All the Forbidden Things

Not Your Enemy

How well do we really know each other? Even with loved ones, there are aspects of our lives and histories we don’t address—our real feelings about race, religion, political loyalties, gender and sexuality, origin. In a unique format, guests ask the interviewer to guess their answers to questions, then respond with the truth. We reveal personal experiences, overlooked issues, and the misunderstandings we perpetuate by avoiding all the forbidden things, and the other side.

  1. A Conservative Christian Enters a Liberal College | The Minefield

    6d ago

    A Conservative Christian Enters a Liberal College | The Minefield

    Trey and Rebecca both entered college as conservative Christians, but almost 20 years apart. In 2007, Rebecca faced a wildly different political landscape and culture of Christianity than Trey experiences in 2026. And for many reasons, their outcomes were different. Rebecca walked away from the church while Trey continues on.Conservatism is a growing trend among GenZ, but universities remain largely liberal. That means that conservative young people (despite strengthening in numbers) are facing an education and environment that does not align with their values and worldview. In this episode of The Minefield, Trey explains what that's like and the impact that has or has not had on his faith. The Minefield is an episode format that is focused on conversations with people across the aisle, politically or otherwise.If there’s something you want to say on the pod, reach out to projectnotyourenemy@gmail.com.

    58 min
  2. Not All Life Coaches Are Created Equal

    Jun 4

    Not All Life Coaches Are Created Equal

    Have you ever been annoyed by people who call themselves life coaches? Rebecca has often judged "self-help" practitioners and program facilitators who claim to help you level up in life. They can sometimes ego trip, or give you advice that's not suited to you, make you dependent on them, or take advantage of your money.Carmen Gerlach works as an engineer by day, but she's starting her own practice as a Relationship Systems Coach. She's a good friend of Rebecca's and despite Rebecca's typical prejudices she has successfully practiced a lot of techniques with Rebecca that have helped her life. She's not the person you think of -- presenting the answer's to life on Instagram -- and there's actually a lot of reasons for this that we dive into in this episode. We cover what all the pitfalls are and what elements make a life coach a *real* coach, and not just a persuasive person. Note: We made a slight error on the number of coaches in the International Coaching Foundation. There are 125k CoActive coaches and ICF has 50-60k. If there’s something you want to say on the pod, reach out to projectnotyourenemy@gmail.com.

    1h 13m
  3. Navigating the Political Minefield | The Minefield

    Apr 1

    Navigating the Political Minefield | The Minefield

    Lyonel Laverde and Rebecca are conservative and liberal, respectively, but they agree on the need for integrity, discernment, openness, and respect when it comes to navigating politics. In this episode of The Minefield, they discuss how they each stand by their values, what it means for voters and political leaders to have integrity, and the idea of the "mushy middle". They offer an example of how to talk about politics with friends across the aisle and how to maintain constructive attitudes in the midst of immense political unrest. The Minefield is an episode format that is focused on conversations with people across the aisle, politically or otherwise.

    1h 8m
  4. Men, Women, Abuse & Power

    Apr 1

    Men, Women, Abuse & Power

    Many women are raised to believe that men are meant to have more power than them, and some women continue to hold onto this in various contexts, especially when it comes to voicing their opinions. For a lot of us, this has created patterns that have undermined our own power and self esteem, and sometimes caused us to end up in dangerous situations. In this episode, Rebecca and her close friend Nicole Netti talk about what they were taught, what they've experienced, the level of power they want, and how Nicole has managed to find her voice amidst the contradictions and obstacles. You can find Nicole on Tiktok at @petty_netti

    1h 12m
  5. An Engineer's Approach to Faith

    Mar 4

    An Engineer's Approach to Faith

    Religions often ask for people to believe in what they cannot see, and many argue that science and faith are not compatible. But what if you are committed to both, and which wins out in the end if there's a conflict? In this episode, Rebecca interviews her father, an engineer, on how he came to his Christian faith, how he understands his faith through logic and science, and how he handles discrepancies and grey areas. We discuss the role of humility and the value of consulting other minds when things are not always obvious.

    39 min
  6. Politics and the Point of Comedy

    Feb 8

    Politics and the Point of Comedy

    Comedians have been telling political jokes for centuries, but in today's landscape, political comedy threatens to limit a comic's audience or livelihood. Where do you draw the line in order to keep getting booked and how do you maintain a reputation that people will pay for? Comedian Harrison Friedman and Rebecca talk about his political journey from Zionism to democratic socialism and his stance on comedy both politically and personally.

    58 min
  7. Liberal Hate & Christian Conservatism

    12/29/2025

    Liberal Hate & Christian Conservatism

    In our first political episode, Rebecca, a liberal, meets with Tim and his sister Kristin to talk about the hate they get for being Christian conservatives. We get into perceptions, fear, power, and the importance of context to achieve understanding.

    1h 31m
  8. Producing Social Justice Awareness

    12/28/2025

    Producing Social Justice Awareness

    Bonnie is the owner and director of a theater company in Savannah, Performers for Social Justice Awareness. Her productions span topics from race inequality to religious fervor to female relationships. Needless to say, it's an interesting time and place to produce this kind of work, and not without its challenges. Bonnie and Rebecca were first introduced when they were placed next to each other in the Savannah Philharmonic chorus. They’ve since become friends and artistic allies, and have watched (and helped) each other advance each other's mission. In this episode, we talk about launching Performers for Social Justice Awareness, the challenges Bonnie's faced with it — including the state of the political landscape — and how to approach an emotionally exhausted audience.--You can find Performers for Social Justice Awareness on FB: www.facebook.com/justiceawareness2016

    51 min
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How well do we really know each other? Even with loved ones, there are aspects of our lives and histories we don’t address—our real feelings about race, religion, political loyalties, gender and sexuality, origin. In a unique format, guests ask the interviewer to guess their answers to questions, then respond with the truth. We reveal personal experiences, overlooked issues, and the misunderstandings we perpetuate by avoiding all the forbidden things, and the other side.

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  • Creator
    Not Your Enemy
  • Years Active
    2024 - 2026
  • Episodes
    17
  • Rating
    Explicit
  • Copyright
    © Not Your Enemy
  • Show Website
    All the Forbidden Things