Ava Devine's Bad Advice

Ava Devine

Welcome to my show, Ava Devine's Bad AdviceOn this podcast, I explore sex, relationships, self-image, the taboo and healing through honest, unfiltered conversations. Drawing from my own lived experience and a background in the adult industry, I sit down with experts in psychology, sexology, recovery, and wellness to unpack the things we’re often taught to hide. Nothing is off limits, including questions from my fans.This is a space to question patterns, challenge shame, and better understand who we are so we can start asking: what does life look like without shame?Follow Me:IG: @avadevinesbadadviceTikTok: @avadevinesbadadvice X: @avadevinespodGot questions, feedback or requests? Email me at badadvicequestion@gmail.com.

  1. 8h ago

    Erotica Divine: From Drag Queen To Trans Adult Star, Surgery, Sex & Finding Confidence

    Send us Fan Mail Why do some men desire trans women behind closed doors but refuse to love them in public? In this special Halloween episode of Ava Devine's Bad Advice, I sit down with transgender adult entertainer, drag performer and activist Erotica Devine for a conversation about trans attraction, fetishization, dating, gender identity, cosmetic surgery, adult entertainment and the difference between being sexually desired and genuinely accepted. Erotica grew up facing bullying and rejection because of her sexuality. She found an escape through theatre and dance, eventually attending the Las Vegas Academy of the Performing Arts before studying gender and sexuality at the University of Nevada, Las Vegas. But it wasn't until college that she began to understand her own identity as a transgender woman. Erotica explains how learning about queer history helped her recognize herself, why drag became an important part of her identity, and how she went from being rejected by performing arts programmes to sharing a stage with Kesha. We also discuss her transition, the cosmetic surgeries she's undergone, and why she initially struggled to feel comfortable pursuing adult entertainment before becoming more confident in her appearance. Erotica opens up about the realities of dating as a trans woman, including men who fetishize her body, promise romantic relationships and disappear after sex. She explains why sexual attraction doesn't always translate into acceptance, and why she's looking for a partner who values her beyond her appearance. She also takes us behind the scenes of her growing adult-entertainment career, including the pressure of performing for professional studios, navigating expectations around her body and learning to establish herself in an industry where appearance and sexuality are part of the business. We discuss the differences between drag and adult entertainment, the role of trans representation, the challenges of navigating identity within the LGBTQ+ community, and why Erotica refuses to make herself smaller to satisfy other people's expectations. For Erotica, being desired isn't the same as being loved. And being visible isn't always the same as being accepted. Follow Ava Devine Instagram: @theoneandonlyavadevine TikTok: @1avadevine Follow Ava Devine's Bad Advice Podcast Instagram: @avadevinesbadadvice TikTok: @avadevinesbadadvice X: @avadevinespod Follow Erotica Divine IG: @thatbitcherotica X: @bitcherotica

  2. Oct 21

    Adult Star Karen Fisher: Why Bigger Boobs Changed EVERYTHING About Her Career

    Send us Fan Mail Karen Fisher spent years trying to establish herself in adult entertainment. Then she made one physical change, and suddenly the industry started paying attention. In this episode of Ava Devine's Bad Advice, I sit down with veteran adult performer Karen Fisher for a conversation about breast implants, the MILF industry, bisexuality, body image, aging, adult entertainment in the 2000s and what it takes to stay relevant after more than two decades. Karen began her career as an exotic dancer in Oregon before landing her first modelling job with Score Magazine. But breaking into mainstream adult films wasn't easy. Between expensive trips to Los Angeles, cancelled bookings and unpredictable pay, she struggled to make the business financially worthwhile. Everything changed after she moved to California and increased the size of her breast implants. Karen reveals how directors and companies who previously overlooked her suddenly began pursuing her, why she viewed cosmetic surgery as a business decision, and how her image evolved from a young performer into one of the industry's recognizable mature stars. We also discuss her early experiences with bisexuality, how adult entertainment helped her become more comfortable with her sexuality, and the boundaries she's maintained throughout her career. Karen takes us behind the scenes of the adult industry before creator platforms, including inappropriate behaviour she witnessed, long shooting days, and the changes she's seen in professionalism and performer protections. She also explains why fans now value personal interaction as much as adult content, how she handles criticism about her age and appearance, and why having a life outside the industry has helped her maintain her career. After more than 20 years, Karen is still adapting, building her own business and considering a return to more studio productions. We talk about what keeps her going, why she no longer lets strangers define her worth, and the lessons she wishes newer performers understood before entering the industry. Follow Ava Devine Instagram: @theoneandonlyavadevine TikTok: @1avadevine Follow Ava Devine's Bad Advice Podcast Instagram: @avadevinesbadadvice TikTok: @avadevinesbadadvice X: @avadevinespod Follow Karen Fisher IG: @karenfisher4u X: @sexykarenfisher

  3. Oct 14

    Tyler Faith: Why I WALKED AWAY From Adult Entertainment — And Why I Came Back

    Send us Fan Mail What happens when an adult star walks away from the industry, only to realize she's not finished? In this episode of Ava Devine's Bad Advice, I sit down with veteran adult performer Tyler Faith for a conversation about the golden age of adult entertainment, Jill Kelly Productions, contract stars, relationships, consent, career burnout and making a comeback on her own terms. Raised in a strict Italian household in Boston, Tyler was determined to live differently. She began exotic dancing at 18, entered adult films through Pleasure Productions and eventually stepped away from the industry for a relationship that left her feeling suppressed. Everything changed when Jill Kelly offered her a contract. Tyler takes us inside the era when adult performers signed exclusive studio deals, appeared in magazines, travelled for feature dancing and starred in elaborate productions with scripts, storylines and creative control. She explains how Jill Kelly became both her mentor and lifelong friend, and the most important lesson she taught her: you can always say no. We discuss the realities of working in adult entertainment before VIP Channels, how much freedom contract performers actually had, and why Tyler believes today's newcomers shouldn't feel pressured to do everything to become successful. Tyler also opens up about launching her own production company, navigating relationships that became intertwined with business, and the burnout that eventually led her to leave Los Angeles and return to Boston. After years away, she made her comeback. Now, Tyler explains why she prefers controlling her own content, choosing her collaborators and working on her own schedule rather than returning to the demanding studio system she once knew. We also talk about the difference between Tyler Faith the performer and the woman she is away from the cameras, the changing business of adult entertainment, and why knowing your worth matters more than any paycheck. Follow Ava Devine Instagram: @theoneandonlyavadevine TikTok: @1avadevine Follow Ava Devine's Bad Advice Podcast Instagram: @avadevinesbadadvice TikTok: @avadevinesbadadvice X: @avadevinespod YouTube: Ava Devine's Bad Advice Podcast Follow Tyler Faith IG: @tylerfaithofficial X: @Tylerfaith4real

  4. Oct 7

    Becoming Blake Lovely: Transitioning, Adult Entertainment & Making Music & Refusing To Be Controlled

    Send us Fan Mail Blake Lovely spent years trying to make it in music while hiding a part of herself she had understood since childhood. Eventually, she reached a point where she couldn't do it anymore. In this episode of Ava Devine's Bad Advice, I sit down with musician, adult performer and director Blake Lovely for a conversation about transitioning, the music industry, adult entertainment, identity, rejection, creativity and building a career on your own terms. Before entering adult entertainment, Blake moved to Los Angeles to pursue music. She recorded albums, toured with her band Animal Sun and eventually earned recognition for her work. But behind the music was a much more personal story. Blake opens up about writing "Girl in Blue" about her desire to transition, why meeting transgender fans after shows affected her so deeply and the moment she decided that living authentically mattered more than protecting the career she had built. Blake discusses the reaction from people around her, the challenges she says she experienced in the music industry and why adult entertainment eventually became a place where she found something she hadn't expected: community. Some of the transgender performers Blake once watched and admired eventually became her friends, mentors and co-stars. Within a few years, she went from performing music on an awards stage as the only transgender person in the room to returning to that same venue to accept an award for her work in adult entertainment surrounded by people she felt understood her. But Blake didn't want to remain only in front of the camera. She opens up about moving into directing, creating Once Upon a TS Summer and her goal of bringing cinematic storytelling back to adult films at a time when much of the industry has shifted toward creator-driven content. We also discuss her latest project, Nobody Walks In Clean, why she assembled a cast of prominent transgender performers and her ambition to push transgender adult entertainment further into mainstream storytelling. Blake also talks about learning to stop chasing perfection, navigating body image during transition, rediscovering music and refusing to let one label define who she is. For Blake, being a musician, transgender woman, performer, director and artist aren't competing identities. They're different parts of the same person. Follow Ava Devine Instagram: @theoneandonlyavadevine TikTok: @1avadevine Follow Ava Devine's Bad Advice Podcast Instagram: @avadevinesbadadvice TikTok: @avadevinesbadadvice X: @avadevinespod Follow Blake Lovely IG: @Blakelovely_ X: @_blakelovely_

  5. Sep 30

    Lauren Strong & Krystyna Lauren Teach You How To Be Sexy On Command | Sexxy: The Show Vegas Dancers

    Send us Fan Mail What does it actually take to be sexy on command? Behind the costumes, choreography and confidence of a Las Vegas showgirl are years of auditions, rejection, competition, body pressure and learning how to walk onto a stage and perform even when you don't feel your best. In this episode of Ava Devine's Bad Advice, I sit down with professional dancers Lauren Strong and Krystyna Lauren from Las Vegas' Sexxy The Show for a conversation about professional dance, burlesque, bodybuilding, body dysmorphia, confidence, rejection and what really happens behind the scenes when being sexy becomes part of your job. Long before becoming Vegas showgirls, Lauren and Krystyna were already accustomed to high-performance environments. Lauren spent years in professional dance and cheer, performing across the NFL, NBA and NLL worlds while experiencing firsthand how competitive auditions can be. She opens up about making an NFL team, being cut the following season and learning how quickly your identity can become attached to the career you've worked so hard to build. Krystyna spent years auditioning for professional dance opportunities while also building a career in competitive bodybuilding, fitness and coaching. Together, they open up about something both worlds taught them: when your body becomes part of your profession, it can become very difficult to stop evaluating it. Krystyna discusses struggling with body dysmorphia, analyzing her body even when she didn't need to and eventually stepping away from bodybuilding competition to figure out whether she still wanted that life. Lauren reveals that she experienced body pressure from both sides. While bodybuilding rewarded one physique, professional cheer told her her upper body had become too muscular and needed to look more feminine. Eventually, both women found themselves entering a very different world: burlesque. And something unexpected happened. Performing in Sexxy The Show didn't make them more critical of their bodies. It began helping them become more accepting of themselves. We also talk about rejection, perfectionism, burnout, aging as a professional performer, female friendship, competition and why learning to separate your identity from your achievements may be one of the hardest lessons for a high performer to learn. Follow Ava Devine Instagram: @theoneandonlyavadevine TikTok: @1avadevine Follow Ava Devine's Bad Advice Podcast Instagram: @avadevinesbadadvice TikTok: @avadevinesbadadvice X: @avadevinespod Follow Lauren Strong IG: @laurenbstrong Follow Krystyna Lauren IG: @krystyna.lauren Follow Sexxy: The Show IG: @sexxyshowlv

  6. Sep 23

    Ava Devine Goes To Pole School With Claudia Renée | She Talks Confidence, Sensuality & Her Journey

    Send us Fan Mail Pole dancing has spent decades being dismissed because of its connection to strip clubs and erotica. But what happens when women stop seeing sensuality as something they perform for somebody else, and start discovering it for themselves? In this episode of Ava Devine's Bad Advice, I sit down with international pole dancer, instructor, and Team Basework founder Claudia Renee to talk about pole dancing, confidence, sensuality, strength, body image, sexual independence, and what really happens when women discover what their bodies are capable of. What started as a birthday gift eventually became a career that has taken Claudia around the world, teaching thousands of women from different backgrounds and ultimately building Team Basework, her virtual pole dancing community with instructors from around the world. But Claudia's approach to pole goes far beyond learning tricks. She explains why pole dancing can transform the way women see themselves, how physical strength can translate into emotional confidence and how she has watched women begin asking for what they want after discovering a different side of themselves through movement. We also talk about something Claudia refuses to separate from the conversation: where pole dancing comes from. Pole has increasingly entered the worlds of fitness, competitive sport and mainstream entertainment, but Claudia believes respecting the art also means respecting its relationship with erotic dancers and spicy workers. She takes us behind the scenes of training Constance Wu for Hustlers, the controversy she witnessed surrounding the production and why she believes pole dancers, midnight ballerinas, and spicy workers should be supporting each other rather than fighting over who is allowed to participate in the art form. Follow Ava Devine Instagram: @theoneandonlyavadevine TikTok: @1avadevine Follow Ava Devine's Bad Advice Podcast Instagram: @avadevinesbadadvice TikTok: @avadevinesbadadvice X: @avadevinespod Follow Claudia Renée IG: @itsclaudiarenee Follow Team Basework IG: @teambasework Follow Basecamp IG: @base_by_teambasework

  7. Sep 16

    Mia Isabella: The Fullness of Her Freedom, The Tyga Scandal, Trans Identity & Taking Her Life Back

    Send us Fan Mail For most of her life, Mia Isabella refused to let other people decide who she was allowed to be. Long before becoming one of the most recognizable transgender performers in adult entertainment, Mia was an artist, fashion designer, student, caregiver and young woman trying to build a life entirely on her own terms. Then fame came. In this episode of Ava Devine's Bad Advice, I sit down with Mia Isabella for an intimate conversation about her childhood, transgender identity, race, family, fashion, adult entertainment, relationships, fame, the Tyga controversy, depression and what it actually means to live freely. Mia takes us back to growing up in East Tennessee, where she says she understood herself as feminine from the age of five despite having no concept of what being transgender meant. Raised by powerful women who encouraged her to tell the truth about who she was, Mia says she never learned to view being different as something that should limit her. But her childhood was also complicated by race, family conflict, and eventually discovering prejudices within the people she loved most. As a biracial child growing up between different sides of her family, Mia opens up about confronting racism and colorism, becoming estranged from her grandmother for nearly a decade and eventually learning that loving someone doesn't mean accepting everything they believe. She explains how she helped create an image of transgender women that went beyond reducing them to their bodies: full glamour, fashion, femininity and fantasy. But behind the public persona was a much more complicated private life. Mia opens up about relationships with powerful and wealthy men, getting married extremely young, living what appeared to be an extraordinarily privileged life and eventually realizing that money, houses, jewelry and security could still become a cage. She describes the moment she finally chose freedom over that life, leaving almost everything behind, driving to Las Vegas and rebuilding herself as Mia Isabella. Then we talk about the controversy that changed everything. Mia addresses the Tyga scandal, what she says actually happened when the story exploded online, the impersonation accounts she says helped ignite the controversy and why she believes the public narrative reduced an entire career to one sensational story. She also explains why she has never wanted to publicly discuss the intimate details of her relationships with famous men. For Mia, those relationships were between human beings, not headlines. But the consequences of public scrutiny were very real. She explains how the scandal damaged the career she had spent years building, affected her relationships and professional opportunities, contributed to a deep depression, and ultimately led her to retreat from interviews and public attention for nearly a decade. Now, she is telling her story from a very different place.

  8. Sep 9

    Victoria Vale: Aging, Plastic Surgery & Why Your 40s & 50s Might Be Better Than Your 20s

    Send us Fan Mail Society has an unwritten rule for women: youth is beauty, beauty is value, and eventually you're supposed to become quieter, less desirable and less visible. Victoria Vale completely rejected that narrative. In this episode of Ava Devine's Bad Advice, I sit down with adult performer and model Victoria Vale for an honest conversation about starting over later in life, aging, confidence, beauty standards, plastic surgery, sexuality, career reinvention and why women do not have an expiration date. Long before becoming Victoria Vale, she lived two very different lives. She began dancing while putting herself through college before eventually leaving the entertainment world, completing graduate school and building a successful corporate career in HR. For roughly two decades, she lived what she describes as a normal suburban corporate life. But part of her never forgot the freedom and excitement she had experienced before. Years later, Victoria decided to explore that part of herself again. What initially began as a bucket-list opportunity to model eventually became something much bigger: a complete reinvention of her life in adulthood. Victoria opens up about returning to an appearance-driven industry at an older age, becoming comfortable in front of the camera, entering adult films later in life and discovering that getting older didn't make her less confident. Chapters 00:00 Women Do NOT Have An Expiration Date 00:01:05 Starting Over Later In Life 00:01:58 Who Was Victoria Vale Before Adult Entertainment? 00:02:42 Dancing Her Way Through College 00:04:27 Why Victoria Chose Corporate Life 00:05:07 Living Two Completely Different Lives 00:05:54 Did Victoria Ever Feel Like She Truly Fit In? 00:06:40 Shame & Growing Up Without Guilt 00:07:23 Education vs. Real-World Experience 00:08:07 What Adult Entertainment Taught Victoria About Men 00:08:58 Why Victoria Believes The Industry Can Empower Women 00:09:54 Why Victoria Returned To Adult Entertainment 00:10:36 Sex Appeal In The Corporate World 00:12:13 Does Appearance Affect How People Treat You? 00:12:56 The Glamour Standards Of The Feature-Dancing Era 00:14:52 The Opportunity That Brought Victoria Back 00:15:34 Working A Corporate Job While Modeling 00:16:18 Victoria Vale's Glamorous Aesthetic 00:17:04 How Ava Helped Victoria Enter The Creator Economy 00:18:32 Why Women Should Help Other Women Succeed 00:19:24 Why Leading With Kindness Matters 00:20:08 How Victoria Got Her Big Break 00:20:49 Why She Didn't Immediately Jump Into Adult Films 00:21:31 Victoria's First Experience Filming With A Partner 00:22:26 What People Don't Understand About Filming Adult Scenes 00:23:22 Why Staying Camera-Ready Gets Harder With Age 00:24:27 The Pressure Of Seeing Your Body On Camera 00:25:21 "I Feel Better Than I Did In My 20s" 00:26:12 How Victoria Transformed Her Health 00:26:58 Why Aging Made Her More Grounded 00:27:47 The Physical Demands Of Adult Entertainment 00:28:32 Protecting Mental, Emotional & Spiritual Health 00:29:36 Finding Balance Between Work & Real Life 00:30:37 How Victoria Deals With Online Hate 00:32:01 Aging Naturally vs. Plastic Surgery 00:32:50 Why Women Should Choose How THEY Want To Age 00:33:36 Why We Freeze Women In Their Younger Image 00:34:55 Victoria Vale On Plastic Surgery & Extreme Glamour 00:35:47 Why She Refuses To Apologize For Her Look 00:36:35 "My Body, My Choice" 00:37:31 Why Plastic Surgery Makes Victoria Feel More Confident 00:38:33 The Impossible Beauty Standard Women Face 00:39:23 "I'm Stronger Than I Was 20 Years Ago" 00:40:07 Why Women Are Judged No Matter How They Age 00:41:37 Is Ageism Still A Problem In Adult Entertainment? 00:42:32 Why Victoria Loves Being A Mature Woman 00:43:25 Victoria Vale's Advice For Women Of Every Age 00:45:10 "You Couldn't Pay Me To Be In My 20s Again" 00:45:57 What Victoria Is Proudest Of 00:46:53 What Women In Their 40s, 50s & 60s Need To Hear 00:47:44 "It's Never Too Late" 00:48:43 Why Your Life Doesn't End When You Start Over 00:49:34 Finding What Brings You Joy 00:50:34 Victoria Vale's Final Bad Advice If there is one thing to take away from this episode, it's this: your life does not have an expiration date.

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Welcome to my show, Ava Devine's Bad AdviceOn this podcast, I explore sex, relationships, self-image, the taboo and healing through honest, unfiltered conversations. Drawing from my own lived experience and a background in the adult industry, I sit down with experts in psychology, sexology, recovery, and wellness to unpack the things we’re often taught to hide. Nothing is off limits, including questions from my fans.This is a space to question patterns, challenge shame, and better understand who we are so we can start asking: what does life look like without shame?Follow Me:IG: @avadevinesbadadviceTikTok: @avadevinesbadadvice X: @avadevinespodGot questions, feedback or requests? Email me at badadvicequestion@gmail.com.

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