. Plus the only two things we actually use to measure progress, and why the other person's reaction is never one of them.| Want to start this course at its origin? https://youtu.be/hFz0gdpdA9A || Chapters |0:00 The yes that broke the camel's back0:44 New phase, new direction1:25 Fawning is survival, not a flaw2:10 Meet Dani4:16 Quick pause: the free quiz4:55 A boundary starts with a noticing6:15 The dinner phone call, and the real scoreboard7:54 The 11pm no, and 100 boring reps9:13 The interview a year later11:23 The quiz, and ciao for now| Shownotes |• xxx___________________________📌 Late diagnosed? Take the quiz to see what’s possible: https://www.victoriouscoach.com/awadhdquiz 📌 Local to Denver? Check out an event: https://victoriouscoach.eventbrite.com  📌  Liked the content? Consider keeping the lights on & buy me a coffee! https://coff.ee/cumberbatcg 💫 The BEST all around business platform for entrepreneurs, periodt! Unltd. email, CRM, sales pages, funnels, course creation, communities [and so much more, it's actually wild]: https://openinapp.link/sio___________________________Hey, I’m Viki! TLDR I’m a resilience coach empowering the neurodiverse from living in states of TENSION to living in a state of INTENTION. As a trauma sensitive practitioner, I support people through coaching, somatics and events. Sometimes, I post about empowerment through health, wellness and natural living. Find more: victoriouscoach.com/linkz

  4. Jun 30

    BONUS | My ADHD Was Running My Hormones, Gut & Fertility

    I was told I was fine for years. Then I ran the actual tests.In this episode, I share my full four-year health reclamation story: how a late ADHD diagnosis at 32 connected the dots between prediabetes, MCAS, PCOS, a parasite, gut dysbiosis, estrogen dominance, fibroids, and infertility — and how I reversed them one by one, with real lab markers to prove it.| Want to start this course at its origin? https://youtu.be/hFz0gdpdA9A || Chapters |0:00 - The procedure and the parking lot cry1:00 - Welcome back and why this one's personal1:45 - What my 2022 labs actually said3:28 - The 2025 panel that wrecked me5:34 - Plot twist: it was all one root7:19 - What healing actually required9:54 - May 2026: the receipts11:01 - The part I actually need you to hear12:39 - The 80/20 and what comes next| Shownotes |• True Phoenix Functional Health: truephoenix.org ___________________________📌 Late diagnosed? Take the quiz to see what’s possible: https://www.victoriouscoach.com/awadhdquiz 📌 Local to Denver? Check out an event: https://victoriouscoach.eventbrite.com  📌  Liked the content? Consider keeping the lights on & buy me a coffee! https://coff.ee/cumberbatcg 💫 The BEST all around business platform for entrepreneurs, periodt! Unltd. email, CRM, sales pages, funnels, course creation, communities [and so much more, it's actually wild]: https://openinapp.link/sio___________________________Hey, I’m Viki! TLDR I’m a resilience coach empowering the neurodiverse from living in states of TENSION to living in a state of INTENTION. As a trauma sensitive practitioner, I support people through coaching, somatics and events. Sometimes, I post about empowerment through health, wellness and natural living. Find more: victoriouscoach.com/linkz

  5. Jun 23

    Month 4:4 | The Decision Protocol for ADHD Overthinkers

    If you have ever spent more time deciding than actually doing, this one is for you.This episode breaks down a real decision-making framework built for ADHD brains.We cover time-boxing decisions based on actual stakes, the 10-10-10 rule for perspective, how to build tolerance for uncertainty, and the reframe that most overthinkers have never tried.No toxic positivity. No "just decide." An actual protocol.| Want to start this course at its origin? https://youtu.be/hFz0gdpdA9A || Chapters |0:00 Welcome + what we're covering today0:43 The core problem: ADHD brain treats every decision like a bomb1:46 Time boxing: match the window to the stakes1:56 The 10/10/10 rule (Suzy Welch)2:33 Mid-roll CTA: free quiz at victoriouscoach.com/awadhdquiz3:13 Why overthinking isn't about the decision, it's about uncertainty3:48 How to build tolerance for not knowing4:18 The reframe: what if it actually goes well?5:20 Protocol recap5:47 Close | Shownotes |• xxx___________________________📌 Late diagnosed? Take the quiz to see what’s possible: https://www.victoriouscoach.com/awadhdquiz 📌 Local to Denver? Check out an event: https://victoriouscoach.eventbrite.com  📌  Liked the content? Consider keeping the lights on & buy me a coffee! https://coff.ee/cumberbatcg 💫 The BEST all around business platform for entrepreneurs, periodt! Unltd. email, CRM, sales pages, funnels, course creation, communities [and so much more, it's actually wild]: https://openinapp.link/sio___________________________Hey, I’m Viki! TLDR I’m a resilience coach empowering the neurodiverse from living in states of TENSION to living in a state of INTENTION. As a trauma sensitive practitioner, I support people through coaching, somatics and events. Sometimes, I post about empowerment through health, wellness and natural living. Find more: victoriouscoach.com/linkz

  6. Jun 15

    Month 4:3 | How to Stop a Thought Spiral Before It Wins

    Your brain went from one bad thought to a full investigation of everything wrong with your life. Again.Here's how to actually interrupt that -- with tools that work mid-spiral, not just before it starts.In this episode we cover: what rumination actually is for ADHD brains, a simple pattern interrupt you can use right now, why externalizing your thoughts (writing or voice notes) works better than trying to think your way out, how movement shifts your brain state, and how to build a rest menu so you stop defaulting to rest that doesn't restore you.| Want to start this course at its origin? https://youtu.be/hFz0gdpdA9A || Chapters |0:00 - The spiral explained (aka your brain at 45 minutes)0:43 - Welcome + who this is for1:22 - Rumination is neurological, not a character flaw2:13 - The pattern interrupt and how to use it3:15 - Externalizing your thoughts (brain dump, voice memos)4:23 - Movement and your nervous system4:40 - Building your rest menu5:30 - Free Adventuring with ADHD Quiz6:07 - Recap + the actual goal| Shownotes |• Create your Rest Menu: http://victoriouscoach.com/regulate ___________________________📌 Late diagnosed? Take the quiz to see what’s possible: https://www.victoriouscoach.com/awadhdquiz 📌 Local to Denver? Check out an event: https://victoriouscoach.eventbrite.com  📌  Liked the content? Consider keeping the lights on & buy me a coffee! https://coff.ee/cumberbatcg 💫 The BEST all around business platform for entrepreneurs, periodt! Unltd. email, CRM, sales pages, funnels, course creation, communities [and so much more, it's actually wild]: https://openinapp.link/sio___________________________Hey, I’m Viki! TLDR I’m a resilience coach empowering the neurodiverse from living in states of TENSION to living in a state of INTENTION. As a trauma sensitive practitioner, I support people through coaching, somatics and events. Sometimes, I post about empowerment through health, wellness and natural living. Find more: victoriouscoach.com/linkz

  7. Jun 9

    Month 4:2 | Why Your ADHD Brain Won't Stop Replaying Everything

    Your brain keeps replaying that conversation from last week? That's not overthinking. That's a nervous system response.In this episode, we get into why ADHD brains get stuck in rumination loops, what your brain is actually trying to protect you from, and why you can remember every mistake you ever made but not the fact that you got promoted six months ago (success amnesia is real and it is rude).This one's for anyone who has ever been told to just stop thinking about it and wanted to scream.| Want to start this course at its origin? https://youtu.be/hFz0gdpdA9A || Chapters |0:00 - Intro0:48 - What is rumination (and what it's not)2:06 - Why ADHD brains get stuck in loops3:43 - The trap: rumination feels productive5:16 - What your brain thinks it's protecting you from6:46 - Success amnesia explained9:11 - Building a system your brain can't erase9:45 - Take the Adventuring with ADHD quiz10:11 - What to walk away with| Shownotes |• An antidote for success amnesia: https://www.victoriouscoach.com/cookiejar ___________________________📌 Late diagnosed? Take the quiz to see what’s possible: https://www.victoriouscoach.com/awadhdquiz 📌 Local to Denver? Check out an event: https://victoriouscoach.eventbrite.com  📌  Liked the content? Consider keeping the lights on & buy me a coffee! https://coff.ee/cumberbatcg 💫 The BEST all around business platform for entrepreneurs, periodt! Unltd. email, CRM, sales pages, funnels, course creation, communities [and so much more, it's actually wild]: https://openinapp.link/sio___________________________Hey, I’m Viki! TLDR I’m a resilience coach empowering the neurodiverse from living in states of TENSION to living in a state of INTENTION. As a trauma sensitive practitioner, I support people through coaching, somatics and events. Sometimes, I post about empowerment through health, wellness and natural living. Find more: victoriouscoach.com/linkz

  8. Jun 2

    Month 4:1 | ADHD Rumination

    Three weeks. That's how long I spent mentally rehearsing a conversation about a friendship that was falling apart. I wrote scripts in the shower. I had arguments in the car with someone who wasn't there. I planned for every possible reaction, every worst case, every version of this person being upset or dismissive or cruel. And then the conversation happened. And it was fine. Better than fine, actually. Which meant I had just donated three weeks of my life to a disaster movie that was never going to get made.This is the first episode of Month 4, and we're digging into rumination. Not the clinical definition. The lived experience. What it actually costs you in time, in energy, in the ability to be present for anything else. Why your ADHD brain is particularly good at it. And why it feels so productive when it's doing the opposite of producing anything.If you've ever rehearsed a fight that didn't happen, solved a problem that didn't exist, or lost sleep over a conversation you hadn't had yet, this one is for you.| Want to start this course at its origin? https://youtu.be/hFz0gdpdA9A || Chapters |0:00 - The 3 weeks I lost to a conversation that hadn't happened yet0:56 - Welcome to Month 4: The Excavation Phase1:31 - Why rumination is ADHD's most expensive habit2:47 - The friendship that was shifting3:26 - When rumination feels like productivity4:24 - What the loop actually looked like day to day5:07 - What I was rehearsing (it gets specific)5:42 - The cost to the people around you5:55 - I wasn't preparing, I was trying to control the outcome7:01 - Underneath the control was fear8:23 - So what actually happened in the conversation9:40 - My brain rehearsed 40 outcomes and "it goes fine" wasn't one11:08 - The real cost: sleep, focus, presence, workouts13:07 - Why your brain keeps running the loop (it feels safe)14:45 - ADHD brains and the dopamine problem-solving trap15:11 - The one question to ask yourself instead16:10 - Scared brains loop. You can step out.___________________________📌 Late diagnosed? Take the quiz to see what’s possible: https://www.victoriouscoach.com/awadhdquiz 📌 Local to Denver? Check out an event: https://victoriouscoach.eventbrite.com  📌  Liked the content? Consider keeping the lights on & buy me a coffee! https://coff.ee/cumberbatcg 💫 The BEST all around business platform for entrepreneurs, periodt! Unltd. email, CRM, sales pages, funnels, course creation, communities [and so much more, it's actually wild]: https://openinapp.link/sio___________________________Hey, I’m Viki! TLDR I’m a resilience coach empowering the neurodiverse from living in states of TENSION to living in a state of INTENTION. As a trauma sensitive practitioner, I support people through coaching, somatics and events. Sometimes, I post about empowerment through health, wellness and natural living. Find more: victoriouscoach.com/linkz

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If you’re a late-diagnosed ADHD woman who’s tried all the productivity hacks and still feel like you’re failing at life, here’s your lighthouse. You’re done with advice made for men. Done with coaches who don’t understand why their strategies send you into shame spirals. Done with optimizing and hustling your way to burnout. This isn’t just another ADHD podcast. It starts as a 6-month self-coaching journey from burnout to embodied autonomy. I’m Viki, a PCC life coach for the neurodiverse with trauma sensitive somatic and breathwork training. I’ve been where you are with the rumination, the

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  • Creator
    Victoria VIKI Cumberbatch
  • Years Active
    2025 - 2026
  • Episodes
    74
  • Rating
    Explicit
  • Copyright
    © Victoria VIKI Cumberbatch
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    Victorious Coach