Authenticity Lab

Dr. Kelsey Miles

Welcome to Authenticity Lab a podcast about building self-trust in seasons of uncertainty. Hosted by Dr. Kelsey Miles — PhD chemist and songwriter — this show blends scientific thinking with creative reflection to help you navigate identity shifts, overthinking, people pleasing, and the quiet questions we rarely say out loud. Instead of prescribing step-by-step fixes, each episode walks through a simple framework: Calibrate — get honest about what’s actually happening. Experiment — try one small, intentional shift. Optimize — reflect, adjust, and keep what works. This isn’t about becoming someone new. It’s about reconnecting with who you already are and expanding your capacity to handle change. New episodes every Tuesday.

  1. Why Do I Downplay My Wins? S3E13

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    Why Do I Downplay My Wins? S3E13

    I won Professor of the Year, and the moment they called my name, I got excited. Then immediately embarrassed about being excited. I used to think that was humility. It's not. In this episode I break down what's actually happening when we downplay our wins. It's not modesty. It's self-protection. And the difference matters. I also share the moment two days after the ceremony when my students decorated my entire classroom. Balloons, flowers, confetti, and a book with handwritten notes from every one of them. In that room, the voice that tells me to stay small didn't show up at all. That told me everything I needed to know. If you've ever won something and immediately tried to shrink from it, this one is for you. Be bold. Be curious. Be you.If this episode hit home, share it with someone who needs to hear it.Grab the Life Experiments Mini-Course. Email 'course' to kelsey@drkelseymiles.comBe bold. Be curious. Be you.Connect with me: https://www.facebook.com/iamkelseymileshttps://www.youtube.com/c/KelseyMileshttps://www.instagram.com/iamkelseymileshttps://kelseymiles.com

    9 min
  2. I Got What I Wanted… Why Do I Feel Off? | S3E12

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    I Got What I Wanted… Why Do I Feel Off? | S3E12

    I was on stage. The crowd was dancing. I was living my dream... And I was having a silent panic attack. Not one person in that room knew.I kept playing because the songs were second nature.I stepped toward the speaker so all I could hear was my guitarbecause I could hear every noise in the barand my nervous system was coming apart. That moment taught me something I hadn't been willing to say out loud: the feeling of being trapped in something you worked hard to buildhappens more than anyone admits. We don't talk about it because we told everyone how much we wanted it.We call it a bad day.We hustle harder.We try to make something work that our body already knows is not working. I have ADHD.In that moment, I was completely overstimulated.For years, alcohol had been doing a job I didn't know it was doing —numbing the noise, buffering the overwhelm. When I stopped drinking, I felt everything. That panic attack was not a breakdown.It was data. Here's how I used the CEO method: Calibrate → pay attention to the signal, not override it.Experiment → test one small variableOptimize → reshape the dream to fit what actually works for you. The answer wasn't to quit music.I needed a different room. I found a blues residency here in Kansas City.Every other week, smaller crowd, people who love original live music, good food, good company.I don't have to manage my nervous system.I just play. That is what listening to yourself actually looks like. --- 00:00 The panic attack on stage01:03 Going back to the moment02:07 The ADHD reveal and what sobriety changed02:34 Why we don't talk about feeling trapped in a dream03:29 What you do the moment you notice the signal04:13 Calibrate: paying attention instead of overriding04:41 I needed a different room — the Kansas City blues residency05:20 Optimize and the closing question --- 🎧 Authenticity Lab is the podcast where we run life experiments.Because life isn't something to solve.It's something to discover. Subscribe so you don't miss the next experiment.Share this one with someone who is hustling hard to make something work that doesn't feel right anymore. Be bold.Be curious.Be you. ✨ Want the free mini-course? Email "COURSE" to Kelsey@drkelseymiles.com 📓 Get the 100 Days journal and album: www.kelseymiles.com/100days ✨ Support the show on Patreon: www.patreon.com/kelseymiles https://www.facebook.com/iamkelseymileshttps://www.youtube.com/c/KelseyMileshttps://www.instagram.com/iamkelseymileshttps://kelseymiles.com

    6 min
  3. Stop Trying to Fix It | S3E11

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    Stop Trying to Fix It | S3E11

    My band couldn't get Jolene to lock in.Drums and guitars were off.The tempo kept drifting.My scientist brain was running through every possible fix. And then my bass player started noodling a reggae groove in the corner. It was annoying.Then it was interesting.Then it was the answer. This episode is about what happens when the problem you think you haveisn't actually broken.It's an opening. Not every wall you hit is asking you to push harder.Some of them are asking you to lean back,get curious,and stay open to something you couldn't see while you were forcing it. That's the artist skill.Not feelings over logic.Not "just follow your heart."I'll be honest, feelings alone won't pay your bills. I never feel like paying mine. It's about knowing when your critical thinking has hit its ceilingand your creative openness is the next move. Optimize: staying open to what actually works, not just what you planned for. Authenticity Lab is the podcast where we run life experiments.Because life isn't something to solve.It's something to discover.00:00 The Jolene rehearsal story01:21 The bass player's reggae groove02:26 What happened when they stopped trying to fix it03:20 When hustle isn't the answer04:30 The artist self vs. the scientific mind05:26 What optimizing actually means06:19 The bills line — why this isn't just "follow your feelings"07:03 What you miss when everything is task and efficiency08:05 How curiosity becomes the creative spark Be bold.Be curious.Be you. ✨ Want a free mini-course on thinking like a scientist and creating like an artist? Email "COURSE" to Kelsey@drkelseymiles.com 📓 Grab the 100 Days journal and album at www.kelseymiles.com/100days ✨ Support the show and get bonus content at www.patreon.com/kelseymiles https://www.facebook.com/iamkelseymileshttps://www.youtube.com/c/KelseyMileshttps://www.instagram.com/iamkelseymileshttps://kelseymiles.com

    9 min
  4. Why Can't I Make a Decision? | S3E10

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    Why Can't I Make a Decision? | S3E10

    You’re not stuck because you can’t decide.You’re stuck because of one of two things: You either don’t have enough dataoryou don’t trust yourself to handle what happens after you choose. And most people never figure out which one it is.You’ve probably tried everything: pros and cons listsasking your friendsgoing back and forth in your head And at some point, someone tells you: “Just make a decision.” That advice only works if you trust yourself after the decision.If you don’t… you just end up back in the same loop. In this episode of Authenticity Lab, we break that cycle using the CEO Method: Calibrate → Do you actually need more data, or are you chasing certainty?Experiment → Set a clear action. A conversation. A deadline. Or make the decision.Optimize → Treat the outcome like data, not a verdict. This isn’t about making the “right” decision. It’s about building the ability to move forward and trust yourself no matter what happens next. Because once you trust yourself, decisions get lighter. If you’ve been stuck on the same decision for weeks, this episode will help you move. 00:00 Why "just commit" advice falls short01:45 The real reason you can't decide03:10 Do you need more data, or are you chasing certainty?04:55 The CEO Method for decisions: Calibrate, Experiment, Optimize07:20 What happens when you stop needing to be right 🎧 Authenticity Lab is the podcast where we run life experiments.Because life isn’t something to solve.It’s something to discover. If this resonated, subscribe and share it with someone who’s been feeling this too. Be bold.Be curious.Be you. ✨ Want to try the Life Experiments method for yourself? Email “COURSE” toKelsey@drkelseymiles.com and I’ll send you the free mini-course with short videos and a worksheet to help you design your first small experiment. 📓 Want to reclaim your voice?My guided journal + album “I Am” helped me and others build self-trust.Get your copy here: www.kelseymiles.com/100days ✨ Support the work on Patreon:www.patreon.com/kelseymiles Connect with me:https://www.facebook.com/iamkelseymileshttps://www.youtube.com/c/KelseyMileshttps://www.instagram.com/iamkelseymileshttps://kelseymiles.com

    9 min
  5. Why You Keep Second-Guessing Yourself (And Why It’s Not the Problem) | S3E9

    31 mars

    Why You Keep Second-Guessing Yourself (And Why It’s Not the Problem) | S3E9

    You know that feeling when you say something in a conversation or make a decision and then later, you start replaying it in your head. Did I say the wrong thing?Was that the right choice?Should I have done something different? Most advice will tell you to stop second-guessing. To “trust yourself,” move on, and don’t look back. But what if second-guessing isn’t actually the problem? In this episode, I’m breaking down why you second-guess yourself and how this habit might actually be trying to help you, not hurt you. Because there are two very different ways to second-guess yourself: One that keeps you stuck in anxiety, overthinking, and self-judgmentAnd one that helps you reflect, learn, and build real self-trust. And the difference between the two? It has nothing to do with the decision…It has everything to do with whether you trust yourself after you make one. We’ll walk through: -Why second-guessing happens (and what it’s actually trying to do)-The difference between rumination and reflection-How self-trust changes everything-How to use second-guessing in a way that actually moves you forward This is part of a bigger conversation about self-trust, decision-making, and navigating uncertainty. If you’ve ever felt stuck in your head after making a decision this episode is for you. This episode also sets up next week’s conversation:Why can't I make a decision? 🎧 Authenticity Lab is the podcast where we run life experiments.Because life isn’t something to solve. It’s something to discover. If this resonated, subscribe and share it with someone who’s been feeling this too. 🎧 Run your next life experiment. Because self-trust is built one discovery at a time. Be bold.Be curious.Be you. ✨ Want to try the Life Experiments method for yourself? Email “COURSE” toKelsey@drkelseymiles.com and I’ll send you the free mini-course with short videos and a worksheet to help you design your first small experiment. 📓 Want to reclaim your voice?My guided journal + album “I Am” helped me and others build self-trust.Get your copy here: www.kelseymiles.com/100days ✨ Support the work on Patreon:www.patreon.com/kelseymiles Connect with me:https://www.facebook.com/iamkelseymileshttps://www.youtube.com/c/KelseyMileshttps://www.instagram.com/iamkelseymileshttps://kelseymiles.com

    10 min
  6. Why Do I Care So Much What People Think? (Stop Trying to Care Less) | S3E8

    24 mars

    Why Do I Care So Much What People Think? (Stop Trying to Care Less) | S3E8

    How to stop caring what people think… isn’t actually the solution. Here’s what works instead.If you’ve ever walked away from a conversation and replayed everything you said, wondering how you came across or what someone thinks about you, this episode is for you. Most people try to solve this by asking, “How do I stop caring what people think?” But that’s the wrong question. In this episode, I walk you through a different approach.One that doesn’t require you to shut down your ability to care, but instead helps you rebalance it. Caring what people think is not a weakness. It’s a strength. The problem is when all of that care is directed outward, and you lose connection to what you think. You don’t need to care less what people think.You need to care more about what you think. We’ll explore: - how to recognize when this has gone too far- why this creates disconnection from yourself- a simple way to start rebuilding your own voice This episode also sets up next week’s conversation:Why do I second-guess everything? 🎧 Authenticity Lab is the podcast where we run life experiments.Because life isn’t something to solve.It’s something to discover. If this resonated, subscribe and share it with someone who’s been feeling this too. Be bold.Be curious.Be you. ✨ Want to try the Life Experiments method for yourself? Email “COURSE” toKelsey@drkelseymiles.com and I’ll send you the free mini-course with short videos and a worksheet to help you design your first small experiment. 📓 Want to reclaim your voice?My guided journal + album “I Am” helped me and others build self-trust.Get your copy here: www.kelseymiles.com/100days ✨ Support the work on Patreon:www.patreon.com/kelseymiles Connect with me:https://www.facebook.com/iamkelseymileshttps://www.youtube.com/c/KelseyMileshttps://www.instagram.com/iamkelseymileshttps://kelseymiles.com

    12 min
  7. Why Do I Feel Like an Imposter? S3E7

    17 mars

    Why Do I Feel Like an Imposter? S3E7

    If you’ve ever felt like you don’t belong… like you’re going to be “found out”… you’ve probably felt this before. We call it imposter syndrome. Most people think it shows up when you’re in a new room, but what happens when you start feeling that way in places that used to feel familiar? In this episode, I share my experience of feeling like an imposter in music and then unexpectedly feeling like an imposter in science, even though I had years of experience there. That led me to a realization: Sometimes you feel like an imposter because the room is unfamiliar.But sometimes you feel like an imposter because you are unfamiliar to yourself. In this episode we explore: Why this feeling shows up in both new and familiar environments What’s happening when your identity starts to shift How to move from self-judgment into curiosity A simple life experiment to help you navigate it If you’ve been in that in-between space where something feels off, this episode will help you understand what’s going on. It's time to run your next life experiment. Because self-trust is built one discovery at a time. Life isn’t something to solve.It’s something to discover. Be bold.Be curious.Be you.

    10 min
  8. Why Do Smart People Sometimes Feel Less Confident? S3E6

    10 mars

    Why Do Smart People Sometimes Feel Less Confident? S3E6

    Have you ever noticed that the deeper you go into a subject, the less confident you sometimes feel? In this episode of Authenticity Lab, Dr. Kelsey Miles explores a surprising pattern that shows up in highly intelligent and thoughtful people. The more knowledgeable you become about a topic, the more aware you also become of what you don’t know. At the same time, your standards rise. When those two things happen together, confidence can dip. That dip in confidence doesn’t mean something is wrong with you. It means you’re leveling up.This pattern is related to something psychologists call the Dunning–Kruger effect, where beginners can feel very confident while people with deeper knowledge become more aware of complexity. Through stories from the classroom and from her journey as a musician and scientist, Kelsey shares why this experience is common among curious minds and how to move through it by thinking like a scientist and creating like an artist. If you’ve ever struggled with confidence while learning something new, this episode will change how you see it.✨ Want to try the Life Experiments method for yourself? Email “COURSE” toKelsey@drkelseymiles.com and I’ll send you the free mini-course with short videos and a worksheet to help you design your first small experiment. You build self-trust one small move at a time. Be bold. Be curious. Be you. ✨ Want to try this method for yourself?Email “COURSE” to kelsey@drkelseymiles.comand I’ll send you the free Life Experiments mini-course so you can begin on your own. 📓 Want to reclaim your voice?My guided journal + album “I Am” helped me and others build self-trust.Get your copy here: www.kelseymiles.com/100days ✨ Support the work on Patreon:www.patreon.com/kelseymiles Connect with me:https://www.facebook.com/iamkelseymileshttps://www.youtube.com/c/KelseyMileshttps://www.instagram.com/iamkelseymileshttps://kelseymiles.com

    10 min
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Welcome to Authenticity Lab a podcast about building self-trust in seasons of uncertainty. Hosted by Dr. Kelsey Miles — PhD chemist and songwriter — this show blends scientific thinking with creative reflection to help you navigate identity shifts, overthinking, people pleasing, and the quiet questions we rarely say out loud. Instead of prescribing step-by-step fixes, each episode walks through a simple framework: Calibrate — get honest about what’s actually happening. Experiment — try one small, intentional shift. Optimize — reflect, adjust, and keep what works. This isn’t about becoming someone new. It’s about reconnecting with who you already are and expanding your capacity to handle change. New episodes every Tuesday.

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  • Création
    Dr. Kelsey Miles
  • Années d’activité
    2024 - 2026
  • Épisodes
    49
  • Classification
    Tous publics
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    © I See You Network 2024. All Rights Reserved.
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