The Thais Gibson Podcast

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Welcome to The Thais Gibson Podcast, where transformation happens fast and lasts a lifetime. Tune in for expert insights on breaking free from repetitive patterns, practical steps for reprogramming your subconscious mind, and empowering conversations that will inspire you to evolve into your best self across all aspects of life!

  1. 19H AGO

    When a Dismissive Avoidant Acts Like Your Partner… But Won’t Commit

    Unlock Deeper Intimacy Starting Today. Get 7 Days Free Plus Lifetime Access to Our Attachment Styles & Intimacy Course and Finally Transform Your Relationships for Good! https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/dream-life-sex-course?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=dream-life-sex-course&utm_medium=organic&utm_content=pod-10-07-25&el=podcast They text you every day, spend weekends with you, and act like you’re together, yet freeze or pull back the moment commitment comes up. Sound familiar? In this video, Thais Gibson breaks down why dismissive avoidants often behave like partners without committing, revealing the emotional roadblocks, childhood conditioning, and subconscious fears driving their behavior. You’ll also learn how to recognize the difference between emotional unavailability and genuine potential, plus practical tools to protect your heart, communicate your needs, and decide when to stay—or walk away. You’ll learn: ✅ The four key reasons dismissive avoidants resist commitment—even when they care deeply ✅ Why emotional intimacy feels unsafe due to childhood neglect or unmet needs ✅ How vulnerability and commitment trigger subconscious fear and shame ✅ Why poor conflict-resolution skills cause long-term resentment and withdrawal ✅ How communication gaps make both partners feel misunderstood and criticized ✅ What “Integrated Attachment Theory™” teaches about repairing connection and building trust Video Breakdown (Timestamps): 00:00 – Intro 00:37 – The Four Attachment Styles 01:11 – 1. Emotional Connection Wasn’t Modeled in Childhood 04:17 – 2. Dismissive Avoidants Struggle With Vulnerability 05:39 – Integrated Attachment Theory™ Certification 06:33 – 3. Why They Don’t Know How to Resolve Conflict 09:46 – 4. Why They Feel Misunderstood and Criticized 12:10 – Conclusion Meet the Host Thais Gibson is the founder of The Personal Development School and a world leader in attachment theory. With a Ph.D. and over a dozen certifications, she’s helped more than 70,000 people reprogram their subconscious and build thriving relationships. Helpful Resources: 🧠 Take the Free Attachment Style Quiz https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=attachment-quiz&utm_medium=organic&el=podcast 📚 Read the Learning Love Book https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/learning-love?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=learning-love&utm_medium=organic&el=podcast 🎧 Discover More Podcast Episodes https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/podcast?page=1 📝 Read the PDS Blog https://blog.personaldevelopmentschool.com/ Let’s Connect on Socials: 📸 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thepersonaldevelopmentschool/ 📘 Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool 🎵 TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@thaisgibson 💼 LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/company/thepersonaldevelopmentschool/ #DismissiveAvoidant #AvoidantAttachment #AttachmentStyles #ThaisGibson #AttachmentHealing #RelationshipAdvice #EmotionalIntelligence #BoundariesMatter #SecureLove #RelationshipHealing They act like your partner but resist commitment. Discover the emotional patterns behind dismissive avoidant behavior and how to respond with clarity and strength. Don’t forget to subscribe, rate, and share this episode. 💗

    13 min

  2. 1D AGO

    If An Avoidant Does These 4 Things They’re Discarding You

    Unlock Deeper Intimacy Starting Today. Get 7 Days Free Plus Lifetime Access to Our Attachment Styles & Intimacy Course and Finally Transform Your Relationships for Good! https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/dream-life-sex-course?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=dream-life-sex-course&utm_medium=organic&utm_content=pod-10-06-25&el=podcast Dismissive Avoidants rarely come out and say “I’m done.” Instead, they show it through subtle but powerful patterns, often long before the actual breakup happens. In this episode, Thais Gibson breaks down the four unmistakable signs that an avoidant is emotionally checking out and shares how to protect your self-worth, regulate your nervous system, and set healthy boundaries before it’s too late. Drawing on neuroscience and ancient wisdom, Thais explains how oxytocin drops, cortisol spikes, and emotional disconnection create chaos in relationships—and how to use self-awareness and communication to stop the spiral and regain control. You’ll learn: ✅ The four red flags that signal a dismissive avoidant is preparing to leave ✅ How “flaw finding” and subtle criticism act as deactivation strategies ✅ Why they replace intimacy with creature comforts like work or hobbies ✅ The neuroscience of emotional withdrawal and bonding disruption ✅ How to use pattern interruption and self-regulation to stop self-blame ✅ The boundaries and conversations that separate healing from heartbreak Video Breakdown (Timestamps): 00:00 – Intro 00:53 – 1. If You See Them Shutting Down Emotionally 01:52 – 2. If There Are Sudden Devaluing Behaviors or Comments 04:59 – Attachment Styles & Intimacy Promo 05:31 – 3. Replacing Intimacy with Creature Comforts 06:51 – The Neuroscience Behind Relational Distress 09:16 – Pattern Interrupt 11:29 – Setting Clear Boundaries 13:44 – Ancient Wisdom on Self-Consideration 15:30 – 4. When They Stop Communicating 16:41 – Conclusion Meet the Host Thais Gibson is the founder of The Personal Development School and a world leader in attachment theory. With a Ph.D. and over a dozen certifications, she’s helped more than 70,000 people reprogram their subconscious and build thriving relationships. Helpful Resources: 🧠 Take the Free Attachment Style Quiz https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=attachment-quiz&utm_medium=organic&el=podcast 📚 Read the Learning Love Book https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/learning-love?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=learning-love&utm_medium=organic&el=podcast 🎧 Discover More Podcast Episodes https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/podcast?page=1 📝 Read the PDS Blog https://blog.personaldevelopmentschool.com/ Let’s Connect on Socials: 📸 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thepersonaldevelopmentschool/ 📘 Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool 🎵 TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@thaisgibson 💼 LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/company/thepersonaldevelopmentschool/ #DismissiveAvoidant #AvoidantAttachment #AttachmentHealing #ThaisGibson #RelationshipAdvice #EmotionalIntelligence #AttachmentStyles #BoundariesMatter #BreakupRecovery #SecureLove When an avoidant starts to pull away, it’s not random, it’s patterned. Learn to spot the signs early and protect your peace before it’s too late. Don’t forget to subscribe, rate, and share this episode. 💗

    17 min

  3. 2D AGO

    The Shocking Thing the Fearful Avoidant Struggles With Most!

    Unlock Deeper Intimacy Starting Today. Get 7 Days Free Plus Lifetime Access to Our Attachment Styles & Intimacy Course and Finally Transform Your Relationships for Good! https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/dream-life-sex-course?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=dream-life-sex-course&utm_medium=organic&utm_content=pod-10-05-25&el=podcast Many Fearful Avoidants see themselves as fiercely independent—until real feelings and vulnerability take hold. Suddenly, emotional dependency sneaks in, making it feel like you lose yourself in the relationship. If this resonates, you’re not alone—and there is a way to break free from the push-pull cycles. In this video, Thais Gibson reveals the hidden signs of emotional dependency for Fearful Avoidants, the neuroscience and childhood roots behind it, and the exact steps you can take to heal so you can love deeply without losing yourself. You’ll learn: ✅ The 3 key signs of emotional dependency in Fearful Avoidant relationships ✅ How attachment trauma in childhood wires the brain for dependency cycles ✅ Why independence flips into preoccupation when real feelings develop ✅ How neuroscience explains the highs, lows, and nervous system disruption the Fearful Avoidant's experience ✅ 3 practical steps to heal, regulate, and create secure interdependent relationships Episode Breakdown: 00:00 – Intro  01:14 – Have You Lost Yourself in a Relationship Before?  01:41 – 1. When Feelings Get Real, You Feel You Are Over-identifying With Your Partner 03:29 – 2. Although Difficult to Ask, You Seek Reassurance in a Relationship 05:12 – Attachment Styles and Intimacy Promo 05:48 – 3. You Sometimes Feel Emotional Highs and Lows 07:09 – The Neuroscience Behind the Fearful Avoidant Attachment Style 10:34 – Step 1: Learn to Meet Your Own Needs 11:44 – Step 2: Have a Relationship With Yourself Outside of Your Romantic Relationship  12:53 – Step 3: Rewire Old Triggers From Past Relationships 13:38 – Ancient Wisdom on Self-Love 14:49 – Conclusion Meet the Host Thais Gibson is the founder of The Personal Development School and a world leader in attachment theory. With a Ph.D. and over a dozen certifications, she’s helped more than 70,000 people reprogram their subconscious and build thriving relationships. Helpful Resources: 🧠 Take the Free Attachment Style Quiz https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=attachment-quiz&utm_medium=organic&el=podcast 📚 Read the Learning Love Book https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/learning-love?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=learning-love&utm_medium=organic&el=podcast 🎧 Discover More Podcast Episodes https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/podcast?page=1 📝 Read the PDS Blog https://blog.personaldevelopmentschool.com/ Let’s Connect on Socials: 📸 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thepersonaldevelopmentschool/ 📘 Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool 🎵 TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@thaisgibson 💼 LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/company/thepersonaldevelopmentschool/ #FearfulAvoidant #AttachmentStyles #EmotionalDependency #AttachmentTheory #Relationships #Healing Fearful Avoidants often feel independent until deep feelings trigger hidden emotional dependency. This episode explains why it happens and how you can heal to keep your sense of self while building healthy, lasting relationships.

    15 min

  4. SEP 27

    Major Signs the Dismissive Avoidant Will Never Come Back

    Achieve Your Goals FAST With the “Needs” Course. Free for Life With a 7-Day Trial https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/dream-life-free-course?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=dream-life-free-course&utm_medium=organic&utm_content=pod-09-27-25&el=podcast    Are you stuck in a painful cycle, wondering if your Dismissive Avoidant partner will ever come back? It’s exhausting to feel like your life is on hold, constantly walking on eggshells and hoping things will change.  In this video, Thais Gibson breaks down the major signs that a Dismissive Avoidant has reached the true point of no return—so you can stop second-guessing yourself and finally get clarity. You’ll learn the psychology, neuroscience, and relationship dynamics behind this attachment style, how to spot when healing is no longer possible, and what steps you can take to protect your peace and reclaim your life.   You’ll learn: ✅ Why Dismissive Avoidants often leave relationships, and when they never come back ✅ The “gray area” dynamic that keeps you stuck and prevents real progress ✅ How conflict-avoidance and emotional suppression create walls over time ✅ The neuroscience of deactivation and why it worsens if left unaddressed ✅ The questions you must ask to know if true healing and reconnection are possible ✅ Three powerful healing steps you can take today if you’re the loved one of a Dismissive Avoidant ✅ How unmet needs and old wounds keep you chasing breadcrumbs—and how to break free   Episode Breakdown: 00:00 – Intro  00:45 – 1. When the Emotional Disconnection is Reinforced, They No Longer Want to Connect 03:21 – 2. If Dismissive Avoidants Feel Criticized, They Will Pull Away 05:34 – Discover, Embrace, & Fulfill Your Personal Needs Course Promo  06:11 – The Neuroscience Behind Deactivation  08:36 – Being Willing to Do the Work is a Prerequisite for Healing 09:49 – Step 1: If You See This Person Withdrawing Over Time, Prepare Yourself to Heal 10:23 – Step 2: “What Are the Needs That I’m So Scared of Losing?” 11:06 – Step 3:  “What Wounds Are Chaining Me to This Potentially Unhealthy Situation?” 12:05 – Ancient Wisdom on Self-Love and Consideration  14:02 – Conclusion   Meet the Host Thais Gibson is the founder of The Personal Development School and a world leader in attachment theory. With a Ph.D. and over a dozen certifications, she’s helped more than 70,000 people reprogram their subconscious and build thriving relationships.   Helpful Resources: 🧠 Take the Free Attachment Style Quiz https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=attachment-quiz&utm_medium=organic&el=podcast  📚 Read the Learning Love Book https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/learning-love?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=learning-love&utm_medium=organic&el=podcast  🎧 Discover More Podcast Episodes https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/podcast?page=1  📝 Read the PDS Blog https://blog.personaldevelopmentschool.com/    Let’s Connect on Socials: 📸 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thepersonaldevelopmentschool/  📘 Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool  🎵 TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@thaisgibson  💼 LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/company/thepersonaldevelopmentschool/    #DismissiveAvoidant #DismissiveAvoidantAttachment #AttachmentStyles #AttachmentTheory #ThaisGibson #PersonalDevelopment #HealingJourney #RelationshipAdvice #SelfLove #EmotionalHealing #Boundaries   This episode will help you recognize when it’s time to stop waiting for change and start honoring your own needs so you can step out of painful cycles and create space for healthier, more fulfilling relationships.

    14 min

  5. SEP 26

    If A Fearful Avoidant Does THIS, They're About to Leave Suddenly

    Achieve Your Goals FAST With the “Needs” Course. Free for Life With a 7-Day Trial https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/dream-life-free-course?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=dream-life-free-course&utm_medium=organic&utm_content=pod-09-26-25&el=podcast    One of the most painful experiences is when a Fearful Avoidant suddenly walks away without warning. What most people don’t realize is that there is a specific red flag that the relationship is close to ending. In this video, Thais Gibson breaks down what that behavior is, why it happens, and how you can respond with clarity and self-respect. You’ll learn the neuroscience of why Fearful Avoidants shut down, how past wounds shape their fear of vulnerability, and what to do if you notice these warning signs in your relationship. Thais also shares a simple framework you can use—whether you’re the Fearful Avoidant or their partner—to bring needs to the surface and stop the cycle of sudden exits.   You’ll learn: ✅ The behavior that signals a Fearful Avoidant is ready to leave ✅ Why unspoken needs and unmet expectations push them toward sudden exits ✅ How childhood chaos wires them to avoid expressing vulnerability ✅ The neuroscience of fear, safety, and why needs feel dangerous to share ✅ Why sudden breakups aren’t about you—but about unresolved conditioning ✅ A practical exercise to rebuild safety and communication ✅ How to know if the relationship can be repaired—or if it’s time to move on   Episode Breakdown: 00:00 – Intro  00:37 – 1. Fearful Avoidants Struggle to Communicate Their Needs  02:05 – 2. Fearful Avoidants Pressure Themselves to Meet the Needs of Others 04:05 – Discover, Embrace, & Fulfill Your Personal Needs Course Promo  04:53 – The Neuroscience Behind Fear 08:27 – Step 1. Ask Yourself, “How Much Did I Communicate My Needs?” 08:55 – Step 2. “Did I Communicate in a Way That Was Likely to Be Received?” 10:08 – Step 3. Do a Weekly Needs Check-in 11:54 – Conclusion   Meet the Host Thais Gibson is the founder of The Personal Development School and a world leader in attachment theory. With a Ph.D. and over a dozen certifications, she’s helped more than 70,000 people reprogram their subconscious and build thriving relationships.   Helpful Resources: 🧠 Take the Free Attachment Style Quiz https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=attachment-quiz&utm_medium=organic&el=podcast  📚 Read the Learning Love Book https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/learning-love?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=learning-love&utm_medium=organic&el=podcast  🎧 Discover More Podcast Episodes https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/podcast?page=1  📝 Read the PDS Blog https://blog.personaldevelopmentschool.com/    Let’s Connect on Socials: 📸 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thepersonaldevelopmentschool/  📘 Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool  🎵 TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@thaisgibson  💼 LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/company/thepersonaldevelopmentschool/    #FearfulAvoidant #AttachmentStyles #AttachmentTheory #RelationshipAdvice #BreakupHealing #EmotionalHealing When a Fearful Avoidant leaves suddenly, it’s usually because unspoken needs and fears have quietly built up until they shut down completely. Learning the red flags and creating space for open, healthy communication, you can protect yourself and build stronger, more secure relationships.💓

    12 min

  6. SEP 25

    THIS Happens When YOU PULL AWAY FROM AN AVOIDANT

    ✨ Achieve Your Goals FAST With the “Needs” Course. Free for Life With a 7-Day Trial https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/dream-life-free-course?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=dream-life-free-course&utm_medium=organic&utm_content=pod-09-25-25&el=podcast   Have you ever wondered what really happens when you pull away from a Dismissive Avoidant? It can feel confusing when the person who once shut down suddenly starts to pursue you. This push-pull cycle can be painful, but understanding it is the key to breaking free from games and creating real, lasting connections. In this episode, Thais Gibson explains why Dismissive Avoidants often re-engage when you step back, the subconscious fears driving this pattern, and how you can respond in a way that honors both your needs and theirs. By learning these dynamics, you’ll gain the clarity to set healthy boundaries, stop repeating cycles, and know when it’s time to walk away.   You’ll learn: ✅ Why Dismissive Avoidants feel safer pursuing when you step back ✅ How “feelings minus fears” explains their hot-and-cold cycle ✅ The role of childhood conditioning and trauma in these behaviors ✅ Why pulling away works temporarily—but isn’t a long-term solution ✅ How to find the middle ground between autonomy and intimacy ✅ The importance of setting boundaries, deadlines, and direct communication ✅ How to know if someone is willing (or not) to do the work in a relationship   Episode Breakdown: 00:00 – Intro  00:49 – The Four Attachment Styles 01:46 – Feelings Minus Fears 03:39 – 1. Learn How to Walk the Middle Ground 04:34 – Discover, Embrace, & Fulfill Your Personal Needs Course Promo  04:54 – 2. Encourage the Other Person to Work on Themselves 06:06 – 3. Set a Deadline 07:10 – 4. Communicate Directly About the Situation 07:58 – Conclusion   Meet the Host Thais Gibson is the founder of The Personal Development School and a world leader in attachment theory. With a Ph.D. and over a dozen certifications, she’s helped more than 70,000 people reprogram their subconscious and build thriving relationships.   Helpful Resources: 🧠 Take the Free Attachment Style Quiz https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=attachment-quiz&utm_medium=organic&el=podcast  📚 Read the Learning Love Book https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/learning-love?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=learning-love&utm_medium=organic&el=podcast  🎧 Discover MorePodcast Episodes https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/podcast?page=1  📝 Read the PDS Blog https://blog.personaldevelopmentschool.com/    Let’s Connect on Socials: 📸 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thepersonaldevelopmentschool/  📘 Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool  🎵 TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@thaisgibson  💼 LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/company/thepersonaldevelopmentschool/    #DismissiveAvoidant #FearfulAvoidant #AttachmentStyles #AttachmentTheory #RelationshipAdvice #Boundaries   When you pull away from a Dismissive Avoidant, their fears of closeness quiet down and their true feelings often reemerge. By understanding this cycle, you can stop playing games, communicate directly, and decide whether the relationship has the potential to grow.

    8 min

  7. SEP 24

    10 Signs You Have a Disorganized Attachment Style

    ✨ Achieve Your Goals FAST With the “Needs” Course. Free for Life With a 7-Day Trial https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/dream-life-free-course?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=dream-life-free-course&utm_medium=organic&utm_term=nJOcd3mLmY8&utm_content=pod-09-24-25&el=podcast   Do you ever feel torn between craving closeness and pushing people away? You’re not alone—this push-pull cycle is one of the biggest signs of a Disorganized Attachment Style (also known as the Fearful Avoidant. In this video, Thais Gibson reveals the 10 clearest signs you may actually be disorganized attached—and how understanding them can completely change the way you see yourself and your relationships. You’ll discover how chaos in childhood wires the nervous system for both fear of abandonment and fear of commitment, and how these patterns play out in love, friendships, and family dynamics. Most importantly, you’ll learn that with the right tools, you can reprogram old wounds and move toward a secure, lasting connection.   You’ll learn: ✅ Why the Disorganized Attachment is often misdiagnosed as anxious or dismissive ✅ The “pendulum swing” between fearing abandonment and fearing commitment ✅ How hypervigilance, suspicion, and jumping to conclusions develop ✅ Why boundary struggles, over-giving, and people-pleasing keep you stuck ✅ The role of shame, guilt, and self-criticism in keeping you disconnected ✅ How inconsistent vulnerability shows up as under-sharing or over-sharing ✅ Why unresolved trauma fuels all-or-nothing thinking and emotional chaos ✅ A powerful roadmap for reprogramming subconscious beliefs and needs   Episode Breakdown: 00:00 – Intro 01:08 – 1. Fearful Avoidants Flip-Flop Between Fearing Abandonment and Commitment 03:49 – 2. Fearful Avoidants Can Go From Activating to Deactivating 04:23 – Discover, Embrace, & Fulfill Your Personal Needs Course Promo 04:43 – 3. Fearful Avoidants Often Jump to the Worst-Case Conclusions 06:35 – 4. Fearful Avoidants Are Afraid of Feeling Helpless 07:54 – 5. Fearful Avoidants Tend to Be Highly Empathetic or Sympathetic 10:05 – 6. Fearful Avoidants Tend to Struggle With Boundaries 11:03 – 7. Fearful Avoidants Struggle With Regulating Strong Emotions 12:41 – 8. Fearful Avoidants May Undershare or Overshare 13:45 – 9. Fearful Avoidants May Struggle With Extreme Guilt or Shame 14:20 –10. Fearful Avoidants Activate and Deactivate Strongly 14:54 – Conclusion   Meet the Host Thais Gibson is the founder of The Personal Development School and a world leader in attachment theory. With a Ph.D. and over a dozen certifications, she’s helped more than 70,000 people reprogram their subconscious and build thriving relationships.   Helpful Resources: 🧠 Take the Free Attachment Style Quiz https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=attachment-quiz&utm_medium=organic&el=podcast 📚 Read the Learning Love Book https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/learning-love?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=learning-love&utm_medium=organic&el=podcast 🎧 Discover More Podcast Episodes https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/podcast?page=1 📝 Read the PDS Blog https://blog.personaldevelopmentschool.com/   Let’s Connect on Socials: 📸 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thepersonaldevelopmentschool/ 📘 Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool 🎵 TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@thaisgibson 💼 LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/company/thepersonaldevelopmentschool/   #DisorganizedAttachment #FearfulAvoidant #AttachmentStyles #AttachmentTheory #RelationshipAdvice #EmotionalHealing   Disorganized (Fearful Avoidant) attachment can leave you stuck in a painful cycle of craving love but fearing it at the same time. By learning the 10 key signs and how to reprogram these patterns, you can move toward secure, healthy, and deeply connected relationships.

    15 min

  8. SEP 20

    BEWARE | The Roommate Trap of Living with a Dismissive Avoidant

    Embrace Breakthroughs With The “Heal From a Breakup” Course—Free for Life When You Start a 7-Day Trial. Limited-time only! https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/dream-life-breakup-course?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=dream-life-breakup-course&utm_medium=organic&utm_content=yt-MM-DD-YY&el=podcast It’s not usually the big fights that end relationships with dismissive avoidants—it’s something far more subtle: the slow fade into the “roommate trap.” In this episode, Thais Gibson explains why love with a dismissive avoidant often erodes into mere coexistence, how neuroscience confirms disengagement is more damaging than conflict, and the exact steps you can take to prevent it. You’ll learn about the “four pillars of connection,” why avoidants over-rely on intellectual connection, and how unspoken needs and unprocessed conflicts slowly build walls that kill intimacy. Thais also shares a practical 3-step strategy to stop the cycle and reintroduce emotional closeness into the relationship. You’ll learn: ✅ Why dismissive avoidants rely heavily on intellectual connection, neglecting emotional and romantic pillars ✅ How comfort, routine, and security become their version of “commitment” ✅ Why lack of communication about needs leads to walls and eventual disengagement ✅ What the Gottman Institute reveals about emotional disengagement as the #1 predictor of divorce ✅ How oxytocin and shared vulnerability moments rebuild bonding ✅ A 3-step roadmap: set deadlines, clarify needs, and practice “micro-vulnerability” Episode Breakdown (Timestamps): 00:00 – Intro 00:36 – Why Avoidants Prefer Intellectual Connection 00:59 – The Pillars of a Relationship 02:40 – Why Avoidants Feel Safety in Disconnection 04:32 – Heal From a Breakup Course Promo 05:21 – Communication Struggles of Dismissive Avoidants 07:54 – The Neuroscience of Conflict & Vulnerability 09:47 – Step 1: Set a Deadline 10:34 – Step 2: Clarify Your Needs in a Relationship 12:03 – Step 3: Be Upfront About Boundaries 13:06 – Conclusion Meet the Host Thais Gibson is the founder of The Personal Development School and a world leader in attachment theory. With a Ph.D. and over a dozen certifications, she’s helped more than 70,000 people reprogram their subconscious and build thriving relationships. Helpful Resources: 🧠 Take the Free Attachment Style Quiz https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=attachment-quiz&utm_medium=organic&el=podcast 📚 Read the Learning Love Book https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/learning-love?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=learning-love&utm_medium=organic&el=podcast 🎧 Discover More Podcast Episodes https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/podcast?page=1 📝 Read the PDS Blog https://blog.personaldevelopmentschool.com/ Let’s Connect on Socials: 📸 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thepersonaldevelopmentschool/ 📘 Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool 🎵 TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@thaisgibson 💼 LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/company/thepersonaldevelopmentschool/ ▶️ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool #DismissiveAvoidant #AvoidantAttachment #AttachmentHealing #ThaisGibson #RoommateTrap #RelationshipHealing #AttachmentStyles #SecureLove #EmotionalHealing #BoundariesMatter The “roommate trap” silently kills relationships with avoidants. Learn the hidden reasons it happens—and the steps to reignite intimacy and connection. Don’t forget to subscribe, rate, and share this episode. 💗

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Welcome to The Thais Gibson Podcast, where transformation happens fast and lasts a lifetime. Tune in for expert insights on breaking free from repetitive patterns, practical steps for reprogramming your subconscious mind, and empowering conversations that will inspire you to evolve into your best self across all aspects of life!

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    Thais Gibson
  • Years Active
    2019 - 2025
  • Episodes
    100
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