Authenticity, Belonging, Community Michael Fosberg

Lusanda Mayikana is the Dean of Pluralism and Multicultural Affairs at Lake Forest Academy. She holds a Doctor of Philosophy in Education and Social Justice from Lancaster University (U.K.), a Master of Arts in English Education from the University of the Witwatersrand (South Africa), and a Master of Arts in English from Middlebury College. Lusanda came to Lake Forest Academy in 2003 after spending a year as a Harvard-South Africa fellow in the African American Studies department and the Graduate School of Education at Harvard University. As the Dean of Equity, Pluralism, Inclusion, and Community, Lusanda is committed to fostering an inclusive culture and community where all members enjoy belonging, agency, and support. Her focus on bridging by listening, engaging, and intentionally organizing emphasizes connectedness, understanding, and learning about our varied lived experiences.

Key Takeaways:


“I am because of those around me”


Meet people where they are


Be curious 


Play to the strengths of you and those around you


Slow down


Take the time to listen to others, even those you disagree with


Authenticity comes from self-knowledge, self-awareness, and sincerity


Trust who you are


Create spaces where people can take risks and, in doing so, be their authentic selves



Guest’s Media Recommendations:


Learning to Disagree by John Inazu (book)



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Find Guest’s work:


Lake Forest Academy: https://www.lfanet.org/



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Editing and co-production of this podcast by Nina Kissinger.

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Dr. Damon Cates has been the President & CEO of One Hope United since 2024. Damon received a BA from Millikin University, an MBA from the University of Chicago Booth School of Business and an EdD from the University of Pennsylvania. He joined One Hope United from the University of Chicago, where, for over 16 years of service, he led alumni relations and development programs for several of the University’s academic units. In addition to UChicago, Damon has also held leadership fundraising positions at the University of Pennsylvania and Stanford University. Damon is a sought-after speaker who regularly presents at conferences. He has published articles on enhancing constituent engagement and building organizational capacity, and was appointed by Governor JB Pritzker to the Illinois Youth Budget Commission in 2023.  

Key Takeaways:


Be honest about your lived experience – you can always find commonalities with others 


Be aware of the assumptions you make of others on face value


Be mindful of the shame that can be attached to certain identities – allow yourself and others to share your/their identity on your/their own terms


Engage in your community and the causes you support in whatever ways you can


Never underestimate the power of being with people in person


Be present and intentional in interactions with others


Authenticity comes from passion



Guest’s Media Recommendations:


Beautiful Thing (film)



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Find Guest’s work:


One Hope United: https://onehopeunited.org/



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For more of Michael’s work, visit our website www.incognitotheplay.com or follow us on Instagram @incognitotheplay

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Thanks to Ned Doheny for providing our podcast music! You can find him and his music on Spotify.

Editing and co-production of this podcast by Nina Kissinger.

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Jeffrey Spahn is the founder and president of Leading Leaders Inc. For more than 20 years he has researched, coached and inspired top business executives and their teams through the distinctive collective leadership process of We the Leader. Jeff’s journey into leading leaders was sparked by experiences of collective flow in high school and as a letterman on the University of Michigan football team. His business degree from the University of Michigan and doctorate from the University of Chicago ground his practice in sound scholarship. Jeff’s most recent publication is the book, We the Leader, published by McGraw-Hill.

Key Takeaways:


We are all both leaders and followers


Collective flow comes from explicitly stating shared intentions to foster connection


Mutual investment within a community allows us to see others as valuable and vital


Ask questions – be curious


Practice dialogue – stay open to new ideas


Try things and take risks to foster new connections


Assert your beliefs – don’t impose or withhold – and be ready to let them go


Reframe difference from something to avoid or attack to an opportunity to create


Authenticity requires community – to be authentic you need to allow others to be authentic



Guest’s Media Recommendations:


Mary Parker Follett – Prophet of Management: A Celebration of Writings from the 1920s (book) edited by Peter F. Drucker



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Find Guest’s work:


Jeff Spahn’s Website: https://wetheleader.com/



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For more of Michael’s work, visit our website www.incognitotheplay.com or follow us on Instagram @incognitotheplay

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Thanks to Ned Doheny for providing our podcast music! You can find him and his music on Spotify.

Editing and co-production of this podcast by Nina Kissinger.

Email info@incognitotheplay.com with questions or comments about the show!

Dr. Beth-Sarah Wright, an Atlanta-based author, dynamic speaker, and strategic thought partner, writes to inspire transformation and change in communities, institutions, and personal lives. Her impactful work tackles deep-rooted challenges that demand identity shifts and enhanced capacities to achieve lasting, meaningful change. Dr. Wright champions authenticity, striving to align our aspirational identities with our lived realities. Dr. Wright is the author of seven influential books, served for 10 years on the senior leadership team as the director of enrollment management at the largest parish Episcopal school in the country, and serves as an Adjunct Assistant Professor in Psychiatry at Emory School of Medicine. 

Key Takeaways:


Define yourself: “If I didn’t define myself for myself, I would be crunched into other people’s fantasies for me and eaten alive” – Audre Lorde


Respect the dignity of every human being 


Take the time to pause and look again 


Your identity is not an obstacle – if it feels like one, it has not been truly seen


Be careful of the ideas about certain identities you may project onto others


Ask questions – be curious


We have the power to write new beginnings and endings to our stories


Lead with DIGNITY: Diversity, Identity, Growth, Nurture, Integrity, Transparency, Yield


Authenticity is when aspirational identity aligns with lived reality



Guest’s Media Recommendations:


Tiny Love Stories: True Tales of Love in 100 Words or Less (book) edited by Daniel T. Jones and Miya Lee



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Find Guest’s work:


Dr. Beth-Sarah Wright’s Website: https://bethsarahwright.com/



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For more of Michael’s work, visit our website www.incognitotheplay.com or follow us on Instagram @incognitotheplay

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Thanks to Ned Doheny for providing our podcast music! You can find him and his music on Spotify.

Editing and co-production of this podcast by Nina Kissinger.

Email info@incognitotheplay.com with questions or comments about the show!

T. Mark Meyer is a psychotherapist and a consultant for the world’s largest corporations, leading workshops on conflict resolution, authenticity, and authentic management. He coaches professional athletes in discovering their purpose and counsels both couples and individuals. After founding and spearheading several successful companies, Mark connected with his authentic self and refocused his professional aspirations. He’s a business coach and Neuro-Linguistic Programming (NLP) Master Practitioner who uses his personal experience to help others live their most authentic lives.

Key Takeaways:


Authenticity is a life-long journey


Accomplishments won’t bring you happiness if you don’t know your purpose in life


Accept people where they are – go with the flow


Authenticity and purpose drive innovation and creativity in workplaces


Authenticity is as much about being yourself as it is about allowing others to be themselves


Stay curious and non-judgemental 


Shift your thinking from “what should I accomplish now?” to “who do I want to be now?”



Guest’s Media Recommendations:


The Myth of Normal (book) by Dr. Gabor Maté



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Find Guest’s work:


T. Mark Meyer’s Website: https://tmarkmeyer.com/



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For more of Michael’s work, visit our website www.incognitotheplay.com or follow us on Instagram @incognitotheplay

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Thanks to Ned Doheny for providing our podcast music! You can find him and his music on Spotify.

Editing and co-production of this podcast by Nina Kissinger.

Email info@incognitotheplay.com with questions or comments about the show!

Sean DeMarco Garcia is the Founder/Coordinator of Astrochemistry Consulting LLC, which offers training and coaching sessions in de-escalation and crisis intervention for frontline workers. They teach individuals how to humanely deescalate those experiencing an emotional or mental wellness crisis both in personal and professional interactions. Sean has written a book on his de-escalation work throughout his life entitled “It Isn’t About You,” and has 30+ years of experience as a naval veteran, police officer, and head of the private security department for a hospital.

Key Takeaways


We are all connected


Curate a worldview that is based in culture


Experience as much of the beauty of the world as you can


Be careful of your perceptions of others and the way these can influence your own behavior


Three things to live by: empathy, listening, and validating emotions


It’s not about you – everyone is dealing with something


Slow down – don’t rush to respond


Prioritize self-care and encourage others to do the same


Be curious – learn about the perspectives and cultures of others



Guest’s Media Recommendations:


It Isn’t About You (book) by Sean DeMarco Garcia



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Find Guest’s work:


AstroChemistry Consulting: https://actc11.com/home-page 



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For more of Michael’s work, visit our website www.incognitotheplay.com or follow us on Instagram @incognitotheplay

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Thanks to Ned Doheny for providing our podcast music! You can find him and his music on Spotify.

Editing and co-production of this podcast by Nina Kissinger.

Email info@incognitotheplay.com with questions or comments about the show!