Ashley’s Substack Podcast

Ashley Evans

Wannabe Wisdom explores the unfiltered creative life: writing, learning, healing, spiraling, rebuilding, and trying-again-anyway. It’s part diary and part creative studio, made to help sensitive, ambitious creatives find their voice, trust their work, and keep going long enough to accidentally impress themselves. wannabewisdom.substack.com

  1. 2D AGO

    Before You Build the Big Thing, Regulate the Instrument

    This is a free preview of a paid episode. To hear more, visit wannabewisdom.substack.com Hello loves. How are you? No, really. How is your heart today? Where is your breath? And what does your mind-body need before you walk back into the big thing you’re trying to bring into the world? For the last couple of weeks, I’ve been thinking about heart coherence. Which sounds, I know, like something a yoga teacher in flowing linen would say right before offering you tea made from bark. But underneath the wellness language is something helpful for ambitious, creative people trying to bring big things into the world. Heart coherence is the state we enter when our breath, heart rhythm, and nervous system begin working together. It’s the practice of helping your heart and brain communicate more clearly. Your heart has its own intrinsic nervous system (sometimes called the heart’s “little brain”) and research in neurocardiology shows that the heart and brain are constantly sending signals back and forth. I like to think of the heart like an orchestra conductor, and your muscles, your blood, and your breath are all musicians taking cues. Your breath deepens, and your body stops bracing against life. Your heart becomes a doorway instead of a locked vault. And if you’re a science nerd, there’s actual physiology underneath this. The heart doesn’t just sit there being poetic and decorative. It releases hormones, sends signals through the nervous system, and communicates constantly with the brain. One of those hormones, atrial natriuretic peptide, or ANP, has been studied for its role in stress and anxiety regulation. When we work with the breath and heart rhythm, we’re giving the whole system a clearer signal. I am safe to expand. I can bring this thing into the world joyfully. Recently, I read about a HeartMath Institute study involving a string quartet. Before performing, the musicians practiced heart-focused breathing together and chose emotional intentions for the pieces they were about to play. For Pachelbel, they breathed in beauty and peace. For Mozart, joy. Afterward, their heart rate variability improved. They felt more focused and connected. And the audience experienced the performance as more engaging, more alive. That really hit me. Before the music became more connected, the musicians became more connected. They had to practice feeling it in themselves first before they could transmit beauty through their instruments. Before you give the presentation, write the post, pitch the idea, launch the project, do the audition, start the Substack, record the podcast, make the recipe, find your voice, or say the scary true thing out loud — you may need to regulate the instrument. And the instrument is you. This matters because so many of us are trying to create, speak, lead, write, perform, love, and live from a contracted state. We are trying to do these incredible things while our bodies are asking: Am I safe? Will I be judged? Is this any good? Am I too much? Will anyone care? What if I fail in public? Expression asks us to open for real, which is hard to do when your nervous system is gripping the steering wheel. This is why heart coherence feels so practical to me. It gives the body a way back — not through white-knuckling it, and not through telling yourself to “just calm down,” but through breath, attention, and feeling. This week, I made you a 20-minute heart coherence meditation for anxiety. Not because anxiety is something to banish, but because sometimes we need a way back to the part of us that can create, connect, and move forward. The part that remembers we are not just here to produce. We are here to transmit something true. Evolving loudly. With love and rebellion, Ashley, Wannabe Wisdom ❤️ About this meditation A guided session for moments when anxiety or stress is sitting heavily in the body. You’ll be led through the Spin Technique, progressive relaxation, heart breathing, and an elevator deepening visualization — gently inviting your nervous system into a deeper, more regulated state. The Spin Technique was developed by Richard Bandler, co-creator of NLP. The original music in this meditation was composed by Matt Rivers whose work lives at the intersection of sound and soul. You can find his music at mattriversmusic.bandcamp.com and his Substack, Soul Craft Studio — both worth your time. Post-production by my husband, Silver Kim, who helps regulate my heart everyday, along with our dog, Thor. ❤️ 🎧 Best listened to somewhere safe, quiet, and comfortable. Please do not listen while driving or doing anything that requires your full attention. ⚠️ This recording supports rest, relaxation, and mental wellbeing — it is not a replacement for professional medical or mental health care. Listen to this week’s heart coherence meditation ✨ Free subscribers can listen to the meditation on my YouTube channel Drift & Deepen. Please note: because this is a new channel under 1,000 subscribers, there may be ads I can’t control yet. ✨ Paid subscribers can listen to the full downloadable, ad-free version here on Substack — a quieter, uninterrupted experience you can return to anytime. Paid subscribers also receive access to the full Theta Therapy archive, including previous guided sessions for creativity, stress, abundance, flight anxiety, and feeling enough. And my beginner’s guide, How To Get Started On Substack (Without Losing Your Mind).

    10 min
  2. The Unseen Work That Finally Found Its Readers

    MAY 5

    The Unseen Work That Finally Found Its Readers

    What if the work still matters before anyone sees it?In this video, I’m talking about creative confidence, writing into the void, and the private devotion of making things without immediate proof that they matter.I share memories of my dad’s early-morning spiritual life in the Yukon, my own experience starting Substack during a very “what the hell is happening” season, and the dull pain of creating before any recognition arrives. This is for writers, creatives, teachers, coaches, entrepreneurs, and deep-feeling people trying to keep their work alive in a world obsessed with metrics.Wannabe Wisdom is for people who know they’re meant for fuller expression. Subscribe, read along, or come hangout with me in this little pocket of the internet where we try to stay human while making things. This video essay is inspired from the essay “The Courage To Be Unseen” that I wrote in November, 2025. With Love & rebellion, 💛 Ashley aka Fake Guru 💬 Question for the Comments: What do you keep returning to when no one’s watching? Tell me about your private practice, and what keeps you tending to it. It might be the thing someone else needed to hear today. 👉 Have a Story You Want Told? Wannabe Wisdom is slowly opening a space for subscribers to submit personal stories to be featured on my YouTube channel, Wannabe Wisdom Diaries, and here on Substack—retold by yours truly, in third person. I’m looking for stories about identity, reinvention, intuition, heartbreak, grief, healing, and strange little turning points. Basically: if something happened and afterward you thought, “Well. I guess I’m different now,” I want to hear about it. ✨ Paid subscribers are considered first, because this space grows through the people helping sustain it. Submitting doesn’t guarantee your story will be featured, and I’ll always contact you before moving forward. 👉 Submit your story here: Wannabe Wisdom Stories: Open Call This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit wannabewisdom.substack.com/subscribe

    13 min
  3. When Your Why Is Clear but Your “What” Isn’t

    APR 21

    When Your Why Is Clear but Your “What” Isn’t

    This is your Tuesday edition of Wannabe Wisdom Diaries. I publish every week. In this conversation (my first solo Substack Live 🙌), I talked about why it can feel so hard to define your work when you’re not offering one neat, obvious service. When you are the brand, and your work lives at the intersection of voice, story, transformation, creativity, and lived experience, the “what” can take a while to name. That’s why I keep coming back to the why. I shared some of my own path through communications, acting, writing, hypnotherapy, and Substack, and why I believe your “why” is often the real engine behind everything you build. The offers may evolve and the format may change, but the deeper mission usually stays the same. We also talked about Simon Sinek’s idea of starting with why, from his TED Talk How Great Leaders Inspire Action, and the strange challenge of building a business around your voice, plus the very real experimentation phase most of us go through while figuring out what we actually offer. This one is for anyone trying to go from blocked to expressed and turn that into something valuable for their audience. Apologies for getting cut off at the end, thanks to my glitchy internet. Thank you for bearing with me. 😅 👉 P.S. I’ll be doing these live videos every few weeks, and I’ll share the theme ahead of time. Please leave suggestions for topics in the comments. 🙌 ✨There will also be chances to hop on live with me, especially if the topic connects to your work or creative journey. It’s a lovely chance to share what you’re building, get visible, and connect with my audience in real time. ✨ Paid subscribers will get first priority, then I’ll open spots to everyone else. Before you go, I’d love to know where you are in your own naming process. This will help me choose future live topics and create resources that actually meet you where you are. Thank you Monica Fernandes, Emmett Tatter, Nicole Starker Campbell, Ahmedina, Brian D Smith and many others for tuning into my live video! Join me for my next live video in the app. This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit wannabewisdom.substack.com/subscribe

    28 min
  4. What a Yoga Class in Tulum Taught Me About Grief and the Nervous System

    APR 18

    What a Yoga Class in Tulum Taught Me About Grief and the Nervous System

    Hi loves, Happy Saturday. ☺️✨ There’s a lot happening behind the scenes at Wannabe Wisdom. Some of you know I’ve started turning my written essays into spoken-word YouTube video videos on Wannabe Wisdom Diaries, and I’m also going to let those videos live here on Substack. This story is about the time I cried so hard in a yoga class in Tulum that it briefly became an event. In this video, I explore grief, the body, yoga, and what happens when your nervous system decides it is done waiting for your mind to catch up. I went to Tulum for yoga teacher training, but apparently I also went to publicly unravel under a straw roof at 6:30 in the morning. Sometimes grief waits for the perfect moment to spill over… like, say, a yoga class. If you’ve ever looked fine on the outside while carrying something unresolved, this one’s for you. 💛 Prefer to read the essay version? You can find it here: 👉 Have a Story You Want Told? Wannabe Wisdom is slowly opening up a space where subscribers can submit personal stories to be featured on my YouTube channel, Wannabe Wisdom Diaries, and here on my Substack, Wannabe Wisdom — retold by yours truly, in third person. I’m looking for stories about identity, reinvention, intuition, heartbreak, grief, healing, and strange little turning points. Basically: if something happened and afterward you were like, “Well. I guess I’m different now,” I want to hear about it. If all goes well, we’ll plan a Substack Live around it too. Consider it your press tour. 🙌 ✨ Paid subscribers are considered first because this space grows through the people helping sustain it. Note: Submitting your story doesn’t guarantee it will be featured, and I’ll always contact you before moving forward. 👉 Submit your story here: Wannabe Wisdom Stories: Open Call Thank you for being here. For reading, watching, and making room for deeper, fuller expression, the unruly questions, and the parts we don’t always know how to say. Life is precious and short and, somehow, long. And what are we doing, really, if we’re awake but not alive? With love & rebellion,Ashleyaka Fake Guru This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit wannabewisdom.substack.com/subscribe

    11 min
  5. 12-Minute Hypnotherapy for Stress Release

    APR 14

    12-Minute Hypnotherapy for Stress Release

    This is a free preview of a paid episode. To hear more, visit wannabewisdom.substack.com Hi Loves, I’m starting something new here: sending theta therapy sessions directly to your inbox. This is the clean version: ad-free, downloadable, and easy to return to whenever you need it. You can watch or listen straight away. This session is a short hypnotherapy practice for stress relief. I guide you through breathwork, progressive relaxation, and a gentle visualization to help you release tension and meet conflict from a place of steadiness and calm. It’s especially supportive when your body feels braced, or when you need a grounded way back to yourself. Unlike meditations that ask you to rise above what you’re feeling, this one stays with whatever stress you might actually be carrying. A note: the visualization involves a beach, so it’s best listened to somewhere quiet and safe. This session supports wellbeing, but it isn’t a replacement for professional care. ✨If you’re a free subscriber, I also share public theta therapy sessions on YouTube here. ✨If you’re a paid subscriber, you get the cleanest experience here: ad-free sessions delivered directly to your inbox, plus access to the full archive, including past sessions and accompanying essays, here. 👉As a paid subscriber, you can explore all subscriber-only posts here. If there’s a theme or situation you’d love a future session for, leave it in the comments. I’m building this in real time, and your requests help shape what comes next. Also in the archive:

    6 min
  6. Substack Notes vs Posts: What New Writers Get Wrong

    MAR 19

    Substack Notes vs Posts: What New Writers Get Wrong

    One of the things I care most about is helping people go deeper in their storytelling and create from a place that feels fully alive. That’s the heart of what I do here on Wannabe Wisdom. But I also love sharing what I’m learning as I go, especially the practical, challenging, and very real parts of building a writing life online. I’ve been on Substack for almost three years now. Time has flown, and the platform changes fast. That’s part of why I created Substack Shop Talk: a series where I share the behind-the-scenes of writing on Substack. If you’re new to Substack, one of the most useful things to understand early is the difference between Notes and Posts. This is a free, 20-minute, beginner-friendly tutorial on how Substack Notes work, how they differ from long-form posts or essays, and how to write for an online audience. Because Notes are not essays. And a lot of people are accidentally writing them like they are. In this video, I cover: * the difference between Notes and Posts * what Notes are actually for * how to think about writing for online readers * why readability matters * how to make your writing feel human, not overworked * how I personally use Notes to support deeper writing * restacking Notes and Posts If you’ve been circling Substack and trying to get your footing, this will help. ✨ If you liked this video, you’ll love my full tutorial workshop, Getting Started on Substack (Without Losing Your Mind). Paid subscribers get instant access included with their subscription. Or 👉 purchase it as a one-off for $37. Also, check out the article I mention in the video: The Art of the Substack Note in 2026. Welcome to Wannabe Wisdom, Diaries of a Fake Guru. I’m Ashley Evans. Glad you’re here. 😊 Evolving loudly. With love + rebellion.— Ashley This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit wannabewisdom.substack.com/subscribe

    19 min
  7. LIVE with Ashley Evans and Dennis Berry

    MAR 10

    LIVE with Ashley Evans and Dennis Berry

    The part of business we don’t talk about enough is the part happening inside us. In this Live, Dennis Berry and I talked about emotional intelligence, but really we were talking about the inner skills underneath everything else: focus, distraction, dopamine, purpose, self-awareness, and the ability to pause before reacting. This is the kind of real-life practice that shapes how you lead, how you relate, how you make decisions, and how you keep going when things feel slow, uncertain, or uncomfortable. What stayed with me most is how much business asks of us emotionally. Not just strategy or discipline, but the ability to notice your patterns and work with your thoughts. We enjoyed this conversation so much that we decided to do another one in April. This time, we’re going deeper into the practical side of building on Substack: how to think about it when you’re just starting out, the etiquette, the relationships, monetization, and how Dennis helps clients set business goals and move toward them one step at a time. So this first conversation is really about the foundation: the inner skills that shape everything else. That’s the part of business we don’t talk about nearly enough, IMO. 😎 Hope you enjoy this chat. With love & rebellion,Ashley Thank you Jeff Long, Oddwood, Caner Şen, Ahmedina, Destiny Verdugo Rios, and many others for tuning into my live video with Dennis Berry! Join me for my next live video in the app. This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit wannabewisdom.substack.com/subscribe

    1h 34m

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Wannabe Wisdom explores the unfiltered creative life: writing, learning, healing, spiraling, rebuilding, and trying-again-anyway. It’s part diary and part creative studio, made to help sensitive, ambitious creatives find their voice, trust their work, and keep going long enough to accidentally impress themselves. wannabewisdom.substack.com